Resolutions and thoughts that I would follow in this coming year...

Many make New Year Resolutions that are made to be broken!
Few make fanciful ones!
And others just don't make any - that's their resolution!

But, I find every excuse to make promises to myself to work towards my potential........
and i wish to use this chance to remind myself of the works that i need to concentrate on - myself!

These would be the quotes I would hand in my cupboard......so that i work on them everyday and it would remind me everytime i open my cupboard..........and next year i would surely be glad that i walked this path and made a progress - maybe just a little but progress nonetheless in the path of winning over my mind........



                              

 

Just ponder on this!

Why we suffer?

Just think about it!

On Christmas Day!

Tu pyaar ka sagaar hai from film Seema "https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e2D-kjOMNF0

Dekh tere sansaar ki haalat bhagwan  song https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ePbh_e7qm_A 

 

Just Think!

Aur kya ehde wafa hote hai  from Sunny : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7fch8JZjKqE

dushman na kare dost ne woh kaam kiya hai from Akhir Kyon " https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mrbmI5I_5RU

Knowing and doing

There is no defeat to people who work hard...........

लहरों से डर कर नौका पार नहीं होती,
कोशिश करने वालों की कभी हार नहीं होती।
नन्हीं चींटी जब दाना लेकर चलती है,
चढ़ती दीवारों पर, सौ बार फिसलती है।
मन का विश्वास रगों में साहस भरता है,
चढ़कर गिरना, गिरकर चढ़ना न अखरता है।
आख़िर उसकी मेहनत बेकार नहीं होती,
कोशिश करने वालों की कभी हार नहीं होती।

Boat carrying pearl divers

Pearl Diver
 

Pearl

 
डुबकियां सिंधु में गोताखोर लगाता है,
जा जा कर खाली हाथ लौटकर आता है।
मिलते नहीं सहज ही मोती गहरे पानी में,
बढ़ता दुगना उत्साह इसी हैरानी में।
मुट्ठी उसकी खाली हर बार नहीं होती,
कोशिश करने वालों की कभी हार नहीं होती।


असफलता एक चुनौती है, इसे स्वीकार करो,
क्या कमी रह गई, देखो और सुधार करो।
जब तक न सफल हो, नींद चैन को त्यागो तुम,
संघर्ष का मैदान छोड़ कर मत भागो तुम।
कुछ किये बिना ही जय जय कार नहीं होती,
कोशिश करने वालों की कभी हार नहीं होती।

LEHRON SE DARR KAR NOKA PAAR NAHI HOTI !
KOSHISH KARNE WALO KI KABHI HAAR NAHI HOTI !!


NANHI CHITI JAB DANA LEKAR CHALTI HE !
CHATDTI DIWARON PAR SOO BAR FISALTI HE !!

MANKA VISHWAS RAGGO ME SAAHAS BHARTA HE!
CHADKARGIRNA GIRKAR CHADNA NA AKHARTA HE !
MEHNAT USKI BEKAR HAR BAR NAHI HOTI!!

KOSHISH KARNE WALO KI KABHI HAAR NAHI HOTI !!

DUBKIYAN SINDHU ME GOTAKHOR LAGATA HE !
JA JA KAR KHALI HATH LOTKAR AATA HE !!

MILTE NA SAHAJ HI MOTI GEHRE PANI ME !
BADTA DUNA VISHWAS ISI HERANI ME!
MUTHI USKI KHALI HAR BAAR NAHI HOTI!!

KOSHISH KARNE WALO KI KABHI HAAR NAHI HOTI !!

ASAFLTA EK CHUNOTI HE SWIKAR KARO !
KYA KAMI REH GAI DEKHO OR SUDHAR KARO !!

JAB TAK NA SAFAL HO NEEND CHEN KI TYAGO TUM !
SANGHARSHO KA MEIDAN CHOD MAT BHAGO TUM !!

KUCH KIYE BINA HI JAI JAI KAR NAI HOTI !!

KOSHISH KARNE WALO KI KABHI HAAR NAHI HOTI !!
KOSHISH KARNE WALO KI KABHI HAAR NAHI HOTI !!

Translation in English :


If the boat is ever afraid of the waves,
It can never, ever cross the sea,
Only to those who try very hard,
There is never, ever a defeat.

When tiny little ants carry the grain and climb,
On the steep-soft walls, they fall down hundreds of times,
But their mind filled fully with hope,
Fills up their nerves fully with courage.
Falling after climbing and climbing after falling,
Does never make them stop from climbing,
For they know that hard work never goes waste,
Only to those who try very hard,
There is never, ever a defeat.

The scuba divers sink and rise,
In the sea and return oft empty handed,
For it is very rare to get a pearl in the deep sea,
But they sink and rise again and again,
For they know that sometimes their hands will not be empty. 

Accept the fact that every failure is a challenge,
Take courage from defeat and try again,
Till you are crowned with success.
Banish sleep from your eyes at night,
And do not desert and run away from this land of defeat.
For without doing hard work, no success comes,
Only to those who try very hard,
There is never, ever a defeat

No worries

When we say 'it's enough'

Where less is more

Keep walking..keep going.....ask not for rest..........

अग्निपथ

वृक्ष हों भले खड़े,
हों घने, हों बड़े,
एक पत्र छाँह भी
मांग मत! मांग मत! मांग मत!
अग्निपथ! अग्निपथ! अग्निपथ!

तू न थकेगा कभी,
तू न थमेगा कभी,
तू न मुड़ेगा कभी,
कर शपथ! कर शपथ! कर शपथ!
अग्निपथ! अग्निपथ! अग्निपथ!

यह महान दृश्य है,
चल रहा मनुष्य है,
अश्रु, स्वेद, रक्त से
लथ-पथ, लथ-पथ, लथ-पथ,
अग्निपथ! अग्निपथ! अग्निपथ!

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Vriksh hon bhale khade,
Hon ghane, hoh bade,
Ek patra chhah bhi
Maang mat! Maang mat! Maang mat!
Agneepath! Agneepath! Agneepath!

Tu na thakega kabhi,
Tu na thamega kabhi,
Tu na mudega kabhi,
Kar shapath! Kar shapath! Kar shapath!
Agneepath! Agneepath! Agneepath!

Yeh mahaan drishya hai,
Chal raha manushya hai
Ashru, swed, rakt se
Lath-path, lath-path, lath-path,
Agneepath! Agneepath! Agneepath!

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Agneepath – English Translation

Even if there are mighty trees all around you,
Let them be shady, let them be huge,
But, even for the shade of a single leaf,
Beg not, beg never, ask never!
The path of fire you shall tread! The path of fire! Yes, That Path of Fire!

You shall never tire,
You shall never slow down,
You shall never turn back,
This oath you will take today!
This oath you will fulfill in your life!
Take this oath!
And walk the Path of Fire, every single day!
The oath of fire! Yes, That Path of Fire!

What greater spectacle,
Than to see such a man walk,
Who in tears, sweat and blood,
Is soaked, covered and coated;
And still walks on in the Path of fire!
Walks the path of fire! Yes, That Path of Fire!

Agneepath (अग्निपथ)

A poem by Harivansh Rai Bachchan,

When i can't change you.........

Gratitude - a perception or a choice?

...contd....

 

Each had his opinion and each put forth problems or difficulties to applying these ‘perceptions and possibilities’. When someone explained at times we were in awe of such a mind-set and the way that person conducted himself. At other times, we felt it was good in theory and next to impossible in practical world. In some cases we felt it was beyond even discussion. And yet here found our own friends talking from their own experiences and saying all this was a possibility. They were no ‘Rama’ or ‘Krishna’ (meaning Avatars or incarnations). They were no saints either. They were just simple human-beings like any of us leading a life full of issues that each of us was facing. What set them apart was only the way they conducted themselves. And yet instead of using their ‘conduct’ as an example to conduct ourselves, we were doing post-mortem of their acts, incidents and all just so we could find an excuse as to why we couldn’t ‘live that possibility’ in our lives.

One more chance lost by logic and justification of our acts! Once more we advanced our ability to rise its’ bar to live the possibility of being balanced, sensible and detached. And yet we were the people finding fault with people and situations in our lives. We felt like victims of situations. Maybe, we never want ourselves to come out of this. Maybe we never want to free ourselves of this pain, anger and frustrations. There possibly couldn’t be another explanation for our stupidity.

We all talked, argued, discussed and justified long enough to arrive at our conclusions. It was not humanly possible to apply all ‘great qualities’ to all situations. We also agreed that what applied in one’s life couldn’t possibly be applicable in another’s life. That was so relaxing, we felt as if a huge burden was off our shoulders.

It was funny to see this side of ourselves. I pitied ‘our Guruji’ for making so much of effort to lift us to our possibility. She tried tirelessly to raise our bars and we were so committed to our little nature, our fears, pains and anguish. We didn’t want solutions. We loved to complain. We longed to suffer. We chose to feel victimised and hence argued against any solution given to us.

Her task was no easy one. And yet........

Did this revelation make me re-consider my stand? I doubt if it did. That was so bad. I knew it, felt it and yet didn’t want to live it.

This session was both exhausting and fulfilling and yet I didn’t know if I would apply anything that I learned here in these two days. I caught couple of others holding the same thought. Good for me for I had company!

We left her place late night. I was experiencing a strange mix of emotions – guilt, happiness, envy and even a comfort. I didn’t think I would try to understand them today. That was for another day. As of now, I carried with me picture of her smiling face and reassuring words “you have a choice to choose - always".

 

What's gratitude?

…contd….

Inshort, we are both happy and satisfied when grateful. Being grateful is not for others. It is of no use to the person you are grateful to, but to yourself. You gift yourself “Being happy” when you are grateful.

It couldn’t be better explained than by Rahuls’ version of gratitude. He started “ I heard a story of a Zen woman who was a beggar of course from our Guruji many years ago. This woman had come to a village and it being very cold – so cold that it could kill a person in no time if he stayed outdoors, the woman knocked at every door and requested that she be given the shelter for night. But no one compiled to her request. With no other alternative available and with empty stomach, the poor beggar woman decided to spend her night under a tree. She sat down. For no particular reason, she raised her head and lo! She beholds the beautiful full moon. 

 

She didn’t know that it was full-moon night (pournami). The beauty of that moon transfixed her gaze and she lost count of time looking at moon. In the morning, when sun rose, she realized what she had experienced and in sheer ecstasy she knocked every door of the village and thanked each person in between her tears of joy for not letting her in for night. By that gesture, they had let her experience the night like never before. She kept crying out of joy “I saw the moon, I saw the moon” to all and sundry” completed the story and started his explanation “This story stuck with me and i kept looking at “moon” (i mean blessings) in my life whenever someone denied something in my life. And trust me “I’ve seen many moons thanks to rejections in my life”. Hence, I am grateful for every “NO” that I received in my life. This had only bettered my perception and that in turn has enriched me as a person. So, i am grateful to every person who has said ‘No’ to my needs, expectations, requests and affection.

 

He sat down but our senses stood up. Everyone started asking questions simultaneously. It seemed as if we understood it all and yet we didn’t get a word of it. It was too bizarre and yet so genuinely shaking us from our slumber. 

...contd....

What's gratitude?

…contd…

Sorry if I have bored you or hurt you in any way. I am not good in explaining but I hope my sincere intentions could have come across to explain it to you” he sat down emotionally.

So true! I am not doing others favour by stating that I am grateful to them. Infact, I was giving what was long due to them. And yet I felt I was doing a “good act” by saying “thank-you” to them. How naïve was I? Or was it my arrogance?

Everyone started the discussion on this angle of gratitude and came to understanding of few points.

 

·         We can’t claim any thing in exchange for the gratitude that we showed – yes, not even a claim that we are “good people”.

·         Gratitude opens up our heart, heals our vanity, selfishness and complaining nature which stems from emptiness and fills us with joy, appreciation, happiness and makes us say “I have enough”.

·         We become more relaxed, less stressed and less irritating when we are grateful for all that we have.

...contd.....

What is it about being grateful?

…contd….

Whenever we just stated that we were grateful to XYZ, it many times only meant that we were praising someone to redeem ourselves of their genuine goodness or acts. Would you accept only ‘thank-you’ as your salary or birthday gift? Why gratitude is saying that you are grateful. Right? But then, it is your definition. Isn’t it? Why then are you not happy? Why do you demand more? Do you become greedy for asking more? If no, then for others’ acts of kindness or any act that deserves your gratitude you feel you have done them a great favour by stating that you are grateful to them. Have you thought about it?  Our verbal gratitude only reflects the ‘hallowness’ of our gratitude.

“Treat others as you would want to be treated”. You get angry and what not when others are not grateful to you and yet you never sit to honestly see how you have repaid to all to whom you owe gratitude! How convenient! How Good! And yet others are bad and we are good! What justice? Just look at all these hypocrisy of ours….

 

“We reap what we sow”. Did we ever sit to reflect “if I am receiving ingratitude to whom all have I been ingrateful?”. No. we never do that.

For me “I am grateful” only when I give atleast a part of all that I received from others with love, affection and above all humility that “I am NOT GIVING charity” but paying my debt. I am just repaying what I had already enjoyed and benefitted.

I am truly grateful

·         only when I don’t expect kudos for my acts of gratitude

·         I don’t publicize my acts to receive others praise

·         Don’t crib in tough times questioning Guru/God that “I did so much good, then why are you not helping me?”

·         When these acts don’t give me a sense of being a good man doing great acts of charity etc.

 

I am sorry, I became a little carried away but I learnt these lessons a very hard way and hence wanted to share it with you. This effort is to make you reflect only your definition of gratitude, the need to do it and your concept of every aspect of gratitude. That’s all!

...contd....