Me, My Guru – On attachments, faith and commitments....

Me, My Guru – On attachments, faith and commitments....

“Now this sweeper would see God standing day after day from morn to night as devotees come in hundreds to seek His blessings. Sweeper’s heart went out to God. He felt the tiredness of God and also the pain in God’s legs. He was moved with pity, affection and concern. In his innocence he told “God, I can see how tired you must be standing there day after day. Let me stand on your behalf for a day as you can rest a bit”.

God smiled and agreed but added “but as you stand there in my place, you’ve to follow a golden rule of not moving or saying anything. You just should stand and see everything silently and do nothing about it”.

“This is a child’s game” thought the sweeper”.

I had come when the session was already in progress. Initially, I would create lots of noise taking out and adjusting my papers, drinking water and with such activities. I would even say ‘hi, hello’ to everyone. Now I’ve come a long way from then. I would go and silently sit at the back. Today I can see how insensitively selfish was I! Now I don’t create pandemonium to go front. Of late, I’ve even stopped asking others as to what I missed. If I came late, I didn’t deserve to disturb others with my ‘assumed eagerness to learn’. So today I didn’t know how and when the session started and in what relation was this story being told by her (our Guru). Yet, I didn’t feel the need to as I sat silently listening to her today. She may have said it from other angle for all I know but I got my answers for my questions which remained so inspite of being answered so many times.

“Why didn’t I have the innocence of that sweeper?” I asked myself umpteen numbers of times that day and in the days to come. I was the one to go to God ONLY SEEKING and demanding or complaining about something or the other. But I never for once felt bad for GOD! Yes, wouldn’t HE be vexed of hearing our cribbing, hate words, angry bickering, our cries and what not? Wouldn’t he be tired? Wouldn’t His ears ache with all those words? Wouldn’t He want to run away from all of us? Yet He never did! Was this ‘Love’ that I didn’t get to see and validate all these years? Was deep in selfishness was I wallowing to be so ‘me-centric’?

Why did I never ‘do’ anything to work for Him to relax?

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Me, My Guru – On attachments, faith and commitments....

She had said “let go” off your attitudes so many times...she had said ‘drop’ so times and yet....This time both those words seem to make sense. I saw what she was trying to tell all these years. Maybe, it was me all along who didn’t want to let go of the rope called ‘my attitudes’ and cited various reasons for that like ‘but you don’t know how much they ill-treated me’, ‘you don’t understand’ etc. Yes, the incident happened once and let it become mammoth size by replaying it

umpteen times in this little brain of mine. No doubt, I felt my brain would shatter if I didn’t do anything about people who were causing me this pain when in fact I was the one ‘wedded to them’ day in and day out! Surprisingly that applied to people whom I had to deal with on day-to-day basis too. Let’s say they hurt, torture or instigate me on daily basis. If I knew not to count the times they did or do this, then it was easy to deal with such a situation. But I connected various dots of such incidents and spelled it as ‘He does that always!’ or

‘everyone does that to me’. The moment ‘group words’ like always, everyone etc are used the pain becomes eternal. I seem to be fighting with everyone and that frustration drives me crazy. Wow! We figured this out as we discussed this among ourselves. It shut us up for quite some time. This was huge. It would take quite a long to let all this sink in. We then had to internalize all this to be able to see its effect on our

psyche, attitude, character and finally on our Destiny which reflected as ‘Life Situations’. Yes, our Guru was right when she said “You don’t need an astrologer or a star to chalk out your fate. Just take a look at your life and the situations in it to tell you who you are, what your karma was and where your Destiny is taking you or what it has in store for you”.

We talked other stuff too but who remembers after this wash-out....

Concluded....

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Me, My Guru – On attachments, faith and commitments....

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“Sweeper stood in God’s place and in came a wealthy businessman who donated Rs.1000/- in the altar. He bowed down to seek Lord’s blessings and got up forgetting his money filled purse on the ground. He prayed “God, I donated Rs.1000/- to you and in return I seek your blessings to expand my business”. Having said his prayer he left. Few months later a poor man in rags came and offered Rs.1/- at the altar and prayed ‘Lord, give me enough money to do the needful’. Saying so he bowed to Lord and saw the money filled purse and seeing it as God’s reply to his prayer left with a gratitude on his lips.

Our sweeper who was God for the day couldn’t say anything on both these occasions as he was bound by his word to God. But he was highly agitated. He wanted to return the purse to its rightful owner who had so gladly parted with his Rs.1000/- and wanted to tell poor man that he was not receiving that purse by way of his blessings. As he was going through this turmoil a young sailor came and prayed “I am going on a voyage. Please make that journey a safe one”. Just then the rich man returned seeking his purse and not finding it there and thinking sailor to be a thief, he had him arrested. Police didn’t hear a word of what sailor said and it was then that our God for the day lost his cool and talked and explained all that happened. Rich man and the sailor both thanked Him and left and the poor man was arrested. Our God felt happy finally!

Later at night when God came back and asked ‘so, how was your day as God?’, he replied explaining all the events of the day. The God said “But I asked you to stand still! Why did you open your mouth?”

“But I set everything right!” replied sweeper rather confused, hurt and agitated.

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     Me, My Guru – On attachments, faith and commitments....

“But what I am complaining about is that He fulfilled my desire. He knew I wouldn’t be happy ‘in this place’ and yet He brought me here. If He could see that why didn’t He stop this from happening?” complained someone.

“He works our soul agenda through our desires. He knows the lesson you need to learn as a soul. He also knows the ‘debt’ karma that you owe and you’ve decided to heal or clear in this life time. Such of desires that are instrumental in helping you fulfill these two ‘Soul Agendas’ are fulfilled thereby giving you ‘Ideal’ situation and people in your life that would help you to learn the lesson needed to grow as a soul and clear the ‘karma’ for which you’ve incarnated in this body of yours”.

“In that case all I’ve to do is take it as a punishment and suffer this life” came the voice from somewhere.

“If it was so, then you wouldn’t be here asking this question and learning techniques to heal this situation. Yes, it our karma that brings us here but He is gracious enough to give us a solution or a respite from it in the form of sadhan. Like, we fall sick thanks to our hard work and long years of bad food habits and life-style and yet he sends us various medical professionals to heal us – be it Ayurveda, allopathy, homeo, sidda and what not. Think before you talk..” she replied.

“How would healing help in these cases?” came another voice booming.

“By giving us charity of thought to see the situation objectively.

By giving us determination to heal it saying “If I’ve created it then it’s my duty to heal/cleanse it too!

By giving us strength and patience to tide through the tough times.

By healing the karma and redeeming us of such situation sooner than actual time and by changing the situation and attitudes of all people who were part of that ‘karmic debt’, thereby also letting us enjoy our ‘desire’ our way – though later than now.

By changing our attitude which actually was instrumental in getting into this mess in the first place”.

“Wow!”

“Oooo” were the sounds en masse as she completed her explanation. There was so much work to be done, done and we kept complaining like an adamant kid rolling on the ground asking for 3^rd ice-cream inspite of having cold!”

The last part of her explanation hit us all! We had to go through that many more times. It was huge. It was vast. We took the much needed tea-break. She left us to fend for ourselves. Boy, were we glad!

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No sooner had she sat that someone asked “so that means I should stop healing people as it would mean I am intervening in His plan as sweeper...”

I smiled. Years ago that would be me asking that senseless question. How many moved ahead didn’t matter to her or even God. They always were ‘attacked’ by such sincere students asking such profound questions. The amount of time we suffered ignorance, stupidity, arrogance seemed less when it was being suffered by her ‘forever’ thanks to the ‘new flow’ of students always adding to the already present ‘great minds’. And over and above that was the contempt received by her in exchange for all that she gave us! Boy, am I glad I am not ‘a Guru’!

“Sweeper was to not ‘act’ as per God’s command; I didn’t hear any of His such command. Did you get to see or hear Him?” she asked with a mischievous laugh. I would’ve taken that as contempt for me and asked that student to leave but she....where did she draw her patience and love from? How long did it take her to come here?

“Since we didn’t we are to follow His teachings from Gita “Do your duty and leave the fruits to me”. We are to play our roles as per ‘Dharma’ and fulfill each and every duty of ours – only rule being we shouldn’t condition the outcome but surrender it to him – not let go off our duties. Hope its clear now” she closed that session.

“But when we are angry, in pain and depression, how can we sit to heal? If we come out of it we would heal” this was one more great mind seeking answer.

“Once students complained to Guru saying “Guruji, it’s next to impossible to let go off anger. It comes in such gushes that we are swept off our balance. What do we do to control it?”

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Me, My Guru – On attachments, faith and commitments....

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Guru smiled and continued with his work. In the evening they were going around the village seeking ‘bhiksha’ (sort of charity of food sought by monks who don’t own anything and decide to pursue their life in contemplation of God!). There they saw a man holding a rope that was tied to his cow. Guru showed this scene to his disciples and asked “Who is tied to whom?”

“Of course, the cow is tied to the man” replied his students beaming with self-confidence.

“Saying “now see” Guru cut the rope that was tied to the cow. The cow ran away. The man ran behind the cow asking it to come back.

“It seemed as if cow was tied to the man by the rope. But the moment it is set free, it ran away not thinking twice of that man. The man ran after the cow which was free. So, in reality it was the man who was held by the rope. He was tied to the cow. And he didn’t even need rope to be tied to cow. He was tied to it mentally.

Like-wise, mind is like that cow. It is not tied to us. We are tied to it. The moment we let the rope fall, the mind would leave us and go. But we go behind it and get tied to it again. Every emotion, thought is the by-product of this mind to which basically we are tied to. If we let go ‘off’ the mind, what say of the emotions and feelings like anger, depression, hatred, attachments, envy, inferiority complex or fear. They are not bound to us. We have bound ourselves to them “Untie the rope and let the emotion leave you”. See it happen. If you want to be bound, well then that is a different story but if you think they are bound to you so you can’t let them go, then here is the answer, fact and solution. Take it and be free of these pain inducing and limiting you attitudes!

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Me, My Guru – On attachments, faith and commitments....

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“No, you didn’t that rich man earned his wealth by cheating people. He did not follow any ethics in his business. The amount he donated was hardly anything to the amount he has amassed. Whereas the poor man gave all that he had Rs.1/-. And he always lived within means and spent all his earnings in feeding and helping others who were in need. The money he wanted was to serve others’ needs, not to fill his treasury. That sailor is to meet death on that voyage due to storm that’s to rise in the sea. I wanted to save him and hence had planned so for his stay in the police cell so that he would miss his ship. You spoiled that too and sent him on that voyage” explained God. Now the sweeper felt ashamed and weak in knees seeing the consequence of his acts.

So you see when you see only your desires not being fulfilled, He is actually taking care of you the ‘right way’. You see only till the distance of your desire and its fulfillment. He sees beyond and all! Even when He is not working (as per your logic), He is working for you, concerned about you and loving you. There is love even in His seeming denial!”

“But what I am complaining about is that He fulfilled my desire. He knew I wouldn’t be happy ‘in this place’ and yet He brought me here. If He could see that why didn’t He stop this from happening?” complained someone.

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Me, My guru – Bhagavatam - On the lost city of Dwaraka!

 

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Me, My guru – Bhagavatam - On the lost city of Dwaraka!

In the second instance, after the war, Krishna along with Pandavas arrived at Hastinapur. All the sons of Dhritarashtra and dKunti were killed in the war. Gandhari mother of 100 was left childless. In that fit of pain and rage, she cursed Krishna “You are considered God. If it is true, then you would’ve known the outcome of this war. And yet, you let it start and then go on. You could’ve stopped the war and all the devastations of wars with a single thought. And yet, you chose not to! You could have stopped all the bloodshed. And you chose not to put your ability to good use. And that way you are responsible for the death of my 100 sons. The pain of losing 100 sons is borne by me. I curse you to bear the same pain – may your clan be completely wiped out and you be in no position to stop it. you be the witness of that destruction”.

Lord Krishna accepted the curse. Not because he deserved it, but as God, it was His Grace and unconditional love for the devotee to accept all that the devotee offers Him be it a curse even!

God can end any calamity. HE has the ability to change the course of any event. Yes, both facts are true! Yet, he chooses not to. Not because HE wants us to suffer. NO! Because HE lets the Divine Law of Karma take its course.

Each one of us sow enough to bring about our downfall!  But, when the time to bear the consequences comes, we blame the Guru or God for being insensitive. When we are arrogant enough to run our life our way, we should be man enough to bear the repercussions too! We can’t have it one way only!

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# Me My Guru series, Bhagavatam, Krishna accepts the curse, destruction of Yadavas, the lost city of Dwaraka, curse and blessings, fate and destiny, karma, as we sow so we reap, cause and effect, 

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Read https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2009/03/oh-god.html to the question "What does God do? Why can't suffering be stopped by God if He exists?

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Me, My guru – Bhagavatam - On the lost city of Dwaraka!

 

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Me, My guru – Bhagavatam - On the lost city of Dwaraka!

Now, when prosperity comes, it becomes a very conducive atmosphere for people to become complacent, avaricious, and egoistic – in short, one becomes adharmic.

“Good times are proved to have broken more people than bad times”.

It is in good times that ‘the real character’ of the person exhibits itself.

They became slaves to intoxicants and lost their hold on right and wrong. They became promiscuous. They gambled. They became headstrong, arrogant and selfish. Their character was questionable on every count.

Krishna was highly disappointed. His life’s agenda was to establish “Dharm”. Yet, his own people were not following dharm. In fact, their every word and act was filled with adharm. Krishna was instrumental in shaping their lives from scratch to this state of opulence. He had taken them to the glorious heights of opulence. And yet, when Krishna saw that his people were drunk with ego and ignorance, he knew this had to end. 

Lord Krishna knew his life agenda crystal clear. He knew war had to come to vanquish all that was ‘adharmic (unrighteous) and protect ‘dharmic’. He had to uphold “Dharm”. That meant – there was no scope for favourtism, partiality or favourite kith and kin too! He saw “Yadavas” (the clan of Krishna was called Yadavas) drunk with all that was wrong. He knew that had to go!

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# Me My Guru series, Bhagavatam, Krishna accepts the curse, destruction of Yadavas, the lost city of Dwaraka, curse and blessings, fate and destiny, karma, as we sow so we reap, cause and effect, 

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Expectations and conditions

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Expectations and conditions

Type C The sensitive and with Trust type : These have healed much more of their negative attitudes and their clarity is shinning forth in their behaviour, attitude and persona. They also expect me to write daily as they enjoy and benefit from the writings. But beyond that is their trust that I work through all odd hours to meet these demands – of writing, healing etc. That trust is not based on ‘blind belief’ or ‘stupid flattery’ or ‘blind idol worship’.  It is built over the years. They remember all the times their healing benefited them. They have followed the process and come to understand that the process works even if not understood by them. They believe in the process. They don’t condition the result anymore. They are with the process with a trust that it works in their way – whether it goes as per their plan or otherwise! And thus they trust me…….

They trust my intentions. They know they can trust my intentions for them. So, they are not being angry or sad about ‘no posts’. They are actually worried for me! Their worry is out of concern for me.  There is no ‘condition’ to fulfill their expectation of me writing the blog. So, there is trust! Where Trust is affection is present there! And where affection is present, trust is present there! They are not angry, sad or frustrated here inspite of me not fulfilling their expectations.

But in Type A – expectation is need based. They are filled with fear – because of circumstances. And their ‘demand’ is that the ‘other person removes that fear – here that person being me. And since I am not living up to that ‘condition’ they feel I have failed them. They think I am responsible for their suffering. And no doubt, hate me and are angry at me. Some cry, some shout. But both are result of not healing that ‘need’ of theirs. No doubt, you end up saying ‘I can’t trust you’ or ‘how can I trust you when you haven’t done anything to me?’

Here ‘anything’ represents ONLY the present desire which is pending.  These are the people who hush up all the ‘miracles’ or ‘wishes fulfilled’ as ‘some small small things happen but….’.

Their expectation is need based.

They have a ‘strong’ condition that their expectation should be met – always!

No doubt, they can’t trust! 

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Questions answered : 

• What stops people from trusting?
• Are there different types of expectations?
• Does the source of expectation make a difference in how we react to the result?

Points to be understood :

• Where there is fear, there is no faith or trust. 
• Where there is trust, there is no fear. 
• Trust depends upon our attitude.
• Where there is gratitude, clarity of thought, love, respect trust flows effortlessly. 
• Trust is based on past actions and experiences. Trust once gained so can't be lost. Expectations may not be met, but trust is not gone. 
• Where trust given or received is blind or emotional, it is easily broken as it is based on expectations ONLY! 

On reflections – on dog

 

On reflections – on dog

Today, I was on terrace watching the passer-byes on the road. And there – I saw the one I seemed to have come up the terrace for – the most adorable light brown pommerian dog – oh! What a beauty! I was lost in admiring its beauty for quite some time.

By the time I became conscious of myself, I found myself grinning from side to side like a teenager. My eyes tracked its movement. They followed it till it went out of my sight. And even after some time to come, I was grinning – yes grinning!!

Now I had become blind to sunset and the hues of sky.  Having received what I had come to receive, I climbed down the stairs – grinning. Now, what did you understand from all this?

I am not a dog-love – if that was your inference. Date and fact shared also can end up being interpreted to the convenience of the listener. That is the first lesson! See how your logic can give wrong assumptions even with ‘real facts’ and ‘true data’.

Now what to think of our assumptions which don’t even have support of real data and fact. And that is the ‘assumption’ we base all our logic, arguments, emotions on.

Think about it!!

Next, the tastes and likes and dislikes should reflect our preferences. They should not bind us from experience joy, love, peace, happiness, contentment or satisfaction. Our taste when stops us from seeing beauty and appreciating it, then our taste becomes our master. We become slaves to our senses. Be aware of it! be vigilant enough to not let this happen – or at least be aware when it happens.

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# emptiness, beingness, preferences, being detached, likes and dislikes, raag dwesha, freedom, choices, happiness, bondage, expectations, conditions, attachments, 

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I know the link given is a long post....take time to read it - please in the order of date please....sorry i couldn't do that for you...

the above link has more questions answered than asked...so read it....

those who are searching for answer this time will get it....those who have an answer already in their mind and are searching in my words will again go back with empty hand and expectations.....

Those who read the link will find that you had missed so many points that it had offered the first time you had read it....don't miss it this time too....

every reading will peel one more layer of the 'onion of understanding' - be with it and before long you would have peeled many layers of misunderstanding and the light of knowledge and understanding would be shining forth for you, through you and in you....

let's make that happen.....

On valuing right and its consequences!

 

On valuing right and its consequences! 

                

 

We are happy and ready to pay in cinema theatres. We spend a minimum of Rs.500/- for watching a movie which may or may not be good. We spend just 2-3 hrs there. The movie just entertains us - sometimes. Yet, we are happy spending there. And yet, when we pay a priest who has done pooja for 2-3 hrs and that benefits us for next year or more, we cringe and pay not even Rs.50/-. Why? People also go to the extent of saying “I did Pooja and spent Rs. X for that and yet didn’t get desired results?” How come no one says, “I spent Rs.500/- for just 3 hrs and yet didn’t find it good. So, my money went down the drain, right?”. No one counts his pennies when they spend on entertainment. And yet, in Pooja and healings, they hold the person responsible for the peanuts they pay. Every Pooja and healing gives results – positive only – always! But, they may not materialise the way you expected immediately. That doesn’t mean they don’t work. But, in amusements and entertainments, you lose money and also peace of mind, and yet, you are ok with it. Think about it!! What does it reflect about your value system?

To a teacher who spends an entire day teaching what do we pay? If for 2 hrs, it is 500/- then for 8 hrs and the benefit being for life, how much should it be? And yet, how much do we pay?

Paramahamsa would always say "Pay the people who do physical labour well, and you'll earn more". But do we?

ONLY a person who treats and pays right 1. the people who have knowledge 

and 2. those who do all the dirty and menial jobs of society will be rich in life. 

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# karma, indebtedness, debt, basis of karma, giving and receiving, fate and destiny, 

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