Perception

 On the blank wall, what you read is what you are!

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You may say ‘oh, it happens in stories, but in today’s world, how can it happen’?

Well, I won’t talk about others but will share some of my learning’s with you. People in my life taught me how to be and how not to be. Each incident and person in my life gave me clarity of thought and also conducive atmosphere to practice what I learnt.

Once my brother was in hospital and few reports had to be brought immediately – say in 30 mts and I was the only one who could do it as my mom was with him. His friends were at the hospital and one of them who had bike suggested we go in his bike and get the reports. Because, Dr. said only 30 mts we drove really fast.

Next day, a family friend and (so called) well-wisher came to our house and told my mother to be careful with me as I am going wayward (I am sure you all can guess what wonderful language she must’ve used to describe me on the bike with a boy). My mother started shouting at me even without telling me what it was all about. Incidentally, those boys were there at home and even that day I was packing lunch to go to hospital along with the same boy. One of them intervened and questioned my mother and that aunt and asked the boy who dropped me to come forward. He asked her “Did you see didi with him?”. She was surprised to see that boy at our house. When she nodded her hear, they explained “our friend is in hospital and didi is managing home, college and hospital single-handedly and so one of us is dropping and picking her up. That’s the least we could do for didi and our friend who’s in hospital. What’s wrong in this?”. The woman feeling embarrassed started blabbering “I didn’t know they were her younger brother’s friends. They all look so grown up and you know how the world is … blah…blah…blah…” and she left.

We all did have a hearty laugh after she left. But I learnt one thing. Everything that you see is not real. What we presume because of what we see talks about our character and doesn’t reflect the Truth as it. So, it’s better never to ‘assume’ – whatever you see.

Two people going together – need not be lovers or married couple. They can be in any relation or even complete strangers just being together for that moment.

This is a very common experience that most of you must have had. But, the difference is I didn’t feel insulted, angry, depressed or hatred towards that lady. Id didn’t see it as ‘my character’ is being tarnished. No. it was for me ‘an insight’ which I started applying everywhere from that day onwards. Result – I stopped judging people, stopped imagining about their life-style and character. I wasn’t cooking up stories and images about others in my brain. I became free to a large-scale thereby – mentally. If I saw two people in cinema, it meant they had come to cinema – nothing else. If I saw them in a restaurant, it meant they are eating – nothing else. In short I understood ‘Raju-gari china bharya andanga undi’ means his second wife is beautiful – that’s all!

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