What to do with the problem?

 

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What to do with the problem?

“Why did God make it so tedious? If only I can get everything immediately just by wishing. He is sadist for making such rules and making me do all this hard work?”

 – May be you are right – who knows!!? But, even then what can you do about it? Can you pick a fight with HIM and win and then run the Universe your way? If so, all the best, go ahead and do it. If you are “just a simple a no-body human” (in your words) then zip it up and work it the way all the people successful and happy do. Work your way to solve your problem. 

So, in the nutshell look at the problem to solve it. Stop calling an issue a problem and be stuck there with it. As long as one lives, there will be issues cropping up and we need to step up and address them. That is what is called as life! That in other words is problems coming and us resolving them or facing them.

Problem or challenge or opportunity - it's all how you see it!

Concluded.......

# life, beauty of life, challenges of life, opportunities of life, life lessons, problems and solutions, facts of life, there is no easy life, grace, growth, hurdles in life, 

Suggested reads from previous posts https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2024/06/shaayari-on-problems-over-god-or-god.html

Question time :

Did this post reach you?

Did you receive your answer or solution?

Did it serve its purpose?

Me, my Guru – on forgiveness and punishment

 

Me, my Guru – on forgiveness and punishment

It was a warm day. I was relaxed today as I opened the gate at “My Guru’s place”. As I joined others I found her (My Guru) talking about the importance of trust, respect and sadhan. She said sadhan bears fruit only if one has ‘trust’ on the Guru and the technique along with ‘respect’ for both. Even if one was missing, the sadhan didn’t give results that it could. Everyone was listening with rapt attention. We all had only one reason to be in sadhan – the fulfillment of some desire. This topic was very important in our eyes.

Could we ever listen without questioning? We had to disagree. We raised a question. How could today be any different?

“But Guruji, we do so much of sadhan and yet we suffer. We see scores of people who don’t do any sadhan and yet, they prosper. How can you justify that?”

Many heads nodded to show they understood the question.

Our Guru being herself smiled and replied “One Guru had a disciple who believed in him completely. He followed his Guru’s teachings without even questioning them. He also visited his Guru every other month. He was a farmer and would walk all the way from his village to his Guru’s place which took 1-2 days of walking. All through the journey he would be doing ‘nama japa’ of his Guru. Such was his ‘bhakthi’. His friend who was a successful businessman and an atheist noticed this for years. One day, he questioned our farmer “Why do you take so much of pain every other month to visit your Guru? You are so poor, look at yourself. What did you gain from all this sadhan and bhakthi?”

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# me my Guru series, importance of sadhan, grace, healing, destiny, fate, changing fate, 

also read previous post on this topic https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2016/01/how-even-your-feedback-benefits-you.html 

Be the right parent, not the good one!

 

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Be the right parent, not the good one!

Leave behind some assets enough to ease their start!

But don’t leave so much that they don’t need to work at all!

Don’t crave to set ‘their lives’. Instead make them smart, strong and worthy enough to fend for themselves.

Don’t desire to make life easy for them.

Instead, give them knowledge and know-how enough to make it easier for them to face life with a smile.

Bring a smile on their faces. But also teach them to be comfortable with pain and tears!

Do not stop him for fear of falling or failure.

Instead, teach him to rise every time he falls.

Teach him that his worth is not measured by falls or failures but by his strength in facing every fall and failure.

Teach them to lead by example.

Teach them all this by living it.

Show them the joy of being successful.

But above all, teach them to be humane!

Bring them up as the future of this country!

Bring them up as the makers of tomorrow!

Be the right parent!

Your want to be a ‘good parent’ can wait!!!

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# good parent and right parent, on parenting, bringing up the child, lasting impressions on children, parents, childhood, on teaching kids, 

also read https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2022/06/me-my-guru-on-hole-in-boat_01162021656.html 

and https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2020/01/poem-by-diane-loomans-on-raising-child.html 

On being regularly irregular in sadhan!

 

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On being regularly irregular in sadhan!

Take one more analogy – when a drug addict or any addict for that matter decides to overcome addiction, he does so with a little effort and becomes successful. But, when he goes back to addiction, then, second time to overcome addiction becomes much more difficult, painful and time-consuming than the previous time. The next time, body and mind have become strong enough to override our will easily. So, is the case with sadhan! https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/06/on-chanting_0818542843.html

I hope it is clear as to how and why sadhan should be regular if you don’t want to fall into this trap.

This way, I mean spiritually it is painful and wrong to stop sadhan! Not wrong the way you assume it and get angry and justify your stand!!!

Hope a few of you got your answers to your long pending doubts! With this new understanding, we need to see if we still stick to our old ways of doing sadhan or change to a better way of leading our life! https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=On+Healing+-+its+need+and+techniques

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# being irregular in sadhan, sadhan, drawbacks of indiscipline and perseverance in sadhan, success and failure in spiritual field, 

Read related post https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2015/10/buddha-and-lake.html

   

 

 

Reflections – on living our “some” dreams

 

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Reflections – on living our “some” dreams

So, one Sunday, I cleaned ‘that patch’ and made it ‘garden ready’. I declared to all that the dustbin was to be ‘an old broken bucket and it was shifted to the other side. Elders of the house nodded their heads and laughed. They knew this was a passing fare. They amused my ‘rules’. They had decided to not bother as they nodded. Only I didn’t know it then.

There, in that place, I planted my plants – bitter gourd, beans and a couple of other plants that I borrowed from the kitchen.

I would religiously water them. When I saw beans and bitter gourd, I knew no bound of joy. I felt that I was an expert in gardening. I even imagined myself to be a ‘successful farmer’.

No internet, no books, no guidance’ to grow them. They would die after a couple of months. I would again plant something else and still work on it with equal fervor.

My love for gardening was seeded there. Then we shifted to an equally small house but with no ‘open space’ between room and kitchen now. Yet, I didn’t stop, I took to pots and failed again and again. But planting, I never stopped.

Then marriage happened!!!

No house was conducive to gardening or so I thought!

My heart kept desiring to have plants but I kept saying ‘When I have ‘X’ type of house I will have plants’.

Finally, I said enough was enough. The balcony was very small. Yet, I started with just 5-6 pots.

Again we shifted. Now the balcony was much smaller. So, I just managed with these 5-6 pots.

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# living your dream, dreams, achievements, living in the moment, 

also revisit old post further : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2009/03/beginners-must-know-tips.html

 

Who is the successful healer?

 

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Who is the successful healer?

In the same way, you could have developed an “essential Divine quality” like patience, being truthful, giving 100% to any work done without expecting anything in return and so on. That also reflects that you have used healing to its best use. You have gained the most by way of healing yourself. Sometimes, you may not have gained material benefits as much as other healers. But, if you have been a successful healer (as explained above), then you are richer than them with your healing. Remember this always. This is real wealth. This is the wealth that is going to come with you after death too! This is the wealth that is going to decide your fate in every life to come.

This is your wealth that will remain as your “legacy” and property (wealth) (aasthi) even after you are long gone!

So, work for material benefits too, but keep an eye on long-lasting wealth more than the riches of this world.

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# healing, karma, destiny, purpose of healing, healer, divine qualities, essential qualities, change attitudes, 

also read suggested: https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=healing 

Questions time:

What did you understand from this post?

How did you relate it to your journey?

Who is the successful healer?

 

Who is the successful healer?

You have been a successful healer not in terms of getting your desires fulfilled. It is not even in making your life easy and comfortable. You are one when you have healed at least one relationship of yours completely in your life of its emotion – be it hatred, jealousy or attachment. If you have outgrown any of these emotions in any of the relationships, then you have been a successful healer for sure. If you have seen the other in the relationship outgrow these feelings for you then also you have healed right as a healer. You have put healing to best you. You have healed the “foundation of karma”. And that therefore has impact on every future life of yours to come.

You are a successful healer if you have dropped a quality of yours that was detrimental to your growth like laziness, procrastination, anger, hatred, fear and so on and so forth. They shouldn’t be overcome for a week or so. They should become your nature. Your natural behaviour should reflect the new qualities that you have imbibed. They should be expressed effortlessly in you.

Contd....

# healing, karma, destiny, purpose of healing, healer, divine qualities, essential qualities, change attitudes, 

also read suggested: https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/04/on-strength.html 

Questions addressed and points to ponder:

• What is the actual purpose of healing?
• If one doesn't get what one wants, then what is the use of healing?
• Is healing to get things that we desire?
• Healing brings us closer to our "Real nature". That is the actual purpose of healing.

• Receiving things of this world is just the collateral damage of healing!!
• Easing our life is not the effect of healing. It is just the by-product of being closer to our soul-consciousness.

On valuing right and its consequences!

 

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On valuing right and its consequences! 

Know that you are not paying the person. You are paying in exchange for the services you are seeking from that person. You are happy paying for theatres. You are happy paying for amusement parks in thousands. For one-day fun, people are ready to pay in thousands. People don’t think twice before buying sarees and dresses worth Rs. 10,000/- and above also. And yet, for knowledge that helps them to mitigate their suffering they are questions??? For knowledge that helps them to mend their relationships, they are suffering????

Just look at your priorities. Just look at your value systems. There is a large gap between giving and receiving both in your belief system and your actions. Know that! Look within. Where is this value system coming from? Why do you want to take more from a person who is working to ease your life and yet you are happily paying to a person who doesn’t contribute anything substantial in your life? Think about it.

When you look at yourself, you have the answer. This is THE REASON for the karma – THE DEBT. ONLY those who pay happily and right value to the person who does physical labour and the person of knowledge will be happy, successful, satisfied, content and peaceful. Such are the people who will be reducing their debts from their karma account. And the rest, you know the story. Look within and all around you for this part of the story!

Basis of karma is ALWAYS - DEBT. One who takes more than what he gives accrues more of it - even in present time! Remember that! And work out your karma in every aspect of your life!!!

Give, give, give - give more than you receive. Give 10 times more than what you receive. That is the secret to reducing your karma the easy way!

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# karma, indebtedness, debt, basis of karma, giving and receiving, fate and destiny, 

also read: https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2019/01/love.html 

and

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2009/08/peace-of-mind.html 

 

 

        

Don't look at the other - come back to self!

 

Don't look at the other - come back to self!

Half of our energy gets drained while proving the other person “wrong”!

Do we need it?

What is the purpose of our life?

To prove the other as wrong or growing as a person?

We need energy to make things right in our life. We need energy to sustain various aspects of our lives like physical, mental, professional, financial and so on and so forth! Isn’t that our need of the hour? Shouldn’t that be the ONLY concern in our life? Shouldn’t we be concentrating on the “personal growth” rather than spend our time and energy on those who are hell-bent on seeing us suffer, fail and be miserable?

Think about it!

Thoughts will come that are detrimental to us! Thoughts will arise that are negative and non-supportive for our growth!!! So what? Let them rise and fall! Let them come and go! You don’t identify with them. Don’t start a dialogue with those thoughts. Don’t engage those thoughts! Don’t label them! Just don’t bother about them. Let them be! You keep working, thinking and doing Reiki, which benefits your well-being and lo! The issue that was painful and the cause of failure in your life itself would have acted as a trampoline that propelled your growth in your life!

Now, you tell me, what did you understand?

What is your immediate action plan?

What is your takshana kartavyam తక్షణ కర్తవ్యం ?

What do you propose to do?

Any doubts? 

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# proving others wrong, on being successful, conserving energy, achievements, ego, right or wrong,

also read: https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Me%2C+my+guru+%E2%80%93+on+choosing+love+over+hate%21  

|Understanding the keywords right!

 

|Understanding the keywords right!

 

Happiness is the new rich!

Inner peace is the new success!

Health is the new wealth!

Kindness is the new cool!

 

These are the new ways the Western World has opened up to the old words of happiness, peace, health, wealth and cool!

 

Finally, what the Vedantic philosophy has always stood by is being recognised as the key to a successful and fulfilling life!

 

But, what a way to learn?! Do we always have to learn it the hard way, I wonder!

 

We are always blessed by elders as ‘khush raho’ i.e., be happy! ‘We are blessed not to be 'successful’ as much as to be happy…and we thought less of that. But, the world is opening up to this fact that success and opulence of material success does not translate as happiness. So, let’s go within and find our definition of our happiness. That would make our job to make it happen easier. We’ll know what to heal for start.

Next, it’s peace. We have been living under the delusion for long thanks to western influence that controlling our life situations and people in our life is the key to success. We have been made to believe that ‘I’ am the ONLY thing that matters and for that people are to be used. We forgot all the right values in life. And we have paid very heavy price for that! We have lost our peace. We have lost our courage. We are living in fear. We are standing all alone, weak and pathetic! Think about it! 

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# happiness, we get what we want, success, ask and it shall be given, 

Questions addressed and points to be noted:

• Do we know the meaning of the words that we utter and use?
• We say something but many times we mean something else altogether. Have you wondered why?
• "Sorry maam, I didn't mean that" is the common statement made when I question your intentions. If you didn't mean it then why did you say so? If there is no clarity between what you say and what you mean then don't you think you are sending wrong messages to the Universe? May be, this is also one of the causes for things going in a certain way in your life??!! 
• Unless  you know the meaning of your words you will not be able to express right. 
• Unless you express right, you don't communicate right.
• Unless you communicate right, you can't have good relationships.
• Unless you have good relationships you can't experience affection, peace and happiness from any of your relationships.
• Take time to know yourself! All other things will follow suit!

Also read suggested: https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2019/03/on-success-and-peace.html