Reflections – on living the moment!

 

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Reflections – on living the moment!

So, you see, at every point in time, when we pick one, we miss out on all others. We suffer ‘what ifs’ of things and opportunities that we missed. Our greed and lust express themselves there. Don’t let them suffocate you. Don’t let them strangle you from enjoying what is within your reach. Don’t be fooled by these ‘attitudes’. They are very smart and powerful. Be aware and alert enough to catch them fooling you.

I couldn’t see all even if I wanted to! So, it is with life. We can’t live all! We can’t have all.

If we choose one profession, the pros of other profession are lost on us. When we chose our life partner, we have this nagging feeling ‘may be I’ll be more happy with the other and better one’. But no! Every person will have positive and negative traits. You may get some positive qualities that the present person/job doesn’t have, but you may also lose on the good traits that the present person/job has when you go for exchange.

So it is with house, sarees, vacations (place of vacation) etc etc…

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# living in the moment, mindfulness, awareness, beingness, now and here, life is in the present, Il dolce far niente, life, present moment, 

further on this topic: https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/07/being-still.html 

and

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2020/08/few-faqs-with-guru_17.html

Question time:

What are the 'what if's' you live with?

Are you sure that the other option that you missed living or choosing would give you 100% happiness and it would be 'pain free'? May be you will find your questions at least few of them answered in the link given:

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=the+road+not+taken 

 

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Same old, same old – Old wine in New bottle! 

One way or the other when people are driving fast and going at high speed in their career, life or karma pushes them or puts them to rest on way or the other. When the going is fast and hectic, the person is all going out! When his work outside is quite a bit done (by way of magniture)**, then the Nature decides he (the person) needs a break to recoup and reassess his priorities in life and sends signals – which like most ‘wise ones’ he overlooks.

Some like Dilip saab learn the right lesson the first time. They know how to navigate the right way and direction, the right speed and with right state of mind in the material world. They realize and accept that it is stupid to go behind ephemeral*** things of the world by burning themselves. They realize that the ‘self’ is above all! So as they chase and experience the things of life, they keep ‘themselves’ above all!

The purpose of ‘road block’ being served it doesn’t come again and such people ride the train of success for a very long time in the right frame of mind – i.e., being happy and contended inspite of being successful (Read this sentence more number of times to understand it correctly!)

 Others – well, they – they go from one pain to another!

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 # slow down, outer world, healing self

 ** By the way it doesn’t apply to people doing just daily routine 9-7 jobs. Their speed is less than 40kmph so where would there be need to slow down further. We are talking about people who are high achievers or who are high performers ONLY. Your logic will make you apply this right example in wrong place. Beware!  

 *** ephemeral – things that last for very short time, 

अषाष्वत , क्षणिक 

అశాశ్వతమైనది , క్షణికము 

(for all those reading Telugu and Hindi scripts, some days you may find typo mistakes - bear with me - if you want it corrected, then point it out and i will do the needful)

Any suggestions to improve the post content or look will be looked into and those that i can accommodate i surely will....

Questions answered :

• What is the purpose of breaks in life?
• Why do people who are adamant have more break down situations than the flexible ones?
• What is the purpose of life?

Points to be noticed and taken :

• Break can be both forced by circumstances or the self claimed one (by one who is sensible enough to see the signs)
• Lazy bones beware - Don't use this to express your laziness. Don't quote me to run away from your job or responsibilities saying 'you need a break'. Be honest! Laziness should be tackled by giving in to more work and taking more responsibilities.
• You can learn the easy way or the hard way. Choice is yours. Easy way is one where you respect the flow of seasons in life. Easy way is when you develop patience and you learn to wait and heal. Hard way is when life gives you 'jolt' painful and compulsive enough to make you let go off your adamant nature and pick up being flexible. 
• A hiatus helps you to admire and value what we have. 

Let's do some thinking : 

I didn't write for few days. And ...... the feelings, questions and demands for writing - wow....

now my question is - what does this teach you or reflect? 

When I ask for feed backs, sharing experiences, ask questions, then only couple of the regulars answer and others - you know are silent! (But we read maam, but don't like to type, don't want to type, don't find to read/type etc etc)

For not playing your part of reading daily or sharing your insight etc which hardly is for 5 mts max - you have all valid reasons and yet

yet you KNOW HOW THE OTHER PERSON IS SUPPOSED TO  act and how much to act. 

Apply this in every aspect or atleast the aspect of life where there is some tension. Maybe, you are sure of how others should give and when, how much to give to you, but when it comes to playing your part in that relationship you are escaping with the excuses many times by way of blaming the other!

Take a pause and do some honest internal check. May be it's time we change the dynamics of our relationship by changing the way we demand from it and the way we function in it!

Me, my Guru – fish and the ascetic

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Me, my Guru – fish and the ascetic 

Monk had bought fisherman’s logic!

Next day, as he was going about his morning chore he thought about his promise that he made to fisherman of catching fish for him. Even before going to sleep he recollected his promise. He made a mental review of catching those fish. As he was walking towards the lake he saw himself catching fish and putting in fisherman’s bag. He was happy with the picture of bag full of fish he had helped fisherman catch.

When he reached the lake, he saw those fish that he was so used to seeing every day – all these years. He knew it was child’s play to catch those fish today for him! He stepped into the lake. All the fish suddenly swam away! He didn’t notice that though. He got into the water waist high and waited for fish to come near him. Not one fish came near him – today! He was surprised! A little later he tried chasing and catching them. He failed miserably after several attempts too! Now, he got irritated. He swam towards fish to catch them. Yet, he failed – every time. Sometime passed! He became tired. And angry! He felt he had lost his face to the fisherman who believed him. He did all that he could to catch fish. He couldn’t catch even one fish. 

Fisherman was seeing all this standing on the shore. He saw his plan fall flat on the face. He got dejected. He assumed that he had unnecessarily given credit to this monk. He was useless. So he left without saying a word.

Monk saw the fisherman leave. He felt like a failure. He was both confused and angry at these fish. He didn’t understand what went wrong today! Finally, as day came to an end, he left towards his hut. 

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# intention, desire, lust and love, law of attraction, dharma and adharma, fish and the ascetic in the pond story

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=people+we+meet+in+our+life

Pointer in this and previous posts : 

* See the language of the fisherman like "blessed one/great one/ seek your blessings..." etc in the previous post and the present one - it reflects the language of a flatterer - one who desires to get his 'wrong' and 'adharmic' desires to be performed by the other.......sweet talk doesn't mean you respect the person from whom you seek or expect some favour.....sweet talk talks and reflects who you are.........your intention becomes evident in your language and the way you use it.....many times people use words like 'great guru' or 'you are great' just to please the other......don't fall for it.........and don't use it too......work on that need to please others. It comes from the centre which knows the favour we seek is unethical or our character is at flaw. Instead, work on character, look within, meditate, know your areas you are ashamed of, address it, work on it, heal it and become free from wanting to please or flatter others......

*When even the fish gets to know the intent of a person, what to say of the Universe and humans? Think! 

*" Monk felt like a failure" - not being able to fulfill someone's lustful desires doesn't mean we have failed. It reflects who the other person is and what his intentions are! It doesn't reflect who you are! Don't stoop to please the 'wrong desires' of a wrong person......

*Meditate to know what your duties and responsibilities are and only then you will know what is right and what is wrong.....

Thanks through sadhan........

Make a list of people giving you essential services and keep it ready for weekend sadhan - 

milkman,

paper boy

veg. vendor

grocery vendor

cab drivers

auto and public transport men

telephone services

beauty salons

EB

watchman

liftmen

barbers

road sweepers

rag pickers....

you add the ones i left out.......

Miracle of the day : 

I could write even today!

That means -

- there still is body mind coordination

-my hand can still hold a pen

-my mind still can think coherently

- my hand still is capable of typing in the computer

-my eyes working 

-i can still sit to be able to do all this

- i can still write 

- even after 10-12 years of writing this blog, i have still something worth a dime to say and write (and excuse people give to blabber is 'but we have to talk with others something know maam, otherwise it is against social norm' - this shows we can talk for years and still be talking within the framework of something useful, productive, something insightful - all this and yet entertaining and in simple story form!!!)

- so many pointers that i am blessed - that too when only one act of the day is taken into consideration. Can you take 15mts from today till sunday to write down in your journal all the things you still have and you can feel blessed about? Even things and people you take for granted like - my mom is there but that tho everyone's is...ask people who have lost their near ones to time......having someone in your life is not something that you can take for granted.....

i have miracles to share, do you?

Dharma in work

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Dharma in work

If you are tired of your job, need a break, complain about boss, pay etc look within and find out what is missing in that. Missing not by way of returns in job! But in the way you relate with your job.

Till you bring that in yourself and in your job, know your pain and suffering with relation to finance, career, satisfaction, growth in career, happiness in job will not go away!

Take time to know your job and yourself a little. Little time taken to do this will give you a life of success, happiness, joy and abundance. Not a bad deal indeed, I would say!

Remember – there are 10s of people waiting outside to fill your shoes the moment you resign. So you NEED the job more than the job needs you!  I know it hurts – but that is the hard Truth!

One who needs can’t complain. Know that! One who is needy can’t demand or talk about injustice meted on him.

So, is there is no respite from this?

For every problem there is a solution if you look in the right place. There is one for this too. Make yourself indispensable. Make yourself so good in your work and art that Co’s come looking for you. Then you can rate yourself your way!

In short, excellence is ‘dharma’. And it is this ‘dharma’ that makes you most sought after. And that is the road to success. Protect ‘Dharma’ – it’ll in turn protect you!

The best thing about ‘Dharma’ in work is it can be applied in every station and role of your life!

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# finance, work and worship, dharma, ethics in work, excellence and being good, being good wherever you are placed, being purposeful in life, purpose of life, creation of something useful to others

also read : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=osen

Yesterday's miracle : Moon seems to be smiling a lot since couple of days.....he seems more brilliant and happy than ever before...may be he's come closer to his friend Earth or may be he's seen something that's pleasing to him.......

Seeing him smile made me smile too.........He was at peace and seeing him so I became peaceful. All said and done about life and its complications, ups and downs just a look at his face - and wow! everything seems worthwhile.......

appreciate him for being there - for me!

appreciate the Creator for creating him!

appreciate the Sun for giving him light to shine!

appreciate my eyes for being able to see him!

appreciate him for being there - for me!

How to understand blog and Me, My Guru series especially

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How to understand blog and Me, My Guru series especially

I can tell how and where you are faltering, tripping, going wrong as and when it comes to my notice. I can tell where you are heading with your present state of mind. Whether to abide by the suggestions or not would be your choice – as always! I can stay with you as you make this difficult, hurting and yet fulfilling journey within! I can cheer you along! I can be patiently waiting when you choose to take a break!

And I can let go of you when you decide you don’t want to walk this path and instead only collect the materials of this world with reiki taught to you! If your desire, expectation is something away from this, I can’t be of any use to you in any way! Instead of staying here and getting angry and hurt for not having your expectation met, I suggest let’s part as friends. Move on!  *

Go to a master who can live up to your expectation – whatever that is! I am not a one-stop shop that fulfills everyone’s expectations. So go wherever your desire takes you! If possible, go without malice in your heart – for that would only be harming you in the long run.

Au revoir! And good luck on your journey wherever it takes you or with whom so ever you wish to continue it with!

This is just a pointer on how to understand this blog especially Me, My guru series. Hope it proves useful to you!

Concluded........

*This is the answer to your question as to why some masters and grandmasters and their students are no more in touch with me.

# choices, expectations, desires, wants, hope, destiny, failure, road taken, 

also read : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=on+taking+decisions

also read this beautiful urdu couplet on expectations : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=if+your+eyes+shed+tears+wipe+it+yourself  

Statements addressed :

• "I hate to heal everytime i need to address some issue in my life. I hate it that I have to heal so much. I don't like healing so many issues in my life." - and related statements, opinions and choices

Points to take home :

• See everything in blog as your solution to your problem as it is written only for that!
• You applying it in your life or not is a choice you have. But the solution is given - the final way the moment crisis or difficulty arises in your life. Every time you raise a question it is addressed. Answers are not what you desire them to be. They are what they ought to be! Take it or leave them is your choice. But they remain the same - for one and all!
• One who sees it as and when he does will sit to heal!
• One who tries to understand with 'limited and twisted logic and reasoning' will suffer till he gets bored and tired of suffering.
• This life or after 100 kalpas (in each kalpa we have multiple pralayas (end times like now pandemic) ) the final solution is always to go within and correct what ever is going wrong there.
• To address our inner nature is all it takes to correct the issues that it reflects in our outer world!

Today's HW :

Go through one of the previous Me, My Guru post and read it with this new understanding. See if you are able to understand it better now! See if it relates with you problem now!