Contd....
“Opinions are
mine but I am not my opinion” I’ve said it like million times. Yes, opinion is
mine but it isn’t ME! Why? I have changed my ‘opinion’ on a subject like
trillion times since birth. So, if you disagree with my opinion, so be it –
because even I may disagree with my opinion tomorrow. So, what is this fuss
about ‘you insulting me by disagreeing with my opinion?” The day we understand
this point, we’ll be free in our relationships. Yes and then fear will give way
to respect, love and comfort. Unfortunately till we reach that ‘comfort zone’
of thinking, we have to suffer ‘dishonesty’ and ‘silently gulping our disagreements’
in our relationships which comes out as ‘oh, you won’t understand?’ statement
in the fit of anger.
So, first work
on self and then start applying it with others. Start disassociating with your opinions but
don’t hold grudge on someone who doesn’t agree with your point of view. Just
look back. Few years back, would you have believed if someone said “I get bus
by doing reiki?” Have you not had change in your way of thinking? Has your
stand not changed on atleast few issues? Then you were on the other side of an
argument and today you are on this side? Take a pause and think.....make a
short list of such of things. (Sharing here is an option not a compulsion. But
you please, make one for atleast yourself!) And only then move on with this
reading...........
See, you’ve had
change of perception. That means you’ve let go of one opinion and caught the
other one. It is the sign of a person who is growing and alive. Gandhiji used
to say “Only dirty poodles and stagnant minds breed dirty worms”. Yes, a person
who is alive – mentally is ever changing and that is a very important sign of
his mental and spiritual outlook/ life.
On who says “I am same as I was 20years back is good as dead for the
last 20 years”. Only log doesn’t change its opinion.
So, the opinion
which even you may discard sooner than later, does it matter if the other
agrees with it or not? Certainly not! So, relax and agree to disagree. He is
not on same page as you. So, he’s not seeing the things the way you see
(Remember story of Elephant and five blind men). It means just that. Nothing more,
nothing less! It for sure, doesn’t mean “he disrespects you/hates you/insulting
you or any blah, blah that you assign it to.
Now, is it not
easy to ‘agree to disagree?’
If they are in ‘listening
mode’ explain why you hold such a thought/opinion, if not move on, let go. It is
not end of road of you or of you – for that matter. Don’t give more power to
your opinion than what its’ due – otherwise it can ruin your peace of mind
for ages to come.
contd.....
1 comment:
Yes what is said is correct
I never thought the simple emotional healing will start changing me I started doing it with my husband I can see little change in me which is very huge for me it's a good thing
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