Impermanence..........

Nothing stays for ever..........Change is the only thing certain about the entire Universe.......the whole Universe is in the eternal influx of change.....that is not the problem....the problem is that we are searching for security and permanence in the things of impermanence i.e., of this world! the source of pain lies there.............

know this, accept this and the source of pain is completely erased from our lives.........

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For various reasons, I am not able to write as regularly as I wish.  Please bear with me! What compels me to take or rather squeeze time to write is your involvement that I know through your comments.

The days I don’t post, please go through the previous posts (already told umpteen times) to refresh your memory about other topics which will help you to apply this knowledge in your life and benefit more.  Otherwise this would just be a good read which hasn’t got converted into your way of life. Then, our whole exercise goes waste…….

As some of you wanted to share it in FB and other social networking sites, I’ve added such gadgets (near comments section) for your convenience to do so………

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Vaibhav, I just used your comments to explain what I had to explain since long.  If I got stuck at “thank-you maam” of yours, I would certainly feel happy, contended and on cloud nine but the purpose as to why I am in this place would be lost.  I didn’t and am not here to receive praises for self (not that I don’t want /expect them!!!).  but I am here to help you find your happiness and show you the blocks that’s stopping happiness find it’s way to your heart.

Thanks beta, such comments benefit me two way.  One, it helps me to explain a long pending explanation and two boosts my confidence and adds impetus to my desire to write more.  I feel “chalo koi tho padh ke kuch tho benefit paa raha hai….my life doesn’t seem all that wasted…” so thanks beta. This way I can explain what you need. Otherwise, it’s like I am vomitting all that I want to – that’sno good – right? So, feel free to raise doubts/post comments to help me help you better and connect with you the right way – this is for one and all!!

(yes, those of you who benefitted from this blog can thank Vaibhav for it and you can post your thanks to him in the comments section too!)

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Yes, as Vaibhav said it is a great statement but don’t stop there.  It is the mantra that ought to be applied in your everyday life situations – well I’ll not reveal the benefits, I expect you to come back with your experiences………

But, I can give one example for application.  Imagine for example a person tests your patience by being rude, taunting you or creating trouble for you. (This applies only to such of people who are in our family/friends and who are troubling in a not so dangerous way. I mean this doesn’t apply to stalkers, people who tease or harass others – them handle harshly and take stern action against them the first time it self!). if someone is going on belittling you or insulting you then, show his mistakes/flaws but with the smile on your face and love in your heart.  If you can’t generate love at least see that you don’t do it to insult him. Put forth your argument but without vehemence. Cut him to his size (when nothing soft works) but without enjoying the pleasure of hurting him….

Hope I am clear…..any doubt, please feel free to question me!   

        

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For eg. a mother beats her son when he swallows something dangerous like marble/coin, the boy cries and vomits the marble.  The healing is out of love and not out of anger.

If the child fails, she swears at him, why even beats him – it is to make a man out of him.  This is to ensure that he gives his best. It is for his good.

But, I find people using this statement and example very conveniently  to their purpose. Like they are angry that their child /spouse/someone doesn’t listen to them (agree to what they say or do as per their request!) and hit them with anger/hatred and very nicely use this statement to hide their real intentions and to project it as an act of love.  They can fool some people with this statement but not the universe.  They’ll bear the consequence of their actions. And I’ve seen of late that since it is end times, its happening sooner than later.  So beware! Don’t fool others and most importantly yourself.

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Vaibhav also said in his comment “…..Krishna said to Arjuna ‘kill but with love’..”.  many have told me that they are following it……! I would like to clarify that statement here. Whenever we read, hear or see something we interpret it to suit our sense of purpose and lose out on the actual meaning.  The damage – we follow the “wrong thinking” that ‘we are right’ and the next is we quote others and scriptures to paint our wrongs as rights! The danger is we go on living as the same wrong committed person and then complain and are confused why inspite of being ‘right’ (so called) are suffering and why events are not unfolding the proper way (as per our defination!)

What is the actual meaning of this statement then? It simply means “hate the sin and not the sinner”.  When a person hurts us, we are angry with the person and talk about his flaws, pinpoint his drawbacks and hurt him to avenge our hur/pain.  But this is “Adharma”.  This will keep the wheel of karma going on as the other person will also retaliate.  We are bound to our karma not because we commit one but because of our emotions, our expectations and our sense of achievement and loss with regards to our actions.  Does it mean we’ve to let go of the people when they wrong us? No. but not out of vengeance should we act! We should teach them a lesson so that they understand their worng/mistake and also for them to realize their mistake.  We can also take steps to teach a lesson to the person who is wrong so that he doesnot perpetuate it again. If we keep mum, he’ll become more arrogant and will commit the wrong – a bigger one this time! So, to check that we should take stpes.  So, then the steps we take will be out of love for that person. It’ll be for the good of that person.  Not to hurt him. Not out of anger. Not out of hatred.

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