b. Self-pity is the twin sister of pain. It crops us saying “oh, poor you why it always happens to you? How can you enjoy that film, party, life now?”

“Things always happen to make it go wrong in my life – always!” this also is will supported by both real and imaginary situations of past and present. Add 500 gms more pain.”

Whoosh! Now it’s 50+500+500=1050 gms. No doubt I am reeling under pain.

c. any pain immediately gets with it ‘fear’. Fear of becoming invalid, losing near and dear, losing possession which mean a lot to us and ultimately fear of death.

How many times I experienced severe headache and doubted it to be brain tumour? Or a pain in the chest and thought it to be heart-attack? When it actually was simple gas or acidity. Go on the memory lane. I’ll wait..........

Get the picture. Fear let us experience the simple pain as inevitable loss that’s going to loom large in our future. And funnily none of these fears have come true! Yet, we go on living with these fears.

Add 500 gms more to our original Pain. Now it’s............WOW, YOU ARE getting smarter – yes 50+500+500+500=1550 gms – this is really a big pain indeed! But is it?