…contd….
“Yes, of course. When I expect my spouse to fulfill my needs
and expectations, I am looking at all the times he/she is not fulfilling them
and of course keeping tab on them. However
much she/he tries, they’ll not be able to do everything – not putting
socks/shoes/clothes in place, eating habits not being right, spending styles
which are irritating and we would suffer ‘because of them’ as per our
understanding.
But, when I am ‘in love’ with my
spouse, I am looking at ways of making their life comfortable not at what they
did/didn’t do. My joy begins and ends at bringing smile on their face and making
them and their life comfortable. I would
be ever in praise of them (only when they are due – not without a reason then
it becomes flattery which is bad for the doer and the done too!) especially in
front of others and not let others rebuke them! Praise means you have
acknowledged and noticed their effort, work and goodness and are validating them.
Undue praise talks about shallowness of our character. For me, their goodness
has to be recognised by others and I would fight on behalf of them when someone
says anything insensible against them. I
wouldn’t keep my mouth shut because my good name will get spoiled if I open my
mouth to defend them…….”
Infact, you’ve married her to be
her shield against the onslaught of relatives and world….
People are more bothered about
the things than the person. No doubt, ‘love” is not everybody’s cup of tea! It
doesn’t happen to all. Only the blessed
few feel it, live it and share it.” She stopped suddenly and seemed lost to
us. She was silent for quite some time.
…contd….
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