On soulmates and love!

 

On soulmates and love!

Don’t swipe for a soulmate. Build a soul so strong that even death respects your discipline!

“Khudi ko kar kuch ithna buland ke khud khuda aake tujhse pooche ke bol bande teri razaa kya hai?”

“Make yourself so strong that the God himself is forced to come down and ask you “Pray, tell me your wish!”

People wish for someone to make them happy, complete and secure. And all the ads have been so twisted to make you believe that it is so!!!!

But, the truth, the absolute Truth is just the opposite of all this "romantic beliefs" that people carry with them. The broken will never find "True love". Soulmate doesn't make you feel secure or complete. On the contrary he makes you question every belief you held of "security". He will rattle your security, beliefs and every way possible till you find "yourself". Then when the job is done, he may or may not be part of your life. His job was to just help you navigate towards yourself - that's all!

That is the hard way to do it. There is a sensible way to go about the whole thing too - start the journey within - all by yourself! Don't wait for anyone to come along. Don't wait of any goodies to come your way for you are doing this painful job! Just do it for it is the only sensible and needed thing to do in life! Just do it for it is essential for you! Just do it for it takes you towards completeness, peace and security. Then, many times when you are whole on your own and don't want or need anyone, then walks in "your soulmate" to show how it is to share something whole with the other whole"! And that my dear, is the time "One actually truly loves and experiences love".

Not the other way round!

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# soulmates, partners in love, love, on relationships, finding self, know yourself, completeness, on love, on peace and security, soul agenda, 

previous posts suggested on this topic https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Me%2C+my+guru+%E2%80%93+on+knowing+self+and+mind+training%21 

On sayings and quotes!

 

On sayings and quotes!

The sun does not forget a village just because it is small – African Proverb.

# soul connectedness, we all are one, oneness, vasudaika kutumbam we all are one family, awareness, spirituality, proverbs and idioms, 

On proverbs and idioms!

 

On proverbs and idioms!

One beetle recognizes another – Irish proverb

It means it takes a thief to recognize a thief.

It takes a good man to recognize good in the other.

It means only a Buddha can recognize the other Buddha.

The evil and mean can see only evil and mean in the other.

As YOU ARE, so YOU SEE!

Good or bad – it depends on you!

also read suggested from previous posts https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2022/12/me-my-guru-on-perception.html 

# you are what you see, as you are so you see, outer world reflection of inner world, 

Then and now!

 

Then and now!

Then, I complained a lot and was grateful a little.

Now, I am grateful most of the time and complain a little.

Complaints and gratitude were then and so they are now – yet, both are not same!

Then, I desired more and appreciated little (of what I had).

Now, I appreciate a lot and desire little. (appreciate here means being with the thing that you possess, spending time with the one who desired, using things that you acquired and so on and so forth)

Then, I desired and appreciated and so do I now – yet – both are not same!

Inspite of many things seemingly similar, they are not same!

Are you able to see the difference?

People ask "What did you gain through healing? How is your life different from one before?"

Many times, things remaining "the same", yet they don't remain "same". They seem different. We relate with them differently. We understand differently. We see differently. We respond differently. 

So, you see, healing is just not able "acquiring or gaining something". It is also and may be more to do with this "difference" that comes within us!

# process of healing, self healing, awareness, perspective, what you see is not what is, growth, 

also read suggested from previous posts: https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2024/06/stories-in-blog-and-their.html 

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2013/06/me-my-guru.html

What to do with the problem?

 

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What to do with the problem?

“Why did God make it so tedious? If only I can get everything immediately just by wishing. He is sadist for making such rules and making me do all this hard work?”

 – May be you are right – who knows!!? But, even then what can you do about it? Can you pick a fight with HIM and win and then run the Universe your way? If so, all the best, go ahead and do it. If you are “just a simple a no-body human” (in your words) then zip it up and work it the way all the people successful and happy do. Work your way to solve your problem. 

So, in the nutshell look at the problem to solve it. Stop calling an issue a problem and be stuck there with it. As long as one lives, there will be issues cropping up and we need to step up and address them. That is what is called as life! That in other words is problems coming and us resolving them or facing them.

Problem or challenge or opportunity - it's all how you see it!

Concluded.......

# life, beauty of life, challenges of life, opportunities of life, life lessons, problems and solutions, facts of life, there is no easy life, grace, growth, hurdles in life, 

Suggested reads from previous posts https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2024/06/shaayari-on-problems-over-god-or-god.html

Question time :

Did this post reach you?

Did you receive your answer or solution?

Did it serve its purpose?

What to do with the problem?

 

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What to do with the problem?

4. Now write your problem - JUST THE PROBLEM - without adding any prefix or adjectives to it. Just what the problem is. Now the problem - many times is found to be a very small one that can be handled if correctly broken down to "small doable actions for a set period of time". 

Most just say "I WANT this thing to go this way etc" and think the issue will wonderfully be fitted into their "WANT of imagination". NO! It doesn't work that way.

Understand the problem first. Look into it directly. See what you consider a problem. Then look at ways to fix it. Then work on the action plan. Have patience as your action plan is being executed. It takes time for the job to be done. Wait! See the results and know if you like it. Did it turn out the way you wanted it or not? Make the necessary changes in your action plan to get the desired results. And repeat the process till you get what you desired.

“But maam, I don’t want to do all this process. Why can’t you just make some magic and let things go my way?”

Me – If I had to and can make things go your way, I would have done it my way and wiped you out with my magic – na rahegee bansuri, na bajhegee baans (no flute, no music). Would I not make my life much more easier that way?

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# life, beauty of life, challenges of life, opportunities of life, life lessons, problems and solutions, facts of life, there is no easy life, grace, growth, hurdles in life, 

also read suggested from previous posts https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Me%2C+My+Guru+-+On+life+and+death+%E2%80%93+III%21

What to do with the problem?

 

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What to do with the problem?

So, there is a problem! Fine!

1. Take a deep breath and look at the problem. Don't feel it, don't try to solve it. Just keep looking at it till your breath becomes normal.

2. Next, Word your problem. Write it down. Don't live it in your mind. Write it. Writing doesn't mean "mailing me your "chaata bharatam". NO!!! Just write for yourself. Now look at your writing. Most of the times - a. it is complaints using emotional blackmail - "maam, I am suffering so much, I have so much of stress, My family is worried about me as I am stressing about it and losing health, 

 b. it is criticizing - it points at the one who is responsible 

c. Self-pity - it says statements like "Why did it happen to me?" etc 

d. it says "How you don't deserve it etc etc" 

e. Scapegoating - It says "How some other person is supposed to fix it and he is not doing it" f. Giving a larger picture and space to your problem with words like "It is big problem maam, it is impossible, it is urgent, it is huge.....

3. Delete everything that comes under such categories. Delete every sentence of your problem that reflects these thoughts. 

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# life, beauty of life, challenges of life, opportunities of life, life lessons, problems and solutions, facts of life, there is no easy life, grace, growth, hurdles in life, 

also read suggested from previous post https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/11/on-problems-and-solutions.html