On comparison

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-but, ram’s wife would control his entire earnings. He wouldn’t be able to make a purchase of even rs.100/- on his own. She wouldn’t give him that much. That was the level she was controlling his finances and him and here Venkat was feeling bad that his wife wasn’t like his and suffering why? Because, Ram would for ever praise his wife and her management skills, Venkat thought if he is praising so much he’s really got a good wife which my wife isn’t! how fundamentally stupid!

One day Ram went into depression because of his wife’s nagging. Venkat’s wife lost job. Did he not want his wife to be like Ram’s? so, even his wife became a house-wife. And now, he lives with financial insecurity too! Remember, when you continuously complain about something, that ‘thing’ becomes a reality in your life!

Success and rate of growth depends upon our abilities and karma. But, we nod our heads when we hear that but end up comparing and suffering none-the-less. When you compare with someone, you invite their energies into your life and that their problems become yours! I’ve explained it so many times and yet……… 

Let’s assume you go on comparing your husband with SRK, eventually he’ll become a chain smoker, flirting with every girl and become totally insecure inspite of being successful in his field. And you’ll complain stating these traits – when actually your comparing nature brought about this change in him.

So instead of suffering because of comparison have a target, write an intention in your intention box, do reiki for the same, do intentions reiki, full body reiki and get what you want. This is the sure shot way to get what you want.

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On comparison of characters

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She’s a good cook and you are not. That way, she automatically becomes ‘good wife’ and you bad. Would you agree? She is good looking and you are not. Would you say ‘she is good wife because she’s beautiful and I am bad husband as I am not!

Why don’t you compare all these too? We compare senselessly and then ask ‘why am I suffering with her?’. The answer is simple. Because, ‘you are you’. You’ll only suffer – be it with anyone. And when you keep comparing you bring the energies of the person whom you admire into the person you complain about.

It means if you say ‘my friend is so lucky, his wife manages money wisely and multiplies it and why doesn’t my wife do that?’ you know what really happens. This is a real life case!

If you listen attentively and understand correctly you’ll immediately know why things took the shape this way in your life!

In this particular case, let’s call the complaining party as venkat and his friend as Ram. What Venkat failed to see was –

-ram’s wife wasn’t working and hence wasn’t earning a single pie, whereas his wife was and moreover she was the one clearing all their dues, footing most of their dues, taking care of her needs and over and above that she wouldn’t even ask how much he was earning and why he wasn’t saving?

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on comparison of characters

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He always was like that, only thing is he never got an opportunity to express that nature of his. And many times, we surprise ourselves by our behaviour.  This is because, we’ve never understood ourselves truly! But, smartly we push the blame on to the situation and circumstances and then coolly declare ‘ I am not like that. But, I had no choice but to act in such a way’. By justifying our actions and decisions, we think we’ve saved our ‘image’ of being ‘good person’ but we forget even if it is done, we are what we are – not what we are projecting. So sad!

‘I don’t drink or smoke and come home straight from office by 6 pm. I am such a good husband, yet why do I suffer with such a bad wife who doesn’t even fold clothes daily’.

Just look at this complain. It’s wrong, illogical and senseless from the word go.

a.he is saying he is ‘good husband’ because he doesn’t smoke or drink? So, doesn’t buffalo and even it comes home at 6 pm from the fields. Does it become good husband because of that. If he doesn’t have a ‘wrong habit’ then it means his health would not be affected because of that. But, that doesn’t make him good husband. Coming to that point, even his wife doesn’t smoke or drink. Then, by that virtue even she becomes ‘good wife’. Why he doesn’t allot marks to her for the same reason. If you’ve to compare habits then compare on the same level and also on all levels.

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on comparison

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Characteristics or Nature of a person – what I haven’t understood till date is ‘how can people compare two individuals?’ it’s like comparing an ant and an elephant, a pen and an eraser, a fruit and a vegetable. They can’t be compared. You may say an ant and an elephant – both are animals so they are same.  But it is not so, you can’t compare two animals from different species. It would be stupidity. Both have their strengths, their purpose, beauty and weakness. Agreed but not on the same level.

Pen and eraser though both are used by any person writing. We can’t compare saying they are kep together, so we’ll compare ! sheer stupidity! A person is unique in this universe as the journey he has made is unique to him and him alone.  No two persons can be the same for ‘a person is what he is because of all that he has gone through –good, bad and ugly and whatever done it can’t be done that way by the other’. This is one of the basis of one’s character.

The second reason that reflects a person’s character is the circumstance. Till he faces a certain situation, we never, why even he will never know how he’ll deal with it.  The way he expresses in a certain situation reflects ‘who he truly is’! that’s why we usually hear people say ‘oh my God! I never thought he was like this!’

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on comparison

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He always was like that, only thing is he never got an opportunity to express that nature of his. And many times, we surprise ourselves by our behaviour.  This is because, we’ve never understood ourselves truly! But, smartly we push the blame on to the situation and circumstances and then coolly declare ‘ I am not like that. But, I had no choice but to act in such a way’. By justifying our actions and decisions, we think we’ve saved our ‘image’ of being ‘good person’ but we forget even if it is done, we are what we are – not what we are projecting. So sad!

‘I don’t drink or smoke and come home straight from office by 6 pm. I am such a good husband, yet why do I suffer with such a bad wife who doesn’t even fold clothes daily’.

Just look at this complain. It’s wrong, illogical and senseless from the word go.

a.he is saying he is ‘good husband’ because he doesn’t smoke or drink? So, doesn’t buffalo and even it comes home at 6 pm from the fields. Does it become good husband because of that. If he doesn’t have a ‘wrong habit’ then it means his health would not be affected because of that. But, that doesn’t make him good husband. Coming to that point, even his wife doesn’t smoke or drink. Then, by that virtue even she becomes ‘good wife’. Why he doesn’t allot marks to her for the same reason. If you’ve to compare habits then compare on the same level and also on all levels.

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