Right from the post which addressed the question “How Meditation should be done?” and the “benefits of Meditation” till today, every one liner posted states the benefits of meditation.

Before explaining them, I’ll address few of the common questions always asked with regards to meditation.

1. I can’t concentrate. How can I meditate?
2. I can’t meditate as I get lots of thoughts?
3. I can’t silence my mind. So, am not meditating….

All the above statements and related questions have a statement in them which says ‘I can’t silence my mind. But, who ever or whenever did I say ‘sit in silence’….


Meditation doesn’t mean :

· Silencing your mind
· Not to get thoughts
· Concentrate on divine name or form etc., etc….

When I say meditate, I simply mean “State that you are going to meditate for next 15 mts to come” and sit in a comfortable position preferably with incense sticks lighted. Once you close your eyes thoughts would flood your mind. JUST BE! Just be AWARE of the thoughts that flood your mind. Look at them. Let them be. Just observe them.

DON’T JUDGE.
DON’T FIGHT THEM.
DON’T feel guilty or shameful of the thoughts that pass by.

In short, don’t identify with any thoughts good, bad or ugly. Just be looking at them.

Say after 15 mts (approx) open your eyes very slowly after rubbing your eyes and forehead with your eyes.

Remember, never to have an alarm to remind you to open your eyes after 15 mts. That’s all!

Get up and go about with your routine. Follow this procedure daily preferably at the same time and same place (if possible – but not a compulsion!) you’ll be surprised at the benefits that unfold gradually over the period of time.

To know the benefits start meditating NOW……

I am the CREATOR of my DESTINY!!!

Don't believe everything you think!

Everything happens at the appointed time!

Everything happens at the appointed time!

धीरे धीरे रे मन धीरे सब कुछ होए

माली सींचे सौ घड़ा रुत्हू आये फल

Dear heart and mind of mine, please have patience

Even if the gardener pours hundred pots of water, the plant blooms only when the time/ season comes..

Results can't be had by impatience. And patience means practicing the set technique for at least said period to let the happening happen. If a person wants to go to USA, then he has to fly for 14 hrs. what would you tell him if he argues saying "but, I already paid such a huge price for flying. Moreover, I have been flying for the last 3 hrs.....and I have been dreaming, planning and worrying about this trip for the last 10/20/30 years of my life.....So, I have had patience all these years to wait - naturally I need to fly faster than the prescribed hrs of flying....I can't wait to land in USA...." and all that stuff.....

Logic is the most illogical thing in the hands of a fool! So, true!

# impatience, patience, virtue, waiting for, mindfulness, everything happens at the appointed time, season for everything, dheere dheere re mana -kabir ke dohe, 

We see what we want to see!

Books are infinite in number and time is short, therefore the secret of knowledge is to take what is essential. Take that and try to live up to it...

An integral being knows without going, sees without looking and accomplishes without doing.........

In the beginning there was desire, which was the first seed of mind............. Rig Veda..

What You See reflects Who You are!

Wherever you go your network follows..............

You are what you are because of what you read!!!!

You are WHERE you are because of WHO you are!!!

Because a ship KNOWS its destination it is able to take the right course!!!!

Life is 10% of what happened to you And 90% of how you responded to it!

These are the photos of the reiki meet conducted on 01 august 2010 !!!

Today I shall judge nothing that occurs..................

When the water is clear, One can see the river bed !!!

What’s the benefit of this simple exercise called Meditation?

As simple as this technique sounds, it’s the ultimate in the spiritual path of Self-realization. Please, don’t rub it aside as one only for the spiritual seekers or aspirants. Just look at the benefits and decide if it is a must or not for a man of the world.

1. It has been proved scientifically beyond doubt that a mind that concentrates on a single object or a thought, even as odd as ‘Monkey’ calms down eventually. Thereby, blood pressure comes down and the body releases ‘feel good enzymes’. The greatest bane of taday’s cut-throat life style is hypertension, blood pressure, heart attack, insomnia and such related diseases. Just by meditating it’s found to calm the nerves and keep all these above mentioned diseases at bay.

2. An agitated mind creates a problem where there is none. Whereas, a calm mind finds a solution and an opportunity where there is a problem.

Life is a journey with unknown twists and turns. And it always throws them suddenly. Now, only a person with alert, calm and camposed mind can find opportunity at every twist of life. This internal state of equi-poise comes naturally to a person who regularly meditates.

3. Instead of being a reactive person, we behave as pro-active person.

4. An agitated mind weakens the body. And the person finds even daily chores a torture to do. On the contrary, a calm mind has more energy that is passed on to the body and in turn the body effortlessly goes through the daily routines effortlessly.

5. “God, give me the strength to change the things that I can. Give me the courage to accept the things that I can’t and the wisdom to know the difference between them”. This prayer is answered in affirmative for a person who meditates.

These are just a few benefits that a beginner need know…….. good enough for anyone to start the one act that is ONLY beneficial both in the short and long run of it……….

Meditate to experience the benefits……

revathi

Reiki Meet

Reiki Meet on 1st August 2010 was a beautiful, fun-filled and a learning experience because of the participation, enthusiasm and involvement of all the Reiki channels present in the Meet. I thank one and all who made it to the event. Photos will be posted in a day or two.


revathi

Meditation


In the process that helps us to outgrow our limitations and to express our divinity, the one must do is ‘Meditate’.

What’s the way to meditate?

Don’t get confused with all the explanations in the name of meditation. Let’s go with the most easiest, natural and the effective way to meditate.

1. Select the most comfortable place and posture to meditate.
2. Ideally meditate daily at the same time and at the same place.
3. The best time to meditate would be early morning between 3-5 am.
4. If it is not possible select any other time suitable to you.
5. It’s preferred to have a special room if possible to meditate.
6. If not possible select a spot/ corner in the house for meditation.
7. Have a soft cushion to sit on.
8. Light Agarbathi – incense stick.
9. Declare that you are to meditate for next 15 mts to come.
10. Close your eyes.
11. Let Reiki be on.
12. Now – Just be with eyes closed.
13. You are to be silently watching the influx of thoughts that cross your mind.
14. Thoughts may come and thoughts may go. Don’t bother. Just be with silence.
15. Just observe the thoughts and just be.
16. Gently open your eyes after say 15 minutes.
17. Don’t bother if you open your eyes little less than 15 minutes.
18. Never put an alarm to remind you of the time.

Just remember, don’t try too hard to silence your thoughts.

Just observe your thoughts.

Don’t identify with them.

Don’t be judgemental.

Just observe your thoughts.

Practice this every day. That’s all!

As you get to put this into practice, I’ll go to write about the benefits of this simple exercise…..

"They serve HIM the best, who just stand and stare.."

Take external protection..............but also work on your internal protection................that is our insurance...............and it should be our long term goal!!!!!!!!!!

The best Divine tool available to human kind to drop the “acquired self” i.e., ego and to express the “Divinity that is” is “Reiki”.

As we have come to understand that the various experiences in our life is nothing but the result of our ‘karma’ – we need to heal our ‘karma’ in order to re-write our destiny. The basis of ‘karma’ is ‘attitude’ and ‘lack of gratitude’ apart from ego. These can be healed or dropped with the various techniques taught in the Reiki sessions. Always remember to use more than one technique of healing on the daily basis. For example : Anger can be healed with hands on and re-birth meditation with ‘anger’. This would give faster and long lasting benefit than just one of the technique used.

Hands-on helps to heal the issue from the root cause and change the operating system of every individual. As and when we experience a situation we normally tend to react in a certain fashion. As every such incident, we more or less react the same way. After few times of conscious reaction, it becomes our operating system in that particular situation. That is to say, the body and the takes over the calculation part and reacts automatically. What started our emotions as a conscious act and somewhere down the line it has become the automatic system of operation.

For example I am in a hurry and I have just mopped the floor. Person A drops something like chocolate. I shout at him for being negligent because I have to mop it once more. And I am in a hurry and don’t have time to. I’ll be late to my appointment, so am angry. Next time, I am wearing a new and an expensive dress on a special occasion and a person in the party trips, his plate flies and lands right on my ‘special dress’. He’s spoiled my expensive dress and the day – I shout at him. Imagine couple of more of such incidents happening. Then, two friends talking and laughing on the road drop their ice-creams. They are laughing even at that. I GET ANGRY. I SAY I CAN’T STAND PEOPLE WHO THROW AROUND THINGS. IT SHOWS THEIR CARELESSNESS. Mind you, this time it had nothing to do with me. Yet, I am getting angry. Because ‘drop’ and ‘anger’ have become ‘cause’ and ‘effect’ to my ‘operating system’ called ego. This is exactly how we become automated beings of our system. Emotions start ruling us and we seem helpless when they just express through us.

To change this operating system, we need higher and Divine energies that can replace our present operating system with the newer one. This is where Reiki comes in. Practice of Reiki on the daily basis brings about a change in our basic nature and thereby we become pro-active persons instead of reactive beings.

Make a list of all the reiki techniques and use them in combination to see better and faster results over the period of time. As you make your list, let me go to write next post on how meditation helps in letting go of our ‘vikaras’ and helps us in expressing our higher self……..

The minister pulled himself up and started pulling the twine thread gently. After sometime, he could get hold of the rope. Holding the rope he got down the tower. He and his wife slipped out of the town in the silence of the night and lived happily ever after…….

How is this story related to our topic? The minister could save himself and could take care of his wife too out of a situation from which there seemed to be no way out. How?
As his name suggests, ‘Sthirabudhi’ – One whose intellect is ‘sthira’ or calm and poised was calm even in the time of emergency.

1. A calm mind can easily see the solution in the midst of chaos.

2. It takes a calm mind to take stock of the situation completely, weight the pros and cons of it and to think of the solution.

3. In case of emergency, usually we get agitated, tensed and worry a lot. Thereby we create new problems instead of finding a solution.

4. During tension, the number of thoughts that we generate is so much so that that itself blinds our clarity of thought.

How is pronayamam connected to calm mind and clarity of thought?

Observe yourself closely. We breathe slowly when we are calm and palpitate when we are tensed. That shows breathe and the state of mind are interrelated. The state of mind and the thoughts are interrelated. Pranayamam calms the breathe. It slows the breath. We become consciously aware of the breath and are able to regulate it. This simple exercise gives us an understanding bye and by that life moves on even when we are not aware of it. We need to just participate by being an observer of it.

Next, the regulated breath in turn slows the number of thoughts generated. Less the thoughts in our mind, more our mind is calmer. More our mind is calmer, less is the stress that we experience. Less stressed we are, more active and energetic we are. More active and energetic we are, more we can participate in life and thereby celebrate life completely. So, to live life to the fullest extent, pranayamam is the easiest and the most effective technique available on the face of earth.


Not to forget the physical wellness that comes with it. So many diseases that couldn’t be cured by the medical world have been cured with pranayamam. It betters our eye-sight too apart from the general health. Brings cheer to our personality and glow to our skin. Greying of hair is postponed or done away with by doing pronayamam. Try pranayamam to actually believe all this. Just for six months at a stretch. Not comfortable with it – then after six months just leave it. No Questions asked.

So why delay? Start right away while I write down next post….

pranayamam

Hopefully, you all have practiced ‘pranayamam’ and also enjoyed its benefits. Now, it’s time to understand how it will be useful in bringing about our well-being both physically and emotionally, in dropping our acquired self & understanding SELF ultimately.

Once in a town called ‘Simhapuri’ lived a minister called ‘Sthirabudhi’. One fine day, the king of that town ordered Sthirabudhi to be executed for some wrong he did not do. He was ordered to be imprisoned in a tower which did not have any staircase or possible way of escape. He was left to himself, as everyone felt he could not escape from that tower.

His wife came and cried her heart out. She knew her fate was sealed as her husband had no way to prove his innocence. Her husband shouted from the window in the tower “Don’t cry. Just follow what I am asking you to do and by God’s grace we both can go out of this town for good by tomorrow morn”. She was surprised. She asked how it was possible. He simple asked her to bring an ant, a small bottle of honey, a bundle of silk thread, a bundle of twine thread, a bundle of rope. She found it odd but bring she did.

When she brought it after couple of hours, Sthirabudhi asked her to tie a silk thread to the ant. The silk thread was tied to the twine thread and that to the rope. The antennae of the ant was dipped in honey. Now the ant was asked to be placed facing sky wards on the wall of the tower.

The ant moved forward longing for honey. The silk thread moved along with it. When the ant went near the window, the minister untied the ant from the silk thread, held it and pulled it gently till he could get hold of the twine thread……..

It took long time and he was tired a bit, so took some rest,

We’ll also take some rest and come back in the next post to see what happens….

Pranayamam should be done atleast 15 mts/day preferably the same time. Deep breathe-in and breathe-out technique can be done at any part of the day – say few times to remind the system the right way of breathing.

For this, sit in a comfortable place. Early morning is ideal. Otherwise, any part of the day is fine but should be done after 2 hrs of taking meal.

Procedure is :

- Relax. Close your eyes.
- Breathe in very very slowly. As slowly as you can.
- Hold the breathe for few seconds.
- Now exhale as slowly as possible.
- Do this for atleast 15 mts / day.

Initially, one would be able to take in air only till lungs may be. But, no issues. Remember, over the period of time the air should reach the abdomen.

After doing it for 15 mts, feel the calmness that engulfs you. Don’t hurry to open your eyes. You’ll be engulfed by the silence from within. Be with it. Enjoy it till it lasts – say 10 mts or so. And then, rub your palms on your eyes, forehead and very gently open your eyes. Feel the calmness that fills you. Observe the difference this has made in your entire day.

Do it daily to actually feel the difference in your physical well-being, emotional well-being and internal calmness that seems to envelop you all through the day…..

Be with it till I write further posts……

Pranayamam:

Simply understood – it’s “Breathing the right way”. It is the air that sustains us. It is the same air which is responsible for the quality of blood circulation in our system. But, many times, many of us are found breathing wrong. How?

Just observe the stomach as you breathe in and breathe out. Stomach goes in as we inhale and it goes out as we exhale. But when air is blown into the balloon it expands and as air goes out of it, it shrinks in size. Right?

The same philosophy should apply to stomach. But, it is not happening so. Which means we are breathing wrong. So, we sit and consciously breathe in and breathe out and this procedure is called ‘Pranayamam’.

The best way to develop the qualities of discipline, perseverance, regularity and patience would be to make a commitment to follow atleast one ‘Niyama’ technique without fail every day.

1. Going for a walk say for ½ an hour everyday at the same time – come what may.

2. Doing Asanas or exercise compulsorily maybe again for atleast ½ an hr.

3. Do ‘Suryopasana’ daily atleast once without fail .

4. To do hands-on (24 points Reiki) everyday however hectic the day has been without fail.

5. Getting up at 3 am and do Japa 108 times daily (and go to sleep afterwards if need be).

6. Going to a certain temple daily at the same time, do atleast 11 pradakshana and chant some Mantra 108 times there.

Any of the techniques could be taken up for the start. It would slowly induce the qualities of commitment in us. Regularly doing it would become our habit. Say in 2-3 months results would be obvious for everyone to notice. We would feel a sense of achievement just by sticking to, one simple task regularly. We’ll learn to revolve or alter our entire day’s schedule around this commitment. It would be at our back of the mind to do this job ‘even today’. So, we’ll automatically learn to concentrate on a given task while going through the activities of life. This can then be handy in any aspect of life. We’ll be able to effortlessly concentrate on the work on-hand for longer periods of time too if need be.

keep smiling till i get back to you,

Before looking into the various techniques and their desired effects of the ‘Sadhak’ let’s take a quick-view on the essential qualities of the Sadhak.

Commitment : To achieve anything a person requires to have a commitment. Moreso, if it is to beautify his life. Healing is nothing but an inward cleansing and a person should take personal responsibility of self-healing. And for that, qualities required are :

1. Perseverance to be in the path of self-healing till it is completely done.

2. Desire to do the work in the best possible way and to completely heal. No ‘chaltha-hai’ attitude.

3. Perfection is not humanly possible attitude/ belief system will not do. “Even to better the best and rest not till that best has been bettered” should be our motto. In short to be continuously striving towards perfection and working to update and upgrade that ‘perfection’ . It is all about dropping the ‘acquired self’ i.e, ego and realizing the real ‘self’’.

4. Patience is a greatest virtue. It is not great deal to achieve the victory but to have patience to work towards the victory – that really is a tough job.

5. Sadhan or self-study and self-healing calls for regular Sadhan. Being regularly irregular doesn’t help. One should be regularly regular in Sadhan to see results and to actually enjoy the growth- process.

6. How much one had read doesn’t count. A person who has practiced atleast one technique 1000 times is better off than a person who has read 1000 books or knows 1000 techniques of Self-healing.

How to develop all these qualities with simple techniques will be dealt with in the next post….till then take care, keep working on self and be benefited….

The techniques to beat the MIND & Ego in their game are :
1. Yoga & exercises, walk etc
2. Pranayamam
3. Reiki
4. Meditation
5. Awareness

And the pre-requisite qualities required to win over ‘self’ are :

1. Commitment
2. Strong desire to win over ‘Self’
3. Openness to new techniques and to drop old belief system and way of living
4. Patience
5. Guru – if possible to guide through our growth
6. Consistency

Can you think of any other qualities required to make ourselves free from our limitations? Do share with us as I go to write the next post…….

We have understood (at least partially – if not completely…) how these vikaras are actually blocking us from experiencing bliss, peace and abundance in our lives. We have understood why we are going where we don’t want to go in life and experiencing all that we don’t want in life. For example: pain. So let’s start by understanding how to go towards our goal.

Our way of thinking, doing things, wording our intentions, in fact everything about us has become so mechanical that we no longer do them consciously. The system has taken over these functions long back from us. It has become the operating system of our body, mind and intellect. So, the new way or the right way of thinking and feeling looks so difficult in spite of understanding it and change ourselves and thereby our situations in life. We are to wage a war against self – so pitiful and tiring too!

“आप काँटों से दामन बचाके चलते है,
हमने फूलों से ज़क्म खाए है।"

You talk of others but I’ve been always hurt by my OWN.

You save yourself from thorn but I’ve been hurt by the roses.

My own here means my own desire, body, mind and intellect. Yes. Since, it’s always easy to wage war against the world but against “our people” it’s next to impossible. So, we require few techniques to beat the MIND & EGO in it’s game.

"Some succeed because they are destined to. But most because they are determined to."

Happiness is relative not absolute!!!

When is attack the best defense and when is defense the best attack?

Impatience is my biggest enemy. Did I know this? What am I doing to get rid of it?

Answers are not as important as the Questions. Because question is the cause and answer is just an effect.....

Achievers/ Successful people Ask the Question -
"How do I complete this task in this given situation?"

and Losers ask the question -
"How is this situation responsible for my failure?"

or
"Why in this given situation I cannot complete this task?"

Art of Questioning is a very important art - nay essential art for the growth of any person.
DEVELOP IT.....

GOD says "Tu karta woh hai jo Tu chahta hai par hota woh hai jo MEIN chahta hoon

tu kar woh jo MEIN chahta hoo fir hoga wohi jo tu chahta hai"

"You do what you want to do but things happen MY way

Do what I want you to do and things will happen as per your wish"

Well, the answer as always is sadhan, sadhan and more sadhan.

Do full-body Reiki regularly
Do re-birth meditation regularly
Let Go Meditation
Be Aware. Whatever you do, say, feel - just be aware of it. Live in the moment. If you are playing – play. If you at work – Be at work. If you are angry – just BE. If you are bored – be it totally.
Don’t judge yourself.
Don’t analyse or comment on others and on the situation.
Don’t justify yourself or your acts.
Just be AWARE!

We have understood how we invoke painful situations, people or pain per se in your lives at physical levels. Just apply it to emotional, psychological and financial pains too!

Any doubts?

Let’s wind up on vikaras here. We have already discussed on pain, anger, laziness. Fear and jealousiness has been discussed in the earlier posts. Please go through them once again.

As these and related attitudes limit us as a person, they are called as vikaras. Each one of us is a Complete, Divine, Blissful, Peaceful soul who is LOVE too! But, these vikaras stop us from experiencing our real nature and expressing our real nature too! Hence, they are termed as vikaras or negativities.

So, if the desire is to experience Peace, Love and Completeness, there is no other way than dropping these limitations of our ego….

As you contemplate on these let me go to write next post.....

Whenever we say or wish in comparison to others, we are asking for trouble.
For eg:-
I want my husband like SRK. Wish would give me a husband who is a chain-smoker, insomniac, prone to accidents, workaholic, fidgety, dear to women and girls etc. And I crib and complain, why I got such a husband? Remember “ask and it shall be given” and it is always a package-deal. Instead say “I want my husband to be good-looking, romantic, expressive, understanding etc depending on which character of SRK’s role fascinates you.
Remember, NEVER EVER use “like x/y/SRK” etc while wishing for something in life.

The most common way of asking for wishes would be in comparison. Like “I should be richer than my brother-in-law.” Fine. He has Rs 5 lakhs credit card outstanding and I complain saying “why my wish is not fulfilled?” When it actually gets fulfilled. Say my earnings should be Rs 10,000 pm – NOT more than my brother-in-law. If I say “I should be happier than others relatives”. I’ll get divorced.
Wish fulfilled but complaint and pain remains.
So, we get what we ask, so let’s ask correctly from now onwards.

Sometimes, I may ask correctly yet wish may not be fulfilled especially if you doing Reiki. For e.g.: I want to become Prime Minister and I do Reiki regularly still it wouldn’t happen. Why? When a 5 year old with high fever cries for an ice-cream, does the parent buy one? No. Right! Why, is Rs 5 dearer than the child? Cant he afford Rs 5? The same parents buys 2 ice-creams when the child is back to normal when the child is back to normal. When a parent with limited intelligence can show love in denial, Reiki which knows me through all of my soul journey, doesn’t it’s love express it self in denial. When I get what I want it’s good. But, when I don’t get, it’s even better, because in that is Reiki’s Love and wish.
Reiki always believes in short-term pains and long-term gains.

So, the trick is to increase the worthiness to receive the object of year desire/love. How?........

Jealousness can trigger such of hormones that weaken our immune system. So, it’s better to be off it at all times.

Next, it comes with a Belief System that I received less than what I deserved and others got more than they deserve.
Basically this Belief System is flawed.
From Nature each one gets what they are worthy of! So, we are where we ought to be at that time!
Now what does that mean? “Will I always get what I deserve but not what I desire? Does that mean I am to face destiny what ever it is or whatever it gives me?

The answer is in two parts.
“I get what I deserve” means “As you sow, so you reap.”

You mean to say I asked for this pain in life, how silly?
Silly it is, but true too! With what intelligence did I ask for this pain? Good. I need not have asked for it directly but ask I did for it. Let me explain.
Whenever I say:
- “I don’t want to fall sick”
- “I don’t want fights in my life/house”
- “I don’t want to depend on my spouse’s earnings”
- “I don’t want to lose my job”
- “I don’t want to be disliked” etc.

Nature, as already explained, doesn’t understand the term “don’t”. So, the word is deleted and the sentence or wish is interpreted as:
- “I want to fall sick”
- “I want fights in my life/house”
- “I want to depend on my spouse’s earnings”
- “I want to lose my job”
- “I want to be disliked” etc.
And remember, Reiki or nature says “Ask and it shall be given.” So, it immediately fulfills the wish.

So, from now on, stop thinking or wanting what you don’t want. Instead ask for things that you want.
If you don’t want to fall sick say “I want to be completely healthy.” If you don’t want fights in your house say “I want everyone to be peaceful and loving in my house” etc.

Next when ever I ask questions like “How can someone be happy without children?”
“How can he be calm without job?”
“How can she be quiet when her spouse hits her?” etc
The nature reads it as a challenge that you choose to experience. So, it immediately gives such a situation in your life.
So be very careful. In fact stop asking such questions. It’s their life. Let them experience what and how they wish to experience. Don’t comment.

Don’t be happy for a reason, because that happiness ends with that reason. Be happy without any reason and you will be happy for ever…

Will all these prevent pain occurring in my body/life?
Not necessarily.

Then why do I follow all this tips in the first place?
It’s like asking, I’ve filled my oil tank to the brim and had my vehicle serviced, still why did accident occur?
Basically illogical question!

If one drives a car with brakes his chances of meeting with and accident is minimal when compared to a person whose car brakes don't apply butand he is also drunk and is driving at neck-breaking speed. Right?

Like-wise, we can avoid that pain that comes with wrong handling of body by following these tips. At the same time, we may fall down while playing. Well that’s part of sports. Can we avoid playing sports? No. Like wise, ‘pain’ – physical may come due to some reason beyond our control. But, what can be avoided we are avoiding by following healthy way of living.
Secondly, we are better equipped to FACE the pain, heal/fight the disease and re-coup if we have a healthy body, immune system and a life-style to match.
Take any doctor’s opinion on this.

reflect on these simple truths till i get back to you with few more......

D. Exercise as often as you can. Simple walking is the best to start with. Enjoy your exercises.
Play with the kids. Climb the stairs. Stop taking that elevator. Let’s save electricity enroute to healthy us.

E. Sleep tight. Preferably maintain a sleep pattern.

F. Don’t exert yourself to bank to be ultimately landing up in the hospital. Take short breaks, vacation from your work. We are not slogging in our offices to be making our doctors rich, are we?

G. Listen to good music, or pick up a hobby that relaxes you and spend at least ½ and hour per day on it.

H. Everyday, take notes of your day and its proceedings and just reflect on it.

I. Meditate. Nothing brings you closer to yourself than meditation.

J. Sit erect. Work on your posture. It really affects your spine. So take care of your posture.
Sit in vajrasan as and when possible.

If there are any more tips, you can share with us..................

Now the question is "What does taking care of this vehicle called body actually mean and how does it benefit me?" "Does it mean that if I take good care of my body, then I will never fall sick?"

Taking good care of the body doesn’t mean –
-Applying expensive creams and colouring it or parts of it, beautifying it with piercing, tattooing and clothing and accessories certainly DON’T come under this category. They are like adding extra – fittings to our car/vehicle – like mirror, painting some figures on the vehicle, etc. That suits the eye but it’ll not reflect on the vehicle’s performance.

ONLY servicing, oiling it filling it with diesel/petrol such acts make a difference in the vehicle’s performance.

Likewise, few tips that go a long way in maintaining this body are:

A. “Early to bed and early to rise makes a man healthy if not wise for sure!”

B. Right kind of food is eaten – green vegetables, sprouts, fruits and vegetables, instead of deep fries and drinks that are harmful to the body especially the aerated drinks.

C. Breathe properly. Breath is the basis of life and the stomach should expand when inhaled and should contract when exhaled. Many times it’s the other way round. Proper breathing ensures good oxygen supply through blood to all body parts and thereby good health is a possibility. To attain this start with pranayamam – deep breathing daily at least 15 minutes in the morning and 15 minutes in the night and see the benefits in the weeks to come not only on your physical self but also on your emotional self.

a. Sit in a comfortable position.
b. Preferably do it early in the morning or before eating anything or in empty stomach.
c. If after lunch/dinner give a gap of 3 hours for the food to be digested and then proceed with Pranayamam.
d. Take a deep breath.
e. Let it fill your entire abdomen.
f. Do it slowly.
g. Exhale gently.
h. Don’t pressurize yourself to do for long hours at the start.
i. Be relaxed and let the breath guide you gently to calmness.
j. After 15 minutes just breathe normally with eyes closed and sit calmly for few minutes – as long as you wish.
k. Rub your eyes with both your palms. Open your eyes.

follow this tips till I get back to you with few more in the next post....

take care...

Before dealing with the ACTUAL PAIN of 50 gms which is real, let us learn to deal with other add - ons.
1. At the start, just accept Pain as a part and parcel of life. Any one who drives

-Knows that the vehicle breaks down once a while
-Knows that in spite of maintaining it and keeping it serviced it still may meet with an accident
-Knows flat tyres just happen
-Accident happen even to “good” drives.

Like wise this body is our vehicle - the only one that we’ve got – so it may need a few days of over-hauling – this we call as disease. But, it actuality, it’s the body talking to us of the need for rest and service needed by it. Before going further, I would like to question myself “If I depend on my body for all my happiness, if I really love it the way I say, did I or do I really take good care of it in the first place?”

b. Self-pity is the twin sister of pain. It crops us saying “oh, poor you why it always happens to you? How can you enjoy that film, party, life now?”

“Things always happen to make it go wrong in my life – always!” this also is will supported by both real and imaginary situations of past and present. Add 500 gms more pain.”

Whoosh! Now it’s 50+500+500=1050 gms. No doubt I am reeling under pain.

c. any pain immediately gets with it ‘fear’. Fear of becoming invalid, losing near and dear, losing possession which mean a lot to us and ultimately fear of death.

How many times I experienced severe headache and doubted it to be brain tumour? Or a pain in the chest and thought it to be heart-attack? When it actually was simple gas or acidity. Go on the memory lane. I’ll wait..........

Get the picture. Fear let us experience the simple pain as inevitable loss that’s going to loom large in our future. And funnily none of these fears have come true! Yet, we go on living with these fears.

Add 500 gms more to our original Pain. Now it’s............WOW, YOU ARE getting smarter – yes 50+500+500+500=1550 gms – this is really a big pain indeed! But is it?

Let’s go in detail. How does pain reflect in physical body?
1. Physically pain is experienced because of injury, disease, surgery, etc.

For example:-
When I’ve headache the pain is say 50 gms (pain is not measured in gms. This is just to make understand easier) the body is so beautifully structured by nature that it can actually bear this “pain” and still move on in life. Then, if it so, why I can’t bear my headache? (You can replace headache with any pain however unbearable it is..........).

1. First and foremost, because of the conditioning of the mind that “to be happy, I shouldn’t have a disease or pain in my life.” The moment this conditioning “thought process starts functioning” it sends messages like:-
a. Only I am suffering whereas all the others are fine when in actuality I am more deserving, to be happy and healthy, than others.”

Jealousness and comparing with others sends messages that are detrimental to the healing of the pain/disease. In fact, it aggravates it. This feeling will be supported with few or many of the past instances where this type of injustice has been meted on us. Few of the imaginary situations also crop up to support this suffering. The PAIN caused by this suffering is 500 gms and that makes this total pain as 50+500 and that really is unbearable and I break down.

Please refer to our blog posts dated 09 April 2009 and those related to pain posted earlier.

Each one of us has experienced pain at some point of time of our life. And the ‘pain’ is experienced at physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual self. Let’s look into each one of them separately. We’ll deal with it as:-
1. Types of pains experienced.
2. Why we feel it in the first place.
3. How to deal with the pain once it’s there in life.
4. How to heal it and the situation that’s causing us pain.
5. How finally to outgrow pain.

So, basically, it’s all about understanding pain, then transmitting it and finally transcending it.

Let’s try to define ‘Pain’ in the first place. Pain is “anything that causes discomfort in us and stops us from experiencing happiness and well-being.”

What is the actual cause of pain?

1. All that displaces ease from our life is a dis-ease and that is the root cause of pain.”

2. We experience pain because we are not able to get all that we wished, worked, longed for – and because we are getting all that we don’t want in our life.

3. Anything that limits us causes ‘pain’.

For example:-

1. I want to be healthy. In fact, everyone wants to be healthy ONLY and when they fall sick they experience ‘pain’ in their lives.

2. We all want to be successful, rich and yet are not most of the time. Hence, the pain.

Every pain carries within itself the key to heal it.............we only need to find it by looking beyond pain!!!!!!!!

9. Think how to do more in the time available.
For e.g.
During the TV program break / during the program
a. Do pranayamam
b. Clean up the room
c. Clean up your purse / hand bag
d. Write list of things to do for next day.
e. Fold the clothes
f. Do reiki

Think and the list would be so huge and we complain of no time available to do these things.

10. Learn something new. Painting, dancing, cooking, language, anything.................

11. Maintain a journal daily of your feelings, your routine……….

12. Post your experience / doubts on this blog regularly.

13. Get up at 3.00 am and do at least 10 min meditation. Slowly, after 3 months increase it by 5 min or more.

(Note: this does not apply for 3rd degree and above students…masters included…they should meditate at least for 45 min daily at 3.00 am)

14. Most importantly, accept laziness as part of persona and disown it immediately. Don’t own it as your character. No excuses of sun signs, stars, etc allowed here.

15. Give up that habit which you consider as your weakness NOW – any addiction, gossip fault-finding , worrying, gambling, drinking………

16. Do re-birth meditation with “laziness”.

17. Full body Reiki Saying “I am completely active, dynamic healthy, blissful person”.

18. Do let go meditation with laziness.

19. Concentrate more on muladhara.

If you know any more tips, do share it with fellow- healers and come out with your experiences. Till I write on other vikaras…………All the best!!!!

Let’s see how to break the habit of lethargy by following simple techniques........

1. Go, get up and pick up the phone. Be the one to open the door when the door bell rings. Get up to switch on/off the TV get that glass of water on yourself, in short stop telling or requesting others to do small and simple work. DO IT YOURSELF!

2. Stop pitying yourself.

3. Start smiling and spread cheer around.

4. Stop using guilt to have control on the people in your life.

5. Follow the exercise regime. Go for a walk.

6. Start dusting the housing at least ½ hour per day and stick to it. Try to maintain cleanliness around you and your home.

7. Don’t do it in a single day, get tired and fall in your routine for next few years. Start slow. Maintain it regularly. Set aside say ½ or 1 hr or 1 day to clean-up the mess that you created/ are living in.

8. Don’t give excuses for not being disciplined. Set aside at least ½ hr at the start for “Sadhan” say, yoga/pranayamam/Reiki/ meditation and regularly follow the regime. Slowly increase the time for Sadhan.

Work on this till I get back with few more tomorrow………….pls do share your tips…………

Now, let’s see how lethargy reflects at intellectual level. We are looking at the general behavioural pattern of the persons who are effected by lethargy at intellectual level. It comes out as:

1. Inaction even in thoughts is very dear to them.

2. Usually they are averse to new ideas, concept infact anything new and change is a very bad word in their world. They come out as closed persons to change.

3. Some smart ones simply memorize all the data and vomit anytime and get away saying they know all that is new and are ever so updated. But, infact they hardly put to practice any of the new ideas.

Spiritually, it is most damaging and comes out as the following habits or nature of the person:

This is the most dangerous place where it affects the most. They wouldn’t meditate or participate in any regime that can change their pattern of thinking, feeling and living.
Will postpone doing any ritual that’s bound to change them. Even simple exercising would be a put-off for ages.
Presume they are growing spiritually by memorizing the right words and repeat them at the right place. They only deteriorate further – but unfortunately, they hardly acknowledge this – infact they think they’ve crossed quite a distance spiritually when compared to others.
Not having experiences, they get away saying, “But, I am not interested in them. I just want to do Reiki.”
Infact mind game is so perfect with laziness that it becomes a vicious circle and one is not even aware that it is there and needs to be broken in the first place.

How to break it by following simple steps is what we’ll look into in the next 2-3 days to come…till then look for lethargy and find it in the most unimaginable places and thought patterns…..and enjoy this discovery……

I am just giving few of the symptoms with which one can catch lethargy At Emotional Level :

1. They have the “I am going to CRY now” look always pasted on their face. They carry sadness and suffering writ all over their features.

2. Their smile is also very painful.

3. Cheerfulness is the last word in their book of life.

4. They carry the burden of pain unlived all through the day.

5. Worry is their only secret favourite past-time.

6. Any mention of any activity invokes only “I am not interested” response in them.

7. Many times they consider themselves near or almost “Enlightened” and think and believe their depression and moron-nature as “detachment”.

8. Liveliness, cheerfulness, Smile all seem to take lots of their energy and hence hardly express themselves through them.

9. They get the attention they want by “Self-pity technique” or “I love all so much, but no one listens to me” technique.

These are just few of the examples….be aware to catch lethargy at its play through feelings and acts in our day-to-day life and situations…..trust me….the more we know and recognize it and more we feel surprised and understand the way these attitudes run our lives…..


All the best in this discovery…..

Let’s see how inertia or lethargy reflects at various levels of our life.

A. At physical level – it comes out so obviously yet is so misleading and goes unnoticed. Confused? Well, simple! Take an e.g. of a person who shouts from roof tops saying he/she likes cleanliness or efficiency and so sits – mind you SITS and orders people around to do all the chores continously.

The most common weapon used by such people is guilt. They make a person feel in-efficient, good-for-nothing by continuously blaming them, finding fault with them and control them with guilt. All the time, mind-you, they themselves do very little except taunting, commanding, ordering, finding fault etc.

Their biggest complaint would be “I am so depressed, frustrated because of this person. This person hardly performs to the mark inspite of me continuously encouraging them, reminding them (which is always an order with a taunt!). I am breaking down ONLY because of this person.”

Most of the time, the work these people do is far below the mark.

They never attempt doing most of the things with the statement “Oh! But, I can do it better than them anytime, but, since I have to take care of managing these people, I can’t find time to do these little jobs.” Surprisingly, they get others to believe these statements too!

Infact, they pick up friends and their circle of people are also of similar mind set.

Many times they come out as obese persons.

Their place of residence/ work mostly is unkempt and untidy.

Their give away signs would be asking someone always to pick-up phones, open the door etc. In short, they make maximum effort not to get up from their place and get work done by others.


We’ll see how it works at emotional level tomorrow…..

Rightly observed!
If just ‘anger’ has so many facets to it, what about other vikaras?
Let’s just get a glimpse of few of our vikaras to understand our “mind game”. Only then would we be able to beat it in its own game.

Let us understand the good and bad of laziness.
“Baddhakam parama shatruvu”.
“Laziness is the biggest enemy of oneself”.

Laziness is experienced at various levels of being. We can catch it if we know its symptoms.

It comes out as inertia. And it affects all aspects of our life.

It is the most dangerous, irritating (to the one who is active, dynamic and enterprising) and damaging vikaras of all. It belongs to the thamasic type of quality. Thamasic are such of qualities which are most basic and relate to Asura nature of the being. It alone is enough to stop personal growth in physical well-being, emotional balance, psychological and intellectual well-being and financial abundance.

How it reflects in our physical, emotional and other selfs - we'll see for the next 2-3 days to come....

How is angry a lose-lose situation?
Well, when we are angry:

1. Physically, we lose health by developing ulcers, acidity, and hyper-tension. This has been medically proven too that anger increases our susceptibility to diseases and decreases our immunity to disease.

2. We are punishing ourselves for the mistakes of others. Is it a wise decision? Are we stupid or intelligent beings? Intelligent beings can’t afford to act stupid.

3. We lose our peace of mind.

4. We lose clarity of thought and will take decisions that are harmful for us and our loved ones.

5. We are moving away from our ‘target’ that is “getting the person do what we want him to do” or “stopping the person from doing what we don’t want him to do”.

So, you see it is an all and all lose-lose game. And good management technique says “always play a win-win game, never a lose-lose game”.

So you see if you want to suffer, than you can choose to be angry but if you want to change the situation then, you are condemned to choose healing over anger.

Gave you all the needed break to heal all that anger you generated because of reading the posts related to anger...........Let’s wind up that session on anger............
In spite of following all the above techniques, if still anger persists as it is, then what?

- Accept Y as it is. Snake can’t lose its venom even after 1000 years. You can’t go against nature.

- Drop the person/situation and move on in life.

If this is so, then why heal in the first place?
Healing means through Reiki for me.
And Reiki means: “To heal all such pains that you need not endure and to give strength to you to endure such of pains that cannot cure and also to give you clarity of thought to know the difference between the both. In 99.9% situations it is healed with the above techniques. So, we follow them to get the desired results. If we get, no one is more happier than us. In very rare cases, things may not shape up as per our desire, then healing gives us strength to endure it and also to grow stronger and more understanding. We should have benefited in some way from the situation. It can be a learning and an enriching experience. Then, the healing hasn’t gone waste. It is a win-win situation then. As, if things shape out our way we win. And if they don’t then we grow as a person, so we win.

Without giving a complete commitment to change, how can we expect it to come through?
So, we tried, learnt and moved on with life.

So, this way healing is a more complete and a win-win strategy than an ‘anger’ technique which is a lose-lose strategy.

Envy is a waste of time.
You already have all you need.

Where am I investing my energies and time? In matters that help me to be happy, successful and peaceful or in matters regarding people and situations that keep me sad, unhappy, angry and limited?

…contd….

8. Stop connecting Y’s action with others or with Y’s other related action.
E.g.: You are a drunkard, so is your father and the entire family. You are selfish, so is your sister etc.

9. Stop connecting your state of well-being with the acts of others in your life. No one is responsible for your joys. You and only YOU ARE responsible for your joys/ happiness.

Most important is:
Start healing. How? By following few of the following guidelines. Results would follow slowly maybe but surely try them.

10. a. start thinking out how you want Y to be or the situation to be instead of how it is.

For e.g.:
Y drinks. Instead of continuously saying:
1. See, he drank today also
2. I know he’ll always drink.
3. I am to suffer like this only.
4. I have to accept and live with it for the rest of my life etc.

Just say:
1. He is a teetotaler onwards.
2. He has only clean and healthy habits.
3. She keeps the house clean everyday and enjoys keeping it so.
4. He loves studying and does well in exam.
5. We share good loving, peaceful relationship with respect and trust for one another.
6. I am successful and confident.

b. Stop using “should not” for affirmations.
Like: 1. I don’t want fights in our home.
- Should be as -
I want peace in our home.

2. I don’t want divorce.
- Should be as –
I want to lead a happy married life.

3. I don’t want to go late.
- Should be as –
I want to be on time.

4. I don’t want to fail.
- Should be as –
I have passed with flying colours.

5. I don’t want to suffer.
- Should be as –
I want to be happy.

Etc.

C. Heal with the various techniques of Reiki and see the results for yourself.

Till you do this, I go to write my next post…..

..contd….

4. The Next step would be to make a shift from being a person ‘who blames’ to ‘a person who works towards what he wants’.

Instead of pinpointing the reason of the problem, let’s work towards irradicating the ‘reason’.

To shift from being a ‘complaint oriented person to a ‘action-oriented person’, we need to do :

1. Reiki - full body

2. Do intention reiki stating how you want the situation to be

5. Once this shift happens, then the gradual change would happen in our way of handling the person/ situation also.

6. Stop wasting time in analyzing the person/ situation for what it is.

7. Attack the reason. Heal the reason because of which the situation is as it is. For eg:- If it is ill-health, find the root cause of disease, try ways of eradicating it. Be a support to Y all through the healing period. Help Y to get back to complete well-being – this again can’t be verbal accusations or taunts. Create a conducive atmosphere that can help Y to get back to normalcy as soon as possible. Like- taking Y to doctor.

Giving medicines to Y on time (don’t expect the patient to do so on her /his own – many times physical pain, emotional drain can make a patient indifferent to the healing procedure or rigours).

Give emotional /physical support to Y all through without an under-current of anger, taunt etc.

Show Y how Y would benefit by being healthy. No one wants to win the trophy for others!

Have patience through out the healing period.

Being in a relation-ship doesn’t mean sharing jokes, good times and fun but also being a support in times of need. Play that part NOW.

8. Take time to heal both the person and self.

for others : Heal full body regularly till the disease is cured, if the issue is physical ailment.

If it is relation-ship problem, then do emotional healing for that person.

If it is financial, then do both full body and financial healing regularly.

As simple as it sounds, try practicing all these ‘small’ techniques and see the results for yourself….at the same time, it may not be possible to apply these techniques always and at all times initially…don’t be disheartened…keep practicing till these techniques become second nature….

Will get back to you with few more points in the next post…

Till then, keep smiling and living,

contd......

How do I do that?

1. First and foremost, accept your anger and that ‘anger’ doesn’t give me the desired results.

2. Next accept the situation and person as it is. That is, stop labeling that person as ‘lazy’, ‘impossible’, ‘born to hurt me only’, ‘useless’, ‘impossible, ‘irresponsible’ and like. Stop labeling.

3. Stop passing the judgement on the person / situation.

बुरा जो देखन में चला
मुझको मिलिया न कोई
जो मन को आपनी टटोली तो
मुझसे बुरा न कोई

When I searched for faults, then I didn’t come across a single bad person, but when I searched within, I found that no one was as bad as me. If ‘Kabir Das’ could say this of himself, then where do we stand?

Apart from that understand by pinpointing the problem – be it a person or situation hasn’t bettered anything in our lives so far. Let for change, try something different. Stop labeling.

contd........

If we sit back and look into the reasons why as to ‘Y’ does or does not do things expected of him then, the few reasons could be as follows –

1. ‘Y’ is so addicted to drinking and has no better reason to come out of addiction apart from ‘X’ wish. Every person requires a ‘greater incentive’ than what he is presently getting ‘to do’ or ‘not to do’ what he is ‘doing’ or ‘not doing’ now.

It means he should be shown or given a reason/benefit or incentive greater than the pleasure he is getting by getting drunk. Just the wish of X is not good enough for that.

Y is not healthy enough to keep the house clean
Or
Y is simply lazy
Or
Y is bad at time management
Or
Y is so lost in the emptiness within that can’t see the clutter all around her.

Solution:
Help Y in regain health

Help Y with the time chart to do all the chores in the prescribed time/give a helping hand.

First bring cheer into her life and it will automatically reflect in the outer area too.

All these can’t be done by anger – that is for sure.

Intention of X is good but ‘expression’ is totally ‘at fault’ and so the desired result is missing.

If you wish to go to Delhi, you can’t sit in the train bound to Kerala.

Like-wise if you want something, work or assume such of attitudes that give the desired results.

Anger

Pl. Note: Please refer related article in the post dt: 8.04.09, 16.03.09, 8.03.09-29.03.09 .


Let us understand ‘Anger’ situationally. In the first place, we get ‘angry’ because :-

A. i) People are behaving the way we don’t want them to and
ii) They are not behaving the way we want them to.
B. i) Situations are not the way we want them to be
ii) what we don’t want is happening all along.

A. People are behaving / saying the way we don’t want them to.
i) X wants Y not to drink and yet Y does it.
ii) X wants Y to work and earn and yet Y doesn’t do that.
iii) X wants Y to do Reiki/ Sadhan and Y doesn’t do that.
iv) X wants Y to keep the house clean and Y doesn’t do that.
v) X wants Y to score good and Y doesn’t do it.

Etc….

Anger

Pl. Note: Please refer related article in the post dt: 8.04.09, 16.03.09, 8.03.09-29.03.09 .


Let us understand ‘Anger’ situationally. In the first place, we get ‘angry’ because :-

A. i) People are behaving the way we don’t want them to and
ii) They are not behaving the way we want them to.
B. i) Situations are not the way we want them to be
ii) what we don’t want is happening all along.

A. People are behaving / saying the way we don’t want them to.
i) X wants Y not to drink and yet Y does it.
ii) X wants Y to work and earn and yet Y doesn’t do that.
iii) X wants Y to do Reiki/ Sadhan and Y doesn’t do that.
iv) X wants Y to keep the house clean and Y doesn’t do that.
v) X wants Y to score good and Y doesn’t do it.

Etc….

…contd…

Oh, God! I am confused. Tell me exactly, why these ‘normal human feelings’ are termed as ‘vikaras’ or ‘negativities?’

Fine. Soul longs to express it’s absolute Nature of Being Love, Purity, Divine, Blissful and peace. But, it is not able to do the same because of our negativities like anger, jeolousiness, pain, guilt, laziness etc. for eg: if I want to look beautiful, a small pimple can take away my chance of looking Beautiful. In the same way, to be divine is not possible with qualities of lust, anger, laziness, fear, worry etc., in us.

Just as if I want ‘light’ I can’t let ‘darkness’ too to be present. If I want to be ‘rich’, I can’t let ‘poverty’ be my surname. Likewise, to be happy, love, complete and peace these qualities – normal human qualities like fear, worry, hatred etc are impediments. So, they are called as ‘vikruti’ – hence ‘vikaras’- Qualities that make us ugly and incomplete. On the other hand, qualities of Love, Peace, Bliss, Contentment, Divinity are called ‘Prakriti’ or our ‘Nature’.

Okay, fine. I understand that it is not all that clear. Let’s try to understand the same from the different angle.

Let us understand what these ‘vikaras’ do to us and how and why we experience them in the first place. We’ll also see the effects of these ‘negativities in our life. We’ll then decide whether to have them or discard them. But, for that we need to look forward till the next post….

Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift.

However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.

To sum up let’s look at some the belief systems that we need to work on!

A. “Everything that I like or admire should be possessed or owned by me.”

B. “So, I should only look and never want to own, right?”

C. “More the cost, more happiness it gives.”

D. “I need every gadget available in the market to be happy”.

These are just the leads. Look within and outside to find out other belief systems that we need to work on. “

Belief systems are fine but my basic problem is not yet solved.” How and where do I get satisfaction, love, peace and happiness (if not bliss)?

The answer as you always know is “LOOK WITHIN!”

So the next question is “if everything is within, then how come I see only darkness inside and I never experience satisfaction, love, peace and happiness ever or most of the time in my life.”

Question actually has two questions wrapped in it –

1.What is the cause of darkness within me?
2.Why I am not experiencing satisfaction, love, peace and happiness?

The darkness within is because of the ‘vikaras’ that we have developed and held on to – may be since janmas (births). ‘Vikaras’ are negativities such as:-
1.Anger
2.Frustration
3.Pain
4.Jealousness
5.Hatred
6.Worry
7.Laziness, etc.

Now the question is, why they are called 'vikaras'?

…contd…..


D. “I need every gadget available in the market to be happy”.

This is one belief system that is driving each one of us crazy. We are just not satisfied with having gadgets but are craving for the latest though the one we already are using is under-utilised and we are ignorant of most of its options that exits.

Wanting to possess things is not against ‘abundance’. All through India has been a country of both material and spiritual excellence and abundance. Then, where is the problem now with possessions? Simple:
“In good old days, people used things and loved people
but now
we are loving things and using people.”

This small shift is the basis of all our problems. Beware of it!

The curse of past was humans were treated as slaves and the danger of the future is that men might become Robots....

Remember one of our most favourite dialogues: “I’ve car, house, bank balance etc. What do you have?”

“Mere paas ma hai” “I’ve Mother” (From Deewar)

on this filmy note, I bid goodbye to you all,

till I write again, take good care of your SELF....

contd...........


C. More the cost, more happiness it gives.
No. Any costly item can give at the most ‘more comfort’ than the less costly one but never happiness because of the price.

For example: expensive vehicle has better machine and comforts than a low end one. So, too with the appliances that ease labour but they cannot give happiness. It’s scientifically proven that, on the contrary, these gadgets are responsible for many ailments what with restricted body movements and less exercise there by to our body.

Take any item for that matter.
A.C (air conditioner) for example:
1. It increases the electricity bill.
2. It is the cause for global warming.
3. We are tampering with the body’s ability to adjust with the climate there by becoming more sensitive to temperature fluctuations.

I am not denying that the comfort of A.C betters our performance. What I am trying to say is man created machines to use them and to ease his life but somewhere down the line he is become a slave to machines.

Remember:

Money can buy:

1.People, but not friendship and respect.
2.Bed but not sleep.
3.Medicines but not health
4.House but not home
5.People but not LOVE.
6.Expensive watch but not time.

And actual happiness depends only on LOVE, health, sleep and PEOPLE in our lives…….

Isn’t it funny that we lose our health going behind wealth and then lose all our wealth to gain health……?

Think……………

Note : Those who mark ‘not clear’, I request you to kindly elaborate what you didn’t understand if you wish to understand that day’s article clearly…..I’ll then explain it elaborately….please co-operate….

Let me explain the statement “Placing the right value on the things of this world and how to apply it in our day to day life”.

First and foremost, we need to break our belief-systems.

Some of the belief-systems that can be worked on would be –
“Everything that I like or admire should be possessed or owned by me.”

A. Mere possession doesn’t make that article ‘yours’ in real sense always। Legally yes, may be, but not ‘actually’. Every man who owns a woman need not necessarily have her mind and soul and vice-versa. So, he /she’s confused that he /she is dissatisfied and incomplete in spite of having him/her. This applies to every relationship. We can NEVER EVER OWN A PERSON. People are not the possessions. They can be objects of our affection or worhip, but however much we love still we can’t own the other person – including our

Liking public figures and admiring them is fine. But, to feel dejected and suffer pain as we can’t /don’t possess them – well that is a totally baseless pain we suffer with.

Just admiring a beautiful house, jewellery etc is not at fault. Thinking ‘I am incomplete and will not be happy till I own it – well, that is the root cause of the pain.’

These are mere examples. Let’s just apply this to every desire of ours to completely understand the statement “All that I like I need not own”.

Let me sum it up as :

Mind should not go to all such places where the eyes go.
And the Man should not go to all such places where the Mind goes.

B. “So, I should only look and never want to own, right?”

No. it’s not that. You can buy anything that fancies your sense. But, just remember, you will not become complete and happy because of the possessions you worked so hard to acquire. You will not become rich by owing them. You are already rich, complete and happy. Now, to express that happiness, you can go ahead and purchase things that you fancy. Also remember, if you can’t immediately purchase, then plan, save and then buy it/them. But, suffering the waiting period is ‘optional’ and completely ‘unnecessary’. So, DON’T. Enjoy the waiting – earn and work for what you desire, become WORTHY of it and then simply ENJOY it! Simple!

Happiness is the journey and not the destination. So, remember the journey is worth more that the destination. Always, ANTICIPATION is better than REALISATION.

Listen to this song and think........ what is the price I am paying to get what I want? and is it really that worthy of getting it?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fAcPvCBDKL0

Work on these belief systems and come out with few of your owns, till I write again more on this……..

Then why and how do I deal with the things of this world?

Placing the right value on the things of this world.
Understanding that they by themselves don’t have any great value however high their MRP may be. It’s the person who has it more importance than the things he possesses
Not use the things of the world to increase the price of the man.
(OR)
Use them to buy happiness, peace and security in life.
They should be used to express our joy, peace and contentment.
Like, I shouldn’t dance to be happy, but I should be happy and chose dance to express that.
I should not gift so that I can buy love but should love and to express that I may buy a gift.
Like, we eat to live, not live to eat.

I know it’s too much to chew, so will take leave of you to ponder on these issues……………will continue tomorrow.

Fine, then I can get bliss, peace and love when I turn my back to this world and its articles. Right?
No – a big no.

World and all that constitutes it is not at fault. The flaw is in placing the value of these items of world – name, fame, relationships, body, possessions like gold, car, land and all other material assets as love, peace, security, bliss and contentment.
For example:
It is assumed that possessing ‘ diamonds’ increases the value of the possessor. He/she is said to be a ‘big shot’ or ‘badaa aadmi’.

Imagine a situation where a person gets diamonds one fine day. That moment onwards he experiences:
Fear of losing it.
Fear of being killed for it.
Loses confidence on all around him – many times on his near and dear ones too.
Suspects their acts to be filled with greed and so hates others for it.
Loses sleep and develops insomnia.
Is troubled by the desire to protect it.
Not to forget the curse or ill luck that comes – at times with such precious stones.

In short he gets all except peace of mind, security, bliss and contentment. On the contrary loses the little of what he had too!

And to think ‘rich possessions bring peace and happiness’!

Likewise, think about everything of the world. They all are ephemeral. Even if the joy is experienced, it is momentary and the saga of pain continues there after…………..

We, like this woman have lost bliss, happiness, peace, love and completeness and contentment within us and are searching for it in the outside world.

Just as a firefly that drunk of sense organ (called eyes) gets attracted to the light, gets burnt and dies, we too get attracted to the items displayed under heavy lighting and burn everyday in the fire called jealousness, frustration, anger, etc.

We are lost because we are searching in the wrong place and that’s why in spite of working hard throughout our lives, we end up being frustrated, lost, dejected, unhappy etc.

Then how do we get there?
The search starts from within.

How?
First, by accepting that, everything is within.

“Only you are responsible for your happiness.”

Contemplate on this statement every moment.

Practice pranayam at least 15 minute daily.

Meditate at least for 15 minutes daily.

Do re-birth with ‘confusion’, ‘lack of clarity’, ‘ignorance’.

Fine, then I can get bliss, peace and love when I turn my back to this world and its articles. Right?

Think on these issues till I write further more on this topic………….

We have started this journey called life with the basic purpose of experiencing bliss, happiness, completeness, peace and love. If this be the purpose of our journey, then how come we lack these basic ingredients that complete us? Why are we not able to experience them in the first place? Why most of us say, I have everything except pace, love and bliss in life?

It is because we are searching for them at the wrong place.

How?

Once in a village Agyanpur lived an old woman named Shanti. She was loved by all in that village. One night, well past midnight, a youth found Shanti searching for something under the lamp-post on the main road. He went near her and asked as to what she was searching for. Shanti replied “my only possession – my gold ring.” The youth consoled her and joined her in the search for her ear rings. Few more night revelers passed that way and they too joined Shanti in search of her ear rings. The crowd numbered more than a hundred by the time it was dawn.

A morning walker found it very amusing to find so many searching for one ring. Out of curiosity, he asked as to who lost it. When he found that the ring belonged to Shanti, he asked “grandma when and where did you lose ring?” She smiled and replied “yesterday night in my hut.” The man was surprised and asked “then why are you searching for it here in the road?”

She smiled and replied innocently “because it’s very dark inside my hut and there is light here under this street light. So………!”

I leave it to your imagination as to what the man and all others must have felt when they found the truth!

Now the question is “do you consider this old woman
1. Intelligent 2. Sensible 3. Correct 4. Logical 5. If others- specify what?