On changing destiny – Me, My Guru
Contd..............
If you have a difficult
relationship, then sit back and relax. Close your eyes and meditate on the type
of relationship and the qualities that are predominant in that relationship.
For example, if you are the ‘good type’ – meaning one who doesn’t assert
yourself or one ready to please all, then you will have a ‘dominating
personality’ as a ‘difficult person’ in your life. But the question is, is this
the only person who is so in your life? Think about it! You’ll be surprised to
notice that this type of person has been there always in your life – be it a
parent/sibling/friend/teacher et like. And it doesn’t stop now
too.....you’ll
meet the same type – only the person changes but the type being same again and
again in your life – be it your boss/colleague/neighbour/ second
spouse/children and who not till you learn to break this pattern and that is possible
only by changing yourself as a person. There is no other shortcut to heal this.
So, instead of running away from this present situation and person heal and
learn to grow as a person. Develop the attitude that you lack. Then you’ll
break not only this ‘painful person’s effect’ in your life but also all the
persons you are to meet of similar types in your life in future.
But it would
take ages maam! True...so you can choose an easier route..go on a ‘depression
drive’ collect as much sympathy as you want from your ‘so called well-wishers’
and listen to as many as ‘I told you so’ from all such good people (who
actually were most of the time who had given the same treatment to you some
time back in your life!) and wallow in self-pity!!!
Remember ‘Rome was not built
in a Day’. So, have patience and be in regular sadhan. Doing sadhan for 1/2an
hour and crying for 23 hrs – well how do you think it would work? Do simple
maths here! A tap fills the bucket in 20 mts but there are 20 holes in that
bucket, now how long it takes to fill that bucket? Same way, if your sadhan and
your expectation from your sadhan....increase your sadhan and decrease your
negativity........your sadhan should be for 23hrs and negativity for 1/2an hour
then the things will work.....
Work on yourself too as you
work on the relationship. These both ways of healing gives faster results and
better ones too. Not only that, since you have changed, you’ll find a sea
change in all your other relationships too!”
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