On Destiny

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Today’s session was not something new. But yes, it added a new dimension. She had said these words like a million times and yet we ended up asking her the same question again and again and she had to package her answer differently every time. I didn’t know if I had to pity her or feel angry at our understanding capacity. If we kept going in circles asking question again and again on same or similar topics, when are we to grow spiritually and ask question related to ‘higher knowledge’?

 

But as she explained once, till we are not stable in first step, what’s the purpose of talking of view from 100^th step? We listened but forgot equally fast as at that time what she explained didn’t apply to us and our life situations. At most we ended up asking “does such problems exist? Do people behave in such a fashion? etc”.

But when we faced similar situations, the first stop was inevitably anger, self-pity, complaining and fault finding. Why? Because, we were not in sadhan when things were going smooth. We had excuses like ‘didn’t have time’, ‘we remember you a lot maam, but not doing hands-on’ etc. yes, I’ve said it myself million times and heard it from others too. It seemed a norm now. It took falling down many times for me to understanding the importance of being in sadhan and in touch with her. Just being with ‘her’ forced and questioned my way of thinking and behaving on regular basis and so it helped me to be in balance or to come back to balance easily when I fumbled now. As rightly said 

“दुःख  में सुमिरन सब करें, सुख में करें ना कोई 

जो सुख में सुमिरन करें तो दुःख काहे को होए "

Everyone prays or remembers in tough/bad times and never in good times

if one remembers/prays in good times, why would there be bad times?

Your character is defined by the way you behave in your 'good times'. In bad times everyone is humble and pleasing, it is in good times the person's character is in the open. A person who does sadhan even when there is no (big) problem  in life is the real sadhak and he is ever so happy!

 

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you can listen to this song from film 'Naseeb' that tells how 'friendship, life and love' takes test in our life......

On Destiny

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“If we accept that we are responsible for where we are and for what we are going through, then what measures would you suggest to get out of this mess? That was Rahul asking the question. His question surprised me. He was pro-active even to questioning her, whereas we would still be going around asking questions to prove that others are responsible for our suffering. No about, I never heard him talk about ‘problems’ of his life. Not that he didn’t have any problems, but instead of focusing his energy and perspective of who was responsible and how bad they are, how they cheated him etc, he focused on coming out of ‘that situation’. Now I ‘see’ that!

“You are Reiki channels and as I’ve explained umpteen times do a.intention reiki as per situation b. do re-birth meditation to keep your emotions at bay c. do full-body reiki” she replied.

“I’ve been doing but I don’t see much result” came a voice from behind.

“Your problem took years to culminate to present day picture and you’ve been doing reiki since 4-5 days and expect miracles? Listen to your words clearly and understand the ‘stupidity in those words and meaning’. To set right something is not an over night job. It takes time and patience to work on it and come out as successful and strong person. Remember “Rome was not built in a day”. To destroy it may take few minutes to hours but to build it, it takes years. Your wrong or emotional decisions brought you to this place. You need atleast few months time to undo the effect of your decisions – big or small. Right?” so saying she went in.

She didn’t wait for us to tell her that we understood what she explained. She didn’t wait for our word of thanks. She didn’t give us time to thank her for showing us our folly and guiding us gently to come out of our mess. She just left. 

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listen to this song from 'kaala pathar' one of the hit movies and the song that tells it all about life.............

On Destiny

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There was pin-drop silence. This was too much for any of us to digest. Yes, we were used to listening statements like “you write your destiny”, “your present day action is writing your tomorrows’ karma” et all but this was way too much.  She was saying that the entire world’s problem was also due to our karma and that each one of us was responsible for that. Each one of us was processing it as per our understanding.

“But Guruji, how can social pain or trouble and personal loss – both be at same level? Are they not different? Many a times, I’ve found my family members responsible for my loss and suffering. How can you say that I am responsible for such loss too?” asked Geetha.

“Social problem and personal problem are different only in following sense –

a.      The magnitude of social problem is much larger and its solution usually involves the whole of society at large and hence the magnitude makes it seem impossible to solve, whereas personal loss involves only friends and family and hence involves small group of people. So, technically this should be easier to address and solve. But unfortunately it is not so. It is not so because of the problem but because of the way we deal with it. personal problem is always made ‘personal’ and we are so ‘into’ it that we become part of the problem and hence can’t get detached enough to have ‘an external vision’ of the issue. This impairs our sense of clarity and judgement thereby making the issue ‘without a solution problem’. We wallow in self-pity, anger, judgement, attachment, heart-breaks and such feelings and emotions depending upon the issue. Once we go on in these ‘emotional rides’ we forget that it is we who are responsible for what we experience. We stop taking responsible of our actions and decisions. We end up blaming near and dear ones for all that we are experiencing and in that quagmire it is next to impossible to work on the solution. We go deeper and deeper into depression, ill-health and suicidal tendencies. At this stage we don’t seek steps to correct our mistakes. We are only seeking ‘pity’ from others when we share our problems with them when a suggestion or an advice is give we brush it aside saying “oh, but you don’t understand” what we mean to say is “I want you to feel sorry for me and agree and acknowledge that the people I am pointing at are bad and responsible for my suffering. That’s all!” she answered.

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 Listen to this song from 'Khote sikkey' one of RD's and Kishore's combinations best to be inspired in tough times-

On Destiny

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   1.      Water Management and harvesting – Every year, we are facing water shortage but how many of us are consciously careful when using water. There is so much of water wastage. People still wash their balconies, houses, grills, cars with hose pipes. Can’t you just wipe with wet clothes? Why waste so much of water? Just because you can afford purchasing it, it doesn’t mean you remain selfish and careless.

Like-wise, how many houses and buildings have rain harvesting done? Should it be made mandatory and only then steps taken by all for the same? Should we always be forced to do ‘right acts’ by government or someone else in authority for us to benefit out of it?

Go to link given below to see how normal people are bringing about change in their lives in their own little ways :

Read story of Sri. Ramamohan at Hyderabad and various cases in Bangalore to understand it's easy application and benefit: http://www.indiawaterportal.org/articles/harvesting-and-using-roof-top-rainwater-part-1

and http://infochangeindia.org/water-resources/features/rainwater-harvesting-in-bangalore.html

Why can’t we take steps even after reading about such role models?

Do we go around educating people about these issues?

So much to do and we are busy only blaming, blaming and blaming. Are we not indirectly responsible for all that we are experiencing today? As we sow so we reap!

Inaction or wrong decisions at our end both constitute our karma and we bear results of our karma. Nothing happens without a reason. We and only we are responsible for everything that we experience in life. Be it personal loss or a social pain. “We receive what we have given”. No other person is responsible for what you are, where you are and what you are going through”. Remember that always…

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