On Destiny

……contd……

There was pin-drop silence. This was too much for any of us to digest. Yes, we were used to listening statements like “you write your destiny”, “your present day action is writing your tomorrows’ karma” et all but this was way too much.  She was saying that the entire world’s problem was also due to our karma and that each one of us was responsible for that. Each one of us was processing it as per our understanding.

“But Guruji, how can social pain or trouble and personal loss – both be at same level? Are they not different? Many a times, I’ve found my family members responsible for my loss and suffering. How can you say that I am responsible for such loss too?” asked Geetha.

“Social problem and personal problem are different only in following sense –

a.      The magnitude of social problem is much larger and its solution usually involves the whole of society at large and hence the magnitude makes it seem impossible to solve, whereas personal loss involves only friends and family and hence involves small group of people. So, technically this should be easier to address and solve. But unfortunately it is not so. It is not so because of the problem but because of the way we deal with it. personal problem is always made ‘personal’ and we are so ‘into’ it that we become part of the problem and hence can’t get detached enough to have ‘an external vision’ of the issue. This impairs our sense of clarity and judgement thereby making the issue ‘without a solution problem’. We wallow in self-pity, anger, judgement, attachment, heart-breaks and such feelings and emotions depending upon the issue. Once we go on in these ‘emotional rides’ we forget that it is we who are responsible for what we experience. We stop taking responsible of our actions and decisions. We end up blaming near and dear ones for all that we are experiencing and in that quagmire it is next to impossible to work on the solution. We go deeper and deeper into depression, ill-health and suicidal tendencies. At this stage we don’t seek steps to correct our mistakes. We are only seeking ‘pity’ from others when we share our problems with them when a suggestion or an advice is give we brush it aside saying “oh, but you don’t understand” what we mean to say is “I want you to feel sorry for me and agree and acknowledge that the people I am pointing at are bad and responsible for my suffering. That’s all!” she answered.

...contd...... 

 Listen to this song from 'Khote sikkey' one of RD's and Kishore's combinations best to be inspired in tough times-