Expectations and conditions

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Expectations and conditions

Type C The sensitive and with Trust type : These have healed much more of their negative attitudes and their clarity is shinning forth in their behaviour, attitude and persona. They also expect me to write daily as they enjoy and benefit from the writings. But beyond that is their trust that I work through all odd hours to meet these demands – of writing, healing etc. That trust is not based on ‘blind belief’ or ‘stupid flattery’ or ‘blind idol worship’.  It is built over the years. They remember all the times their healing benefited them. They have followed the process and come to understand that the process works even if not understood by them. They believe in the process. They don’t condition the result anymore. They are with the process with a trust that it works in their way – whether it goes as per their plan or otherwise! And thus they trust me…….

They trust my intentions. They know they can trust my intentions for them. So, they are not being angry or sad about ‘no posts’. They are actually worried for me! Their worry is out of concern for me.  There is no ‘condition’ to fulfill their expectation of me writing the blog. So, there is trust! Where Trust is affection is present there! And where affection is present, trust is present there! They are not angry, sad or frustrated here inspite of me not fulfilling their expectations.

But in Type A – expectation is need based. They are filled with fear – because of circumstances. And their ‘demand’ is that the ‘other person removes that fear – here that person being me. And since I am not living up to that ‘condition’ they feel I have failed them. They think I am responsible for their suffering. And no doubt, hate me and are angry at me. Some cry, some shout. But both are result of not healing that ‘need’ of theirs. No doubt, you end up saying ‘I can’t trust you’ or ‘how can I trust you when you haven’t done anything to me?’

Here ‘anything’ represents ONLY the present desire which is pending.  These are the people who hush up all the ‘miracles’ or ‘wishes fulfilled’ as ‘some small small things happen but….’.

Their expectation is need based.

They have a ‘strong’ condition that their expectation should be met – always!

No doubt, they can’t trust! 

Contd........ 

also reads suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=my%2C+my+guru+-+on+attachments%2C+faith+and+commitments 

Questions answered : 

• What stops people from trusting?
• Are there different types of expectations?
• Does the source of expectation make a difference in how we react to the result?

Points to be understood :

• Where there is fear, there is no faith or trust. 
• Where there is trust, there is no fear. 
• Trust depends upon our attitude.
• Where there is gratitude, clarity of thought, love, respect trust flows effortlessly. 
• Trust is based on past actions and experiences. Trust once gained so can't be lost. Expectations may not be met, but trust is not gone. 
• Where trust given or received is blind or emotional, it is easily broken as it is based on expectations ONLY! 

On Trust!

On Trust!

We need to check our meanings and state of mind when we use these words!

Trust – what does it mean to you?

When do you say you have trust on someone?

Why do you trust someone?

When do you say your trust is broken?

If we trust someone does it mean that the other is "bound" to behave in a set fashion to be in our "circle of trust"?

How often does a person whom we trust 'ask' us to trust him in the first place?

Is our trust our need based? Is trust our need based? 

If it is our need based then can it be called trust at all? 

What do you expect from the person whom you trust? 

also read previous posts on this topic:  https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=trust 

Note : All those who are sharing their experiences, understandings, reiki miracles on daily basis, if you keep it up for the rest of our covid days then at the end you'll learn why and how it was necessary........only those who are doing it regularly will get the answers though......

On gratitude and trust!

 

On gratitude and trust!

One Reiki channel was doing reiki to get a seat in a certain course for 4 whole years. She got it and later told me about a wonderful senior who was very helpful which made her adjusting in new environment effortless. She had asked couple of times during her ‘trying time’ why she didn’t get it inspite of doing Reiki for so long. Now I told her ‘See Reiki had to arrange for this senior to be in a position to help you and guide you right. All pieces have fallen in place now. Can’t you see?’

The answer that Reiki channel gave was classic. It reflected her maturity and understanding of how Reiki functions beyond her age. She simply smiled and said “Reiki would have found me a guide and senior similar to them anywhere I got seat. Only name and form would have been different. But the quality that is helping me would be found in any person I meet where reiki sends me!”

Now that is ‘Trust’. Trust says wherever Reiki/Guru/God/Universe places me (if and when I am in sadhan) that is absolutely right for me and it is good for me too. We need not be ADAMANT about receiving what we want. Just ask and let Reiki decide how to package it. IT WILL BE GOOD ONLY! This is faith! This is Trust! This is Belief! 

Contd.....

# gratitude, trust, belief, things going right, pleasant and right decisions, 

also read previous post :https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=right+thing+and+pleasant+thing 

Points to question and to be understood : 

• What is the difference between trust and being grateful?
• Trust is not the word used to tell God or Guru so that they are forced to fulfill our demands.
• Trust doesn't mean we get what we desire.
• Trust means we get what is 'right' for us.
• Trust also means if we are denied our 'demand list' than there is a greater good and higher love even in that 'denial'.
• Trust means we trust his 'love' to be higher and nobler enough to see to our higher good even when we are doubting him and pounding him with hate words.
• When a parent takes away a knife from a child's hand sometimes even by slapping the child does it mean parent is bad or doesn't love his child. Infact, in his act of hitting the child is his love for child expressed. Not every act of love is buying gifts and giving gifts to his child. Every act of discipline is also an act of love. 
• If you can understand this, you'll understand why we receive few 'slaps' by way of 'ill health', tough situations, denied or delayed wishes, tough people in our life.
• Think for once from the point of 'how has HE enveloped HIS love for me in this situation?' instead of asking 'but He is not supposed to do this no...?'

Note : Appreciate you for going through the old posts as requested many times before and also sharing your inputs on the same. 

Appreciate also the fact that you are in sadhan on reg. basis.

Appreciate all those who completed 250 + malas of chanting MM in the allotted time.

A small HW : those who have done set no. of malas of chanting MM do a small HW.

Sit in meditation. Take time and do this exercise. Take time. Do it more than once to get right results. Sit at least once per day for atleast 3-4 days to get results. More days is also welcome.

Look within and see what changes you notice within you - before and after MM chanting. Look for physical changes (like some acidity or headache gone etc), emotional change etc.

Look at your mental status too. Look at all areas. Note it down. And then share it on blog if you please.

Those who do this exercise will have so many of their doubts, questions answered in one go. 

Expectations and conditions

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Expectations and conditions

Type C are the people who were once type A or B type. But they kept healing themselves and accepted their flaw in perception and understanding and kept working on it. The trust came when anger, hatred, doubt reduced. As long as we have ‘conditions’ we can’t let the ‘grace’ that comes into our life. (Read the link given below to get this point)

We are the ‘stumbling block’ stopping abundance from coming our way.

‘Blessings work when ‘trust’ is present’. But as long as ‘condition’ or ‘demand’ exist, no amount of blessing works.

But, Type ‘A’ people use ‘trust’ as a tool to condition others. Trust is not a word. It doesn’t need proofs. It can’t be logically arrived at or understood. Where there is less hatred, selfishness, greed, conditions and more of acceptance there ‘trust’ is. Where there is anger and demanding nature, trust can’t exist. A person who expects other to do favour on him as his right will and can never develop trust. Only a person who has healed enough to be more responsible towards his needs has power to ‘trust’.

Even now, type ‘C’ people after reading will sit in meditation to comprehend this. They will work on their understanding through meditation.

Type A will start writing a mail or comment explaining themselves and their actions. They will justify themselves. They already are ‘right’ so where is the question of healing? So, they don’t and can’t sit to heal themselves.

Type D The Bindaas type : These are my personal favourites! These come to blog, don’t find a new post – simply shut the window and go on to watch some funny video or go on internet window shopping. They are happy that they don’t have something to read today! They got extra time to spend on their mega projects of going through all the shopping deals offered on the shopping sites! They now have time - extra to watch those videos that were forwarded by some random person on their multiple groups. They have no issues of emotions of Type A, B or C. But they come back statements like “oh, I was so frightened or is it not frightening situation etc”. I sometimes feel they are telling me indirectly to sit and do more healing as the situation outside is very grim. They are not actually worried but are just giving me heads up of the situation that I am supposed to heal! The bindaas types are the best type! No post, no worries kind! And so, they  find nothing to heal too most of the time……… I didn’t say “Bindaas” without a reason……….then why do they read this blog? Maybe, just to ‘do the task’ that I told them to…….whatever no issues with these ones! 

Contd........ 

# conditions, acceptance, trust, relationships, happiness, clarity of thought

Also reads :  https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=lalchiram 

Questions addressed : 

• What are the different conditions that people have and how they affect them?

Points to be understood :

• Difference between doing something mechanically and with a purpose
• How healing brings us from Point A to Point C over the period of time provided we are doing healing regularly and also working on our attitudes regularly.
• Why some peoples growth in personality and clarity of thought is better than many others even when both of them are doing sadhan regularly...

Life Hack :

Whatever you do - be it reading a book or listening to a song, enjoy doing it. Don't do it absent mindedly like a robot. 

A robot does things mechanically. What is the purpose of being human if you are doing even sadhan mechanically?

Trust and betrayal!

 

Trust and betrayal!

Dhoke ki phitrat hi hoti hai ki

Who apnon se milthi hai….

धोके की फ़ितरत ही होती है की 

वह अपनों से मिलती है। 

It is the nature of deceit that

It is given by ‘our own’.

మోసం యొక్క నైజం ఏమనగా 

అది మనవాళ్ళ నుంచే దొరుకుతుంది 

Meaning – deceit and cheating are always done by those whom we trust. Trust is broken by people whom we trust. The one we don’t trust can’t break our trust. So, it is in the power of our dear ones to cheat and deceive us!

So, do not be surprised by deceit when it is received from someone you trust and love a lot!

The flaw and wrong is not in trusting the other. The one who is cheated need not feel bad or ashamed of. If you have been cheated, do not feel guilty about it too! You are not at fault.

The one who has broken the trust is the one who is at fault. Let him feel guilty (which he wouldn’t though). He is the one who is wronged. So, don’t feel bad for trusting and loving the ‘shameless one’. 

If the purity of your mind and heart had chosen to love the 'cheater' it reflects how pure your heart is. Let it remain so! Do not let the cheater take away the innocence away from you. 

 

 
Meaning:

Phitrat – nature

Dhoka – deceit, cheating, back stabbing, betrayal

Apnon se – from our dear ones

 

 

 

Trust of a sadhak!

 

Trust of a sadhak!

I desired. So, I prayed. I did sadhan and waited. Time passed by and yet….my wish and desire remained as they were – as my expectation and desire! Yet, I didn’t lose hope. I still did sadhan and then things started moving and events started to unfold – faster than I had expected. But my wish did not go my way! It happened in a way I couldn’t and hadn’t imagined.

I was happy that my wish did come true! Yet, I was little disappointed that it didn’t go ‘my way’. Sometime later, I realized that my wish had come true in the best possible way – by not happening my way!

I was happy. I was thankful to Reiki and Universe. My trust increased!

This happened so many times – over and over again!

And now, there are many things that don’t go my way. There are many things I don’t understand why and how they happened. They don’t go my way! And yet, I welcome them, accept them for what they are! Not, out of compulsion. Not because I don’t have other option! But, I know from my experience that things fall in place for a reason and at the appointed time – for my good – every single time! It’s just that my ‘intelligence’, ‘understanding’ and ‘sight’ are good enough to get it every time! But, thank God for my trust, I know Reiki and He send the best my way whenever I ask for something!

Now, I fear less. Now, I smile more. Now, I sing often. Now, I question less. Now, I trust!

For now, I realize that it was never about 'fulfilling my desires or wishes' - "my wishes were used to increase my Trust in Him!" and so I trust!

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# trust, desire fulfillment, God's will and our will, everything has a reason, there is season and reason for everything in life, 

also suggested read of previous posts : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=trust

Me, my guru

…contd….

“I asked the tree this question once and the tree said ‘I can because I don’t have past to live up to and a future to worry.  I do what needs to be done now – and the time does the rest.” She continued oblivious of my suffering “The tree could TRUST the moment and shed her leaves completely.  She didn’t think ‘what’ll people who’ve seen me full think of me if I become bare no.  like-wise it didn’t bother about future thinking if leaves don’t come again, then what about my future and security.”  A person who doesn’t need to uphold an image of the past or worry of the future only can ‘live the moment completely’ and only sucha  person can ‘Trust’ the process, nature, reiki, God – why eve me?” she chuckled and she uttered last words “To trust one should have ‘no ego’.  No person with ego can trust.  You should surrender yourself completely to the other to have Trust.  It means you need to ‘submit yourself’ in toto and that cannot happen as long as ‘YOU’ exist.  Only when ‘YOU’ no longer exist can you put your faith in me or reiki – clear?” she patted my cheek and left with a smile leaving me there to digest the entire conversation.

All these years, I put the blame on her, reiki and God to prove their greatness, goodness and asked them to give reasons to trust them.  No, on the contrary, I was finding excuses to not trust them.  I would judge situations, their actions and asked them to conform to my specifications and if they deviated I jumped with joy and said ‘see so, I can’t trust them.’

But, the problem was in my all through – no the problem was me.  I couldn’t submit myself completely.  I didn’t feel good with myself I needed time to collect myself.  I left her place even without saying goodbye to her.  How long it would take me to process this whole fact I don’t know.  Till then, I preferred not to meet her…….

I hope I don't take long to understand it – because I didn’t wish to be away from her for too long too!

I sat down and cried…..