...contd....
In the
course of our discussion, we realized that it was not that we didn’t know what
we wanted and why that we couldn’t decide, but because we weren’t sure of the
consequences. The fear of unknown kept us from taking ‘that decision’. Now it
was clear that no one – absolutely no other person could tell what lay ahead on
the path that we choose. We were afraid of failure, disappointments, pain,
suffering and rebuke. We didn’t ‘want’ and ‘like’ others telling us ‘told you
so’. We were letting others’ opinion and taunt make decision for us. That
realization made our fear look ridiculous.
When she
said no one took decisions knowing where they were going, it was so comforting.
Yes. Everyone took decisions only based on current data available, current
situations, calculated assumptions and above all hoping and dreaming that ‘this
path could take them to the land of their desires and their fulfillment’. It was
just an assumption. Always! Never a guaranteed one. When they made decisions
that gave them desired results, we declared that decision to be right one and
wrong one otherwise. We placed importance on the outcome. But instead if we had
stressed on ‘what I want to do right now with myself and my life’ then whatever
be the outcome of that decision, we would only be richer – either with
experience or with dreams fulfilled. Now we understood what that ‘Master lady’
was trying to tell us. Even our Guruji has explained it in so many words all
these years and we thought ‘oh my God! She doesn’t understand. Sitting here
it’s easy for her to lecture but she doesn’t understand the office and career
ups and downs’ when in actuality she was addressing the issue at the root
level. It was just us who couldn’t see it. And should I add “as usual or as it
had happened many times”.
Today, my
love for her increased suddenly, with this understanding. I realized and saw
all her hard work on us and her desperation to make us see ‘our actual
problems’ and her pain when we didn’t understand her repeated words. Even when
she said ‘sit in meditation’ it met with snide remarks like ‘oh! Standard one’ or
‘I knew you would say that’. Today, I saw it clearly. That wasn’t the solution.
She was preparing our mind to calm down so that we saw the solution clearly and
yet......we were being ourselves and she herself.
I had been
angry with my parents and children alike if they didn’t get what I told them.
But she had patiently changed stories, examples, healing techniques with the
view to help me. A mother tells stories to a toddler so that it eats food
engrossed in that story. So was this Guru who told us our solutions wrapped in
stories, examples, quotations every time differently assuming we would ‘eat’
the food of ‘reason’ or ‘solution’ but we were spitting it on her face every
time. I remembered how many I had commented about her among friends saying ‘she
will not give solutions. She’ll say ‘Do hands-on’ etc. I was bit ashamed of
myself. But was glad she never took our ‘stupidity’ into account.
“Shall we
look into ‘when to quit’ in a relationship”? her voice brought us back to
reality and now.
For a
change, I’ll tell you what to quit in relationship rather than ‘when to quit’ a
relationship.
“What?”
almost all of us found it odd to understand. To quit or not to is the question
and here she was talking about ‘what to quit in relationship’. That’s odd, we
felt! But nevertheless we listened.
...contd....
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