Then and now!

 

Then and now!

Then, I complained a lot and was grateful a little.

Now, I am grateful most of the time and complain a little.

Complaints and gratitude were then and so they are now – yet, both are not same!

Then, I desired more and appreciated little (of what I had).

Now, I appreciate a lot and desire little. (appreciate here means being with the thing that you possess, spending time with the one who desired, using things that you acquired and so on and so forth)

Then, I desired and appreciated and so do I now – yet – both are not same!

Inspite of many things seemingly similar, they are not same!

Are you able to see the difference?

People ask "What did you gain through healing? How is your life different from one before?"

Many times, things remaining "the same", yet they don't remain "same". They seem different. We relate with them differently. We understand differently. We see differently. We respond differently. 

So, you see, healing is just not able "acquiring or gaining something". It is also and may be more to do with this "difference" that comes within us!

# process of healing, self healing, awareness, perspective, what you see is not what is, growth, 

also read suggested from previous posts: https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2024/06/stories-in-blog-and-their.html 

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2013/06/me-my-guru.html

What to do with the problem?

 

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What to do with the problem?

“Why did God make it so tedious? If only I can get everything immediately just by wishing. He is sadist for making such rules and making me do all this hard work?”

 – May be you are right – who knows!!? But, even then what can you do about it? Can you pick a fight with HIM and win and then run the Universe your way? If so, all the best, go ahead and do it. If you are “just a simple a no-body human” (in your words) then zip it up and work it the way all the people successful and happy do. Work your way to solve your problem. 

So, in the nutshell look at the problem to solve it. Stop calling an issue a problem and be stuck there with it. As long as one lives, there will be issues cropping up and we need to step up and address them. That is what is called as life! That in other words is problems coming and us resolving them or facing them.

Problem or challenge or opportunity - it's all how you see it!

Concluded.......

# life, beauty of life, challenges of life, opportunities of life, life lessons, problems and solutions, facts of life, there is no easy life, grace, growth, hurdles in life, 

Suggested reads from previous posts https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2024/06/shaayari-on-problems-over-god-or-god.html

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What to do with the problem?

 

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What to do with the problem?

4. Now write your problem - JUST THE PROBLEM - without adding any prefix or adjectives to it. Just what the problem is. Now the problem - many times is found to be a very small one that can be handled if correctly broken down to "small doable actions for a set period of time". 

Most just say "I WANT this thing to go this way etc" and think the issue will wonderfully be fitted into their "WANT of imagination". NO! It doesn't work that way.

Understand the problem first. Look into it directly. See what you consider a problem. Then look at ways to fix it. Then work on the action plan. Have patience as your action plan is being executed. It takes time for the job to be done. Wait! See the results and know if you like it. Did it turn out the way you wanted it or not? Make the necessary changes in your action plan to get the desired results. And repeat the process till you get what you desired.

“But maam, I don’t want to do all this process. Why can’t you just make some magic and let things go my way?”

Me – If I had to and can make things go your way, I would have done it my way and wiped you out with my magic – na rahegee bansuri, na bajhegee baans (no flute, no music). Would I not make my life much more easier that way?

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# life, beauty of life, challenges of life, opportunities of life, life lessons, problems and solutions, facts of life, there is no easy life, grace, growth, hurdles in life, 

also read suggested from previous posts https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Me%2C+My+Guru+-+On+life+and+death+%E2%80%93+III%21

What to do with the problem?

 

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What to do with the problem?

So, there is a problem! Fine!

1. Take a deep breath and look at the problem. Don't feel it, don't try to solve it. Just keep looking at it till your breath becomes normal.

2. Next, Word your problem. Write it down. Don't live it in your mind. Write it. Writing doesn't mean "mailing me your "chaata bharatam". NO!!! Just write for yourself. Now look at your writing. Most of the times - a. it is complaints using emotional blackmail - "maam, I am suffering so much, I have so much of stress, My family is worried about me as I am stressing about it and losing health, 

 b. it is criticizing - it points at the one who is responsible 

c. Self-pity - it says statements like "Why did it happen to me?" etc 

d. it says "How you don't deserve it etc etc" 

e. Scapegoating - It says "How some other person is supposed to fix it and he is not doing it" f. Giving a larger picture and space to your problem with words like "It is big problem maam, it is impossible, it is urgent, it is huge.....

3. Delete everything that comes under such categories. Delete every sentence of your problem that reflects these thoughts. 

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# life, beauty of life, challenges of life, opportunities of life, life lessons, problems and solutions, facts of life, there is no easy life, grace, growth, hurdles in life, 

also read suggested from previous post https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/11/on-problems-and-solutions.html 

What to do with the problem?

 

What to do with the problem?

Problem – How to solve it and what to do with it?

How you understand, address and face the problem reflects your clarity of thought and your level of consciousness! A person who is clear in conscience and mind has a pure heart. He will look at the problem to solve it. He will not sit to complain about it or try to play a victim-card with his problem in his life. For him, a problem means only one thing – a puzzle to be solved. That’s all! He gets excited may be but no other emotion like pain, fear or suffering enters his being! He enjoys facing problem as it gives him an opportunity to put his abilities and skills to good use. It’s like a warrior loves to be in a battle-field. A soldier is trained to fight. For him, war gives him an opportunity to prove himself. So he loves it.

                                                 

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# life, beauty of life, challenges of life, opportunities of life, life lessons, problems and solutions, facts of life, there is no easy life, grace, growth, hurdles in life, 

suggested read from previous post - https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Me%2C+My+Guru+%E2%80%93+On+Hindrances+in+problem+solving 

On sayings and quotes!

 

On sayings and quotes!

“Diseases of the soul are far more dangerous than those of the body” – English proverb

read suggested from previous posts https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2009/03/blog-post.html

# disease of the soul, healing self, what healing actually is, attitudes and their impact on the soul quality, belief systems and their impact on belief systems

On quotes and sayings!

 

On quotes and sayings!

Do not draw your sword to kill a fly – Korean proverb