how to turn a problem into solution?

….contd………

Me, My Guru

 
This explanation hit me like Tsunami.  It swept away all the anger, pain, frustrations that I had suffered because of my colleague.  Now, I saw it! I felt stupid.  Why couldn’t I respond “the right way?” he was normal guy but I on the other hand was a Sadhak, yet I didn’t behave as one! True.  I had to work on my attitude so much!

“But you said, my desire is the basis of my pain.  That my desire is the starting point of my suffering and not my wife’s actions! How’s it so here?” asked Vinay.

I knew there state of mind.  I used to be like them few years ago.  But, now I can understand their pain and frustration but I don’t belong there. Previously, even I would get angry when she explained like this for my questions.  I would be confused and feel cheated.  I used to think that she doesn’t understand my problem and even if she does she is not giving me a solution. Now, I know that I used to think so not because of what she used to say but because I never wanted an answer from her.  I wanted her to tell what I wanted to hear in such situations.  That meant I wanted her to say that the other person was bad, I was good, how I was suffering because of that person etc etc.  whereas she preferred to give easy solutions that if we applied and learnt we would be free not only from that pain which brought us to her but also every pain in that line. Yet, it had taken so many years for me to understand that. Now, I simply listen to ‘her’ and ‘blindly’ follow her words to be at peace and get the solution. No, I no longer want her sympathy or her understanding ..

But, she was not analysing this for she continued with her explanation knowing fully well that they may not get it now! Many times, I felt she was talking to someone other than the one she was actually addressing…..yes, I got my answer and I could see that the others who posed this question didn’t…that’s sad!

…contd…..