Me, My Guru – On destiny and our choices!

 

Me, My Guru – On destiny and our choices!

Today, even before she could start our class, I asked her the long pending question of mind “But, if I am to be with the person who is sent into my life, like forever, then am I to suffer the injustice meted by the other who is in my life calling it my fate?”

I asked this question wanting her to say “No need to suffer with them. You can move on. I was so pissed off with the person, the so-called family that has cheated me say forever. I no longer wanted to be abused by them. I wanted to move on. And I felt it was my right to do so.

“Now, in this case, we need to revisit our understanding of fate once again. What is fate?" our Guru started. But, I expected it to be a two-word answer - "no need". But, here she was continuing her explanation "How does it come into effect? Well, for anything to happen, there should be a cause for it, right? Then, for fate to come into effect, the causes are as such:

a.     
When we have thought or desired something in our life and wished for it to happen, it manifests in our life – it’s just that sometimes, or rather many times it happens much later in life, when we have almost or completely forgotten our wish.

b.     When we act out of choice. For example, if we choose to bring a child into our life, we have created a destiny for ourselves – that of losing our sleep for many years to come. We lose our carefree way of living. We lose our importance to our child in the family. So on and so forth. So you see, when you make a decision and act on it, the repercussions are called fate. “You asked for it” would fit right for this kind of karma!

c.    
  When we owe! People take money and conveniently forget it. That comes back as karma. In this category also comes money that is not paid or not paid in full in exchange for any service received.

Similarly, we owe to people their help, to Mother Earth for our existence, to our Pitrus – forefathers for our existence and lineage, our parents and family for our lineage and existence.

We also owe people the harm that we have done to them. If we have harmed anyone or have been hurt by others, we come back and meet each other to clear the slate of that harm. Like-wise with all emotions and feelings.

d.     When the people and situations in our life align with the soul agenda.    

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# fate and destiny, soul agenda, soul journey, purpose of life, karma, debts, clearing the accounts of lives, lessons to be learnt, facts of life, reincarnation, 

also read:   https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2010/07/yesternight-gabriel-chief-of-angels.html    

and

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2009/04/and-first-flip-happened.html 

What is Destiny and Free-will?

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You and I have embarked on this tough yet interesting, challenging, benefitting journey. So let’s just work on ourselves. Forget about them for now!

Coming back to our story, Jaya, Vijaya had to bear consequence of their bad karma (of insolence) but as they were great devotees of God they got to have their choice of type of birth and the number of births and also got to die in His hands. Please understand it correctly. I repeat once again.

“Good karmas will reap good benefits and bad karmas reap their corresponding benefits. They don’t get inter-mixed – ever for anyone.” Is it clear?

·         So, Ravana and others couldn’t help themselves from being bad. See, it was destined so. So, my negative qualities are also my destiny and my behaviour is ok as it’ll beget good results (like getting killed by Lord etc). I don’t need to work on my attitude and character. Right?”

My, my! What an inference! No my dear, it is not so. Being what you are, why you are and where you are is because of your past karma. That is destiny designed by your past deeds. It’s right till here. But how you behave now, what choices you make now and what sadhan you make now will decide where you go tomorrow. Your right to choose now is called as “your free-will”. Depending on that choice your destiny of tomorrow is again written. So, think and act wisely!

Ravan born Brahmin went on to become kshatriya by his deeds and became Asura by his intentions and acts. Whereas Sage Vishwamitra was born a Kshtriya and lived as one for many years and then with his intense tapas went on to become a Brahmin. That is the caste system of Sanatana Dharma which is based on one’s nature, deed and profession and not be birth.

Taking birth in Brahmin family is the result of past deeds and whether you remain so or not is decided by your present deeds. Hope now it’s clear!

·         Jaya and Vijaya were door-keepers of Vaikuntam. What post can be more gratifying than this? Can you even imagine how one’s life would be as door-keeper’s of Vaikuntam? Yet, inspite of raising to that high a post (yes, all these are just posts and can be filled by any one with their punya karma…that includes you and me too. So if you are career oriented then you should aim for such posts – not one in the offices of this world). We can still fall low because of our attitude. Again everything boils down to Attitude. Now do you see how attitude makes or breaks our fate and us in short and long run too! Don’t be bothered to scale the Altitude – that’s easy actually once you set your mind on it – but higher the altitude, you fall is that much more painful and dreadful. So work on “attitude” always. Ego sets in at any stage and then we are in this roller-coaster ride of going up and coming down for eons to come. No doubt we always have churning sensation in our stomach!

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On fate, destiny, attitudes and choices! – Me, my Guru

 

On fate, destiny, attitudes and choices! – Me, my Guru

“Guruji, I am told by many and I have read that we meet the people in our lives as per “destiny”. If it is so, doesn’t it mean that I am to be with that person for the rest of my life too? Is that not destined? Why did I meet him if I was not to be with him?” asked Priya.

Our Guruji just smiled at her. And before she could answer, I asked her the long pending question of mind “but if it is true, then how come people in my life have moved on? If destiny has brought them to me, then shouldn’t they be part of my life even now?”

“But Guruji, are we to accept every person we meet in our life seeing it as destiny?” asked Rahul

She smiled and waited for her tea to come. We too waited. She drank her tea, enjoying it as if that was the last cup of her life??!!

I expected her to come up with at least 3 stories to answer our 3 questions today! I wanted to see which of her stories she would repeat. Or would she come up with a new one? I was waiting anxiously. Sometimes, I feel, I am more interested in her stories than in receiving answers to my queries or questions. Maybe, that was one of the reasons I never could go beyond collecting stories. Applying them seemed like a “future project” to me. I laughed at my own thoughts. I knew where the problem was and also its solutions. At least in these cases. And yet, I chose not to work on them. And therefore, I could conveniently quote her “You are where you are because of your choices”.

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# fate and destiny, attitudes, character, on choices, we are where we are for who we are, decisions, clarity of thought, actions and repercussions, emotions, law of attraction, 

also read: https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2019/05/on-fate-ghalib.html 

and

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Blessing+that+turned+into+curse+%E2%80%93+Me%2C+My+Guru 

read the link to understand how with our attitudes we are capable of converting "blessing" into a "curse" and wise-versa....

Me My Guru – on fate, destiny and karma

 

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Me My Guru – on fate, destiny and karma

Pointers to understand the post:

““A Guru and his shishya lived on a mountaintop for many years.” – Take any art – be it painting, martial arts, music, it takes years of sadhan to reach a descent level of proficiency. We all know this. And yet, people want to become “MASTERS”, no sorry, ASSUME  they have BECOME MASTERS attending ½ a day class or just a few classes far in between!!??

How sorry is that state of affairs?

Even to get a normal degree one goes to educational institutions for a minimum of 16-20 years. So, how much more should one practice and be going to his Guru to know even a little in the field of spirituality?

In the good old days and even now Buddhist monks practice for years on end in various monasteries and in forests and such places.

Don’t let your ego blind you to THIS ASSUMPTION that you have become spiritual. Just becoming eligible to walk this path takes years of sadhan and constant interaction with one’s Guru.

Nothing, no google can replace a Guru’s presence in this path!

“His bhakthi, faith, gratitude, respect and love for his Guru were obvious in his every act of “seva” to his Guru.” – If there is bhakthi, faith, gratitude, respect or love, it is obvious. It need not be declared or proved by logical verbal arguments.

Even an animal and a kid can know it if it is there. The one who is declaring it again and again needs to understand that the need to declare itself is making it evident that these emotions are lacking. Work on them. Meditate on them. Heal the reasons behind them.

Not having them is not the problem. That is the situation. That is fine. Assuming them to be there in self, therein lies the problem. Once we assume, we will never get them in real. So, wake up. Heal. Meditate.

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# me my Guru series, fate and destiny, karma, fate altered, destiny overcome, destiny, attitude, future and present, past and present, 

also read suggested further on this topic https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2024/11/karma-healed-in-real-life-situations_01790101992.html

 

Me My Guru – on fate, destiny and karma

 

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Me My Guru – on fate, destiny and karma

“Years passed. Guru and shishya would be in sadhan all through the day and night too! Time was not taken in consideration by them.” Only the day one doesn’t feel the time has he actually become eligible to be walking the path of spirituality. All other times, he is just flaring his ego with imaginations and assumptions. Wake up! Know yourself. Face the facts! Declare war on them. And become free of these shackles that stop your flight!

“Once during the meditations, Guru saw the death of his shishya in 7 days. He was shaken a bit. He meditated and regained his calm.” – There are two points here. One is that to the one who is regular in sadhan (drawing symbols to get bus, saying lines of gratitude 10-20 times a day don’t count as sadhan in such cases) will develop abilities like premonition, clairvoyance and so on.

Understand them correctly. I said “abilities” – read them as such only. They are not “powers” as usually assumed to be and talked as. They are just abilities that we get as collateral to our sadhan. They are not the be all of our sadhan. Know that!

Second, is Guru was shaken when he saw the vision. We want to “SEE” many things but are we ready to “SEE” them? Many times, a big no!

When such a time comes learn from the Guru. He didn’t run away. He didn’t start crying. He MEDITATED AND REGAINED HIS CALM. Whenever we are shaken, sadhan is the place to be. Go back to sadhan, regain your composure and then resume your job. Only after you gain your calm, take any decisions.

Don’t come calling me. Don’t be angry that I am not available at all odd times for you. I am not your private property. Sadhan is the ONLY way to get that calm. Even if I meet you or talk to you, I am going to ask you to do the same. But, no, you want me to DO REIKI for you. Till that nature stays with you, fear will toss you as it feels right. The problem is not the situation. Know that! The problem is that "there is fear". And that fear is within you. Know this. Accept it. And work on it. Heal it. Overcome it. Transcend it! Become free of fear! You don't need it - remember that!

Sadhan, sadhan, and more sadhan when shaken – REMEMBER THAT!

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# me my Guru series, fate and destiny, karma, fate altered, destiny overcome, destiny, attitude, future and present, past and present, 

also read suggested further on this topic https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2024/11/on-understanding-karma-in-real-life_01398572845.html 

How to understand blog and Me, My Guru series especially

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How to understand blog and Me, My Guru series especially

What better way to understand desire, wish, expectations, conditions and trust!

Same explanation applies in your life too! If peoples’ expectations are met, you are good and if not, bad. That’s what peoples’ opinion mean. The day you realize this you’ll move on beyond the need to get ‘good name’.

There is so much to tell of this series. It is a treasure trove! Dig deep and collect the gems it offers – layer after layer. No story is simple and straight. Every word used has a purpose. Even tea served is for a reason at the appointed time! See, meditate on it and benefit out of it!

Those who try to understand it with their intelligence and logic can’t find their answers even when told dozens of times.

Those who read and then meditate on it will find it the first time. These are the people who work on themselves effortlessly. They understand right and find it easy to apply it in their lives and get transformed. These are the very people if they continue on this path this way will finally transcend too……..

I am in a zone when I write them. I pray you also drink of this nectar called ‘bliss’. 

And in the process of getting de-addicted, rearranging your thoughts on right and wrong, discovering yourself, expressing yourself in a better and better light, you’ll slowly maybe but surely get connected to that ‘soul energy’ of yours. Then you’ll have immense energy to direct it in any area of your life. But you need to walk this path in right direction for that first. You can’t expect me to hand over ‘goodies’ that you seek. You need to discover the treasure trove on your own! This blog is written with that intention and purpose only!

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# deaddiction, lower nature, possibility, divinity, soul consciousness, bliss, acceptance, healing, self heal, awareness, know thyself, 

also reads suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=me%2C+my+Guru%2C+roses 

Question answered :

• How to deal with difficult people in life?
• What to expect from relationships in life?
• Does an event in life guarantee happiness?

Points to digest :

• The object that we so crave for becomes the object of our pain and suffering if our destiny is to suffer.
• Our destiny rests on our attitude.
• Heal that attitude that created the destiny that you should suffer, then the object or event that happens in your life becomes the cause of your happiness in your life.
• People crave for an event to happen in life. They keep complaining that 'it not happening' in their life is the cause of their pain and suffering. They show their anger on one and all!
• And yet, no sooner that event occurs, they complain about the event and its facts. They start giving explanations and detailed description of how that event was the biggest curse of their life's!
• Whether they don't have something or they have something in life - these mind sets will suffer no matter what in their life! 
• The good news is 'the cause of this suffering' is the 'mind set' of that individual who is suffering. And it is within the purview of that person who address this issue and be free of this suffering!

Life Tip:

If you have had great time or memory with a book or a TV programme, then it is better you don't revisit that again now. Savour the taste of 'good memory' and be content. Don't try to revisit it with the hope and belief of reliving that book or programme the same way you did it many years ago! There is a great possibility that you wouldn't feel the same 'awesomeness' now when you do that. You can't recreate and relive past moments in the present times - ever!

Don't try to replay 'happiness' button by creating the same atmosphere. It doesn't work that way!