On changing destiny – Me, My Guru

On changing destiny – Me, My Guru

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This was just a sheet of paper I found tucked in one of my books. When our Guru told this and how it ended – nothing was found by way of this incomplete ‘sheet of paper’. Yet, it seemed right – right now to me. I was just needing this very badly. I felt like a loner in an alien world. For the past few days I felt like crying non-stop and didn’t know where to go. And here were ‘her’ words staring at me and crying out loud solution to the problem that was squeezing from within.

Maybe it was after all true that ‘our Guru’ reached us beyond time and space........

And now it was for me to put ‘her’ words into action, because no amount of wishing can get me out of the mess I had brought myself into. I was for me to ‘do’ something to come out of it – if ‘Reiki’ gave what I wanted ‘then’; it surely can ‘give’ what I want now! I didn’t need others word for that! I knew it from my experience. I could fall back on that and take necessary steps. ‘Knowing’ what to do and how to do by itself was so liberating and gave such an impetus to my morale and confidence. My solution lay just ‘ahead of me’. All I need to do was ‘extend my hand and get it’. Now the ball was in my court – Again! And I know how to play it right ‘this time’................

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suggested reads : https://kantipadam.blogspot.in/search?q=on+creating+destiny

PS::: ((Even my pen is bleeding with boredom when I write about marriage/job/career issues now – so, refer older blogs – it’s been dealt with as for ever and no point revisiting the same issue so many times)) 

No amount of councelling/talking to me will do any good if you have decided to cry and be depressed after all these explanations.........one who wants can be shown a way...not the one who is adamant in proving the 'other person/s' responsible for one's problem.....

ask me tips to change 'yourself' and i'll be all ears and will repeat the same technique again and again.....but don't even come to me even if i am the 'last' person if you want others to behave as per your desire/want....what the other person does/doesn't do is none of my business and interest ......

my only 'area' of specialization is 'how to grow above situations' and that includes ONLY CHANGING SELF.........

Me, my Guru – on forgiveness and punishment

 

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Me, my Guru – on forgiveness and punishment

The farmer asked the question “Gurudev, I’ve devotedly come to you since ages and yet I suffered this injury to my leg en route to your place. Whereas, my friend talks ill of God and still he received a diamond. Please tell me why this happened so?”

Guru smiled and replied “As per your karma you were to be bitten by a cobra and were to die today. Because of your Shraddha in me and sadhan, you just received a small injury to your leg. Whereas your friend was to receive a bag of diamonds as per his destiny. Because of his attitude, apshabd (talking ill of others and here about God and Guru) he received only a small diamond.

People can’t SEE what is in store as per their destiny. They can’t SEE what SHOULD HAVE happened. They notice only that which happened and jump to conclusions. They tag it as right or wrong depending on how things are supposed to be. When you see an incident don’t connect it with how it was supposed to unfold based on your expectations and desires. Because things don’t unfold that way. They happen because of your past karma which we term as ‘destiny’. You don’t know ‘what worst luck’ your ‘bad luck’ saved you from. If a person is in sadhan, then know for sure that even the ‘supposed bad’ that happened is the result of your sadhan. It has protected you from the ‘actual destiny’ that you were walking towards. When this ‘trust’ develops, respect for the Guru and technique also come. Till then, just be in sadhan knowing ‘Everything happens for good’. No sadhan however small goes waste says Lord Krishna in Bhagvat Gita. He can’t be wrong, right?” my Guru ended her explanation with a chuckle.

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# me my Guru series, importance of sadhan, grace, healing, destiny, fate, changing fate, 

also read previous post on this topic  https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2024/08/me-my-guru-guru-who-gave-back-youth-to_0535913248.html 

Me, my Guru – on forgiveness and punishment

 

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Me, my Guru – on forgiveness and punishment

Our farmer smiled and replied, “I can’t describe my returns to you in words. You’ve to experience it. Come with me and experience the joy that one gets in the proximity of my Guru”.

The atheist was amused. He agreed to go with the farmer. Both set on foot to meet the Guru. On the way, the farmer stumbled and fell to the ground. His toe was cut and started to bleed. In intense pain and with the bleeding leg, they resumed the journey. A few minutes on, the businessman found a small diamond. He picked it and mocked the farmer “See, you do so much of sadhan and yet Guru let you suffer the hurt. Here I don’t believe in your God or Guru and yet am richer with this diamond. What is the fun of going to your Guru’s place? Don’t you understand the simple logic here? Come let’s go back”.

But the farmer insisted on meeting his Guru – as ever. He didn’t have an explanation for the businessman’s taunt though. They finally reached the Guru’s place, they had Guru’s darshan and took his leave. But the farmer returned to meet the Guru alone now and asked “Guruji, I am not sad, frustrated nor doubting you. But I have a question for which I seek an explanation from you. If you please answer me and put my doubt to rest, I’ll be grateful to you”.

Guru permitted him to ask.

The farmer asked the question “Gurudev, I’ve devotedly come to you since ages and yet I suffered this injury to my leg en route to your place. Whereas, my friend talks ill of God and still he received a diamond. Please tell me why this happened so?”

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# me my Guru series, importance of sadhan, grace, healing, destiny, fate, changing fate, 

also read previous post on this topic https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2013/02/the-real-student.html 

On changing destiny – Me, My Guru

On changing destiny – Me, My Guru

“Where I am, how I am is because of what I wanted yesterday and what I did yesterday. Similarly, my tomorrow depends on what I want today and what I do for it today.

Being ‘here’ is ‘Destiny’ written of course by my acts, thoughts and deeds and ‘My free-will’ is what I do with what I have today.

Agreed I wanted what I have today, but it is also possible that I am no more comfortable with what I have today. The reasons can be many and any. That is immaterial. What we need to know is if I don’t want or am not happy being here today how do I change it? Well, for that you need to look into few facts and questions honestly – for one you should know what you asked and why. Yes, sit on your intention which materialised. Don’t whip yourself or sit or cry on that. Just clinically understand your own desires and intentions clearly. If not anything it’ll help you to know your real intentions behind 

going for a wish and then you’ll become smarter in knowing how to frame your intentions henceforth (and no don’t call me – no body can help you with your wishes. Only you know them the way you want, so go for it. It is all a learning process – for everyone. There is no short-cut in this ‘learning’, so put aside ‘but why can’t Reiki give ‘Right’ way the first time and related questions. It can’t and won’t. That’s how the Universe works. We are not the ones to decide how Universe should work! Take it or leave it! Suffer with it by calling Reiki/God/Your master names or be smart enough to understand the rules of this game bye and by and enjoy playing it. That’s all!

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On changing destiny – Me, My Guru

On changing destiny – Me, My Guru

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Now coming to the question of how to change my ‘fate’ of today?

The same way you received your today – by Sadhan.

What you did to receive what you received today, do the same with ‘new intention’. Simple! If it is about material possessions like job, house, car etc then you’ll get a new one with your new intention. If it is relationship you are working on, then, you can’t change ‘relatives’ – fortunately or unfortunately.

I know people who do ‘the stupid thing of doing the same way as things’ and end up with 3-4 marriages and 4-5 relationships in between and still being alone after 5-6 years of hard work. So, don’t think on those lines. Things with people don’t work out as it does with things. So, don’t be so fundamentally stupid.

Heal the relationships regularly and see the difference. But be patient. Heal, heal and heal more. You are with certain people for a reason. Understand and accept that! Then heal! The person does change for better – notice the change and then thank Reiki at every juncture and keep up the good work and one day you’ll be glad you chose this path to walking out of a difficult relationship. Trust me walking out is the easiest way but it doesn’t end there. Because, it is never about the ‘other person’ who

is being difficult in our life, it was about our ability to cope with such people. So till you heal and grow nothing will change. Hence ‘how many ever times  I change my partner, if I haven’t changed and healed myself, the pain and suffering would repeat with me everytime. No amount of change of place and partner would change that'. Take my word for that. So relax, be patient and heal. Grow into a compassionate person and see the relationship turn for better over the years. Don’t expect miracles to happen overnight.

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On changing destiny – Me, My Guru

On changing destiny – Me, My Guru

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If you have a difficult relationship, then sit back and relax. Close your eyes and meditate on the type of relationship and the qualities that are predominant in that relationship. For example, if you are the ‘good type’ – meaning one who doesn’t assert yourself or one ready to please all, then you will have a ‘dominating personality’ as a ‘difficult person’ in your life. But the question is, is this the only person who is so in your life? Think about it! You’ll be surprised to notice that this type of person has been there always in your life – be it a parent/sibling/friend/teacher et like. And it doesn’t stop now

too.....you’ll meet the same type – only the person changes but the type being same again and again in your life – be it your boss/colleague/neighbour/ second spouse/children and who not till you learn to break this pattern and that is possible only by changing yourself as a person. There is no other shortcut to heal this. So, instead of running away from this present situation and person heal and learn to grow as a person. Develop the attitude that you lack. Then you’ll break not only this ‘painful person’s effect’ in your life but also all the persons you are to meet of similar types in your life in future.

But it would take ages maam! True...so you can choose an easier route..go on a ‘depression drive’ collect as much sympathy as you want from your ‘so called well-wishers’ and listen to as many as ‘I told you so’ from all such good people (who actually were most of the time who had given the same treatment to you some time back in your life!) and wallow in self-pity!!!

Remember ‘Rome was not built in a Day’. So, have patience and be in regular sadhan. Doing sadhan for 1/2an hour and crying for 23 hrs – well how do you think it would work? Do simple maths here! A tap fills the bucket in 20 mts but there are 20 holes in that bucket, now how long it takes to fill that bucket? Same way, if your sadhan and your expectation from your sadhan....increase your sadhan and decrease your negativity........your sadhan should be for 23hrs and negativity for 1/2an hour then the things will work.....

Work on yourself too as you work on the relationship. These both ways of healing gives faster results and better ones too. Not only that, since you have changed, you’ll find a sea change in all your other relationships too!”

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Me, my Guru – on forgiveness and punishment

 

Me, my Guru – on forgiveness and punishment

It was a warm day. I was relaxed today as I opened the gate at “My Guru’s place”. As I joined others I found her (My Guru) talking about the importance of trust, respect and sadhan. She said sadhan bears fruit only if one has ‘trust’ on the Guru and the technique along with ‘respect’ for both. Even if one was missing, the sadhan didn’t give results that it could. Everyone was listening with rapt attention. We all had only one reason to be in sadhan – the fulfillment of some desire. This topic was very important in our eyes.

Could we ever listen without questioning? We had to disagree. We raised a question. How could today be any different?

“But Guruji, we do so much of sadhan and yet we suffer. We see scores of people who don’t do any sadhan and yet, they prosper. How can you justify that?”

Many heads nodded to show they understood the question.

Our Guru being herself smiled and replied “One Guru had a disciple who believed in him completely. He followed his Guru’s teachings without even questioning them. He also visited his Guru every other month. He was a farmer and would walk all the way from his village to his Guru’s place which took 1-2 days of walking. All through the journey he would be doing ‘nama japa’ of his Guru. Such was his ‘bhakthi’. His friend who was a successful businessman and an atheist noticed this for years. One day, he questioned our farmer “Why do you take so much of pain every other month to visit your Guru? You are so poor, look at yourself. What did you gain from all this sadhan and bhakthi?”

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# me my Guru series, importance of sadhan, grace, healing, destiny, fate, changing fate, 

also read previous post on this topic https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2016/01/how-even-your-feedback-benefits-you.html 

Me, My Guru – On Empty boat

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Me, My Guru – On Empty boat

                                         

And that’s how we kept ourselves busy with outside world. We thought we could find joy in the worldly things. And so we looked for toys to engage ourselves and for our happiness. These toys were materials sometimes like house, job and money and so on or people like spouse, kids or friends. Everything that we engaged ourselves with was just a toy for us. No doubt we got tired of one the moment we got it and had played with it for some time.

                                               

Oh, no I didn’t understand all this on my own. My Guru came back later and I gathered all this from her talk.

                                                                             

She also added this “The monk could have asked any of the following questions to his Master.

·        What is the purpose of these many years of meditation / sadhan if I couldn’t enjoy one simple boat ride?

·        Why did that empty boat come and hit me? If it hadn’t come I wouldn’t have lost my temper?

·        All my years of sadhan / meditation should have averted ‘this accident’ (of empty boat coming and hitting his boat) from happening. Why didn’t that happen?

·        You as a master should’ve known in advance that I would lose my peace if I go there. Why didn’t you stop me from going there?

But he didn’t. All the years of meditation had given him clarity enough to not ask such baseless and senseless questions anymore. There in lay the benefit of his sadhan. There in lay the result of years of sadhan. Situations came in his life only to point out to him that he hadn’t healed himself enough. His reaction was the proof of it. His state of mind stated his clarity of thought very loud and clear. His character shone through his response”

                                   

I suppose this addressed everyone’s issue clearly today. Those who took it with a pinch of salt benefitted from it and those argued – well, one more chance to find a solution that was given on a platter was lost…..

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# empty boat, you are master of your destiny, destiny, karma, psychic impressions, soul journey

previous post : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=ask+and+it+shall+be+given+-+Me%2C+My+guru

Have you taken the following understanding from this post :

We are the master of our destiny!

We attract our situations in life based on 'who' we are and not on what 'we wish' for!

By changing the way we look at things, relate with things, feel about things we change the way we send our energies into the world and thereby what we attract into our lives change for better or worse - depending in which direction you change!

Our outer world is the reflection of our inner world.

If we want 'cup of our desires' to be filled, we need to empty ourselves of all that stops it from getting filled. We can't fill our cup unless we empty it first!

Points to understand : 

Each season has something to offer. What you take out of it and how you apply it to your taste reflects your 'understanding capacity' and 'clarity of thought'.

If my 'understanding capacity' helps my 'clarity of thought' to see 'what I lack and how I am suffering' with every season and at every phase of life, trust me, that is 'NO UNDERSTANDING AND NO CLARITY OF THOUGHT'!

We don't even know that 'we don't know!' and there in lies our 'curse' and 'karma'.

Our anger clouds our 'clarity of thought' and understanding capacity. And we are busy justifying our anger, venting it out and aiding it all along.........

Think about it!

Life Tip :

This is the secret of Law of Universe and karma! 

Universe, Reiki and everything Divine works in favour of a person who is ready to empty his 'cup'. It creates 'conditions' conducive to empty one's cup the moment one takes decision to change from within! 

Be aware of it! Be grateful for it! 

At the same time, don't let these miracles get into your head. Take it and keep it in your heart. Enjoy it. Relish it. But don't be arrogant because of it! 

Like a mother who rocks the child in the cradle, the Universe will take care of you, your needs and supply you with things that are good for you and beneficial for you in the long run. It also will protect you from things, situations and people who are not good for your growth!

Hold on your faith and the faith will protect you!

Me, My Guru – On death and healing

Me, My Guru – On death and healing

“Guruji, people are dying in large numbers inspite of us healing since so long. How can you say that our healing works”? demanded Vaishnav.

Yes, though he used words like question etc he was actually demanding answers from her. He thought he was very good because he had control over his behaviour. But his nature spilled all over him and screamed of disrespect. 

Over the years, I’ve understood this thing. We can act ‘good’ but our nature can’t be hidden with our ‘acting as good’ skills. 

We are not what we project; we are what we are inside!

It was there for everyone to see. Those who had even little clarity of thought could see through a person’s ‘good and soft behaviour’. People who were on same platform over looked each other’s flaws and praised each other! Chor chor mousere bhai meaning two thieves are maternal cousins. In English we would say ‘birds of same feathers flock together’. But the Universe didn’t thankfully listen to your ‘acting behaviour’. It saw you for ‘who you are’ and gave accordingly. Only the day we understand this simple truth and accepted it would understand why we received what we received. 

Her voice cut through my thoughts as she went on to answer his accusation “Once Narada Muni asked Lord Krishna “What is the usefulness of chanting ‘Narayana’? Can you explain its power to me?” 

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# healing, power of healing, chanting, God, trust, expectations, conditions, receiving, happiness, relationships, contentment

also reads : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=on+changing+destiny+-+me%2Cmy+guru 

Points to be understood : 

• Life cannot be custom made as per our likes and dislikes.
• Just because we don't like something it doesn't go away in life.
• Just because we are desperate for something it doesn't come into our life.
• Life is what happens to us even while we are dreaming and planing something totally different from what is.
• Either we learn to work around life for what it offers or suffer for what it offers. There is no middle path in this.
• If it is called 'unfair' life would laugh and say 'so be it!' and still go on to be what it is. It is not bothered about how we frame it in our words and feelings.
• Expecting from life and its situations is the cause of pain and suffering in our life.

Questions addressed : 

• How healing works
• What to expect from healing
• Expectations not necessarily met through healing always!