Me, my Guru – on choosing love

 

Me, my Guru – on choosing love

“Guruji, it is impossible to love my spouse. He has so many flaws” blurted out Swathi. She came up with many instances which supported her statement. And our Guru listened. When she was done, our Guru asked her “Most peoples’ favourite flower is the rose. Is it yours too?”

“Yes, Guruji” replied Swathi confused.

“A rose is a single flower and it is full of thorns and many ones too! It hurts you every time you pick it, yet you love it and admire it.  Similarly, a person may have many flaws. You can still choose to love him if you look only at the ‘flower aspect’ of his personality – meaning his good traits. Instead of finding, remembering, and recollecting his negative traits, look, appreciate and validate his positive points/traits. Then decide what to do” replied our Guru.

Our Guru continued “In every person and situation there are good and bad traits. Where and what you look at becomes the deciding factor of your emotion and feeling. Choose wisely and you are happy in any relationship. Otherwise, people find fault with Rama, Krishna and Buddha. Do you think they would leave ordinary mortals like you and me? Any fool can find fault. Only fools find fault! It is the sensible who find a reason to love or some good in every person. “Buddha will see Buddha even in a thief” remember that”. 

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# on love, imperfections, on relationships, perception, 

also read on similar topic : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Me%2C+My+Guru+%E2%80%93+on+keeping+count+in+love 

The above link must have been read by you a few times before and yet I implore you to do it again - once more! Please see the date and read in sequence....I am sure all those who have been healing themselves regularly with various techniques would find this post more beneficial than the previous time. Your so many questions would be answered and do share your understanding with others. When you write your understanding it is possible someone may end up having or getting a different perspective from theirs and that may open up a totally different way of thinking for them....

Questions answered and points addressed :

• Why we are not able to love the people in our lives?
• What to do to live relationships happily?
• How to be happy in any relationship?
• What do people happy in their relationship do that makes them happy in their relationships?
• If only "people who are 100% good are to be loved or can be loved" then does it not apply to us too?
• A little shift in perception can make a huge shift in our emotions.
• The question is not whether the other is eligible to be loved or not. It is whether you chose to love or not!