Monday, September 27, 2021

Me, My Guru – on keeping count in love

 

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Me, My Guru – on keeping count in love




It was here that he heard the milkmaids talk. He found his answer and solution. “Even a simple village girl knows how to love!” she doesn’t keep count of the milk that she gave her lover. For that girl even little money matters. And yet, she does not keep trail of ‘how much milk her lover had drunk”. She knew how to love. Such purity in love! Such simplicity in conduct! Such clarity in her vyavahara (loosely translated it is behaviour). If that is her conduct in love with a mortal, how much more better should mine for my lover be who is the ‘Ultimate lover – God!’?” so saying he returned into the jungle to resume his tapas (penance). Our Guru left to attend her personal calls.


We were left to discuss among ourselves. We enjoyed this part of our sessions. This helped us to share our opinions, insights, observations and experiences with one another. We learned from each other. If not, we would go with only our understanding. But when shared, we actually benefited more. Some of us were selfish even in this area! They kept mum most part of the day, but wanted others to contribute to groups talks. These silent people benefited from others’ experiences and explanations. And yet, they weren’t open enough to give and share their understanding and experiences. Therein lay their flaw in their attitude. It didn’t ‘seem’ bad but was not doing them any good. In fact, the people who didn’t share with others were the slow learners and absorbents of this learning. Yes, Rahul and gang benefited most all because of this one quality! Their nature to share their knowledge paved way to receive more of the same back into their life! Isn’t it simple?

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# on love, on loving, sharing and caring, affections, relationships, attitude needed for relationship to be perfect, business vs relationship, on living life, life partners, expectations and conditions, unconditional love, 

also read : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=monk+and+the+scorpion 

Read the above link to understand what giving and receiving is in a relationship....read why we need to forgive our family of their little flaws...read to know how and how much to forgive too.....

Tips to understand the post : 

“Even a simple village girl knows how to love!” she doesn’t keep count of the milk that she gave her lover." - We assume we need to learn from the rich, famous and the learned to love and live life perfectly. But that 'knowledge' isn't taught in any business school. It comes from the purity in intent, character and innocence. Many a times, love is lived by simple people for they are simple in character. With 'the mind that knows to think and be smart' comes cunningness in character that we are proud of as 'intelligence'. And that intelligence and that mind of ours robs us of the ability to love and be loved....

"It didn’t ‘seem’ bad but was not doing them any good." - Not sharing is not a bad attitude. And yet it slowed our learning and decided on our growth. See that with open eyes! Look into it! Meditate on that! A simple act like sharing can make so much difference in your self and healing happens in so many ways - just like that! And yet, we stop ourselves from doing that! At least, do you know why you do so? Don't justify your nature/act/ behaviour.....instead, sit in meditation and question it.....





2 comments:

Supriya said...

Breaking my comment into 2 parts:
Part 1: on love
There is a difference between
1. being pure and being foolish,
2. being wise and being cunning
We grow up thinking that being cunning is being wise, and that being pure is undesirable. We end up conditioning our love and respect for everyone. Even our love for our parents is truly based on a bunch of conditions. Our biggest source of pain is this mindset.

It’s a process of unlearning and relearning. Tearing the old mindset is vital for our growth. We fear about leaving that mindset behind… but it’s a leap of faith we need to take to find peace in every relationship.

Supriya said...

Part 2 of my comment: on sharing

I learned more when I started sharing. I was able to catch my ego and get over it when my thoughts and words were challenged. It was an opportunity for me to look within; to look at my thoughts objectively and correct it. Initially, in the back of my mind I had the thought that people may be judging me based on my mistakes. But the more I worked on self, the more I benefitted. People judging me is not going to change me, the way I approach my flaws is going to.

Thank you for this post maam!

Supriya