Me, My Guru – On disagreement

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Me, My Guru – On disagreement

“But so many of your explanations are painful to me!” he cried out.

Perceptions

“It is not my explanation that is painful. It is your expectation from me. You want me to give answers which are pleasing to your taste and ears. Those answers you already know. Why should I reiterate what you want to hear? I’ll only give answers that need to be given!” our Guruji was still explaining, when he cut in to complain. “But I don’t agree with them. I hate God for making you say such things when they don’t mean anything.”

“My answers are not my opinions or beliefs. They are ‘absolute truths’. You need not believe them. You need not accept them. In fact, I don’t expect you to understand them either. Yet, my answer would remain so! They are not for you to believe, understand, or accept. They are to be heard by you, as of now! You are free to disagree with them; that’s your choice. But my duty is to give an answer which is needed; one which is right. I am not here to please you with my answers; I don’t have to win you over with it. So feel free to disagree wholeheartedly with my explanation and answer.”

Being respectful in spite of differences of opinion

“But everyone is judging me for disagreeing with you” Vaishnav sulked.

“They are not angry because of your disagreement. Their anger is because of how you disagree” she replied.

Disagreement on an issue is not personal

“Sorry Guruji, I didn’t get it” he said, a little mellowed.

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# agree to disagree, opinions and issues, personal relationships, anger, control, conditions, acceptance, forgiveness, art of living the right way in a given relationship, concern and control, judging, respect

previous posts on this topic : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=opinions 

Questions addressed : 

• Why does that person not understand?
• How to make that person see reason?
• What do I do about the pain and suffering because that person doesn't understand me?
• How to address anger that comes when someone doesn't accept what you are saying?

Points to ponder upon :

• Opinions, beliefs are subjective. Don't make them personal.
• Just because some one doesn't accept, see your opinion it doesn't mean he hates/dislikes/disrespects you.
• They don't agree with your opinion means they don't agree with your OPINION only! It doesn't mean they have problem with you.
• Learn to see the difference between person and his opinion.
• As long as we identify with our beliefs, opinions, advice we suffer when it is not accepted, rejected or ridiculed. Heal the identification NOW! 

Observation :  The way you have described yourself in one word is interesting in more than one ways. Just note it in your journal with present date on it. This description may change for some of you at a later date. That is ok. The day you feel you are better described in a different word or sentence than what you presently feel, again write it down in your journal ..........

Regarding describing others - fascinating. Some descriptions make it so intriguing and I wish I met some of them......good........