Ask and it shall be given - Me, My Guru

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Ask and it shall be given - Me, My Guru

Wow! That was something. It was not something new but still it sounded new to me – may be because I’ve just heard about it and never applied it. I had my ‘but’s’ to evade practising healing them. Well, who was to blame for that? Who lost on precious time? And my friends went past me – only by virtue of their sadhan and applying all that our Guru said. What’s the purpose of asking questions if we want answers as per

our desire? We want to hear and read what we want to hear. We don’t listen to what she has to say. That’s why even our questions are answers. We end up demanding her to answer our questions. Is it our stupidity or are we so adamant not to hear what is told? Or is it that our pain gives us the ‘joy’ of suffering which we are never ready to trade against anything else – not even ‘peace of mind’?

“Still not clear?” asked Rahul. Few of them said ‘yes’.

‘We having desire is not a problem. But when we condition our expectations to our desire and say ‘only if it happens this way I’ll be happy’ is the cause of our pain and suffering.  And then he went to explain various expectations and conditions that we lay with marriage – for us ti was boringly repetitive. Only one thing can be capsule of all this explanation “Basis of expectations and conditions is the reason for pain and not person or the desire. We need to change our attitude to be happy. Otherwise, with

whomsoever we are, we are going to be ‘only sad and crying’ not because of situations, but because of who we are. Happiness is not the by-product of any situation. It is the state of being and that meant ‘going within’ and changing our ‘software’ of thoughts. Only and only this would ensure happiness in our lives and nothing else! Till then, we’ll have problems always and remain as ‘problem’ for others in our life!

That’s for sure! So, need to change for our own sweet sake.......no alternative way there..........

Concluded..........

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Me, My guru – on looking within!

 

Me, My guru – on looking within! 

“But Guruji, how can we forgive someone who has cheated us and failed us so many times? Don’t give me some story to support “forgiveness” this time, please. I feel if we let them get away then they will assume they are right and become more arrogant. I think they will keep doing wrong more than ever. What is punishment for?” I was more than frustrated today and asked my Guru these questions. They have been pending since forever. They were with many for long. But, every time she would give some story and tell, “Forgive”. But, not today!

 “My job is not to find faults. My job is not to judge anyone. My job is not to taunt others and make them feel bad about their weaknesses, flaws and faults. I am not here to change people. My job is not to keep count of others’ wrongs. All that is “HIS” job and his purview.

My job is only to love, heal, care, show compassion, understanding, cheer when someone is making an effort to overcome some weakness. And with that ends my job. Not, tell me, where is there scope for anger, hatred, curse in my job?” said my Guru with a smile.

I was floored. It wasn’t easy being her!

It wasn’t easy being selfless and compassionate! But, she made it seem so effortless that it felt like even we could embrace those qualities. And that thought was enough for us to keep working on ourselves. 

Maybe, that was the reason we kept coming back to her. Maybe, that was the reason we still were with her after all these years. It wasn’t for her. It was because coming here we still kept hope for our change to grow strong. I smiled. I nodded my head and thanked my God. For once there was sincerity in my “thank you”.

Today, I understood where and what to focus on! Today I understood where I had been going wrong. My suffering was not because of what was happening in my life. It was because of where my focus was. But now, I knew all I had to do was to focus on the wrong of self over others!

It is simple and yet so difficult! With her, it was the simple ones that were so very difficult – always!

*****     

# forgiveness, let go, karma, working on our growth, being non-judgmental, healing, justice,

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Questions addressed and points to understand:

• When is it difficult to forgive?
• How to see a situation so that the need to forgive doesn't arise?
• Change of perception that can free us from hatred for others who have hurt us, cheated us, abused us and had been very selfish in our life...
• We are not "judges". We are not here to run the world. We are not given power to hurt others or sentence others for their acts. We are as guilty as others in action and deed and word...
• When we look at others' wrongs we want and talk about justice. We wish them to be sentenced for their wrongs.
• But when our wrongs are counted we seek forgiveness and mercy. We plead Gurus, others and God to not curse us for our wrongs. We preach the importance of forgiveness to others.
• If we want to be forgiven for our sins we should also forgive the sins of others. 
• Every wrong is addressed by karma. Let's not take it upon ourselves to hurt others in the name of justice.

Me, My Guru – on asking the right question

 

Me, My Guru – on asking the right question

 

One of the students wanted to attend a certain class. He came down and asked, “Guruji, are you conducting my class this Sunday?”

She replied with a smile “No”.

He bowed and left.

I was puzzled. I knew the class that he wanted. And I also knew that that particular class was this Saturday. And yet our Guru didn’t say anything about that class.

Not able to contain myself I asked our Guru “But Guruji, his class is on Saturday. Then why didn’t you tell him that”

Our Guru smiled and answered “Because he didn’t ask ‘when is my class?’ He asked me if he had a class this Sunday and I gave him reply for that question.”

I was stunned. It was so right and so simple!

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# on seeking answers, asking questions, seeking, praying, you receive as you seek, ask and it shall be given,

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Pointers from the post:

" “Guruji, are you conducting my class this Sunday?”

She replied with a smile “No”." - Look at the question and answer again. If and only if that student had asked "Guruji when can I have my class? or Can you conduct class for me this week or something like that" then he would have had his class that week.

He not only postponed his class, he delayed his learning by God knows how many more days/weeks/years to come?

Never postpone learning. 

There will be a mindset that would blame Guru here. Good for them. But remove Guru represents "One who is everywhere too" by one of the qualities that Guru has. Then here it means you are going to ask in similar fashion everywhere. Maybe, the answers you got is because of how you asked the question. Change the way you ask question and you will see the difference in the way it is answered.

Instead of blaming someone for change, try to see where the problem is and correct it and see the solution right in front of you. Sometimes, the problem vanishes on its own too....

Did you understand this post?

Was it useful?

Did you see how it fits in your life?

Are you able to see how it would ease your life in at least few ways?

        

Me, My Guru – On Empty boat

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Me, My Guru – On Empty boat

                                         

And that’s how we kept ourselves busy with outside world. We thought we could find joy in the worldly things. And so we looked for toys to engage ourselves and for our happiness. These toys were materials sometimes like house, job and money and so on or people like spouse, kids or friends. Everything that we engaged ourselves with was just a toy for us. No doubt we got tired of one the moment we got it and had played with it for some time.

                                               

Oh, no I didn’t understand all this on my own. My Guru came back later and I gathered all this from her talk.

                                                                             

She also added this “The monk could have asked any of the following questions to his Master.

·        What is the purpose of these many years of meditation / sadhan if I couldn’t enjoy one simple boat ride?

·        Why did that empty boat come and hit me? If it hadn’t come I wouldn’t have lost my temper?

·        All my years of sadhan / meditation should have averted ‘this accident’ (of empty boat coming and hitting his boat) from happening. Why didn’t that happen?

·        You as a master should’ve known in advance that I would lose my peace if I go there. Why didn’t you stop me from going there?

But he didn’t. All the years of meditation had given him clarity enough to not ask such baseless and senseless questions anymore. There in lay the benefit of his sadhan. There in lay the result of years of sadhan. Situations came in his life only to point out to him that he hadn’t healed himself enough. His reaction was the proof of it. His state of mind stated his clarity of thought very loud and clear. His character shone through his response”

                                   

I suppose this addressed everyone’s issue clearly today. Those who took it with a pinch of salt benefitted from it and those argued – well, one more chance to find a solution that was given on a platter was lost…..

Concluded.........

# empty boat, you are master of your destiny, destiny, karma, psychic impressions, soul journey

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Have you taken the following understanding from this post :

We are the master of our destiny!

We attract our situations in life based on 'who' we are and not on what 'we wish' for!

By changing the way we look at things, relate with things, feel about things we change the way we send our energies into the world and thereby what we attract into our lives change for better or worse - depending in which direction you change!

Our outer world is the reflection of our inner world.

If we want 'cup of our desires' to be filled, we need to empty ourselves of all that stops it from getting filled. We can't fill our cup unless we empty it first!

Points to understand : 

Each season has something to offer. What you take out of it and how you apply it to your taste reflects your 'understanding capacity' and 'clarity of thought'.

If my 'understanding capacity' helps my 'clarity of thought' to see 'what I lack and how I am suffering' with every season and at every phase of life, trust me, that is 'NO UNDERSTANDING AND NO CLARITY OF THOUGHT'!

We don't even know that 'we don't know!' and there in lies our 'curse' and 'karma'.

Our anger clouds our 'clarity of thought' and understanding capacity. And we are busy justifying our anger, venting it out and aiding it all along.........

Think about it!

Life Tip :

This is the secret of Law of Universe and karma! 

Universe, Reiki and everything Divine works in favour of a person who is ready to empty his 'cup'. It creates 'conditions' conducive to empty one's cup the moment one takes decision to change from within! 

Be aware of it! Be grateful for it! 

At the same time, don't let these miracles get into your head. Take it and keep it in your heart. Enjoy it. Relish it. But don't be arrogant because of it! 

Like a mother who rocks the child in the cradle, the Universe will take care of you, your needs and supply you with things that are good for you and beneficial for you in the long run. It also will protect you from things, situations and people who are not good for your growth!

Hold on your faith and the faith will protect you!

Ask and it shall be given - Me, My Guru

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Ask and it shall be given - Me, My Guru

“You are killing the joy of marriage or job or any desire that we have. Yo mean to say that we have to ever be in pain and suffering?”

“That’s your choice! I, Rahul, Aziz are happy inspite of being married and our challenging jobs. Not because our spouses are ‘perfect’ or our jobs are very easy. No. But because, we didn’t expect them to be ‘perfect’ in the first place. Like-wise, we’ll end up having relatives from in-laws side just as crazy, diverse and specimens as in our family. Just as we deal or have been dealing with our relatives since birth, we’ve learnt to deal with these new set of relatives too! Some (especially those who are closest) we’ve done emotional healing and mended our relationships too. Few others we’ve developed indifferent attitude – especially those whom we meet once in a while types and move on. And we do reiki regularly to give us clarity as to how to deal with different people differently. Because at the end of the day, the same ‘Narayan’ is in him as much as ‘He’ is in me. We remember that more often when dealing with others”.

“True, true, we say “Lord, why are you trying to push me into Maya by behaving in such mean way” and then we are at peace”.

Even I found it so profound. These were my friends. I didn’t know that they were dealing in such a manner. Yes, this was what was told to all of us in the class. But, we listened, complemented on it and forgot about it. But these noble souls were putting it into action.  No doubt, many times I felt they have journeyed far beyond my point. I envied them for it. But what they did was something which even I could’ve done but choose to ignore. And yet I directed my envy onto them. Was that fair? But since when was ‘fair game’ part of our emotions and their related ‘logic’?

“People’ll be difficult in life in every walk of life until we learn to win them over with love. When Jesus, Krishna, Gandhi and Vivekananda have people talking nonsense about them, plotting against them, hating them and even killing them, you and I are nothing”.

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Ask and it shall be given - Me, My Guru

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Ask and it shall be given - Me, My Guru

“Then what can we desire for?”

“Anything and everything just not put the burden of your happiness on its happening and on it”

“mmm, you’ve lost us....”

“Well. When we have a desire say of ‘getting married, we assume it to be a destination of ‘marriage’. We think our troubles end with marriage and we’ll be happy ever after Marriage, when in actuality that is not the case”.

“Yes, we get mother-in-law free with marriage!” added someone and everyone laughed.

“

See, just exactly my point. We consider all that comes with marriage as ‘problems’ and ‘parasites’. We don’t see it as a package. We eat burgers and pizzas and all that which takes us to develop BP, sugar or cholesterol. Yet we eat and when we are diagnosed with these diseases we don’t fight with people who sold these food items to us. We don’t link both though they are inter-connected. We treat disease separately and in most cases still holding on to our ‘wrong’ food habits”.

“What’s the point?” asked someone with a bit of irritation.

“I was coming to it but your patience gave way. Well, just as we treat these diseases separately, we should treat every issue that comes in our life separately. For example, if there is a relationship problem or some other problem that comes up after marriage, then don’t crib saying “see inspite of getting marriage after doing Reiki I am still suffering. Don’t link an event with the issues that come later to it. As long as we have to live with people we’ll have difference of opinion. I mean, who doesn’t? That doesn’t mean we leave marriage or job or start complaining that my marriage or job is not giving me happiness. Every event in life comes with a package. Marriage and job are just ‘stations’ of life. They are never the destination of happiness. From there, your next journey starts and it will certainly have its ups and down. Only singing sweet songs happens only in bollywood – not in real life”.

“You are killing the joy of marriage or job or any desire that we have. Yo mean to say that we have to ever be in pain and suffering?”

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Ask and it shall be given! - Me, My Guru

Ask and it shall be given! 

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But we sat and put our heads to understand what that story had to offer to us. Each gave his insight – which most of it was right but only partly. We understood what we ought to only when we put all our insights in one place.

(I didn’t bother on who said what and just noted down the conversation)

“I think it means we need to trust His ability to forgive us and seek it more than being guilty of our sins”

“...His ability to forgive?”

“O.k. His unconditional love for all !”

“Our Guru once said that even God may forgive us for our sins but our Central Nervous System doesn’t. How do I relate it here?”

“by forgiving ourselves...”

“...easier said than done....”

“What if I don’t even realize or agree that what I did was wrong in the first place?”

“Then there is no question of healing at all. All this talk and discussion becomes redundant in such cases. We are looking at cases where the person knows his sins and is regretting having made it”.

“Then forgive self and then seek forgiveness from the person who’s been hurt and also not to repeat it. All this exercise goes down the drain if the act is repetitive”

“The moment we realize that we’ve sinned, it is not complete acceptance if it doesn’t make me humble enough not to count others sins and judge them”

“Well said, bravo!”

“May be it means much more than sin and forgiveness? It means “Ask and it shall be given”. Maybe, the basis of our very pain and suffering is our asking for it”

“Who would pray for pains and suffering?”

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Ask and it shall be given - Me, My Guru

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Ask and it shall be given - Me, My Guru

“No. I don’t think he means ‘exactly’ like that. It’s something like my wish is ‘I want to be married’ and then I enter into multiple new relationships because of my marriage and few of which would be hurtful. So that way, I got these ‘relatives’ thanks to my ‘desire’ or ‘intent’prayer’ and I suffer because of my prayer being listened to”.

“Marriage will only get problems – whether we pray for it or not....”

Everyone laughed making more jokes on it.

“It’s not about marriage. It is just an example. Take it as ‘I want a promotion’ and then added responsibility, extended working hours, family being angry because of that etc. Your health suffering because of extra stress etc...”

“That way we’ll end up not asking or desiring anything because as per your explanation every desire will give only pain in our lives”.

“No. Not just pain! I meant because reason of your pleasure is also the cause of your pain. Only that which gives you pleasure has the capacity to give you pain. Remember our Guru stating it so often. So I said that!”

“Then what can we desire for?”

“Anything and everything just not put the burden of your happiness on its happening and on it”

“mmm, you’ve lost us....”

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Ask and it shall be given – Me, My guru

Ask and it shall be given – Me, My guru

“Why every body received differently though all were sadhaks?”

This was the question that bothered most of us but the question kept being pushed by other questions always. Today seemed to be the day of this question.  Pallavi asked this question with irritation and half accusing our Guru today even before start of the class. Her further complaint was “Everyone is fine when I am suffering inspite of being in sadhan as much as others”. We knew that she hardly was ‘in’ sadhan. She talked about sadhan more than doing it. Yet, when it came to receiving she would complain inspite of everything she received. We didn’t even consider her question worth looking at, leave alone answering. But Guru being herself sincerely replied “In a certain temple town lived a Saint who would go around the town daily at the appointed time. He would notice all. At one gate of the temple, (Old temples in India constructed long back had four gates and city developed around these temples and hence these cities are called ‘Ksethras’ in Sanskrit and even in their names. It means ‘field’. As these temple cities developed around the temples, they became the ‘field’ – energy field, energy being that of the temple. So, temples are called ‘punya ksethra’ meaning ‘pure field’). He saw a beggar hale and healthy. This beggar was very lean few months ago when he had first come to this village.

On the other gate he found a beggar who was hale and healthy becoming weak, lean and sick as days passed. This intrigued the Saint and he went up to the beggars and asked “What is your prayer?”. The second beggar said “Lord, exhaust all my sins in this very birth”. The first beggar replied “Lord, forgive me for all my sins”. The Saint took pity on the second beggar and said “Don’t you think the Lord is loving enough to forgive you off your sins. Seek his forgiveness instead of exhausting your sins”. The beggar followed Saint’s advice and  within few months became hale and healthy. The Lord gives what we seek”. She looked at us all as she completed the story.

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