Saturday, August 5, 2017

On Healing!



On healing - its need and techniques


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I’ll just give of examples. Please try to understand the varying degree of emotion attached to each type and hence the need to heal them differently.


Type 1 situation : Anger on spouse for following and related reasons:

1.forgotten birthday

2. Doesn't keep house clean

3.doesn’t get up at 5am (or whatever) and instead sleeps till 8am (or whatever)

4.treats in restaurants like Minerva, Taj Mahal or kamath (I am giving eg. Of restaurants at Hyderabad) on special days (These places buffet is around Rs.250/- and not some Rs.50/- meal case)

5.gives money/gifts to his mother/family on occasions/regularly.
Such of cases is a clear case of ‘Situation is real but suffering is optional’.

All these and related cases doesn’t need healing on the other person but the one who is complaining needs to heal his ‘perception’ and ‘expectation’. So, such cases healing tag line can be –

“Situation is real,
Suffering is option!”

(Even today people tell me, this is a greater Mantra than Gayathri for them, because it works wonders for them and gives them results immediately too!)

Type B situation: either you are misunderstood and hence taunted or made fun of regularly.

In such of cases, the reason is –

    a. The other feels inferior to you and hence wants to hurt you and so resorts to mocking you/insulting you/ making fun of you.
   
    b.  Knows you are better than him and he can never raise himself to your bar and hence the reaction.
  
   c.  Had different boundary limits than you and doesn’t think he is hurting you.
  
    d. Envies you having what he thinks he deserves more than you.


Now question yourself. Would you do anything to exchange places with him? Would you want to lose the quality that makes you different in the crowd just to be accepted by that mediocre crowd? 

If no, why are you even thinking about them, talking about them or complaining about them.

On any given day, I would rather be successful, alone and mocked than be mediocre and be part of that group (accepted by them). And I give same values to my students. I can’t and don’t teach what I don’t practice. So I say, ‘stand tall, be successful even if means you are misunderstood and mocked rather than be respected for being like them.

“When elephants walk, dogs bark” (and elephants don’t bother).

The way they treat me reflects who they are. It doesn’t reflect what I am or what I am worthy of receiving!


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1 comment:

Kshitija said...

As we start doing our Sadhna such as emotional healing : it makes a change in our lives from a complaining spouse one becomes contented spouse
When ever u have an issue in a relationship please do emotional healing initially we may not notice the changes but as the time passes we will for sure notice the change in our relationship
Imagine a shift in relation from people not ready to share the same roof to people to people sharing jokes and living together and living under the same roof starting to care for each other yes it is true trust me
The second part written here I.e people not understanding and making fun as the Sadhna increases you yourself start ignoring
The following lines she wrote
On any given day, I would rather be successful, alone and mocked than be mediocre and be part of that group (accepted by them). And I give same values to my students. I can’t and don’t teach what I don’t practice. So I say, ‘stand tall, be successful even if means you are misunderstood and mocked rather than be respected for being like them.them and be bothered by them
Yes she preaches what she practices I know she dosent need a certificate from any one
But the teaching that she teaches us is the true strength we have she is the true strength we have