On life and death – II

 

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On life and death – II

For many just existing is enough – even it be as an invalid. If that is the choice or way of living, then that and such person need not worry on all these levels.

But if life means to be happy and happiness means sharing with near and dear ones, then I request those to check these facts making a wish of long life.

But then, is life and death in our hands? What if all around me die and I still continue to survive?

Life and death is certainly not in our hands. But, having clarity of thought on these is certainly in our hands**. What can’t be controlled need not be worried about. But our perspective on these things is certainly in our hands and we need to groom them right – when our sense are still intact. Now, we have each other to remind, support and encourage working on ourselves. Let’s make best use of this support system. God forbid, but if such time comes when we are left alone behind by all known to us, then let us be mentally, emotionally, intellectually and spiritually prepared to enjoy ‘our lone life too’ – which life has given as bonus to us. instead of being a ‘complaining, bitter old person always talking about those times’ let’s make new and fresh memories even then with our attitude.

Let’s learn to dance with life!

Let’s live life!

So, when death comes knocking it should look at us and ask us “Teach me to live!”

Let’s give something to death - of life!

Maut ko zindagi diye chalthe hai…

मौत को ज़िन्दगी दिए चलते हैं। .. 

Chavuki kooda jeevithanni eddam pada…

చావుకి కూడా జీవితాన్ని ఇద్దాం పదా ....

Concluded......

** We can’t control life and death

# on dying, life and death, death and its mysteries, knowing death, facts of life, art of living and dying, 

(This would be a series on life and death where we would directly look into what life and death means to us! the purpose is to learn and appreciate life while becoming ‘free’ of ‘fear of death’. Hope this addresses its agenda the right way and strikes the chord as required!)

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Narada+and+Narayana 

The above link clearly explains how our understanding changes when we look at an event from beyond our sense of 'seeing'. When we actually see beyond our 'time limit zone' we can see how things are right the way they are! Hope it is clear? 

Self help time : 

What does the blue marked lines in post mean to you? How have you understood them?

Help me to help you better by answering and giving feedbacks on these posts....

Me, My Guru - On life and death – III!

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Me, My Guru - On life and death – III!

       

We ought to break our belief system.

Death is not ‘opposite’ of life. It is part and parcel of life. Death is happening to us every waking and sleeping time. We are dying with every breath. People celebrate their birthdays. Have you looked at it a little from distance?” so saying our Guru looked at all of us. We – well, most of us nodded in negative. We didn’t like to talk about death – leave alone meditating on it or thinking about it. 

But our Guru being who she was, would talk on all and sundry subjects. Most of us kept pushing this topic aside since beginning and she kept coming back to it again and again – one way or the other. We didn’t like it. It is not as if she didn’t understand that. And yet, she pushed this topic more number of times than our acceptance level. She was more adamant than us – especially in this one! I got irritated at her for this. Honestly, I was more than angry with her. So were some more!! And I am sure she knew it. And yet it didn’t affect her decision to go ahead with this topic. I mean, who talks or discusses death? 

While I was busy in my head, Rahul’s voice cut through my thoughts saying “but Guruji, how can our looking at death closely help us with our life? We are so afraid of death that all our life we are running away from it. How can you expect us to ‘look at’ death? Can you be more specific?”

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# life and death, living life, make moments count, long life, meaningful life, full of life, life, death, problems and solutions, inevitable and how to face them, suffering is optional, 

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/10/on-life-and-death-ii.html 

and

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/10/on-life-and-death-ii_01153322067.html 

and

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/10/on-life-and-death-ii_01211268438.html 

On post :

** Try to read the sentences marked with 'Red colour' more than once to understand them better.

Meditate on them!

"We ought to break our belief system" - Every understanding happens only when we break our 'OLD" belief system. If we keep saying "I am right, I know I am right" then with that 'adamant mindset' we can not move forward towards better clarity of thought. So we need to look into every belief system - one at a time and try to think on it. Question them. But, we can't look at them objectively until we detach from them. As long as we "OWN UP" our belief systems, we will only end up justifying them. We get angry at people who question us of our belief systems. We tend to get uncomfortable. 

Being uncomfortable is good! That shows where our 'ego' is operating from. It is painful - I agree. It is uncomfortable - I agree. But, if you want to live life fully, we need to these 'uncomfortable parts' of our selves sooner than later!

"We didn’t like to talk about death – leave alone meditating on it or thinking about it." - The issues that disturb us, makes us uncomfortable, pain us we usually push them under the carpet. We don't want to address them. We don't want to see them for they mean or for what they are! 

But, as long as we hush it up, as long as we don't look into our fear into its eyes we can never get released from it. Many times, all we have to do is look at it closely and without any filters to get released from it. 

Courage - that is the most important attitude that helps us overcome our fears. Use it. You have it. Put it to good use and become free from fears!

"But our Guru being who she was, would talk on all and sundry subjects." - Look at the words "Guru being who she was..." - now here is a person who is fearless to talk about death and we don't see her fearlessness. We don't see her as a person who has worked on her fear and overcome it. We don't see her as a person who is patiently trying to help us overcome our fear. 

Instead we 'name' her as 'being who she was' and call her names. We insult her. 

This is not about Guru of this story. This is about every person who is strong, capable, helpful, courageous - be it Rama, Krishna, Buddha, Gandhi or our every day heroes from our life - we just insult their 'strength of their character' by calling them names. Who is at loss here? We at the end. We lose one more chance to benefit from the presence and words of these 'characters' in our life. And then we keep complaining, crying and cursing God and who not for not listening to our prayers etc etc.....

think about it....

"We didn’t like it. / I got irritated at her for this. Honestly, I was more than angry with her." - Look at these sentences. They all say one thing for sure - that if someone says anything contrary to our 'belief system or comfort levels' then we get angry at them. We like people only as long as they try to please us. But the real people are those who do 'right things' for you. The genuine people say 'right things' that are good for you. They are actually being truthful to you and yet....

no, doubt, we end up being with people who exploit us, demean us, use and abuse us....and later cry out loud asking "Why are people not truthful and honest? Why is everyone cheating?"

You get what you want.....you get what you work for....

so beware.....

"Rahul’s voice cut through my thoughts saying" - and in the same world we also have people like Rahul taking every opportunity given to him. He is open to every help that comes his way. This journey is painful to him too. This journey is uncomfortable to him too. But he LOVES HIMSELF too much to live in the shit of "bad choices". He is SELFISH enough to be good to himself and work for his higher good. He is ready to undergo pain to reach a state of higher peace, understanding, happiness and respect.

On life and death – II

 

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On life and death – II

And yet all through our lives, are we not working very hard to build our ‘good image’. And in that process we end up lying so much. There is so much that goes into that ‘image building’. There is manipulation, hiding facts, talking ill of others or judging others and what not! And yet that ‘image’ hardly is kept alive at the time of death. Most of the people to whom we sold our image are no more there! What an irony! All for nothing!

With no one to share my memories with, stories with, I doubt if I would spend my days well!?

The people I shared my life and its experiences with are no more there. The bond that’s built over these experiences is no more and at this juncture of life to make new such bonds us but farfetched possibility. Would my living be equally colourful?

So, think about these and such facts before wishing for long life….

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# on dying, life and death, death and its mysteries, knowing death, facts of life, art of living and dying, 

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=the+story+of+dragonfly 

read the above link to understand what death is ....read it right to understand about death.......

Question time :

Why should we study and understand death?

Is it being pessimistic about life?

On life and death – II

 

On life and death – II

As long as we are living with wrong belief system and understanding we pray for long life. I am seeing people over 89 and 90 leading life – nothing wrong about living long though. But, most of their siblings and friends are gone. The younger family has its own life to live and they can’t take time to ‘get to know’ the ‘older generation’. Nothing wrong there too! But, the older generation for lack of people with whom they can share their experiences, stories and memories as they are long gone, end up telling same story again and again. No one wants to be bored with those details. Both the parties are disappointed with each other.

When I imagine/see myself as in 80’s I can’t see most of my elders in my life. People, who saw me grow, achieve and appreciate me for what I did for others are either gone or not in a position to talk, come and meet or remember.

I also have to see younger ones going away. Many of them have stories to share with and about me. And now, when I am gone both these group of people would be absent. The people who would come would be some distant relative or my kid’s friends and colleagues. To none of them I am known or matter. So who would miss/feel my going? Who would be there to say few good words about me? 

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# on dying, life and death, death and its mysteries, knowing death, facts of life, art of living and dying, 

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=on+putting+the+glass+down 

Question time :

Is this about me?

What is this write up about?

What are we looking for in these posts?

Sushant singh Rajput

Sushant singh Rajput

One more actor dies young – not because of some physical ailment or in an accident but by suicide.

Once more we are taught a lesson by this soul (which would suffer for long time to come because of this decision of ‘suicide’) that success, fame, name, achievements, relationships can’t guarantee us happiness. 13.7 million Followers on Instagram and millions of fans – yet he felt unloved and unappreciated.

It doesn’t mean we are not to chase these things of the world!

We spend our energy and time on the things of this world – to chase them, have them and then to retain them. Like-wise should be our concern and dedication to address our emotions on daily basis. In fact, that should be the priority of any individual in which ever station of life he is – to be honest with himself and to look at his emotions and keep them in check time and again! We take our emotions for granted and live with them. Many times, because we see people all around us living so! But, also see one jolt from life or people around us and we crumble like a pack of cards. What’s the use of having all the things of life if we are not strong enough to face the ups and downs of life! Work on yourself! Own up your emotions honestly. Don’t justify them! Till the day we justify our emotions – be it being dishonest, lazy, anger, selfish, stubborn, seeking pity, insecurity, sadness etc know we can’t address them – ever! Only the day we stop justifying them will we have power to heal them. Look at all these cases and wake-up! Heal not with the desire to get something in return. Heal not to get over the pain. Heal to gain strength. Stop being a coward! Heal to stop looking out for someone to pamper you and to make you feel special. Heal to have ‘self esteem’. Stop expecting others to understand you, respect you or give you a special treatment. 

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# breakdown situations, expectations and conditions, life its challenges, life, death, suicide, emotions, 

also read : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=on+choosing+death  

Reiki Tip : 

Many are people who have been inspired by this boy Shushant's films and stories....we need to pay back what we received. He gave some lessons and quite an inspiration - pay back by doing reiki to his soul. Already taught in II dg - don't ask how now...

Instead of waiting for people to die to thank them for their good deeds that they did for us, shouldn't we learn to send them reiki as they are still in their bodies?

Think about it!

Points and questions to be understood :

What causes the person to take such drastic step?

People and situations can be the trigger and they will receive their 'karma' as per their contribution. You and I need not sit to pass the judgement. Universe is an able judge. It has held that post long enough before you and me existed and will continue to run this world even when we are long gone. It doesn't need us to do its job. 

Why let all our emotions pile up over the years and let the 'last straw' break our back on bad morning?

Life will be tough. People will be mean, selfish, greedy, manipulative and insensitive. Should we let that break us? Can we let that break us? 

Instead of conditioning 'how life should treat us' and what it has to give us, if we concentrate and prepare ourselves to face life for whatever it throws at us, don't you think we may enjoy this ride while it lasts?

Take time to pause and introspect! Meditate. 

Don't let your emotions take the call here too!

The mystic says - On scheming and plotting!

 

The mystic says - On scheming and plotting!

The mystic says “Isn’t it better to be a person doing the right thing than lying, scheming, plotting, manipulating and doing all that to get a good name?”

Also read: https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2023/01/truth-wins_01026208855.html 

and

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=On+life+and+death+%E2%80%93+II 

Whichever post has an explanation at the bottom of it - well, go through that too.....you may understand that something which you missed out on learning, applying or benefitting from last time......

senses

1. Please send healing energies to Earth and heal the earth with peace for atleast 3 days from today and sms the same message to all…….healing can be done by homam, healing earth with peace as taught in II degree, magnified healing or with crystals, chanting mrutyunjaya mantra atleast 108 times……
2. Also balance Swadhistana charka by any method known to you
3. send reiki to balance water element in the earth

Senses

Firefly driven by the sense of sight gets drawn to light and looses its life.
Bee for want of nectar gives in to its taste buds and stays on to the flower and gets trapped when the flower gets closed at night and dies.
Elephant during mating season is so reckless that by tying female elephant the hunters catch the male elephant in the trap laid. Touch sense drives the elephant to death.
Deer is so bound by good music and is lead to the trap by the hunters by playing good music. It’s ears are its enemy. It takes it to its doom.

These animals have weakness of only one sense organ. And that sense organ has weakness for a specific taste only. For eg. Bee has weakness for taste (mouth-sense organ) and that too for nectar only. It doesn’t have weakness for biryani, chats or ice-creams either. One organ which gives in to one taste can drive that animal to its doom. No doubt even God’s can’t save the man who is driven by all the five sense organs and also five vikaaras – not to forget mind and intellect. No wonder, man creates so much of pain and suffering in his life. Just think about it………….don’t you really think we need to recheck our affiliations that we have with our sense organs and mind?………..