Indian Mythology - Shiva and Parvathi - Me, My Guru

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Suddenly few of us had a thought – so what’s with this soul-mate concept? Don’t we have (atleast few of us) soul-mates whom we meet in every life? But how could we ask her, she was so lost to us now! Moreover, we were so tongue-tied just looking at her. We don’t know what came over all of us. But we didn’t even need to say aloud as we found in just few nano-seconds.

“And now some charlatans have come up with this mumbo talk of soul-mates and stuff”.

She laughed! It was sort of cynical or was it as if an adult was laughing at the kid’s stupid talk?

“And the die-hard escapist people who wish to be brain-washed into this filmy romance log on to such base-less talkers and dream-sellers. Yes, these sellers know the pulse of the people who come to them for these fairy tale romances and my! Are they good?

So, is there nothing as soul-mates? The answer is yes and no. Yes, to the fact that we all have soul-mates and no – not the way it is advertised. Here me again, I said we have soul-mates, not mate. So, don’t get wrong ideas. We can’t have multiple soul-mates if it is understood as per your definition. But we can have if you understand this definition of soul mates correctly. We get all our relations – be it relatives or friends based on our karma and past psychic impressions. We meet these people because we owe each other something which needs to be cleared. It is not financial as you’ve understood. It can be anything from affection, anger, lack of love, insult or some or the other lesson which we ought to learn from each other. Because of this ‘due’ (ऋण ) we carry a baggage of all emotions for each other too! We are together only till such of lessons is learned or shared. When once the reason is exhausted, the relationship also thins out of life. Mind you not necessarily it has to happen over a fight. Infact, when people move out because of this ‘debt’ being cleared, the shift happens so effortlessly that neither of the parties involved actually even notices or misses it! They part as friends...well mostly....

And those in regular sadhan would see this happening so clearly. Just 5-10yrs and the entire circle of people in their life have changed. That’s actually good sign with regard to soul’s growth.

Next, is the person or persons with whom we share ‘only’ love. With relatives and friends, there is a bag full of emotions ranging from envy, dislike, conditions, fear, expectations, hurt, jealousy and what not. But with these special set of people all we share is concern, love and mutual respect. That number can be more than one in anybody’s life. They are our ‘soulmates’ better understood when said in Sanskrit ‘Atma bandhu’ that means ‘relatives of the soul’. Now, these are the souls whom we meet in our multiple lives only to be supportive of each others’ life agenda. These people are not for your materialistic benefit as much as they are for your soul’s agenda learning of life lessons. All that joy you feel when you are in someone’s company says they are your soul mates (no, I am not talking of joy of physical intimacy with someone).

Your dog also can be your soul mate but every pet is not its owner’s soul mate. Get it? Soul mates don’t have any hidden agenda with the other. ONLY the others’ wellness is of concern to them. They are there in this relationship without a rhyme or a reason.

So, you see one person can have multiple soul mates in one life. For example : I can have my soul-mates in one of my parent+kid+3-4 friends+stranger with whom I interact for 3-4 days by virtue of travelling or job+ pets+grandchild. Get the picture? No where I am in physical relationship with any of these ‘soul mates’, yet they are my soul mates and hence our bond is so full of purity and love. Now is it clear?

Stop labeling all illicit relationships as ‘soul mates’. Don’t fool yourself into believing this stuff to be so and end up messing your life.

Please, I request you to be very careful with your understanding of such topics. If you don’t understand – no problem! Just don’t get it wrong!”

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