On disturbances in life and their place in our life

 

On disturbances in life and their place in our life

So long as an animal is petted, he reacts nicely. But the moment he is antagonized he rebels. The whole violence in his nature comes forth.

So it is with man. As long as things go smooth, he assumes he is happy. The moment one of his family member behaves against his taste or like he is disturbed. In case of external disturbance like loss of finance or job, pandemic or any such event, man will find himself shaken up. His balance is found lost. He struggles due to these disturbances of life. And they in turn bring out fear, pain, confusion and anger in him. It is then that some men realize that they are disturbed not because of ‘the facts of life’ but because of the conditioning. 

Yes, we condition everything in life. Look at yourself. Look around you. Everything about you is conditioned. You have conditions for everything and everyone in our life. For eg: we condition – a. how our children are to behave, talk, walk, read, eat and even achieve in life.

‘We want our children to be genius’! say many. We want!(Stress is on WE WANT). We treat them as if they were our puppets/dolls and are to behave as we please. We don’t see them as ‘individuals’. Our complaint with our parents was that they controlled us and our lives. We are no better with our kids. Isn’t it?

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# everything happens for good, ups and downs of life, challenges of life, facts of life, life, good and bad times, failure and success, pain and suffering, disturbances of life

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Whatever+happens+happens+for+good%21 

Questions addressed and points to note :

• What is with disturbances in life that causes fear, pain, anger and anxiety in us?
• How to use disturbances to our benefit in life?
• Disturbance is not caused by the happenings of our life, they are the result of conditions we lay upon the happenings of life.
• We define our life and expect it to go as per the script we have in mind. But life happens on its own.
  
• Every life has struggles, challenges, problems. It's your state of mind that decides how you face them.
• You can never ever expect or have a life without any disturbance in it. That is the fact of life! (Yes, even cursing God/Guru is not going to make it go away!)
  
• Reiki quota doesn't make life easier. It only gives you strength to face the inevitable. It makes you sensible enough to see a solution where you think you have a problem. It opens you to express the beauty of life in all its colours. It aids you to taste various emotions of life with wonderment and a sense of joy and balance. It sends help in the form of people when the situation seems unbearable or when you seem stuck with an issue in life.

Covid Challenge :

I am sure you all are still up with Covid challenge. Don't get to old habit of laziness. Keep working on your physical well-being. Not because your body is the most important thing. No, because with healthy body it is easy to maintain healthy outlook on life. Clarity of thought comes easy in a healthy body. You'll be able to fulfill your life agenda with a healthier life style than with a unhealthy one!

Why is life painful?

 

Why is life painful?

Toxins in body creates disease.

Toxins in mind causes misunderstanding.

Be a student of life. Be available to learn and experience life. Stop expecting and conditioning life, as this is the very cause that causes toxins in our body and mind.

Embrace life for what it offers. Flow with life. Then life seems both beautiful and fulfilling not to forget relaxing. So, every time stress builds, ask yourself “Am I a student of life” or “Am I trying to control life?”

You are very smart people. The answer will tell you the next course of action you need to take in your life.

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# on life, is life painful, when life is beautiful, life is a game play it, 

life is beautiful, on controlling life, expectations and conditions,

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Life+is+a+voyage+and+not+a+destination 

Question time :

So, think and answer - is life pain or joyful?

What is life?

Why is life so painful?

When is life painful and stressful?

Why are some so happy and most suffering?

Me, My Guru - On life and death – III!

 

Me, My Guru - On life and death – III!

“Every death brings some understanding with it. When it comes, it makes me sit up and look at life more closely. Yes, death is one aspect of life that teaches us about ourselves, our values, our belief systems and about life itself! Doesn’t it sound like a paradox? But then, that’s the irony of life and death!!!

Many can’t even can imagine death talking or teaching about life??!! That is because, most of us are taught ‘not to talk about death’. With no talk, we don’t even think about death. Now, more than before we are seeing death visiting our near and dear ones right and left and yet – we push it away or keep it aside. We don’t dare to look at it. We don’t have courage or inquisitiveness to look into its eye and understand it!

From the beginning we are programmed to think of death as ‘something bad, ominous and sinister’.

1.We assume it happens to others and that it won’t happen to us.

2.We assume ‘death’ to be the end of ‘life’.

3.We assume ‘death’ to be the end of ‘life’.

4.We say, feel and think death is opposite of life.

I request all of you to take time to sit and meditate on death. Only a person who meditates on death can live life fearlessly! Only an understanding of death will make it possible for us to embrace life for all it offers.

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# life and death, living life, make moments count, long life, meaningful life, full of life, life, death, problems and solutions, inevitable and how to face them, suffering is optional, 

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/10/on-life-and-death-i.html 

and

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/10/on-life-and-death-i_01916792057.html 

Life is a Voyage not a destination.....

Life is a voyage and not a destination

Before going any further on to know how to deal with anger, let’s first understand what constitutes anger and why we get angry. After all, knowing the problem is half as good as solving it. Let’s look at the results of being angry.

· We lose clarity of thought. Instead of solving the problem we become the problem. Many times, the solution is right under our nose, but we tend to overlook it because we are angry. If there is an issue which you would like to change, then be calm first. Only a calm mind can be reactive oriented and not get blown over by the situation.

· We lose the person, many times for ever – if not physically, then mentally a dent is made in a relationship which takes many years to heal – sometimes life times to heal.

· We end up saying things we never meant – then end up wasting our entire life justifying and explaining that episode.

· A chemical reaction takes place that generates strong acids in our system that burn our digestive lining thereby causing ulcers and other digestive related diseases in the long run.

· Acidity is the by-product of the anger. So, is BP and hyper-tension.

Now, you come up with other reasons as to not to be angry…..

Now, let’s look at things or reasons for which one gets angry:

· People in our life are the main reason.
· We are not happy the way things are going on in our life.

· Any other reason ? Tell me, then I will continue with this topic …..
1. We are not happy the way things are going on in our life: The main reason for this reason to be the causative factor is that we don’t look at the reason from the right angle. Each of us, many times is hurrying away the life. And in this hurry, delays and stop-gaps irritate us because we presume they’ll cause us to reach the destination late. And mind you, we don’t even know which destination we are going towards.

But Life is a voyage not a destination. We convince ourselves that life will be better once we are married, have a baby, then another.

Then we get frustrated because our children are not old enough and we hope that all will be well when they are older but even then it never seems to happen that way.

Then we are frustrated because they reach adolescence and we must deal with them. Surely we’ll be happier when they grow out of the teens.

We tell ourselves our life will be better when our spouse get his/her act together, when we have a better car, we can take a vacation, when we finally retire.

The truth is that there is no better time to be happy than right now!

Our life will always be full of challenges. It is better to admit as much and to decide to be happy in spite of all.

For the longest time, it seemed that life was about to start. Real life!
But there was always some obstacle along the way, an ordeal to get through, some work to be finished, some time to be given, and some bill to be paid. Then life would start.

We see Life’s challenges as Problems not as challenges. If only we could call them as Puzzles to be solved and not as Problems, may be we would be less angry with the situations in Life. Everyone fails to understand that those obstacles were life.

That point of view will help everyone see that there isn’t anything worth worrying - only issues that need planning and action as and when time demands. All roads lead to happiness. Because, Happiness IS the road! With this awareness, anger is dropped automatically, when situations are not “conducive” as per our expectations.

So, enjoy every moment. Happiness is a voyage; not a destination! There is no better time to be happier than…Now!

revathi

Purpose of life

Purpose of life

Trees grow and flowers bloom.

Animals eat, fight and procreate.

Fire burns and air moves.

Animate, inanimate everything has a purpose for their existence and they exhibit it through their existence and nature.

Man is the only animal without a fixed nature and purpose.

And man is the only one who can complete his life without a valid purpose.

There are two ways to bring purpose in life.

One is to search and find out the purpose of one’s life. This is very long, tedious and boring job (as per the crowd).

The second is YOU give the purpose to life. You decide how you wish to express ‘yourself’ through the life you lead. This is easy. Just think about it. Move away from your life and see your life. Now, think how do you want your life to be seen as? What do you want your life to reflect? But, to do this, first do let-go meditation. If you are not my student, then close your eyes and relax completely – relax your entire body.  Then when you are totally calm and relaxed, then visualize yourself away from your life and then see how you wish it to appear. That can be made purpose for the same.

Getting married, having children, getting job, house are events of life. They can’t be the purpose of life. If this is all there is as ‘purpose of life’ then ‘being successful and happy’ I am sorry can be next to impossible job.

Wishing you know purpose of your life……… and those of you who know your purpose of life please share it with us…..it would help us to know how the purpose of life looks like……

Me, My Guru - On life and death – III!

 

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Me, My Guru - On life and death – III!

3.Don’t wait to share your affection, thoughts (right ones), time, gifts with the person you care about. You never know when you have to say ‘goodbye’ to people in your life. When we lose a person then we sit and regret and miss that person. Don’t be that fool any longer. Just live relationships for what and how they are meant to be like! Throw that list of complaints, to-do-list and fault-finding nature out of the window. Go, live life with that person. We miss out on ‘living a relationship’ (when I say relationship I don’t mean just the one that all want to or have with the ‘special one!?’ but every relationship that constitutes our world) by way of complaints and then pray “God, give me long life” Why? Whatever you are doing now, you are going to do till 100!?

What is the purpose of carrying this bitterness till ripe old age? We are waiting for that ‘special person’ to come. We are wishing for person ‘now’ in our life to vanish from our lives. We are assuming to live life happily in our imagination. There in our imagination we have all our conditions met. But, that day, sadly is never gonna come. So, in short we are never gonna be happy. Then why live life so long? 

4.People who sit to discuss, analyse and trying to understand hardly go from point A to B. But, the one – the one like that students’ sister – the moment they hear about someone being in some sadhan would follow suit. They don’t sit to gauge its uses, benefits or understand it’s working. That is ‘love’ (love for self) that drives you to pick up something even without reasoning about it. That is ‘trust’ that drives a person to reach great heights of growth through a simple procedure followed. The quality required for this is purity of intent, trust and surrenderence!

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# life and death, living life, make moments count, long life, meaningful life, full of life, life, death, problems and solutions, inevitable and how to face them, suffering is optional, 

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2009/03/real-growth-is-in-letting-go.html 

Points to understand post :

"the moment they hear about someone being in some sadhan would follow suit." - 1.Most common excuse for not coming to class or doing sadhan is "I don't have company" or "I am waiting for XYZ to get time so that we would come together"

Do everything in life together. But we are born alone and die alone. We also have to fight our inner demons alone! Don't wait for others to come with  you. ONLY in this area of life, be totally selfish. Ask others to come with you, encourage others to work with you and come with you. But if they don't, don't wait for them. It's your time and life you are wasting. Think about it! 

2.The sister of the monk did not postpone being in sadhan. She didn't say "But Buddha is dying. I will learn at my pace and at my sweet convenience." We all assume we have time. WE DON'T. Don't fret it away with lame excuses. Sadhan, sadhan nothing like sadhan! 

Grab every opportunity to fine tune yourself! Every step taken towards knowing your inner thoughts takes you towards your real self - the core of your being - the centre of abundance of every kind! 

When  you come to class, you not only heal yourself but with your 'healed self' you are better company to the one you are/have been waiting for. Isn't it? A person when he heals himself, makes atmosphere good and comfortable to all with whom he is interacting, living and being in relation with! Then is it not sensible to come alone rather than not come alone to class?

Do you stop sleeping, eating, travelling or enjoying life just because that 'someone' is not there with you? Then why that reason for sadhan and for coming to class?

Question time :

The points explained doesn't sum up all the points that can be understood through this post. There is lot more to it than that meets the eye!

All the students understanding doesn't sum up all that needs to be understood from the story that the Guru told. What is your take on that story?

How did this post make its mark?

What did you take from this post?

Start living today

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Start living today.........

It was so with school/ college and any and every other phase of my life!

I’ve two options available:

1.     To go on living, complaining and suffering the same way for the rest of my life.

2.     Accept my nature to be at fault. Accept that I don’t have a problem. I am the problem! Stop blaming, accusing, hating, calling names, abusing Reiki, master, Universal laws and God and start first living the life the right way from now on. Stop complaining about everything and everyone!

Start looking at good things instead of only ‘few flaws’ (so called) in life!

As I work on my goals and desires, I should also celebrate what I already have in life! We usually take what we have with us for granted. We are so involved in possessing, hoarding and chasing things and people in life that we don’t take time to be with them. Life is not getting things and people! Life is about being with them. Life is about living.

I have board games at home that we hardly put to use. Instead we complain about ‘bad content’ on TV and still keep watching it. Can’t we put it to rest and go on to playing games with our family and friends. Where are those days gone?

We have parks in our vicinity/ colony/ neighbourhood that we hardly visit. And yet complain of being unable to take vacation in some hill station?! Even if you go to the park, it is just to do “rounds” of walk and rush back home. Walking is also done either gossiping or listening to phones. Some great souls watch videos as they walk! Walk as if that is the only thing worth doing for the day! Enjoy your walk! Be with yourself in that walk of your day! Connect with your self during walk! If you can't and don't want to be with self, why would someone else be happy being with you?


Wow!

How much time did I spend per day with the little ones at home playing, listening to their dreams, imaginations etc? Do we have family time that doesn’t involve just ‘what to cook tomorrow’ or ‘when to leave for that family function’ type of questions? We already have family that we don’t spend fun-time with and yet complain that we want love; a partner in life!

If you can’t love the people already in your life, are not happy with ones you spend time with now, then no new friends/ job/ partner can give that love/ joy in your life!

So on and so forth…

I need to start living and living today! Yes, I need to stop day dreaming and hoping to live in the future. I need to live today! I need to start living instead of chasing things and people I need….I need to live! 

Isn't it an irony that 'today' I want to do few of these things like going to park etc and I can't because of social distancing and lockdown?

But still the good news is there are few things which still are within my reach like spending time with family etc and I have been blessed with time and opportunity to experience the same. My wish has come true! This wish has also come true like many others earlier........

Can I trust that other wishes too would come true like this?

Concluded....... 

# living in the moment, challenges of life, art of living, living and existing, hoarding and experiencing life, happiness, mindfulness, 

Previous posts on the topic : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=little+joys+of+life 

Food for thought : 

• If you look at things for which you can be happy and grateful, you'll find 24hrs a day to be much lesser time to count them.......
• Dreams, goals, desires are to be worked for. They are to be chased. They propel us to get up and work. But their fulfillment or possessing can't be the condition for our happiness!
• Happiness is the 'state of being'. It doesn't need anything external to validate it or experience it.
• Sense of achievement comes from external possessions and getting things and wish being fulfilled. 
• Happiness and sense of achievement are two totally different things.
• They are not a 'single package'. 

Life tip: 

Can you describe three people closest to you in a word or a sentence?

I know a person and the best way to describe him would be  "....and he gave a damn!" 

Other person I know would be "she lived life to the fullest on her terms!"

One woman would be "She lived for others"

So you get the picture, now do it!