Me, My Guru – On Hindrances in problem solving

 

Me, My Guru – On Hindrances in problem solving

Our Guru said “Don’t go around telling one and all about your problems. The more number of people you talk about your problem – be it your spouse, career or desire that much of negativity you create with regards to that issue. Result – longer it takes to heal that issue. So, if you want to heal an issue, reduce talking about it to as many people as you can. In fact, stop talking about it completely”.

“But we can’t ma’am. We need to tell at least few. We need to talk about our problems” said one among us. But that voice represented most of our thoughts.

“Then tell only 4 types of persons –

1. One who wouldn’t judge you for that

2. One who wouldn’t use it against you in future

3. One who supports you by understanding you and your problem – even if he can’t give you a solution

4. One who gives you a solution –

A. But this person shouldn’t have any personal agenda attached to your problem

B. This person should be impartial.

C. This person should have clarity of thought

D. He should have your good as the only thing in his agenda 

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# on talking about problems, consequences of talking about problems, karma, negativity generated, problems and solutions, healing the issue, finding solutions, life, beauty of life, facts of life, lessons of life, obstacles of life, life is not perfect

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/11/directing-our-energies-right-way.html 

Points to understand and remember :

• Every one has his own set of problems. It's just that some take time to help others solve theirs inspite of having more problems in their own life!
• Just because someone is smiling, happy or helping others doesn't mean he hasn't any problems. Don't be jealous of such people if you come across one such person. They have the ability to smile 'in spite of their problems' in their lives.
• Talking about one's problems to one and all actually increases the the time period one has to live with it or in finding the solution.

 

Change the perspective lady!

 

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Change the perspective lady! 

It still rained on ‘some days’. It was sunny on other days. Days being rainy and sunny were still the same. But she and her life had changed for better. Only thing that changed was ‘the perspective’. And that was enough to make abundance come into her life!

You see in life – our life – we’ll always have some sunny days and some rainy days. We can’t control them. We can’t change that! 

But we can change the way we look at ‘sunny days’ and ‘rains’. And that many times is enough to bring about sea-change in our life and ourselves.

Some days will be good.

Some days will be challenging.

Some days are exciting. And some days are simply boring, dull and not happening.

But instead of seeking all days to be ‘good and happening’ if we only asked ‘How do I make best use of today?’ maybe our days would be more productive and less painful! Think about it! 

Some people will be loving and helpful.

Some people will be mean and hurtful.

Some places we make money and at some other place we lose money!

Let’s be thankful for both!

Can’t we be thankful for both? 

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# change the perspective lady story, perspective, perception, attitude and its effect, good and bad, seasons of life, life and its aspects, celebration of life, reasons to celebrate in life, complaining about life, grateful for life ....

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=They+want+me+for+my+ability+to+heal 

read the above link to understand the difference in words said and the what they meant.......apply it in your life. The day difference between intent and expression is zero or in other words, the day your words mean, actually mean what you intent your life will become a blessing. You will be a blessing unto yourself when you  manifest your desires with your single intent. Why live like beggars seeking favours from others when you are capable of creating and writing your destiny at the drop of a hat every single day of your life? 

Think about it! 

Is it because you didn't know this possibility or

Is it because you love to live a life of a beggar begging someone else to fulfill your desires?

Do you think it is easy to live a life of a maggots crawling and being crushed by one and all? 

What fear holds you back from experiencing your full worth?

What laziness holds you back?

Question your intent, question your fears, question your choices and then seek help from Reiki or God...

 

Me, My Guru – On disagreement

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Me, My Guru – On disagreement

“But everyone is judging me for disagreeing with you” Vaishnav sulked.

“They are not angry because of your disagreement. Their anger is because of how you disagree” she replied.

“Sorry Guruji, I didn’t get it” he said, a little mellowed.

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“Meaning – you can choose to understand, work or accept my answer. You can also choose to disagree. But there is a small condition – just see there is no anger while you disagree” she replied.

Vaishnav opened his mouth to say something but shut it while processing her statement. She waited for a couple of minutes before continuing. 

“Look into your anger. You’ll see where it is coming from. You’ll be surprised at the ‘source’ of your anger. You can then choose to heal it with techniques I taught you.”

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“But I don’t want to do all this work. I also don’t want to change. You and God are forcing me to change and I hate you and Him for that!” he replied grumpily.

Being right

“We are not forcing or asking you to! You are suffering because of the ‘not willing to change’ attitude of yours. And you are just holding us responsible for that. You are, in the process, dumping your anger on one and all in your life. That’s all! Moreover you asked me to give a solution to your pain and suffering. I just showed you the way. That way happens to be the one that needs you to change from within, that's all!’ she answered with a smile!

Courage

“I don’t agree with this either!” he said, sulking.

Art of disagreement

मेरा काम था कहना जो मैंने कह दिया 

माने के ना माने तू तेरी मर्ज़ी 

मुझे इस बात का फ़र्क क्या होगा कि 

मै नशे में हूँ 

mera kaam tha kahna jo maine kah diya

maane ke na maane tu teri marzi

mujhe is baat ka fark kya hoga ki

Mai nashe mein hoon 

It was my duty to tell you and that I have done

to take it or not is your choice/wish

how can this effect me for

I am intoxicated........

......so singing, she retired to her inner chamber. He remained sulking in his seat, still angry. I, for one, was moved beyond words; tears rolled down my cheeks. I, like him, had dumped my anger, frustration on her for years and yet….she had held on to me with care, love and patience. And here I was, on the other side, after healed my deep seated selfishness and unpardonable adamant nature!

True love

How many more were there who had treated her so! And how much she bore…but she remained her loving, caring self to one and all!

Yes, that was love! She taught us that by living it and yet we found it so difficult to extend that in our lives with our family and friends! 

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What is the 'intoxication' that the Guru is talking about?

How that intoxication makes her behave so?

Is it available to all?

# love, relationships, pain and suffering in a relationship, attitude, differences of opinion, agree to disagree, opinions, beliefs

previous posts on this topic : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=beliefs 

Questions addressed : 

• How to agree to disagree?
• Is every opinion, belief accepted in every relationship to be same? 
• What is it to be in a relationship inspite of having differences of opinion?
• What is trust?
• What is an expectation?

Points to be understood : 

• Concern doesn't necessarily mean to bring the other person to see your beliefs and have your perception.
• Even with different values we can still share respect for each other, love for each other and be concerned for each other.
• Being for someone doesn't mean he has to follow all that we tell me to.
• Opinions change - even ours over the years had! Then why hold on to their differences more than the person in our life. 
• When a person seeks our advice we give. But to take it or not is his choice! How can we take that away from him just because he has come to us for advice or help?
• Is there a condition to our love/affection/advice/help that the taker or receiver should follow it to the T?
• Do we have to suffer the stupidity of our loved ones in our relationships? Or are we choosing to suffer in our relationships? Think about the difference.......
• Does our  definition of love say that worry is the essential quality in that relationship? Is it true? or is it a choice? 
• Does not Guru's character show us otherwise? Then why can't we understand from that example and apply in our life?

Homework :

Go through couple of issues in your life where you sought advice and where you gave advice.

Check your reaction when the other person did not live up to your expectation. 

Try to look into the reason and heal it if need be.......

Me, My Guru – On disagreement

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Me, My Guru – On disagreement

“But so many of your explanations are painful to me!” he cried out.

Perceptions

“It is not my explanation that is painful. It is your expectation from me. You want me to give answers which are pleasing to your taste and ears. Those answers you already know. Why should I reiterate what you want to hear? I’ll only give answers that need to be given!” our Guruji was still explaining, when he cut in to complain. “But I don’t agree with them. I hate God for making you say such things when they don’t mean anything.”

“My answers are not my opinions or beliefs. They are ‘absolute truths’. You need not believe them. You need not accept them. In fact, I don’t expect you to understand them either. Yet, my answer would remain so! They are not for you to believe, understand, or accept. They are to be heard by you, as of now! You are free to disagree with them; that’s your choice. But my duty is to give an answer which is needed; one which is right. I am not here to please you with my answers; I don’t have to win you over with it. So feel free to disagree wholeheartedly with my explanation and answer.”

Being respectful in spite of differences of opinion

“But everyone is judging me for disagreeing with you” Vaishnav sulked.

“They are not angry because of your disagreement. Their anger is because of how you disagree” she replied.

Disagreement on an issue is not personal

“Sorry Guruji, I didn’t get it” he said, a little mellowed.

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# agree to disagree, opinions and issues, personal relationships, anger, control, conditions, acceptance, forgiveness, art of living the right way in a given relationship, concern and control, judging, respect

previous posts on this topic : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=opinions 

Questions addressed : 

• Why does that person not understand?
• How to make that person see reason?
• What do I do about the pain and suffering because that person doesn't understand me?
• How to address anger that comes when someone doesn't accept what you are saying?

Points to ponder upon :

• Opinions, beliefs are subjective. Don't make them personal.
• Just because some one doesn't accept, see your opinion it doesn't mean he hates/dislikes/disrespects you.
• They don't agree with your opinion means they don't agree with your OPINION only! It doesn't mean they have problem with you.
• Learn to see the difference between person and his opinion.
• As long as we identify with our beliefs, opinions, advice we suffer when it is not accepted, rejected or ridiculed. Heal the identification NOW! 

Observation :  The way you have described yourself in one word is interesting in more than one ways. Just note it in your journal with present date on it. This description may change for some of you at a later date. That is ok. The day you feel you are better described in a different word or sentence than what you presently feel, again write it down in your journal ..........

Regarding describing others - fascinating. Some descriptions make it so intriguing and I wish I met some of them......good........