others impact on decisions

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He is jealous and is suffering, so how can I be happy?

It’s such a stupid sentence. When I say ‘other’s suffering’ I don’t mean their imaginery suffering. “thanks maam, I never supported my wife or stood by her when my people were talking ill of her and abusing her. But that was because, it was her karma and why should and how can I come between her karma and she? And she says I hurt her by not standing by her. Today I am glad to know that her pain is imaginery.” No way!

In this case reason for pain is not at all imaginery. You did a wrong – I repeat wrong by not fulfilling your responsibility as a husband to support her. There is no doubt about that and you owe her an apology. She not suffering or suffering is her option. But you being wrong is 100% fact which can’t be denied. It does affect your karma for sure. And you will reap its fruits. And if you wish not to heal it by seeking her forgiveness – in person and in public if you really want to be condoned for that sin. So please get this point clearly – work for your happiness as long as you are not responsible for other’s pain, suffering correctly.

Prestige, name, fame – all this means only one thing “what will others think of me?”

 Others are anyhow going to talk about you either way!

“tum milo no milo, mananeko bura manathe hai log”

 Whether you meet or not is immaterial, they are going to believe what they have decided to believe.

Always remember “Those who matter don’t mind and those who mind don’t matter”.

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