Becoming eligible for grace!

 

Becoming eligible for grace!

Bhagya Rekha, Kshitija, Swathi – sending reiki to you three for walking the most difficult yet compulsory and beautiful journey in the entire Universe! This is the ONLY purpose of our existence! Every other thing depends on this walk and these milestones that you cross in your life! What you receive and don’t depend entirely and solely on this journey!

You may not be able to do the entire journey in this very life – though I would wish and pray that you all do! But, even a few baby steps taken in this direction would affect your present life and all your future lives to come (for those who believe in its existence!).

That doesn’t mean you do a couple of exercises and leave it for this life! NO and a big NO! Once you start this journey, keep walking. You may go slow, that is accepted but don’t ever stop! Keep walking. That is the key to your growth and happiness – not to forget the most important one – your safety!

Many stop after taking just a couple of baby steps. That is the biggest blunder. Don’t do it!

As this journey is tough and lonely, I wish to show my respect, appreciation and support by sending reiki to you three for the next week to come. At every step and corner, you’ll see me standing by you, cheering you, encouraging you, shouting at you, yelling at you and telling you stories to frighten you enough to not let you stop walking this path!

While you do all this and suffer the pains of walking this path, also remember, there is no personal agenda that I have in here! I don't sit to gain anything in any form for any growth that you see in yourself! I just wish everyone gains access to their full potential which is within their reach! That's all! Nothing more for me here!  So, remember, you are not doing any of this to please me. You can't please me with your decisions on this path! You are walking this path for your own good ONLY! Nothing more, nothing less!

Every person who walks this path deserves and becomes eligible for Divine support and grace automatically. No need to beg or seek anyone’s blessings! Become eligible for that and this is a sure-shot way for that! And to prove that is by sending reiki to you all!

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****When the Reiki was sent to the above mentioned, some of you had doubts as to why to them especially? This post is to clarify that doubt!! So, I retained first and last para from the previous post! https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2023/09/becoming-eligible-for-grace.html?showComment=1695455541209 

# enlightenment, nirvana, knowing self, detachment, attachment, samsara, spirituality, ego, games of mind, living life fully, living in the moment, mindfulness, sadhan, healing self, healing earth, karma, destiny, 

read also: https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2019/02/on-healing-guru-god-and-all.html 

and

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2018/03/stories-and-all-dog-and-priest.html

The art of conversation!

 

The art of conversation!

 

It is possible that what you are saying is right??!!

It is possible that your words are also correct??!!

Yet, if it is told from a ‘wrong center’ (or a wrong tone) it ends up being ‘wrong’. With the wrong tone, it ends up hurting the listener. Think why you are saying what you are saying!  

Is it to hurt the other?

Or

Is it to explain or put forth your point?

If it is to put forth a point, should it not reach the listener?

Would you listen if the other was shouting at you or using tone or words taunting you, demeaning you, or hurting you?

Explaining right is an art. Work on learning that. The relationship is totally based on this ‘art’ of communication ONLY!

Everyone wants to be heard and no one wants to listen! And one who is aggressive in wanting to be heard and agreed upon loses both the listener and the respect that he so much desires to be shown!

har ek baath pe kahthe ho ki tu kya hai, 

tum hi kaho yeh andaze guftagu kya hai...

हर एक बात पे कहते हो के तू क्या है 

तुम ही कहो ये अंदाज़े गुफ़्तगू क्या है।  

what does one call this art of conversation?

for you ever start it with "What are you afterall/ you are good for nothing"

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# art of conversation, communication, on listening, on being heard, talking, on relationships, empathy, silence, putting forth a point, expressing oneself, misunderstanding, 

Previous posts worth visiting on this topic:https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=I+cleared+my+throat+not+to+let+out+my+surprise+and+said+%E2%80%9CGood+Morning+Guruji%E2%80%9D. 

and

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2016/12/he-and-she.html  - Do Read this story...I wrote it with so much of pain. Read it ten times. See your story in that - either past or present. It reflects the problem, solution and the ending (which is in one's own hand) very clearly.....share your understanding, insights, experiences to support this story.......may be your story will show a way to someone else too....

              

Milestones - 2023 blog posts - 113 milepost crossed!

 

Milestones - 2023 blog posts - 113 mileposts crossed!

First milestone 113 posts crossed.......

Let's celebrate.....

Target and finish line long way to go and yet who can stop us from celebrating every milestone that we cross enroute??

Let's just not be bothered, stressed, worried and keep an eye on the target - let's also enjoy the journey. That way, even if we don't touch the finish line as planned or desired, we would still have enjoyed this journey....but then, didn't we start this to learn just this attitude - that of enjoying the journey instead of being bogged down by our expectations, desires, and targets?

But, just for record, the next milestone would be 123 as predicted by Kshitija and 156 ( year 2013) as per no. of posts per year. Keep track of the targets. Badhe chalo, badhe chalo.....keep walking, keep walking.... 

do visit previous post: https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=milestones+2023 

Question time:

• What are your targets for the next few days?
• What are your targets for this year?
• Do you have a target for this life?
• What targets have you achieved for this year and life?
• Do you celebrate your every achievement?

A WOW MOMENT!

 

A WOW MOMENT! 

Life seems mundane routine. It seems boring. Routine is painful and seems like a drudgery. And yet, the moments we are AWARE we realize and observe that there is “beauty” all around us. These pockets of beauty are so small and insignificant that most of the time they are not even noticed. And then we assume our life to be non-happening. We keep focussing on things that shouldn’t happen or should happen in a certain way in our lives. And with that comes our baggage of pain and suffering!

But, today for no reason this “wow moment” came into my life! I couldn’t go for a walk. On such occasions if possible I go on the terrace and do my walk. Today was one such day! I was just going through my walk as a routine. And then I saw a dragonfly! Then another. And a few minutes later lots of them flew around me. What a sight! I stood still looking at them, enjoying their flight, absorbing their beauty. It was only a few minutes later that I noticed I was smiling all through! Nothing much happened and yet everything seemed to have happened!

I don’t need big miracles to come my way every day to be joyous. Do you?

What is your ‘wow moment’ of the day or any day of this week?

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# little joys of life, mundane routine of life, beauty of life, little precious moments of life, life is in moments, being aware, mindfulness, abundance, joys of life, now and here, peace of mind and happiness, being now and here, 

read also on similar topic: https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=little+joys+of+life         

On receiving for sharing and giving!

 

On receiving for sharing and giving! 

Udaya bhanu, for coming into the fold of sadhan once again, 

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2023/09/on-receiving-for-sharing-and-giving.html?showComment=1695570389037 

became eligible to receive Reiki from me.......

Me, my guru – On going the hard way!

 

Contd.....

Me, my guru – On going the hard way!

“So, is it why people who are weak in character find fault in Rama, Krishna,  Buddha and Jesus?” came the question from behind.

“Yes, she said”

“Then, is it not fine with us to walk the wrong path as we are driven by our weakness?” asked the intelligent one who thought his logic was best!

“|Yes, you can for all one cares as long as you are fine with reaping the benefits of walking such a path” she replied with a chuckle.

“But maam, we don’t want to face our karma. We are afraid of it” came the reply immediately.

“I know. Everyone is! But, just because we are afraid of facing our karma, it just doesn’t go away. It’s something like this – just because we are afraid of head-on collision, our car doesn’t stop itself from the accident when we are drunk and driving at high speed”

We didn’t know how to continue this argument and kept mum.

She didn’t continue either.

We didn’t agree with the way fate and Universe worked and yet didn’t have an argument to refute that. We left for the day!

Concluded....

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# going the right way, going the wrong way, scheming and plotting, lying, telling the truth, being truthful, honesty, being honest, easy and hard life, purity, devilish and divine nature, asuric sampada/nature

Read suggested:https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2009/08/loans-payment.html 

         

Me, my guru – On going the hard way!

 

Me, my guru – On going the hard way!

The guru said “It’s easier to be a person doing things right than doing them wrong and then getting people to believe that you were right! Why choose the hard way? Why work hard when it can be achieved the easier way?”

“Then why do people behave the wrong way?” asked one among us.

“One, because it is used way and anything familiar seems easy to do. Next, a weak person will have intelligence enough to make him walk the wrong path. Through healing and working on self, one gains strength and from that we work on developing the strength of character. Only a strong character can walk the ‘right path’. Others can only hate the guy who walks the right path.”

“So, is it why people who are weak in character find fault in Rama, Krishna,  Buddha and Jesus?” came the question from behind.

Contd.....

# going the right way, going the wrong way, scheming and plotting, lying, telling the truth, being truthful, honesty, being honest, easy and hard life, purity, devilish and divine nature, asuric sampada/nature

Read suggested:https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2009/05/maya.html 

and

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/08/me-my-guru-on-ego_01093805160.html

Becoming eligible for grace!

Becoming eligible for grace!

Swathi https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2023/09/sadhan-zone-2023.html?showComment=1695525244396#c8786948854998591245 

has proved once again to all that wish can be fulfilled provided we take time and interest to heal the situation. We need to use the right technique to see results. Many times, we know the answer. But, we don't want THAT answer. We want things to go our way only! We don't want them to work out for us! In such cases, we don't heal.....we just sit and complain and cry. We are angry at God/guru/Reiki for not addressing our issue!

Heal, heal and heal!

Sadhan, sadhan and sadhan - till our last breath! 

By healing the most difficult relationship in her life, Swathi has shown courage. Courage is not just to be shown in emergencies or in the warfield. 

Courage is the most important quality needed for a sadhak. It is courage that lets us see our flaws. The same courage pushes us to accept our responsibility to heal our doing (wrong here). It takes courage to heal our dislike/hatred for the other and send reiki which is love energy. For exhibiting that courage, taking that bold step, and going beyond dislike/hatred, I salute her courage, initiative and act of healing. 

And, to you Swathi - exclusively, I send reiki today!

Now, don't fall back on this path! 

Keep going forward on this path!

Stop not till you reach the goal - the goal of love! 

You have it in you to love - just work on it - one healing at a time and you'll discover the real you! 

#Healing relationships, taking initiative, courage, sadhan, on relationships, on love, on giving and receiving

also read: https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2018/01/me-my-guru-on-relationships.html 

read the complete link for benefit....

Questions addressed and points to ponder:

• |How to heal our relationships?
• What to do about toxic relationships?
• When love can heal, why hate?
• Every relationship can be healed with love. If it is not getting healed, increase the dosage!

The mystic says - On scheming and plotting!

 

The mystic says - On scheming and plotting!

The mystic says “Isn’t it better to be a person doing the right thing than lying, scheming, plotting, manipulating and doing all that to get a good name?”

Also read: https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2023/01/truth-wins_01026208855.html 

and

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=On+life+and+death+%E2%80%93+II 

Whichever post has an explanation at the bottom of it - well, go through that too.....you may understand that something which you missed out on learning, applying or benefitting from last time......

Becoming eligible for grace!

 

Becoming eligible for grace!

There are various ways to become eligible for grace!

One is developing a very important quality called "discipline" in the path of self-discovery!

This quality can not be developed by reading books or by talking about it.

It can be developed only by practice. Whenever we apply this quality in our day-to-day life we are using this life and its situations for the purpose it is meant to be - to develop qualities (divine) and to leave behind asuric qualities (negative)!!!

Read the comment in the link by Sri.Sridhar https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2023/09/sadhan-zone-2023.html?showComment=1695014752591#c1124925955126000404.

Most people follow an order for the prescribed time when asked to. Here, it is about doing sadhana (walking and doing exercise ) as suggested in https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2020/06/covid-challenge.html and https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2023/08/further-on-covid-challenge.html .

Many of them stopped after the initial few days of suggesting this!

But, here is the sadhak who is still continuing with this routine. Bravo! Kudos! Super!

And to that attitude of commitment, discipline and going beyond what is said (in the right way!) I send reiki to you today......and this is how one becomes eligible as a reiki channel to gain that "extra bonus" - as a reiki quota - which normally is called as "grace"!

also read : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2018/07/on-good-note.html 

On knowing anger in totality!

 

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2.    Contd.....

On knowing anger in totality!

Look deeply you will find that the comparison is also not the culprit, it is the fact that the person has low self-esteem. That expressed itself as all these emotions and feelings here.

3.     And one who is spiritual will go further to find the basic reason and work on that!

4.     We can see this entire drama only when we disassociate ourselves from all this drama and see as an outsider.

5.    
If I had identified with their taunt or insult, the result would be disastrous.

 

Now coming to know of all this, what is our gain in all this exercise? Did you do this to know about me or about people in my life? No, that would be totally useless venture to go about in the first place. Then, why did we do this exercise. We are taking an incident (doesn’t matter whether real or imaginary) and trying to see how to go about in our life the right way to set right the things that seem to be going wrong in all places….

Now, how do we apply in our life?

1.    
Look and identify our emotion for the person/persons in our life.

2.     Look and identify our emotion to face any situation in our life.

3.     Then find out the root cause of that emotion. Where is it starting from and why?

4.   
  Then do the needful to address it.

Little by little as we get to know ourselves we’ll find the peace and happiness we have been searching for all our lives within us!

But for that, we need to go within!

Concluded.....

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# anger, jealousy, look within, emotions and their root cause, envy, hatred, basis of our feelings,

Questions addressed and points to ponder:

• If you can't be comfortable with yourself, why would any one else be in the world?
• If you don't want to take time and energy to know yourself, why do you think others would for you, to know you?
• If knowing yourself unsettles you, how can you be desiring that others love, respect or want to be around you?
• First know yourself! Get acquainted with yourself!
• Build a beautiful relationship with self, then relationship with others would follow suit!

Also read: https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Me%2C+my+Guru+On+Buddha+and+sweets 

Also read the explanations and notes given at the end of the post of the link given above....

Questions time:

What did you understand from this post?

What is your take on this?

Has this post helped you in any way? If yes, how?

How are you going to apply it in your life?