Me, my Guru – on healing servants, maids and helpers

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Me, my Guru – on healing servants, maids and helpers

Vijaya was so relieved with this answer. So were few others who clapped out of joy. Well, for the on-looker this may seem frivolous and showy at the same time but I over the years have come to understand the logic and reason behind this answer because, all of us were with her since two decades. We knew her complete answer though she gave only the dos and don’ts now! Today once again she made it a point to show us the easiness with which we could address any issue – as small or mundane as maid problem to complex social issues. 

The problem always came with a solution if only we looked for it. 



We couldn’t - not because it was rocket science or that we were dumb but because we were lost in ‘our problem’. We were lost complaining, fearing, emoting, analysing and judging our issue. All we had to do was ask ourselves “how do we deal with it now?” and to almost every time the solution was right there and simple to apply. We were carried away with ‘how things should be’ rather than ‘how to fix this?’ every time something went against our set way of living.

Here though our Guru gave simple answer and the solution the lesson was much bigger one, I had missed it for many years pushing it aside as ‘stupid/irritating problem unnecessary answer’.

But now, I know what she said. She was asking us to ‘heal where the problem was’. She said if you are angry, sad or in pain, simply heal it or the cause of it and be free from the suffering.

“If we had time to suffer, we had time to heal” her words. So true! 

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# problem, heal self, suffering, pain, 

also on this topic : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=on+destiny 

Points to understand : 

• What ever the problem of life the solution lies within!
• Problem may seem to be outside - be it corona, recession, price hike, Govt etc - but the problem is US!
• Heal the self and the reflection of self will be what we wish it to be......
• Our outer world is a reflection of our inner world
• Every time we are in a situation which we don't like and then if we exhaust our energies on venting our anger on someone (mostly me for no good reason) then where will we get energy to solve our problem?
• Sometimes, we have to live with it then how will we find energy to do that if we are angry with (me or) others as if they created that for us?
• When we are in a situation that is not pleasing to us we need all the energy to either solve it or live with it - depending upon the case and either way we can't dissipate our energies by being irritated or angry. 
• conserve your energy. Don't lose it on others by way of these negative emotions that will only weaken you from within.

Note : I am not posting those feed backs which had name of symbol in it......you can post it once again without the name and i'll post those comments....

all of you remember not to mention the symbol in these comments....

On Destiny

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There was pin-drop silence. This was too much for any of us to digest. Yes, we were used to listening statements like “you write your destiny”, “your present day action is writing your tomorrows’ karma” et all but this was way too much.  She was saying that the entire world’s problem was also due to our karma and that each one of us was responsible for that. Each one of us was processing it as per our understanding.

“But Guruji, how can social pain or trouble and personal loss – both be at same level? Are they not different? Many a times, I’ve found my family members responsible for my loss and suffering. How can you say that I am responsible for such loss too?” asked Geetha.

“Social problem and personal problem are different only in following sense –

a.      The magnitude of social problem is much larger and its solution usually involves the whole of society at large and hence the magnitude makes it seem impossible to solve, whereas personal loss involves only friends and family and hence involves small group of people. So, technically this should be easier to address and solve. But unfortunately it is not so. It is not so because of the problem but because of the way we deal with it. personal problem is always made ‘personal’ and we are so ‘into’ it that we become part of the problem and hence can’t get detached enough to have ‘an external vision’ of the issue. This impairs our sense of clarity and judgement thereby making the issue ‘without a solution problem’. We wallow in self-pity, anger, judgement, attachment, heart-breaks and such feelings and emotions depending upon the issue. Once we go on in these ‘emotional rides’ we forget that it is we who are responsible for what we experience. We stop taking responsible of our actions and decisions. We end up blaming near and dear ones for all that we are experiencing and in that quagmire it is next to impossible to work on the solution. We go deeper and deeper into depression, ill-health and suicidal tendencies. At this stage we don’t seek steps to correct our mistakes. We are only seeking ‘pity’ from others when we share our problems with them when a suggestion or an advice is give we brush it aside saying “oh, but you don’t understand” what we mean to say is “I want you to feel sorry for me and agree and acknowledge that the people I am pointing at are bad and responsible for my suffering. That’s all!” she answered.

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 Listen to this song from 'Khote sikkey' one of RD's and Kishore's combinations best to be inspired in tough times-

On problems and solutions

 

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On problems and solutions - 1

When we keep looking/ concentrating/ talking about the people who are ‘cause of our problem’ we get pulled into the mess. We become part of the problem. We become part of that mess. We lose our ability to even think about the solution. But the ‘sadhan’ that we do to address the issue starts working on us, our clarity of thought develops. We then see the problem as ‘something to be addressed’ and ‘healed’ – not as something to complain and cry about!

We become solution oriented. This shift will help us channelize our energies towards solving the problem while finding its’ solution. Things become clearer and they start falling in place – sooner than later!

Later we realize that the solution was right there where the problem was, but we couldn’t see because we were caught up in our emotions. The moment we regain our calm our perception becomes clear.

So you see solution is where problem is!

Care to share your experiences in this regard now?

A must homework to do:

Just go through your life after you entered Reiki and started doing reiki for your situations in life. Then see how long it took for you to start seeing results in the right direction. Do share to inspire those who are lost as of now and be a light unto them!

Just mention “ I had a X issue (no need to explain or talk about a issue too) and I started to see results in 3days / 7 weeks/ one year depending on your issue. Say for atleast 3 issues that you have healed. Time need not be perfect just approximately too would do! 

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# problems and solutions, on illusions, maya, clarity of thought, confusion, be the part of problem and out of problem, detachment, spirituality, 

What did you understand now about the post ?

How do you view those pictures now?

How and where will you apply it?

Was this post useful in your situation?

Any suggestions as to how others can apply in their lives?

Problem and solutions!

 

Problem and solutions!

Bigger the problem, easier the solution.

More frightened you are, easier to get out of that situation.

Bigger the problem, easier it is to fix it.

Solution is where the problem is - often times! 

When you look at the problem you can't see the solution, when you get to see the solution you can't see the problem - like the picture above and below! What do you see in these pictures?

Change the way you look to come out of the problem and to see the solution!

also read for further understanding : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Stories+and+all+-+Man+and+the+frogs 

Have you noticed the validity of above statement? If yes, when and where?

Only Present is real!

 

Only Present is real!

“At some point, you just have to let go of what you thought should happen and live in what is happening”. The sooner, the better.

The day we start with this little shift, we’ll know what contentment, peace, happiness, love and abundance is!

Not a bad bargain I would say! Then why don’t we do that if it is so simple?

Your spouse and m-i-l are not the problem!!!

Your child and his habits are not the problem!!!

Your boss and your job tensions are not the problem!!!

Your home loan and present financial situations are not the problem!!!

Your savings and covid are not the problem!!!

The way you ‘desire’ and ‘demand’ them to be ‘your way’ is the problem. Take a break! Take a closer look at yourself and your relationship with your problem. You’ll find your solution….

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also read worth previous posts on similar topic : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2017/06/on-living-in-moment-me-my-guru.html 

and

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2017/07/on-living-in-moment-me-my-guru.html 

Sadhan techniques suggested to achieve this :

• Re-birth meditation
• meditation

Me, My Guru – On Hindrances in problem solving

 

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Me, My Guru – On Hindrances in problem solving

Apart from such persons, don’t talk about it to one and all – not even to yourself 10 times a day. If you need to think about an issue, then there is a way to do it.

First, take out time and relax. Then look at the problem with an intention of finding a solution and a better way of handling it.

Then once a decision or solution is noticed, act on it.

Next be man enough to bear the consequences of your choice, action and decision. Everyone wants power but hardly people come forward to bear the responsibilities that come with power!

The slips that can happen in this are  

1.     when we sit to understand a problem we get carried away with our emotions. We don’t look at them from distance.

2.     Hence, we tend to judge the situation

3.     Result, we can’t see the solution

4.     We question as to why it happened or didn’t happen in a certain way. Don’t do that.

5.     We compare our situation with others’ and become jealous. Again we go on roller-coaster ride of pain and suffering.

6.     We keep repeating to ourselves and to others as to how other is wrong. Our agenda is not about healing the situation. It is not about handling it. It becomes more of proving that the other is bad and cause of problem. Result – even if proven so, situation doesn’t change. So, we end up with this pain more than before!

Avoid these pitfalls! 

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# on talking about problems, consequences of talking about problems, karma, negativity generated, problems and solutions, healing the issue, finding solutions, life, beauty of life, facts of life, lessons of life, obstacles of life, life is not perfect

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=On+problems+and+solutions+-+1 

Points to remember and understand :

• When ever one faces a problem in life, instead of looking at it with complaints, anger and frustration, if one looks at it with love, calm and a desire to solve it, one will find the solution faster than later.
• First overcome the irritation that you get when faced with a problem.

Me, My Guru – On Hindrances in problem solving

 

Me, My Guru – On Hindrances in problem solving

Our Guru said “Don’t go around telling one and all about your problems. The more number of people you talk about your problem – be it your spouse, career or desire that much of negativity you create with regards to that issue. Result – longer it takes to heal that issue. So, if you want to heal an issue, reduce talking about it to as many people as you can. In fact, stop talking about it completely”.

“But we can’t ma’am. We need to tell at least few. We need to talk about our problems” said one among us. But that voice represented most of our thoughts.

“Then tell only 4 types of persons –

1. One who wouldn’t judge you for that

2. One who wouldn’t use it against you in future

3. One who supports you by understanding you and your problem – even if he can’t give you a solution

4. One who gives you a solution –

A. But this person shouldn’t have any personal agenda attached to your problem

B. This person should be impartial.

C. This person should have clarity of thought

D. He should have your good as the only thing in his agenda 

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# on talking about problems, consequences of talking about problems, karma, negativity generated, problems and solutions, healing the issue, finding solutions, life, beauty of life, facts of life, lessons of life, obstacles of life, life is not perfect

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/11/directing-our-energies-right-way.html 

Points to understand and remember :

• Every one has his own set of problems. It's just that some take time to help others solve theirs inspite of having more problems in their own life!
• Just because someone is smiling, happy or helping others doesn't mean he hasn't any problems. Don't be jealous of such people if you come across one such person. They have the ability to smile 'in spite of their problems' in their lives.
• Talking about one's problems to one and all actually increases the the time period one has to live with it or in finding the solution.

 

Me, My Guru – On Hindrances in problem solving

 

     Me, My Guru – On Hindrances in problem solving

Then talk to yourself with an intention to find out ‘about the problem’. Knowing ‘the problem’ and ‘about it’ is half the battle won! Then take necessary action for the same”.

Later she talked on other topics but I didn’t register any of them. Sometimes, one word, one thought, one sentence or a story says it all. I take just that for a day and plan to work on it. And it has borne fruit – always!

One gem collected per day made me rich on all accounts. Now, all I had to do was to ‘encash’ it. That, was totally my choice. It depended totally on me. And this is the reason why no two student who met benefited the same way!

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# on talking about problems, consequences of talking about problems, karma, negativity generated, problems and solutions, healing the issue, finding solutions, life, beauty of life, facts of life, lessons of life, obstacles of life, life is not perfect

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=On+taking+decisions%21 

Points to remember and understand :

• Life is not about collecting stories, quotes or sayings...
• All teachings come to naught if not applied.
• Life gives us opportunities to put to good use all that we have understood (or atleast say we have?!). 
• Unless we are able to apply what we have learnt, how will we know that we have learnt?
• Unless we have opportunities to apply what we have learnt, how will we grow?
• Unless we have opportunities to behave differently and act differently from before, how will we know we have grown?
• So, to let us know of our understanding, wisdom, application of it in life we are thrown problems in our life.
• Every time we treat a problem as an opportunity to express our growth, know you have passed the test. You have reclaimed yourself. You have learnt to live life. You have learnt the 'art of living'