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The greatest curse of Kaliyuga – Praising and fault-finding – Me, My Guru
“Then
praising others should be good. How can it be its twin evil? Please explain
Guruji” asked someone among us.
She straight
away started giving examples and it really was funny to hear from her mouth.
She always made them sound humorous. There was never a taunt in her voice.
“A: Her
pongal tastes so good.
B: But her house is not kept clean.
A: his
discourse is good.
B: yes and
listen to his telugu
A:He is such
a great artist
B: he comes
from the family of artist
All through
‘B’ is praising and agreeing to what ‘A’ is telling but also see how the praise
takes the limelight away from the ‘quality’ and highlights the reason behind it
or some other trivial quality like telugu (language here), family etc. The
point being the ‘purpose’ is lost completely by this praise. And since its
praise nobody can find fault in it and yet the purpose of ‘learning’ or getting
‘inspired’ to develop a quality or drop one is lost by simply killing that
chance by that praise.
A: Rama was
great son as he was able to leave his kingdom and go live a life of a celibate
just so that his father could fulfil his promise.
B: Yes,
that’s why he is called Great. Nobody can be like him..
B1:But that
was possible as he was ‘God Incarnation’.
B2: In
today’s world it is not possible!
Every
reaction reeks of finding ‘an excuse’ not to rise up to his level. His life
should be an inspiration to develop those qualities. What’s the use of reading
his story, discussing his life and its incidents, listening to discourse if all
we come out of saying “Oh! That’s why he is God! These scriptures are not read
so that we know and accept him as ‘God’. They are talking of a ‘possibility’.
They tell us ‘how to behave’ in such testing situations. But instead we.....”
the way she rolled her eyes leaving the sentence mid-way – well we all ended up
laughing our lungs out!
Genuinely
praising the other is good – both for the other and us. It boosts other’s
confidence and when we praise others our heart chakra gets healed
automatically. We see the good in the other and that betters our perception
over time. We outgrow our inferiority complex. It shows we are not insecure.
But all this is possible only if the praise is genuine – not when it is
flattery or some marketing technique to please the other.
But look at
the motive of your praise!
“Then
praising others should be good. How can it be its twin evil? Please explain
Guruji” asked someone among us.
1 comment:
Excellent posts Ma'am. Thank you so much for this.
Sometimes we find excuses for not improving by giving reasons for others accomplishments, and sometimes we feel inferior when someone else is praised and try to prove that we are better.
Even I have heard the following:
X: Mrs.ABC has adopted an orphan girl and gave her good education (she already had two grownup daughters)
Y: that's ok. But you know my mother's maternal uncle is also very good. They couldn't have kids so they adopted one :-/
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