Forgive doesn't mean forget - always!
Healing a relationship doesn’t mean accepting them back in our life. No! not always. It depends on the harm the other has caused us and others in our lives. Sometimes, it is an irreparable loss. When we heal, we don’t let them enter our lives. We just forgive them. Not because they deserve it, but because we deserve so much better than them in our life. As long as we are stuck with resentment towards them, we can’t move forward, so we heal ourselves. We heal and forgive them. So that, we can move forward – without them too in many cases. But that doesn't mean we forget what they did or who they are and bring them back to life. Sometimes, these people won't and don't want to change and they can only harm us in every way possible. Then, forgive them but don't bring them back in life. Forget them too but not the lesson they taught you.
So, the
sensible ones heal and get it over with in this very life so that they don’t
have to face the same painful relationships again in any of their future lives.
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also read suggested: https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2023/10/the-mystic-says-on-forgiveness.html
Points to ponder:
- Forgiveness is a must for our growth.
- Forgiveness is not a word. It is an action word. It takes years at times to forgive what one has done to us. Some can forgive with just a thought and a little understanding. But all that depends on the individual.
- To forgive we need to work on our hurt, resentment, anger and related feelings and emotions, every single day of our life. We need to heal them layer by layer. But commitment to heal should be our ultimate resolve.
- To forgive doesn't mean act as if nothing happened. It may not happen in some cases. Then move on, just don't carry the hurt within and hatred for that person/s. That is called forgiveness.
- Never forget what that person has done and don't let that person enter your life again - if that person is toxic and hasn't changed for better.
- Accept the other person only if he genuinely seeks forgiveness and pleads for it. He should repent his actions and words. Then such person can be taken back in your life.
- If the person is not shameful for what he said or did, then DON'T take him back.
- The one who takes him back should be so strong that he is not hurt by the other's actions which will eventually be hurting him once again - as he hasn't changed for better.
4 comments:
Forgiveness 🙏
This post is for me I am feeling better 🙋 thank you ma'am
Thank you reiki thank you guruji
With lots of love and gratitude 🙋🙏❤️
This a WOW post for me❤️💐🙏... everytime I forgave with my heart I have felt lighter and peaceful... in Shanti.. and yes moved on without a baggage.. I also realized the hard way that unless forgiveness is genuine, we will continue to carry the baggage of suffering...
Love and Gratitude ❤️ 🙏
Good afternoon madam,
This is bhagyarekha,
Today my experience
forgiveness 🙏
1. I waited for someone’s message, at night also I didn’t get that msg, I felt upset and didn’t sleep properly some uneasiness, because my negligence through I didn’t get that messsage. I went to temple came to home looked at my phone, I didn’t get, I went to office moody I saw my phone I received a msg in that moment my body felt very lite like a cotton it’s a happiness I got tears.
this poem strike on my mind.
నీవే తల్లివి తండ్రివి
నీవే నాతోడు నీడ నీవే సఖుడౌ
నీవే గురుడవు దైవము
నీవే నా పతియు గతియు నిజముగ కృష్ణా !
Neeve thallivi thandrivi
Neeve naa thodu needa, neeve Sakhudavu
Neeve Gurudavu Daivamu,
Neeve naa pathiyu gathiyu nijamuga Krishna
🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
thank you reiki thank you gurujis thank you mam, thanks to all.
Hi,
Few days back I was on this crossroad.
Had to decide if I should continue accepting the same treatment or just move on. Very hard decision to make.
But seeing the situation and the so called unpredictable future I decided to go along with it. Yes you have said it right mam I need lots of strength to take that decision and also live along with it.
But healing is helping me. I can feel the way I am talking, way I am approaching the situation. Even if anger is there my tone has got better.
Healing healing healing. I can feel a change a difference every thing different though things are same around me. I have changed (I have evolved)
Thank you thank you mam.
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