On disturbances in life and their place in our life

 

On disturbances in life and their place in our life

So long as an animal is petted, he reacts nicely. But the moment he is antagonized he rebels. The whole violence in his nature comes forth.

So it is with man. As long as things go smooth, he assumes he is happy. The moment one of his family member behaves against his taste or like he is disturbed. In case of external disturbance like loss of finance or job, pandemic or any such event, man will find himself shaken up. His balance is found lost. He struggles due to these disturbances of life. And they in turn bring out fear, pain, confusion and anger in him. It is then that some men realize that they are disturbed not because of ‘the facts of life’ but because of the conditioning. 

Yes, we condition everything in life. Look at yourself. Look around you. Everything about you is conditioned. You have conditions for everything and everyone in our life. For eg: we condition – a. how our children are to behave, talk, walk, read, eat and even achieve in life.

‘We want our children to be genius’! say many. We want!(Stress is on WE WANT). We treat them as if they were our puppets/dolls and are to behave as we please. We don’t see them as ‘individuals’. Our complaint with our parents was that they controlled us and our lives. We are no better with our kids. Isn’t it?

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# everything happens for good, ups and downs of life, challenges of life, facts of life, life, good and bad times, failure and success, pain and suffering, disturbances of life

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Questions addressed and points to note :

• What is with disturbances in life that causes fear, pain, anger and anxiety in us?
• How to use disturbances to our benefit in life?
• Disturbance is not caused by the happenings of our life, they are the result of conditions we lay upon the happenings of life.
• We define our life and expect it to go as per the script we have in mind. But life happens on its own.
  
• Every life has struggles, challenges, problems. It's your state of mind that decides how you face them.
• You can never ever expect or have a life without any disturbance in it. That is the fact of life! (Yes, even cursing God/Guru is not going to make it go away!)
  
• Reiki quota doesn't make life easier. It only gives you strength to face the inevitable. It makes you sensible enough to see a solution where you think you have a problem. It opens you to express the beauty of life in all its colours. It aids you to taste various emotions of life with wonderment and a sense of joy and balance. It sends help in the form of people when the situation seems unbearable or when you seem stuck with an issue in life.

Covid Challenge :

I am sure you all are still up with Covid challenge. Don't get to old habit of laziness. Keep working on your physical well-being. Not because your body is the most important thing. No, because with healthy body it is easy to maintain healthy outlook on life. Clarity of thought comes easy in a healthy body. You'll be able to fulfill your life agenda with a healthier life style than with a unhealthy one!

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On disturbances in life and their place in our life

A little disturbance in these conditions causes anger, frustrations, fear, pain and suffering in our life. And these feelings are our ‘indicators’ that ‘something’ is wrong with us’. They let us become aware of ourselves and seek to find the cause of our disturbance. In the process, we'll eventually seek our centre. We gain stability and strength. That is all there is to life and relationships in our life.

So you see any disturbance – be it in relationship, economic or socio-political is only to make us aware of our ‘conditions’ which are wrongly placed. With every awareness, comes little correction and bye and by we gain our ‘balance’

This disturbance can also come in the form of pandemic or death if we don’t make necessary corrections with little disturbances in our life! When you call out to someone and he doesn’t listen, don’t you yell at him or make a loud noise to gain his attention. Universe does it too. And then we end up asking ‘but why should God punish us?’ Questions itself is stupid so can’t be answered. This is not God punishing (as if He has no other work!?). It is the Law of the Universe. When you don’t listen to little noises, it yells at you! That’s all!

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# everything happens for good, ups and downs of life, challenges of life, facts of life, life, good and bad times, failure and success, pain and suffering, disturbances of life 

Points worth remembering :

• Disturbance in normal routine life is not a curse. Every thing that goes up has to come down. So it is with events of life. Good times are up. So comes down, the tough times after good times. They come and go in circles. That is the nature of life. Time changes for all. It has to. 
  
• So to avoid being in pain is not to seek 'avoidable situations and people' in life. But to learn to live with them with right mind set. Situations don't make or break us. Our conditional mindset breaks us down. So train the mind to be balanced at all times. And before long every situation becomes beneficial one way or the other.
  
• We can't understand 'why' things go awry when they go. We can understand them only when we look back in time. We can understand our blessings of the past. So let us with faith know that whatever happens happens for good. If you are in sadhan and have done reiki for something, however it turns it is for good! Believe this and see fear, anger, frustration, pain, tension fizzle away for good!

Clarity of thought tip :

Lock down is removed. That doesn't mean everything is fine. The covid is still there. It would be stupid to travel out of boredom even to holy places as such times. Don't give yourself excuses of 'seeing God' and put yourself and others in danger. "I did reiki shield maam" is a stupid statement when simply we can sit at home and be safe. Look within to understand the emptiness that is driving you to take stupid risks in the name of 'seeing God' and 'visiting God'. 

And then you say 'felt bad and sad that my 'X' fell sick and suffered due to Covid. Did reiki but...' If you really don't want to fall sick then don't do window shopping or do vacation trips now. Avoid crowds at all costs. 

Due we really need to do shopping or go out to eat at such times? Think twice before justifying your actions!?

If you really want to experience God or silence, just disconnect with the outer world via whatsapp or other apps and go within. Connect yourself the old way. Listen to music. Sing along! Play in door games. Draw. Paint. Cook and feel the breeze on your face. You won't reach land of 'peace' by running away from here!

My wow moment - yesterday - I listened to my favourite songs ....rain as the back drop - it was wow! 

I hadn't felt so happy since long.......so it was doubly grateful and wow moment........

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In the process we miss out on their growing up. We stunt their growth. Yes, in the name of expectations, our dreams and conditions, we don’t let them express themselves right. Our kid is not a trophy that we need to show the world. 

Let us bring up a confident kid. Give him freedom and trust him with decisions. It is easy to make life comfortable for our kids. Instead make him strong enough to face life's ups and downs with calm. 

Let him be ‘best version of himself’. Every child can’t be Abdul Kalam (Scientist and former President of India), Pandit Ravi Shanker (World renowned Sitarist) or a Shakuntala Devi (Maths genius). But every child can be best version of himself.

Give atmosphere conducive for that expression. Don’t rush him into growing. Don’t force him to be what you desire him to be – ‘a genius’. Just let him express himself!

Look into every relationship and the way we deal with it. Look into how we define them. See what we expect out of every relationship. Then you’ll see ‘the condition’ that rules our relationship.

All these conditions are our ‘sensitive spots’. A little jolt in these areas and we go mad! Just look into it. Meditate on it. Look within. Look around. The problem is not with or people and events in our life. The problem is the way our ‘conditions’ rule our life.

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# everything happens for good, ups and downs of life, challenges of life, facts of life, life, good and bad times, failure and success, pain and suffering, disturbances of life

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Questions addressed and points to be noted :

• What are the conditions we place on our kids?
• What is the effect of those conditions on our kids and our expectations?
• Look into conditions in every relationship and the way we express our conditions in every dealing of our life/
• Heal the conditions and become peaceful.
• Free yourself of the conditions and see the abundance of energy that you experience with that freedom. Now you are rich with more energy to focus it to chase your dreams and desires of this world too!
• Conditions rob us of our energy. They cripple us with fear, pain, worry and anger. By healing conditions and becoming free of it, you are unplugging those areas from which your energy, enthusiasm, zest for life, happiness and love are getting dissipated from you and your life.

Spiritual Tip :

For next 11 days, share one 'wow' experience in the blog. It can be as simple as 'saw a butterfly/sunset', played with kid/pet, listened to a song, took a long walk etc. Spend time with nature, near and dear one or with oneself. Just relax for at least 15mts and see. 

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We want them to make us proud and are so busy investing our energies in the name of correcting them and taming them!

And then we look forward to being grandparents to spoil a child, enjoy just being with him, spoiling him with our love and think “this love that one has for grand children is the best!”. But it is never about grand children at all! It is not because they are grandchildren. It is all in how you reach to your grandchild - Just being with them with no strings attached. We don’t have any expectations from them. Why then postpone enjoying ‘just being with the kid’ to some distant future? Just be with a kid.

The conditions that we live with

a.you’ve to be strict with your kids to bring them up right.

b.if you play a lot with kids they get spoiled.

In the process we miss out on their growing up. We stunt their growth. Yes, in the name of expectations, our dreams and conditions, we don’t let them express themselves right. Our kid is not a trophy that we need to show the world. Let us bring up a confident kid. Give him freedom and trust him with decisions.

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# everything happens for good, ups and downs of life, challenges of life, facts of life, life, good and bad times, failure and success, pain and suffering, disturbances of life

Points worth taking in :

• Don't postpone living 'a moment'.
• Live whatever life throws at you. 
• Whether it be a chocolate, butterfly, sunset or a balloon - whatever you are passed on, experience it.
• Don't cry in some distance future when you can't eat chocolate (because of some disease like diabetes...). Watch butterfly while you still can see. We take these things for granted. Don't! Be with the moment while it lasts.
• Play with kids as much as possible.
• Don't pressurize kids with too much of discipline.
• Kids can be trained without being shouted at too! They don't listen to you but learn by seeing you. So be what you are preaching. As reiki channels just keep doing reiki for them. 
• Life is too short. Time flies. Don't complain that you don't have memories of fun with kids. Tomorrow all that one is left out is these memories that we make today. Most of the kids leave homes to chase their destiny. So make enough memories to fall back on those times.

Just learn to be with nature at least for 1/2 an hour daily for next 11 days. It doesn't mean you need to go to some hill station. Don't take it as an excuse to travel. Just take a walk in the neighbourhood. Look at the sky and the trees in your area while you walk. Sit in the park. Listen to birds and see them fly.

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From chaos comes order!

From disturbance comes peace!

From pain comes panacea from pain!

And only through pain we transcend pain and suffering ultimately!

So sooner we befriend disturbances of life and know how to use them to our benefit we’ll stop suffering with questions like “why so much of suffering? / How can God be so heartless? / Why can’t we all be happy all the time?”

Let us wake up to the opportunity that comes knocking at our doors in the form of disturbance in life. Then we’ll benefit with every disturbance in life, else every small disturbance will only break us down!

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# everything happens for good, ups and downs of life, challenges of life, facts of life, life, good and bad times, failure and success, pain and suffering, disturbances of life

Point worth taking :

Befriend your mind. You can win all the outer battles with ease. Then the life's ups and downs become a play ground which you play with fun and win with ease.

Share your views on this post...

My wow moment : listened to the pitter patter of the rain on the roof and everywhere.......saw the rain drops drop when it was drizzling, then when it rained and after rain had stopped......just for 10mts but wow........

On cloudy days

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 On cloudy days

Today, I’ll address just the ‘mood of the day’ part. Even on the days I’ve class or when I was working – be it in office or in marketing or sales, I would still have this mood rule my day. I would take in more work in office and finish it. I would work fast – so..! on road, I would not feel the stress and strain of driving long distances and traffic. I would take in rejections during marketing with a smile. So, I can say for sure – these days were meant for smiles – wherever I had been in life!

So, is this about my likes and dislikes?

Am I talking about how I enjoy certain kind of weather?

What do these days tell us?

·      Slow down! Yes, we lead a disciplined and structure life 9-5 24/7. It is good. But it is ok to be relaxed and enjoy the view once in a while.

·       Life is just not about proving ourselves. It is not about acquiring or possessing something or someone. It is not even about chasing something or someone. It is about ‘being’. Yes, it is about stopping and slowing down a bit to relish what we are holding with us – right here, right now! Yes, we are ‘being in the moment’ and it happens so effortlessly when we just ‘do these little nothings without any agenda or with an eye on returns or targets.

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These days tell us one more important fact of life. They tell us ‘It is in the Nature of things to slow down or have a lull period in life”. Yes, there are going to be those periods of time when nothing seems to move. Just as rest is also equally important part of ‘exercise’, waiting or pause in life movement is also part of the whole movement. That time is for us to recoup our energies – gather ourselves which is scattered during our rush through our driving life. As we rest or slow down, we become eligible and fit enough to take on next stage of life. Then we become ready for some more ‘ups’ of life. There can be no up without a down. So after intense activity life forces us to time of less or inactivity one way or the other.

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# cloudy days, good and bad days, bad times, changing times in life, ups and downs of life, phases of life, change is constant, changes in life, seasons of life,

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Me, my Guru – Full moon and the monk!

 

Me, my Guru – Full moon and the monk!

Today, most of us were either angry or depressed. The air was heavy with these emotions. We didn’t like these emotions. We weren’t comfortable experiencing them. And so, we hated the person* who was responsible for the emotions. We had so many questions to ask her. Some of us feared her answers. She would say forgive, let go, or some similar bull shit. We listened to her talk but couldn’t take it. She never seemed to understand our pain and suffering.

But again, we had no choice! However much we hated her response and answers, we ended up at her place with further questions. We did not agree with her stance and her suggestions on the way to handle our life and the people in it, yet we continued going to her***

*{ Having a Guru or taking someone for a Guru doesn’t mean you agree with everything he says. It also doesn’t mean you have to follow all the suggestions made. It certainly doesn’t mean that you should live up to his words. 

“You don’t have to and you need not follow” doesn’t mean the Guru or Dharm is at fault. It simply means that Dharm is ultimate and you can apply only as per your level of consciousness. So, at a given point in time, you may fail in accepting or seeing the Guru’s advice or point of view. Here I meant “That is ok”. But, not being able to follow can’t justify your doing as right – though – remember that! Because of  your inability to follow "the Guru or his words" it is said to be ok for the moment ONLY!}

***{Here, I am taking into account the assumption that the person called ‘Guru’ lives his teachings and follows Dharm at all times. Maybe he fails sometimes, but that doesn’t mean he would change Dharm as per his convenience. He states the same Dharm at all times and to all people including himself! Guru is ONLY HIM who knows what dharm is. Anyone who has degree to teach doesn’t become a Guru though people would love to be called so and there will be greedy people who will call them so?!}

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# Me, my guru, Full moon and the monk, Enlightenment, story about realization, just being, beingness, awareness, mindfulness, present in the moment, realisation, moksha, freedom, everything happens for good, the situation is neither good nor bad,

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What are the topics covered in this post:

• It is the story of a monk who gets Enlightened on the full moon night. This is set in Me, my Guru format.
• This story clearly explains how one gets enlightened, moksha, realized, free from all karma.
• We realize how our karmas are completely burned..
• We are explained how no situation is independently good or bad. This also explains how every situation can be made beneficial if only we have the presence of mind, and calmness of mind and if and only if we let go of our adamant nature of wanting things to go our way and instead flow with the flow of life.
• Life pushes us and leads us to our greatest good. We with our adamant nature and conditioned mind throw it away and demand lesser-known goodies that are actually painful and harmful for us.
• The fools work to heal the situation and suffer the situation. The sensible are those who accept the situation and make the best of any situation. This they get by working on their mind, emotions, and intellect every single day of their life. They are working on themselves instead of working on the situations.