…….contd………..
There was silence for some time
as we started thinking about those and such related statements. I smiled. How
mean were we when we made such statements. We were actually trying to negate a
‘good quality’ of
that person by saying something negative about that person in the same
sentence. And no one would even know that and yet the impact was made. We were
damaging the ‘image’ of that person.
Rahul voiced my thoughts and she
continued.
‘she may be successful but
doesn’t keep her house clean…..’
‘he’s a good man but doesn’t earn
much……..’
‘he may be having roaring
business but look at his unruly kids……….’
‘what if they are famous, they
are not happy…….’
Now what do these statements
mean?
‘Again we are negating a person’s
achievement, taste, character etc. but why are we doing it? The moment I judge,
I am trying to pull him down from his position – but why? Asked Rahul.
‘Before knowing that what do you
understand when we say –
‘thank goodness, I am not like
her!’
‘for me my children are more
important – not like her and hence I am not working’
‘her husband dances to her tune
and so she can go out and work – but my husband hardly listens to me…….’
‘I am trying to pull the other
down so that I can come out as a better person. But, why these games?’ clearly
Rahul was as disturbed as any of us.
‘Yes, when we judge we are trying
to bring ‘someone’s image’ down and ‘uplift our image’. That’s all! That is the
purpose of judging others.
.....contd.....
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