On knowing anger in totality!

 

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On knowing anger in totality!

Well, we can for start not see it as an incident of my life. See it as a lesson that life has taught through its own way of teaching. That would be the first lesson!

The second one would be to see how our hatred clouds us from seeing something good in others and in their work!

1.     Because of our anger we lose out on enjoying the abundance offered to us – in this case it is in the form of ‘good food’. How unfortunate are we! We all want to ENJOY niceties of life and yet we stop relishing them because of WHO WE ARE!      

2.   
  The hatred they had expressed itself as anger. They thought they were angry with me. They justified that anger by giving all loose-end reasons. But the actual reason when you observe is that they were jealous of me!

3.     Again if you look closely you will see there was nothing to be jealous of me in the first place if they hadn’t compared themselves with me. No one told them to. I didn’t suggest them to. Yet, they did. So comparing oneself with others causes us to be jealous of them.

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# anger, jealousy, look within, emotions and their root cause, envy, hatred, basis of our feelings,

Questions addressed and points to ponder:

• Our disturbing emotions cloud our clarity of thought completely.
• When we are ruled by them, we miss out on living the abundance that life offers to us.
• We keep overlooking what we are given by obstinately stating "but I want that and only that NOW and I don't want any other thing..."
• No one but ourselves is the loser!
• Desire or a wish when it drives us to desperation, know it to be your worst enemy. 

also read:https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2014/03/secret-of-abundance.html 

and

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2009/03/aftermath-of-forgiveness.html 

Becoming eligible for grace!

 

Becoming eligible for grace!

Bhagya Rekha, Kshitija, Swathi – sending reiki to you three for walking the most difficult yet compulsory and beautiful journey in the entire Universe! This is the ONLY purpose of our existence!  

Everyone who walks this path deserves and automatically becomes eligible for Divine support and grace. No need to beg or seek anyone’s blessings! Become eligible for that and this is a sure-shot way for that! And to prove that is by sending reiki to you all!

 

*****  ******* ******

# receiving grace, deserving and desiring, laws of Universe, miracles, fate and destiny, 

also read:https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=On+receiving+consequences+of+our+karma 

On receiving for healing and growing!

 

On receiving for healing and growing!

We all are healing and maybe many of us have been healing for a decade or more!

Sometimes or no, many times question is posed - "my work is pending and my desire is not getting fulfilled. Where is all my healing going?"

When we heal certain areas of our life (now this area is not chosen by any of us - we just are healing as per schedule), certain baggage or psychic impressions or vikaras as we call them get healed. When that happens for a considerable amount, we get to see that we have developed clarity of thought! Even we may not realize that! But, the way we talk, we think and the way we conduct ourselves change for the better. We are able to behave "the right way" even without making a conscious effort! And it reflects in the way we respond to the situations and people in our lives. 

This is reflected very clearly in this case - read the comment https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2023/09/on-receiving-for-giving-and-sharing.html?showComment=1694788155868 

and https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2023/09/on-receiving-for-sharing-and-giving.html?showComment=1694821349556 ...

Read the same persons response in similar situations some time back. It was same as everybody else...but, now she has realized that when we receive we should give... we should pay back to the Universe....this is not told. This is on her own. That is the benefit of all the healing done.

Look in your lives. You will see how your behaviour has changed for better in various areas and with various people. That is your growth. That is the biggest achievement that you can fall back on. That is the result of all your healing! And you and ONLY YOU will reap the benefit of this change in you.

Don't let this post depress you or feel bad about yourself. Don't compare yourself with the other too! Just use this as an indicator to see how it reflects in your life and its situations.

Everyone is wounded. Everyone is healing! There is nothing wrong with being wounded. But, it certainly is stupidity if we justify ourselves being wounded. It is awful if we stay wounded by being ashamed of ourselves or seeking pity for ourselves. Don't let these emotions cloud or stop your growth. 

Notice who you are truly! Then own it up! And then work on areas you are not comfortable with yourself using various techniques. And before long you will be the person you'll fall in love with! And then begins the most beautiful love story of your life! 

Me, my guru – on knowing self and mind training!

 

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Me, my guru – on knowing self and mind training!

Most of us would if we received such an answer in spite of our explanations. Why, even Vaishnav himself has expressed his anger on people who have talked back to him. Aren’t we all like him? We justified our anger but we expected our demands to be justified and were angry who didn’t support our point of view?

But all she did was “No! we don’t stop the medicine intake. We change our alcohol intake first. Then, we sit to see why we drink in the first place. And then address it. Then the need to drink is addressed, and we would take steps toward the right life-style habits. That would speed up the process of healing of that medicine.”

“But I didn’t understand Guruji” continued Vaishnav with stupidity written all over his face. 

“Drunkard's need to drink reflects why he is doing it, cause behind it, and way to heal it. Similarly, by knowing self we’ll know why we have an emotion say anger, jealousy, affection etc, and the cause behind it. Then we can strengthen our positive qualities and work on our weaknesses. But for that first, we should know what and why we feel, think and act in a certain way. If we don’t know why we do anything in a certain way, how can we see if we need to change it or not?”

We all needed time to process all this so we left for the day!

She went into meditation as ever!

Concluded.....

# clarity of thought, knowing self, being aware of self, emotions, causes and conditions of our feelings, disturbing emotions, mind and its games, 

also read suggested: https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2015/03/oh-god.html 

Pointers to understand:

"“But I didn’t understand Guruji” continued Vaishnav with stupidity written all over his face. " - Read these lines again and again. Many of you must have recollected some character from your life who represents this Vaishnav! It is so easy to recollect that person's stupid statements and expressions - isn't it?

This is where the ego gives itself away! Here is our "judgemental nature" expressed! And we are not even aware of it!!! Why? Because we are so busy looking at the other's stupidity!! 

My mom used to always say "Everyone can see others' back, but not his own". Remember that! It is so easy to look and comment on others' stupidity and weaknesses. But that is not going to benefit us one bit. So, instead let's look at ourselves when we point fingers at others! That way, we get to know ourselves.

And with that the areas to be healed and corrected in us!

This is just one of the ways you are supposed to look at these and such statements in these posts.....

Me, my guru – on knowing self and mind training!

 

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Me, my guru – on knowing self and mind training!

Once a drunkard went to his Doctor and complained that his stomach pain is not decreasing in spite of taking medicines. Then Doctor asked, “Are you sure you are taking the medication regularly?”

Drunkard replied “Absolutely!”

Then Doctor asked, “How sure can you be!”

Drunkard replied, “Because I take them before drinking alcohol in the morning, afternoon and night. So, I can’t miss them”.

Your argument “I am healing and that should be enough and that I don’t want to know myself is like that drunkard’s answer.

Healing is like medicine. But negative thoughts and wrong attitudes are like taking alcohol regularly. How can medicine be effective if taken with alcohol?” asked our Guru.

Some of us laughed. But our intelligent leader Vaishnav replied “That means healing is as wasted as that medicine. I knew it! No point healing, right?”

We all came with so-called logic and were even proud and arrogant enough to assume that our ‘logic’ was fool-proof. But our such arguments only reflected our levels of ignorance and stupidity. And that and therein lay the cause of our suffering in our lives!

But she never said with a taunt “Is that what you inferred from my explanation?”

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# clarity of thought, knowing self, being aware of self, emotions, causes and conditions of our feelings, disturbing emotions, mind and its games, 

also read suggested: https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2009/04/know-thyself.html 

Me, my guru – on knowing self and mind training!

 

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Me, my guru – on knowing self and mind training!

If we do not know the climatic conditions of a country, how will we know what and when to wear? How will you judge the right time to plant flowers?

We all by now realized that our thoughts are the basis of our karma and destiny. We receive what we do based on what we think. So to be able to think beneficial to ourselves we need to know first how our mind functions. Only when we see its flaws and its process of working, will we be able to put it to good use with the necessary techniques!

Regarding your next question, yes healing helps to get your wish fulfilled. But have you noticed that when we stop healing or when things fall in place (as per our desire list) things do go wrong also immediately after?

There is this eternal high and low in life situations and that makes us restless, cranky, and sad to joy and happiness alternatively. When happy we are afraid of coming pain. When in pain we are suffering it and totally devastated by its uncertainty of coming to an end! We are for ever in pain and suffering.

There is only one way to enjoy this ride of life – to train our mind good enough to enjoy all the rides that life has to offer us!

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# clarity of thought, knowing self, being aware of self, emotions, causes and conditions of our feelings, disturbing emotions, mind and its games, 

also read suggested: https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/07/worry.html 

Me, my guru – on knowing self and mind training!

 

Me, my guru – on knowing self and mind training!

“Guruji, why do you insist on ‘knowing self’ when we are healing ourselves? Is not healing enough? We are good with the results we get with our healings. Why should we look within and know ourselves?” asked Vaishnav.

“First tell me, why not? Why don’t you want to know yourself? What exactly is your problem in knowing self?” asked our Guru with a smile.

“Because it hurts! It is painful when I meditate and look within. I don’t want to suffer this now. I just want to enjoy life. Just tell me ways to get my desires (which are very basic and normal for me!) fulfilled” retorted Vaishnav.

Many of us felt his rage and anger. We suffered his way of thinking and supported his line of thought in this area. He was right. We hated to look at ourselves closely. It hurt us a lot. It disturbed us. We suffered. And we felt we had the right to learn at our own pace. We didn’t have to learn it now. We chose not to put ourselves through this suffering. How in hell were we wrong?

“all the answers are in your question itself!” said our Guru. “Does looking at yourself in the mirror hurt? No! then why when you look within? If you yourself are not comfortable looking at yourself, how can you expect to like yourself or love yourself? And

Unless you like/love yourself how can you expect any other person in the world to like/love you?

If we do not know the climatic conditions of a country, how will we know what and when to wear? How will you judge the right time to plant flowers?

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# clarity of thought, knowing self, being aware of self, emotions, causes and conditions of our feelings, disturbing emotions, mind and its games, 

also read suggested:https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/01/if-winter-comes-can-spring-be-far.html 

Note: Bhagyarekha, your experience is answered in this post.....keep up the good work.....