Me, My Guru – On death and healing

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Me, My Guru – On death and healing

May be that’s why our Guru always said “Don’t judge for you shall be judged!” Yes, it was so easy to see others short comings but we were oblivious to our own! – Always! And again that’s why she kept repeating “Look within! Know thyself!” Today all those words made sense. I decided to look within. Today I decided to meditate.

But she was doing her job her way. She even answered this question “we have power and choice to sit and heal. How to heal that person or situation is not what we can decide on. That is for Reiki or God to decide. We can only work as his tools.

The problem with our understanding in healing and of healing is that we expect results as per our conditioning of thoughts and beliefs. We expect results as per our needs and wants too! We condition results of our healing that way! No doubt when it doesn’t work or go that way or our way we think healing has failed! And thus put the blame of this ‘failure’ as a reason for our lack of trust. But what was wrong was not healing. What failed actually was our ‘expectation’. 

Our expectation was at fault and yet we can’t or don’t see it. Not because we can’t see it, but because we don’t want to see it that way. If we see it as a failure or mistake with our expectation, then we have to address our expectation. That means healing it. That is exactly what we have been avoiding to do all these years. And hence one expectation after another not met became the cause of our pain and suffering. And we thought and wanted to believe that ‘our expectations not being met’ was the cause of our pain and suffering. And so we looked around to find the ‘culprit’ who was responsible for the ‘expectation’ not being met and found him guilty. We called him names. We said he broke our trust. We felt cheated. We broke down. And always the ‘culprit’ was the other person in our life – be it our spouse, kid, relative, job, master or even God! Never was it our expectation! What an irony! 

We searched far and wide to find a solution for the problem to be fixed except where the problem was – within us! And so, we remained ever so dissatisfied, sad, cheated, frustrated, unhappy and full of anger. 

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(How do I highlight in this post and what do I highlight? Every single word speaks volumes and stresses the point that needs to be understood, accepted, applied, healed and finally be used to transform self and transcend it......?)

# let go, expectations, everything is there, this moment is perfect, life is lived when not conditioned, challenges of life, relationships, 

also read to see how we try to fix the problem in the wrong place https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=tora+man+darpan+kahlaaye  

Questions addressed:

• How to address the pain that we experience because of our expectations from the life?
• Is expecting others to live up to our expectation the sign of our weakness?

Points to be understood :

• As long as we justify our expectations as 'but he is supposed to be like this na..etc' you will suffer. Remember that!
• The day you accept your expectation and the condition that it is to be met is the cause of your suffering, nothing will change your life. 
• look back at your life - you wanted to pass an exam and you suffered all through that phase. It was fulfilled and then came job tension. You suffered wanting job. Then when you got it you said it was not up to the mark. Your boss was not good. Your salary was not good enough. You suffered your job too.....and then you said if only I am married I'll be happy. Then you got married and you still are suffering. And you have one valid candidate to push the blame on - husband and mil is bonus for you! The list continues.....look within. Look into the quality of your expectation and the conditions that you put there. Happiness is not something you can put conditions on to experience. 
• One who defines happiness and contentment as 'getting what he wants' is on the road of suffering and being pain to others too. He is working for his hell. He is walking hell. He is creating hell for others too in his life. No doubt he is without or hardly any close associate/friend with whom he can share his thoughts even........
• Your loneliness reflects your level of 'expectation' in your life......beware of this warning sign!
• People are not bad for running away from you. You are sending them away from yourself.

Beautiful Universal Truth :

What you are now is your choice. But your potential is something that you haven't tapped yet. That potential is something you should aim for, work for. Then sky is the limit for you and your desires. 

Don't be harsh on yourself. Don't limit yourself with the present thoughts.

Don't hanker on the small toys and events of your life.

You are heir apparent to the kingdom of heaven. Why live like a beggar?

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