Difference in energies

Difference in energies

(Further to the query in the link given below :
http://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2018/11/on-query.html?showComment=1542306767562)

(Godavari Aarti at Rajhmundry, AP)

Why do we feel different energies at the same place at different points of time?

Moon is the integral part of everyone’s life – be it in any part of the world. It is same irrespective of nation, caste, creed, sex, species etc. But when it is looked at even at the same point of time by different people and for this purpose from same spot is experienced differently by different people.

Is it related the same way by a kid, depressed youth, a couple in love, a lonely dejected old man and a wise man? No, certainly not! (I am sure you can picture each one’s feelings and experience their emotions separately with moon and hence am not explaining that!)

Where is the difference coming from?

Moon, time, place being the same – the experience, emotion and the memory carried is different, because these are dependent on only one factor – viz., the state of mind. The state of mind reflects on the way I look at the moon, relate with it and feel about it. If I am in love, happy, celebrating then moon looks like sharing my happiness and shining forth my happiness through its radiance. But in heartbroken situation it seems to mock me with its radiance. Poor moon! It is just being itself during its regular duty, honestly in its routine. Yet it is given a role of friend or a teaser – a la’ enemy depending upon my state of mind.

contd....

also read: https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=energies

on query on shiva!

Further to the query in the link below on Shiva....
http://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2018/11/on-query.html?showComment=1542306767562

What do you think about Shiva having Ganga flowing from his head etc etc....and If God is infinite can HE be contained in the physical form...?

The real treasure!

The real Treasure

Sometimes we have to travel the whole world to realize that all that we ever needed and wanted was right there in our 'Homes'!

How many times have you felt it, realized it and found it to be true?

People we meet in life!

People we meet in life!

It is not every day that we get to meet people who would make an impact in our lives. 

Some meet us far in between but they are sort of part of us though far apart. We carry these people with us where ever we are. They stay as a smile on our lips when their memories or their thoughts cross our minds even if be for a fleeting second. 

We stay with few who though staying with us for ages don’t know us and us, sometimes them. They are more of choices of conveniences and compulsions than that of our affections. These relationships burden us with expectations, conditions, pain and suffering. 

Some are like that catchy tune which doesn’t leave us however much we try and are playing at the back of our mind all through the day. They bring us our cheer just by being there out of sight yet near our hearts. 

Some are easier to forget. 

Some make it impossible to forget. 

Some make us meet the better version of who we are! 

And some shape us into who we are! 

Some are like that sweet fragrance that lingers long after its holder is gone. 

Each plays their part and fulfills their role in our lives. 

At each crossroads of life, we meet some, we leave some. 

But those who are carried in hearts and held on as memories never ever leave us for real! They become part of us and stay with us for ever!

on the validity of events

How and which of your doubts, anger, frustration does this quote address? Please explain.....

on destiny

What is the type of person you choose to be?

What is the type of person you choose to be?

Admired, feared, envied or trusted?

Is it just a wish to possess those qualities or do you consciously make an effort to develop them in you?

Because no character was built in a day or by mere wishing!

Character is nothing but a series of habits chosen over the time, choices made over period and beliefs developed bye and by.

Nobody – absolutely nobody and that includes your Guru and God too, can make that choice for you. They can’t develop an attitude that you don’t have. That is your choice and area to be worked on. 

They can stand by you, cheering you to get up as you fail a thousand times. They can show the pros and cons of every choice, but the choice you have to make. They can show you the path, show you pitfalls there and give you tips to avoid them but walk you have to on these paths. They can give or guide you techniques to make this journey faster and easier but apply them you must!

Don’t ever expect anyone to walk your path – they can’t! However much they would love to do it on your behalf it is against the Nature’s Law of respecting ‘freewill’.

Will you be satisfied and healthy on an empty stomach if someone else is eating on your behalf?

Your salary is paid to someone else. Will you accept it?

No one can breathe for you.

No one can eat or sleep on your behalf. Similarly, no one can work on your attitude but yourself.

Know this and start thinking and living right!

And stop blaming others for ‘Not being there’ for you!

Me, my Guru – On Trust!

contd...

Me, my Guru – On Trust!

She applied it correctly. This was detachment. Separating the act from the person and assigning ‘the value’ to the act and behaving with the person ‘the right way’! We usually mix them both and hence our emotions play havoc in our lives but her emotions were balanced. And today she gave us the reason and a way to know why and how! 

The big question was “would we want to apply it in our lives? Would we choose to do that? Or let go off one more chance to learn and apply right attitude and technique and benefit from the same or go back to our comfort zone of complaining and suffering with – but why no miracle happens in my life? 

-no one sets my life in order 

-why can I never be happy? Etc, etc.... 

Or the classic – all this is fine, but doesn’t apply to my situation and problem and I am where I am! 

She gave us the solution to our problems by living it but we chose to ignore it because we were adamant and stupid enough to want the solution the way we wanted it. We never listened to her. We wanted her to say words that we wished to hear. No doubt we had our anger reserved for her. Whether she knew or not, i knew not. Whether it bothered her or not, I knew not. But she let us heal ourselves and our complaints at our pace ....

also read : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=hurt

Me, my Guru – On Trust!

Me, my Guru – On Trust! 

‘Guruji, how come you remain unaffected inspite of so many people cheating and hurting you?’ 

‘Because I trust all but I don’t trust the ‘devil’ within them’.

‘Then, what gives you hope and strength to trust others?’

‘The divine within them!’

I smiled. She gave application to ‘hate the sin and not the sinner rule!

contd.....

also read related posts on https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=trust

A boy with a fractured hand!

contd...

A boy with a fractured hand!

Happiness is a State of Mind! It can’t be a charity that is made by others. ‘Happiness’ is not a thing that can be bought, given or gifted by others to you.


It is a ‘state of Being’ and hence (unfortunately) in our hands ONLY. 

Happiness can’t be purchased.

Happiness can’t be given away.

I purchased buildings, lands, diamonds etc etc – possible!

I purchased happiness – Not possible!

I am HAPPY – Possible if seen as a ‘state of being’ instead of seen as ‘action verb’ 

‘AM’ is a state of being, as state of existence and that is in our hands ONLY. If you are not happy, it has nothing to do with ‘the other or others’ (who so ever it b) in your life.

It has to do with your choice ONLY. It simply means ‘I chose to suffer’.

Please read related posts on   https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?=happiness+is+a+choice   
https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=suffering+is+optional

A boy with a fractured hand!

A boy with a fractured hand! 

The other day I saw a boy of say 8-10years old with a fractured hand cycling happily with his friends with one hand. They were a group of 4-5 boys, chatting away to glory oblivious of this boy’s plight and fracture. Their laughter was infectious and the chatter so joyous. It was as if ‘the fracture’ didn’t exist for them! 

I am sure you all have witnessed somewhat similar situations in your life sometime! (Please share at least one of those if you have) 

Now what are the facts of this situation:

1. Boy was a small boy of just 8-10yrs. 

2. He had a fractured hand.

That shows ‘painful situation’ was real! But the fact which was also true was – 

1. All the boys were enjoying the time 

2. They weren’t brooding over a small incident – they chose to not suffer and celebrate life and live life inspite of situations!

Classic example of ‘situation is real but suffering is optional’. 

They were ‘happy’ as they chose to be happy. It was a choice – not a miracle bestowed by God or their Guru on them.

contd....

also read related posts : 

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=we+use+situations+

Poem by Neeraj – Jeevan jo katna tha kat gaya...

...contd.....

Poem by Neeraj – Jeevan jo katna tha kat gaya...

That set me thinking as I was looking at the body – oblivious to all the chatter happening around it. The ‘prana’ life which sustained it had left it and am sure wouldn’t want to linger around after being set free of this limitation called the body. It has broken the ‘shackles of confinement in this body’ and let itself loose and free.

Would it matter if its life was a good one or bad?

Did it wait to look at the balance sheet of this life?

It just moved on.

It lived and it let go when the time came. 

It set itself free through a process called death.

It came, lived the way it chose to (good or bad, right or wrong) and then blended into the ‘Dao’ (Universal Energy) and yet the people assigned so many values to it. But to the spirit that lived and moved on, do these values make a difference, I wondered! 

Do we analyse unnecessarily where we need to find an excuse to heal ourselves or to work on our way of living and attitudes? Why do we do it if we are doing it? Is it because analysing is easier than changing ourselves for better?

Now read the poem once again and may be you’ll understand it better. I have given the meaning of ‘hard words’ at the end of the poem for your ease and then get back to me.....

A Hindi poem by Shri. Neeraj

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=neeraj

Poem by Neeraj – Jeevan jo katna tha kat gaya...

Attended a funeral once! The person was dead and lying still - but of course!

It was fascinating to see peoples’ reactions, comments and what not at that time. Maybe some were shocked. Maybe some talked out of fear (I don’t know what) and I assumed may be they liked the person (maybe) and so discounted most of their talks. But what was fascinating was the way ‘that person’s death’ was gauged and assessed by them. Each had his own understanding and point to put forth.

One said “so many people attending the funeral talks about the way that person had touched all these peoples’ lives. This is the ‘success and achievement of that person”.

Someone praised “such a big heart! Never went out of their house without eating”

“The day of death talks highly of this person’s good deeds” and so on and so forth. 

(I am not giving all the talks but I am sure you got the idea)

contd....

On asking and creativity!

On asking  and creativity!

If you want to get something from someone how would you ask?

Let's say you want a gift from someone, how would you ask or how would you work to get it?

Who you are and who do you want to be?

Who you are and who do you want to be?

Men of genius are admired

Men of power are feared

Men of money envied

But only Men of character are trusted.

Who are the people (name atleast three) belonging to each category in your life and why?

A poem - Hindi poem on Life by One of the greatest poets of Hindi - Shri. Neeraj

This is one of my favourite poets excellent poem written in the most simple way - by way of expression. His writing is par excellence when 'simplicity' is to be considered. Most of his words are simple and all his poems look simple yet the meaning they convey is so profound. That is great work. Anyone can make simple thing look profound or flowery but to convey profound meaning through normal, simple every day words well, that calls for real clarity of thought. 

जीवन कटना था, कट गया - Neeraj

जीवन कटना था, कट गया
अच्छा कटा, बुरा कटा
यह तुम जानो
मैं तो यह समझता हूँ
कपड़ा पुराना एक फटना था, फट गया
जीवन कटना था कट गया।

रीता है क्या कुछ 
बीता है क्या कुछ
यह हिसाब तुम करो
मैं तो यह कहता हूँ
परदा भरम का जो हटना था, हट गया
जीवन कटना था कट गया।

क्या होगा चुकने के बाद
बूँद-बूँद रिसने के बाद
यह चिंता तुम करो
मैं तो यह कहता हूँ
करजा जो मिटटी का पटना था, पट गया
जीवन कटना था कट गया।

बँधा हूँ कि खुला हूँ
मैला हूँ कि धुला हूँ
यह विचार तुम करो
मैं तो यह सुनता हूँ
घट-घट का अंतर जो घटना था, घट गया
जीवन कटना था कट गया।

(reeta - abhaav, something missing

patna - that which is to be paid, karz

risna - diya gaya hai, one that is given)


PS: If any of you find it difficult to understand please let me know, will translate it for you in English)

What did you understand from this poem?

How did you relate with it?

on peace of mind!

on children

On questions and children

If you haven't answered this query, do that first and only then continue reading this post, otherwise you'll not benefit from the same........
https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=single+child+is+selfish

All your answers are good. We may go back to them later. Now I want you to look at the centre from which you answered this question.

Were you defensive while answering this question?

Did you place yourself in the place of a ‘single child’ or ‘parent of a single child’ while answering this question? If so why?

Were you justifying your opinion or a decision while answering this question?

This was a simple question. Why did you make it personal?

Let’s assume you are born in Hyderabad (India) and so are emotionally connected to this place but are working and settled presently in Paris (France) and if someone asks ‘What is the capital of France?’ how will you answer that question?

Will you say ‘Paris but Hyderabad is more beautiful etc etc’?

Won’t you simply say ‘Paris’?

You may be emotionally connected to your birthplace yet will answer a question based on the facts – right?

Then why change the rule for questions related to relationships and people?

Now let’s redo this exercise again. Take 4-5 cases of families where there are 4-5 children (look into previous generation, you’ll get them easily). Are all the children in that family selfless, caring and loving? Are they all responsible? Write down qualities and attitudes of each person in that family (only children or siblings). Now do the same for 4-5 such families with 4 and more kids in them.

Now take 4-5 cases where there is only 1 kid (just look into today’s generation). Assess each child’s nature. Are they all selfish, arrogant and adamant?

Why is there a difference in their nature? What do YOU think are the reasons for their character and its development?

Now tell, is the number of kid the only reason or causative reason for child to be ‘selfish, arrogant, adamant’?

Have you seen the change in your answer?

Sometimes, the answer may remain the same but the feelings that you experienced while answering it had changed. why?

Where did this come from?

See, how our clarity changes when we shift from being subjective to objective? Let’s learn ‘detachment’ the right way. Hope you have understood the importance of being detached to see things clearly and correctly. This is the detachment I have been talking about. Not ‘leaving’ people and situations behind’ as some wonderful souls keep ‘misquoting and misinterpreting me’.

Develop this way of dealing and seeing things and situations. You will have ‘right perception’ and will be able to take right decisions then. Never identify yourself with the situation or person when arriving at a decision or to experience an emotion. Don’t connect with the situation as someone is explaining about themselves or their life situations. NEVER! Listen but with detachment! It is not NEVER LISTEN – it is LISTEN but with detachment!

who we are!

fears!

on love

Love what you have, before

Life teaches you to LOVE

what you have LOST!

Your experiences with this statement or quote?

Have you faced this reality in your life or seen it happen in someone's life? Can you share?

on happiness

On children

Just a small question!

As I was walking in the park overheard a couple talking and their statement was “The problem is that these ‘single’ children are always selfish. They don’t know to share and care! In a household where there are more than one child, they grow up to be responsible and loving children.”

What do you say? And why?

Please answer this question – however silly you may think your answer will be, still answer. It’s important....

on life

on relationships

on query!

will try to get back in a few days.......

are any questions pending - long since i have written so.......

but what should i say - sad or surprising that no one came back with query/ queries though i had said 'will not write till you ask me some doubts'.........should i read it as 'we don't want any more or your posts' or 'you have answered all our questions and so no more doubts pending'...???

Just going back to some old posts!

Found few posts related to festivals and thought would be good to go through them once again!

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=diwali



https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=the+lamp


in this story of 'The lamp' what does the lamp stand for?

What does the 'man' stand for?

what did you understand?