…contd….
Case B : when we
usually desire, want something it usually is never for the thing. Confused?
Actually it is for what the thing (as we suppose) stands for.
If I want a house, why
do I want it? Do I want it for itself? No. Because, house represents security
and success. It makes a statement that ‘we have arrived’. But unfortunately on
the day of ‘Gruha pravesham’ (house –warming ceremony) when others question us
as to the cost of house and where we applied for loan etc, it hits us that we
need to squeeze EMI for such long period (now don’t say, yes, my suffering is
because others asked those questions. Even without their questions you suffer
every month when you pay your EMI). We start complaining and undergoing stress
with the rise in interest rates and ask ‘why me?’, ‘why can’t I be ever
happy?’. But we never want to accept the basis of all of these is ‘the desire
to own a house’. Our desire basically bought us here! And we curse our fate and
complain about God and reiki.
So should we never have
a desire?
Should we all become
sanyasi’s (monk)?
Should we never buy a
house?
I didn’t mean that. I
am just saying that since I have a desire to own a house. I should be ready to
pay a price for it. “There’s nothing as free lunch”. Once you accept this,
you’ll not suffer paying EMI, working to meet demands of your desires, you’ll
not suffer responsibilities and you can be happy after purchasing a house or
getting married. But thinking you’ll be secure settled and happy after purchase
of a house and getting married is wrong. That’s all! I hope I am clear till
here!
The same thing applies
to marriage. When we say we love someone, we love the idea and belief (often
times) that we’ll be happy, secure and taken care of by the other’. We don’t
love the person for what he/she is for!
“No husband loves his
wife for her sake….” Brihadaranyaka Upanishad.
That’s why after
getting married, when that need is not fulfilled we feel cheated and the
trouble starts.
“Institution is not at
the fault. It’s the personnel.”
Many times our desires
stem from the suggestive inferences that possessing or achieving something or
someone will give us happiness. Just do a small exercise. Just close your eyes
as question just one of your desire like “I want a promotion”. See the answer.
See this song to see how desires are subject to time and stage of life....thoda hai thodeki .....from khatta meetha
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I92xNYsYqu4
…contd….
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