When to rest?

 

When to rest?

"I have noticed that when I let my emotions rule my sense of purpose, they make me mad. 

I become desperate to have my desires fulfilled. And then, fear grips me. I fear my desire not getting fulfilled. 

I get angry that my desire is not appeased immediately. I become weak. I become adamant. 

Anger takes over my senses. 

And I go berserk. I go mad with desire. Like an elephant that goes mad during the mating season, I go crazy until my desire is fulfilled. 

And, it doesn’t stop there. It takes the next desire and then it goes equally crazy till that desire is fulfilled. And this continues." 

This and such understanding can happen only when we put our minds to rest. And rest means to meditate in silence. 

When such thoughts and emotions drive us crazy, then know it is time to take rest! https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2024/04/time-to-rest.html

When we run behind objects of this world seeking relief from pain, happiness, security, and joy - we only get tired and more restless. So, take a break from your routine. Take a break from running around in circles. Take a break from outside and go within. And even a small break can give you a huge breakthrough from all your problems - sometimes! https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=After+the+long+silence

# to rest, peace of mind, calmness, mindfulness, awareness, outerworld reflection of inner world, breakdown situations, problems and solutions, mastering self, success begins with self, 

read related posts on similar topic https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Me%2C+My+Guru+%E2%80%93+On+Empty+boat 

Question time:

What did you understand as "rest"?

Why should we rest?

How do you propose to rest?

Reflections – on addressing a simple issue – at last!

 

Reflections – on addressing a simple issue – at last!

Since many (many actually would be an understatement) days, I was getting irritated and disturbed by the plastic wire mesh used to clean utensils. A strand of wire had fallen loose and that was being messy while cleaning the utensils. This continued and happened every single time I was cleaning utensils.

But today, for no good reason as I was washing singing a song, I simply picked it, took a knife, cut the loose end off and kept it for use. It was so simple. It was right there and yet…..

How many times, we would have suffered little nothings of life for no good reason?

Many GREAT MASTERS would use an explanation like “I am suffering because of some healing that is happening”  Really? You are actually suffering because of “Some healing” that didn’t happen!!! Understand the joke here!!!!!

So you see, solutions for many day-to-day suffering is right there but we are not able to see it because we are either not there with the problem or we are so involved in problem and suffering the why and how of it that we don’t get to see the solution (an easy one) right under out nose!

Some “GREAT mind and intelligent and logical mind” will state “See maam, it took so many days for YOU ALSO to see the solution. So us not seeing is acceptable, isn’t it? After all, it is the process we all have to go through, isn’t it?” The day you start listening to all that comes out of that mouth of yours is the day you’ll walk towards the abundance in your life. Till then, no blessing can save you from yourself!

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# reflections, solutions and problems, on solving the problems, solutions, on life, issues of life, mindfulness, awareness, clarity of thought, problem solving, beingness, disturbed mind, calm mind, seeing solutions, 

Also read: https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Me%2C+My+Guru+%E2%80%93+On+Empty+boat 

also look and read the "images" given in the posts

Me, my guru – on choosing love over hate!

 

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Me, my guru – on choosing love over hate!

It is a possibility that our relatives have cheated us – financially or emotionally. Instead of harbouring anger on them, develop a love for people who matter to you. Develop a passion for your job. Concentrate on things and people that bring smiles to your lips. If you don’t want to forgive the wrong-doers no problem! You can’t that’s ok. Just don’t entertain thoughts of anger etc for them. Whenever you get to remember what they did or said, simply divert your thoughts to something good and constructive in your life. You don’t want to bless them – fair enough. Just don’t think about them. The moment you realize their thoughts are disturbing you, simply send reiki to your dreams, wishes etc.

Do some Reiki that’ll bring some sort of abundance into your life! These were my Guru’s words. Simple yet effective!

This looks doable and we decided to act on it – for once.

We are going to use and live our life for our well-being and for our growth. We’ll send thoughts and energies toward goals – anything beautiful, and that is beneficial to our life. We didn’t have to wait to know its effect. For once we knew this surely would work.

Concluded......

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# on living relationships, on love, on giving and receiving, you are where you are because of how you choose, on choosing right everytime, making choices, forgiveness, moving on, building over destruction,

previous post suggested reading to further understanding on this topic : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2018/03/me-my-guru-on-guru_3.html 

also read

"Story of empty boat"

Question time :

I may not repeat every time , but read the complete post at the end once again to understand it right....

What did you understand from this post?

Where do you think you can apply it?

What is the missing link of your healing?

On being balanced – Me, My Guruji

 

On being balanced – Me, My Guruji

“Guruji, I want to be peaceful and enjoying life. But the people in my life tear me apart.  I get so angry at so many things they say and do. How to correct them? Because, my happiness and peace of mind is dependent on them.”

“If someone can easily anger you, then it is so, because you are off balance with yourself. How can you heal or correct others when you yourself are not balanced? How can healing others be easy when the mind and body within your reach is not ‘listening to you’?” asked our Guruji.  

True! It was such a big world out there. And if I go correcting and healing every one of their attitudes, then even if I take 100 janmas (lives), it may not be enough!!?

Our Guru said it so simply. The one within my reach was the ONLY AREA I need to correct and be in control of. The rest didn’t matter when this happened.

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# being balanced, centre - finding it, situation is real suffering is optional, being in control of our emotions, reason over emotions, 

also read previous post on being balanced : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=empty+boat 

Points to ponder : 

Sometimes, all it takes to lose balance is a simple phone call. 

A word heard is enough to drive us nuts. Take a moment to look at your emotions. Is it worth suffering so much over a word heard? 

Is it worth losing our peace of mind over someone's actions? 

Is our happiness not precious to us? 

Are we choosing brooding over the other person's actions and words over our peace of mind? Why? Think and meditate on the same!

Answer will surprise you. It will heal you. It will release you from 'that pain' for sure!

Meditate and be free from this pain.

You owe yourself this peace and happiness.....

 

 

 

 

On reflections – on dog

 

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On reflections – on dog

One who loses his preference from his perspective will sooner reach ‘his heaven’ – right here in this world!!!

Both reflect our ‘choice’. Both are within our reach. This is ‘in our hands’. The one who is bent on ‘waiting for the other’ to fit into his expectations will experience ‘hell’ every single moment of his life!

What are you bound to? Hell or heaven?

Are you creating hell or heaven for others in your life?  Take time to check for these answers.

Your answers and how you deal and what you do with your answer decide your ‘fate for tomorrow or future’.

Are you creating a good one or a one that is going to be painful for you?

Look within! Be aware!

Work on yourself. Have likes but don’t be their slaves.

Work towards your freedom from your likes. Work towards your abundance!

Next – the little (dog!) didn’t work to please me. It wasn’t even aware of my existence. And yet, it gave me happiness, joy and let me experience love! What a beautiful moment that was!!!

Can’t we be like that dog? Just be ‘being’ who we are, can’t we become reason for someone’s joy and happiness?

Can we relieve someone of their pain with our mere existence? Can we become reason for people to experience ‘love’ in our presence? If a small dog can, why can’t we?

The day this happens, then you’ve become ‘a miracle’ unto yourself. The day you start working towards this end as your goal, you are seeding seeds of happiness and abundance for your future. The day you see this as ‘worth striving’ for you are walking towards your heaven.

If there is any ‘but maam..’ even now, know that to be ‘an empty boat’!

Beware!

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# emptiness, beingness, preferences, being detached, likes and dislikes, raag dwesha, freedom, choices, happiness, bondage, expectations, conditions, attachments, 

also read if you please on this subject : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Me%2C+my+Guru+%E2%80%93+On+ways+to+hurt+others%21 

for any questions unanswered check the above link....

Me, My Guru – On Empty boat

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Me, My Guru – On Empty boat

                                         

And that’s how we kept ourselves busy with outside world. We thought we could find joy in the worldly things. And so we looked for toys to engage ourselves and for our happiness. These toys were materials sometimes like house, job and money and so on or people like spouse, kids or friends. Everything that we engaged ourselves with was just a toy for us. No doubt we got tired of one the moment we got it and had played with it for some time.

                                               

Oh, no I didn’t understand all this on my own. My Guru came back later and I gathered all this from her talk.

                                                                             

She also added this “The monk could have asked any of the following questions to his Master.

·        What is the purpose of these many years of meditation / sadhan if I couldn’t enjoy one simple boat ride?

·        Why did that empty boat come and hit me? If it hadn’t come I wouldn’t have lost my temper?

·        All my years of sadhan / meditation should have averted ‘this accident’ (of empty boat coming and hitting his boat) from happening. Why didn’t that happen?

·        You as a master should’ve known in advance that I would lose my peace if I go there. Why didn’t you stop me from going there?

But he didn’t. All the years of meditation had given him clarity enough to not ask such baseless and senseless questions anymore. There in lay the benefit of his sadhan. There in lay the result of years of sadhan. Situations came in his life only to point out to him that he hadn’t healed himself enough. His reaction was the proof of it. His state of mind stated his clarity of thought very loud and clear. His character shone through his response”

                                   

I suppose this addressed everyone’s issue clearly today. Those who took it with a pinch of salt benefitted from it and those argued – well, one more chance to find a solution that was given on a platter was lost…..

Concluded.........

# empty boat, you are master of your destiny, destiny, karma, psychic impressions, soul journey

previous post : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=ask+and+it+shall+be+given+-+Me%2C+My+guru

Have you taken the following understanding from this post :

We are the master of our destiny!

We attract our situations in life based on 'who' we are and not on what 'we wish' for!

By changing the way we look at things, relate with things, feel about things we change the way we send our energies into the world and thereby what we attract into our lives change for better or worse - depending in which direction you change!

Our outer world is the reflection of our inner world.

If we want 'cup of our desires' to be filled, we need to empty ourselves of all that stops it from getting filled. We can't fill our cup unless we empty it first!

Points to understand : 

Each season has something to offer. What you take out of it and how you apply it to your taste reflects your 'understanding capacity' and 'clarity of thought'.

If my 'understanding capacity' helps my 'clarity of thought' to see 'what I lack and how I am suffering' with every season and at every phase of life, trust me, that is 'NO UNDERSTANDING AND NO CLARITY OF THOUGHT'!

We don't even know that 'we don't know!' and there in lies our 'curse' and 'karma'.

Our anger clouds our 'clarity of thought' and understanding capacity. And we are busy justifying our anger, venting it out and aiding it all along.........

Think about it!

Life Tip :

This is the secret of Law of Universe and karma! 

Universe, Reiki and everything Divine works in favour of a person who is ready to empty his 'cup'. It creates 'conditions' conducive to empty one's cup the moment one takes decision to change from within! 

Be aware of it! Be grateful for it! 

At the same time, don't let these miracles get into your head. Take it and keep it in your heart. Enjoy it. Relish it. But don't be arrogant because of it! 

Like a mother who rocks the child in the cradle, the Universe will take care of you, your needs and supply you with things that are good for you and beneficial for you in the long run. It also will protect you from things, situations and people who are not good for your growth!

Hold on your faith and the faith will protect you!

Me, My Guru – On Empty boat

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Me, My Guru – On Empty boat

                                     

“But what is the answer that you received” I asked a bit surprised.

“That, I like that monk need to address my junk inside. Otherwise every ‘empty boat’ that touches my boat can irritate me, anger me and question my faith! Empty boat represents every person and situation in my life. Whatever happens in life isn’t the problem. The anger was ‘always’ there in me. It just found its expression because of that ‘empty boat’. Problem is not the empty boat of my life. Problem is all that is within me! And so I am going to heal myself!” so saying she left the premises.

                                        

We sat there dumb stuck. Now coming to think of it each one of us had a list of issues that bothered us, irritated us, angered us or frightened us. For some it was problem with the boss and to other it was sister-in-law. One suffered because of ‘bad tenant’ while the other complained about insensitive spouse. Each had a reason to be bothered about and be angry with. We were thinking the reason to be the external situation. And all these years/time we were trying to fix that!

Now it was clear! What happened or didn’t happen wasn’t the cause of our restlessness and desperation. The ‘expectation’ we had ‘within’ us was the basis of our inner turmoil and desperation. We lay ‘condition’ of how people are supposed to behave and how life has to set the situations. Our desire was just an excuse that pushed this anger we had within us.

Because we were not looking within we didn’t’ know ourselves correctly and completely. Because we didn’t know ourselves, we didn’t understand origin of our desires and their nature. Since we didn’t know ourselves we didn’t get connected to self. Not being connected to self, how can we expect them to love us? As we didn’t love ourselves we sought validation and appreciation from others. And as we didn’t know self and love self, we couldn’t appreciate and validate when we received the same from others? 

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# empty boat, heal self, outer world and inner world, being connected to self, emptiness, cause of pain and suffering, ignorance,

also read previous post on this topic : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=and+the+first+flip  

Questions addressed :

• Why does 'life' not give me things the way I want and when I want?
• What is life and how to enjoy it?
• Why is it difficult to live life?

Points to note : 

• Any desire - be it physical, psychological, material or emotional is at the end of the day only a thought! Think about that!
• If every desire is based on just a 'thought' is our suffering and going berserk for that worth the dime?
• We are so tuned to 'conditioning' everything in life and we have started conditioning 'life' and its expression too!
• Let's  rephrase 'life' as a 'pleasant surprise gift' from the Universe that unfolds itself layer by layer every single day.
• How life is to unfold is not what we can ever do or hope to have control over. But we can learn to experience the 'wonderment' that it is by shifting our perception of life...
• Life is not a problem. It is an experience to be had. 

Life Tip :

When it was summer, I enjoyed making some 'Indian dried fryums' (vadiyalu) using the excess heat of sun to my advantage.

The heat caused lots of physical discomfort and ailments. But the advantage I took of heat was also immense.

Now that it is raining, I am listening to songs sitting in the balcony and writing blog for you people.........

every season comes with its benefits and limitations.............so it is with life and desires too........