Don' be afraid of failure in your first attempt...even mathematics starts with "zero" only...!

Me, My Guru

...contd...

Just close your eyes and go within

1. How many times you’ve felt great and happy when you got what others were trying to achieve?

2. Is your happiness / definition of success dependent on what others have/don’t have?

3. Did you feed the same level of happiness that you presumed you’ll get before owning ‘x’ and after owning it? Why the difference?

Think about it. Is my my happiness dependent on

a. My saree being liked by all or ‘x’.

b. My cooking to be liked or validated by all.

c. I should possess things and people better than others.

d. Yes, I say people too because we say “my child should get 100%”- It is not for the kid. It is to pamper my ego that “MY CHILD” got 100% and “I” am a successful “PARENT” because of it.

e. Same applies to a family member getting promotion etc- just to feel better than others (most of the time) so sad.

f. We live and rejoice in comparisons to others joys and achievements. Or rather others failures and pains.

g. No doubt, we seem empty from within…..

No, I am not being judgmental here…..but having come across so many people with the common complaints of pain and suffering, I have found that the reason for all that is this simple attitude in majority of case.

So look within. Daily observe your moods and emotions and check the cause of your pain. The answers will be a revelation to you. And through those answers you will find your way to REAL happiness, peace and contentment. So, search for them within….and get the treasures priceless in worth just within an arm’s length - literally but arm’s length within and not  outside.

So all the best in this search of yours. as I go to reflect on one more incident of my life.

Me, My Guru

On one such day, when I had to shop, I went to a saree shop. The boy in the shop was showing me the sarees. I did not find a single shop that fit my trill. Suddenly, a lady sitting next to me rejected a saree. The boy who was showing her the saree pushed the pile that she had seen and rejected towards me My eyes fell on a saree in that bundle. I immediately picked if and asked its price. That lady turned around and said “I’ve taken it” and grabbed that saree. I let it be, selected and another saree and came to the cash counter. I found that lady also there with a saree in her hand. It wasn’t the one I had picked. So I asked her “didn’t you buy the saree that took from me” she simply said ‘no’.

It surprised me a bit when I showed in she picked it nay grabbed it and yet when I let go she didn’t take it. This gave a beautiful insight into human character and it left me wondering a bit for sometime.

Think on this issue how many times we’ve felt we need to have what others have? Is it because what ‘others have’ looks haveable? Or is it that we always want what others have? Either way, it’s confusing and silly to me. But still, the question still remains, why are we that way? Because of simple reasons like:

1. We don’t have tastes and likes of our own.

2. We are not confident of our own taste and like.

3. Because of this lack of confidence on the taste of self, WE rely on others taste and presume that if they selected it. It’s got to be a better one.

4. And I need to go for better one, so I will go by what others choose.

5. By default, I presume or live by the law that others are happy because of all that they posses. This is the cause of jealousy.

6. Because others are happy, It is because of what they own.

7. So I need to own what they own to be happy.

8. Conclusion looks logical but is fundamentally stupid and hence the basic of my pain and suffering.

Just close your eyes and go within 
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One need not be a good person to get a good name and a good person need not necessarily get a good name!

You are as much bound as much as you suppose!

Me, My Guru

“Guruji, I am tensed and worried. There’s a selection going on for promotions in our office.I don’t know I’ll get it at least this time. What do I do?” asked Rajeev.

Guruji, first smiled and said” You’ll just do three mala japam of a mantra that I’ve given you for 42 days”. Rajeev prostrated and left beaming. I was also happy at this simple solution for his problem.

I gave her few fruits to eat. She was relishing eating them.Geetha came to meet her. I asked her to wait for few minutes. She didn’t like it. No one usually liked waiting. They felt it was their right to meet my Guru Right away and my Guru’s prime duty to wait for them. Why she wasted so much of her precious time counseling there people. I never understood. Forget it I didn’t even approve of it. I had even expressed my displeasure to my Guru. She had replied with her classical smile.

Pros, today I let her have her fruits. Only then, I let her know of Geetha’s arrival. She immediately met her.Geetha started crying the moment she saw my Guru. “My daughter didn’t get a seat in medicine. She’s failed in the Entrance test. She’s failed us. How can we face our friends and relatives? Why, Why did our small wish not come true?” she explained in between her Tears. I was both irritated and surprised that she was making such a huge cry of such a small issue. But my Guru was different. She just said”. Good. His plans are different. Don’t worry.Everything’ll be good don’t cry. Be Brave”.

Geetha sat for some more time and chatted with my Guru as I prepared and served them tea. She left with a smile on her lips and hope in her eyes. That was my Guru.

People got what they had come for Rajeev came for the solution-he got it where as Geetha just wanted pity and she got it. She didn’t cross her limits and press her point much. She let them experience life as they wanted to .She didn’t interfere with their decisions ever. She let them walk their path on their journey.

WOW, it was difficult to be in her shoes……

Really retaining yourself from interfering when you are given power to - that’s something only few can actually do! The rest would just grab the opportunity to run others lives…..

Maybe that's why not every one can become my Guru....

If you love something let it free.  If it comes back, it’s yours. 

And if it doesn’t, it never was yours in the first place.

Choose your Idols with care for they reflect who you are!

Reflections

...contd...

If you want happiness, then You leave. To let go You don't need others to be punished. Say for example if a crab is holding my finger, then the pain that I experience is excruciating. Then, instantly I do everything known to me to drop the crab, to let that crab leave my finger Right?

What would you call me if I start asking?

1. Why should I make an effort to make it leave my finger? It's caught me and it should understand to let go off my finger.

2. Crab is 'wrong' in holding on to my finger, so it should be punished and all should see and agree that what it is doing is wrong. So till all others see, accept I'll not do anything to let it leave my finger.

3. I am a good person, doing charity, coming home directly from office with no vices then why should crab pick my finger when there are so many more in this beach? To know the answer to this Question is more important or the only thing that matters the most to me....

4. I came to this beach to enjoy then why did this happen to me of all?

......and such questions what would you call me?

Stupid or intelligent?  Stupid for sure right? Like-wise asking above or such related questions about people and life's situations talks about our stupidity only. And I am sure none of us accept that we are stupid. We consider ourselves to be intelligent. If we are what we say we are then we should behave as one right?

So let go off the crab that represents negative person, feeling, and experience of your life and save the self.

“Why they are the way they are” is an immaterial question.... move or walk towards your health, peace of mind, happiness and success. Keep an eye on your goal. Understand these as your destractions enroute and hence ignore them. That way, the road to your success, you’ll find is shorter than it seemed.

Remember just working hard or putting all the effort is not enough. I need to put an effort in the right direction towards the destination. All the best in reaching your goal. May you enjoy the journey as much if not more than reaching the goal...... 

 

 

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