On choosing death!

On choosing death!

If to love is to live and celebrate life and to hate is to die then - why do we choose death to life?

We prefer to feed our ego and keep it alive. Why? So that it can eat on our relationships, peace of mind and satisfaction. And then complain that we don't have 'someone' to love in our life. We miss 'sharing of love' with someone in life. 

When I can't live happily with the one in my life how do you think I can live with the one 'yet' to come in my life?

Every time I love to hurt someone, kill someone or wipe off someone from my surroundings and some time from earth I die as a 'soul' from within.

Every time I am jealous of someone's progress, situation or happiness I die from within.

Every day I die out of fear, hatred, anger and envy.


And yet I say I want to live life. Is this the definition of your life? To die every day little by little and to suffer and be the cause of suffering for others?

If this is it, if this is all life means to you, then how come death is more worst than this?

Think about it!

Are we choosing death over life in our every wakeful hour?

Think about it!

# life, love, hate, relationships, sharing, caring, attitude, challenges of life, purpose of life, 

Me, my guru – on choosing love over hate!

 

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Me, my guru – on choosing love over hate!

After listening to his woes and story, his Guru told him “His karma will catch with him sooner or later. Why do you want to waste your life fighting for justice? Let it go. You start your business again and put all your energy into that. My blessings are there with you for your prosperity”.

Our hero was sad but accepted his Guru’s words and decided against filing any case. His children shouted and were angry. Their one good quality in them was they respected their father a lot and never did anything against him or his wish. They did not accept his decision, yet, they kept silent and started their business.

Slowly and steadily their business expanded. So did their confidence, self-esteem, and enthusiasm. They increased their hard work and found results dear to them. They grew from strength to strength.

In the meantime, their elder brother started losing quite a few of his clients. In just 5 years our hero’s business was double the size he had left behind to his elder brother.

His sons and their families too were happy seeing this prosperity. They all went to his Guru’s place to show gratitude and showered her with lots of gifts. Our hero considered his growth to be the work of his Guru’s blessing. But his Guru smiled to denied to accept the responsibility for his growth. She simply said “If you had walked the path of anger, justice, vengeance and destruction no amount of my blessings would have worked out to your benefit. Because you chose the path of love over hatred, creation over destruction, forgiveness over revenge and dharm over adharm, you prospered! Always invest your valuable time and hard work in creating and blessing – not on destruction and curses”.

This was a simple real-life story. Yet, it was powerful. Now, the question was – where are we to put it to good use?

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# on living relationships, on love, on giving and receiving, you are where you are because of how you choose, on choosing right everytime, making choices, forgiveness, moving on, building over destruction,

previous post suggested reading to further understanding on this topic : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=On+choosing+death%21 

Post pointers:

"In the meantime, their elder brother started losing quite a few of his clients. In just 5 years our hero’s business was double the size he had left behind to his elder brother.- This happened in this person's life. But don't come saying "but maam, how come my mil/sil/enemy are happy and prosperous though they are bad?" Don't expect others to suffer though they have hurt you....then you are generating negative energy and that is what will flow in your life.

Isn't it odd that we want justice and people who hurt us to suffer but when we face our karma, we seek forgiveness? 

We are angry that our Guru/God hasn't forgiven us inspite asking(or demanding) it and then go around waiting for people to suffer because we were hurt by them?

Let go of them and instead concentrate on building your life. That's what this means. Put your energy there and then your life will turn out right...

"She simply said “If you had walked the path of anger, justice, vengeance and destruction no amount of my blessings would have worked out to your benefit." - Always know this...even blessing from a Saint or God will work only when you are putting it for good use. Remember Ravana got blessings and sanidhya (closeness) to the Ultimate in the Universe - Lord Shiva and yet, he lost to a mortal and monkeys. That doesn't mean Shiva and his blessings are waste. No, it means God also helps only those who are on the side of Dharma.

Me, My Guru - On life and death – III!

 

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Me, My Guru - On life and death – III!

It was customary of Buddha to send each monk to a certain area for bhiksha(alms). One of the monks was sent for ‘bhiksha’ in the area where our meditating monks sister lived. As he entered the area he thought “If only I need not ask every house and instead someone came out and give bhiksha on their own!”

The sister of the monk heard his thoughts, came out of the house and invited him in. He was pleased that his prayers were answered. He then thought “If only I was served grand feast today!” He was then served. The food was heavy. He felt drowsy. He thought “if only I was insisted upon and allowed to sleep in this house”.

Immediately, the sister of the monk said “Sir, the room over there is empty of inmate. You can lie down and rest a while. Please leave after the rest”.

Now the monk was very pleased and accepted the invitation. He slept well and got up after a good sleep. 

Now that he was relaxed he went through the day’s events. He realized that every thought that he had had manifest or was attended to. He knew it wasn’t and can’t be a coincidence. He felt it had to do with the lady of that house. To check his analysis, he wished that he gets someone to drop him at the monastery (ashram). He didn’t wish to walk now. He gave in to his laziness. He sat for some time. It was then that the lady came in and said “Sir, there is conveyance waiting for you. It will take you to your monastery. Please come”

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# life and death, living life, make moments count, long life, meaningful life, full of life, life, death, problems and solutions, inevitable and how to face them, suffering is optional, 

2.also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2020/04/on-choosing-death.html 

On understanding this post : 

"The sister of the monk heard his thoughts, came out of the house and invited him in. " - 1.The one who meditates without any desire and with purity of intent, the one who is pure in heart hearing the thoughts of others is no big deal.

2.Once you think, your thoughts are everywhere to be heard by anyone who has stilled his mind. 

3.We may think in the still of the night, but that thought too is out there in the Universe. Nothing is hidden from the Universe, nothing is a secret with Universe. 

"Now the monk was very pleased and accepted the invitation." ...."He felt it had to do with the lady of that house." - 1.Look at the contradicting feelings. The monk got what he wanted. And yet, when he realised that the lady of the house could read his thoughts he got restless. We want something, we want to understand how it works and yet we are not strong enough to face the Truth! That duality in us causes friction within us and there in lies cause of our suffering....

2. Many times, even when we get what we wanted, we are not happy saying "but I got it in this colour, shape etc", "but I wanted in 2015 and I got it in 2020" and so on and so forth...just listen to your complaints. Know yourself! There in lies cause and release from your pains....

Sushant singh Rajput

Sushant singh Rajput

One more actor dies young – not because of some physical ailment or in an accident but by suicide.

Once more we are taught a lesson by this soul (which would suffer for long time to come because of this decision of ‘suicide’) that success, fame, name, achievements, relationships can’t guarantee us happiness. 13.7 million Followers on Instagram and millions of fans – yet he felt unloved and unappreciated.

It doesn’t mean we are not to chase these things of the world!

We spend our energy and time on the things of this world – to chase them, have them and then to retain them. Like-wise should be our concern and dedication to address our emotions on daily basis. In fact, that should be the priority of any individual in which ever station of life he is – to be honest with himself and to look at his emotions and keep them in check time and again! We take our emotions for granted and live with them. Many times, because we see people all around us living so! But, also see one jolt from life or people around us and we crumble like a pack of cards. What’s the use of having all the things of life if we are not strong enough to face the ups and downs of life! Work on yourself! Own up your emotions honestly. Don’t justify them! Till the day we justify our emotions – be it being dishonest, lazy, anger, selfish, stubborn, seeking pity, insecurity, sadness etc know we can’t address them – ever! Only the day we stop justifying them will we have power to heal them. Look at all these cases and wake-up! Heal not with the desire to get something in return. Heal not to get over the pain. Heal to gain strength. Stop being a coward! Heal to stop looking out for someone to pamper you and to make you feel special. Heal to have ‘self esteem’. Stop expecting others to understand you, respect you or give you a special treatment. 

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# breakdown situations, expectations and conditions, life its challenges, life, death, suicide, emotions, 

also read : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=on+choosing+death  

Reiki Tip : 

Many are people who have been inspired by this boy Shushant's films and stories....we need to pay back what we received. He gave some lessons and quite an inspiration - pay back by doing reiki to his soul. Already taught in II dg - don't ask how now...

Instead of waiting for people to die to thank them for their good deeds that they did for us, shouldn't we learn to send them reiki as they are still in their bodies?

Think about it!

Points and questions to be understood :

What causes the person to take such drastic step?

People and situations can be the trigger and they will receive their 'karma' as per their contribution. You and I need not sit to pass the judgement. Universe is an able judge. It has held that post long enough before you and me existed and will continue to run this world even when we are long gone. It doesn't need us to do its job. 

Why let all our emotions pile up over the years and let the 'last straw' break our back on bad morning?

Life will be tough. People will be mean, selfish, greedy, manipulative and insensitive. Should we let that break us? Can we let that break us? 

Instead of conditioning 'how life should treat us' and what it has to give us, if we concentrate and prepare ourselves to face life for whatever it throws at us, don't you think we may enjoy this ride while it lasts?

Take time to pause and introspect! Meditate. 

Don't let your emotions take the call here too!

Me, My guru – on conducive situations needed to be kind and generous!

 

Me, My guru – On conducive situations needed to be kind and generous!

“Guruji, I am a middle-class person. I want to save money for my future. There is no one to support me. I have my family responsibilities to cater to. It hurts me a lot when you talk about being selfless and asking us to do charity! Why do you talk about such topics that give us pain and make us feel bad?” asked Vaishnav.

“Guruji, I agree with what he says” added Sneha “I have been treated badly by my in-law. And when you ask us to forgive and be kind, I feel, “who is going to tell this to my in-law?” How do you expect us to be kind and forgiving when we have been dealt with such unkindness and are hurting?”

Our Guruji smiled and said “Some of the most generous people in the world have/had no money. Some of the most wisest people in the world have had no education and some of the most kindest people in the World were hurt the most. 

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# kindness, charity, generosity, on ability to give, on love, empathy, compassion, knowing self, ahimsa, hatred, understanding, 

read also: https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2020/04/on-choosing-death.html 

on religion....

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Why does this happen and whose fault is it?

If you look at the larger picture, may be nobody is at fault.

Why it happens – every soul reincarnates in a certain circumstance to learn and unlearn some quality – say love and hatred. Depending upon its past karma, it is given few choices to make while choosing a life that it wishes to lead. This life has circumstances that are conducive to the growth of ‘that particular soul’. But whether that soul makes right choices or not once it incarnates is questionable. It may or may not. If it makes wrong choices, again it is counseled by higher energies after death and again given a set condition where it can learn its lesson right this time. This continues till it has learnt its lesson right. This is one school where you can’t choose not to learn ‘something’ out of choice. Every lesson is a must.

So if I spend this life hating a Jew, I would be born as one next life and vice-versa till I understand that all are basically one – both in terms of matter (made up of five basic elements), emotions (have same as that of lust, anger, greed, ego, envy and jealousy) and even in spirit we are one!

But before this understanding we suffer various stages of differentiation.

So you see a person who is barbaric, converting others either through force or bribery or a fanatic assuming only the form that pleases him is ‘God’ and all other forms are wrong belong to ‘souls’ who are in this journey as already explained earlier. They are at the lower stage on spiritual path.

Imagine spiritual growth to be a ladder where at the lowest is that person who finds ‘differentiation’ at its peak as he looks only at the physicality of religions i.e., the rituals language etc of the religion.

When the soul grows in character of openness and gives emphasis on the mental aspect, then he looks at the mental aspect of the religion. He understand the whys and how’s of various rituals of questioning with openness and not with cynicism and becomes more aware that rituals of various paths have same purpose  then he respects a ritual for its purpose and doesn’t judge it for how it is done.

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(All this is explained in detail in (my) Karuna reiki class and other higher degree classes little by little...so those you have attended higher degrees would be able to understand what is being said here more clearly...)

Me, my Guru – on heaven and hell

Me, my Guru – on  heaven and hell

“Guru, is there hell?” asked Vaishnav.

“Ask where heaven is” teased Kshama.

“Each will ask directions of place that he decides to go” Swathi teased.

“Has he decided to go there or is he sure of going there?” someone joined and all ended up laughing.

“But you people didn’t let me complete my question. You misunderstood my question. I was about to ask even about heaven” Vaishnav complained.

“Why ask directions to a place you are sure not to go?” replied Swathi teasing him.

Our Guru cut the banter and started her talk “Alexander winning battle after battle came to a forest. His soldiers found from the locals that a monk who was a ‘great Enlightened Being’ resided in that forest. They gave this news to Alexander. He sent a summon through his soldiers to the Master to come and meet him. Soldiers went seeking that Master and when they found him sitting under a tree they said “Alexander the Great Emperor desires to meet you. Please come with us. We’ll take you to him”.

The Master opened his eyes. He saw the soldiers standing with folded arms in front of him. He replied “It is your king’s desire to meet me. So let him come here to meet me”.

Being helpless soldiers took the message to Alexander. Now Alexander sent his Chief Ministers with precious gems and other gifts with a request for Master to come and meet him.

The ministers were led by the soldiers to the place where the Master was meditating. They placed all the gifts in front of him and saluted to him. The Master opened his eyes and asked “What are all these?”

The ministers replied “They are yours, Master. Alexander has sent them to you. He wishes to meet you. Please come with us”. 

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# hell and heaven, pain and suffering, choices, realities of life, mind, mans best friend, our scariest enemy, ego, anger, expectations, conditions

also reads suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=A+blessing+that+turned+into+a+curse

Questions answered :

• Where and what is hell and heaven?
• How does Master take you to heaven?
• How does Master stop you from experiencing hell?

Points to be understood :

• Our choices create hell and heaven for us.
• Hell and heaven are not destinations. They are product of our choices and creations.
• We create our own hell and heaven depending upon our choices.
• Choose wisely for you ought to live in the hell or heaven that you choose for yourself!
• No body can get you out of hell or heaven you create unless you choose to come out of it.
• Master/Universe/Reiki can only point that which is causing you to suffer. You choosing is in your hands - literally!

Life Tips :

Those who are WFH and even others who are at home if feeling bored, depressed or restless to go out - try this tip.

Stop working and being in those "house clothes" (like old torn nighties, pyjamas, shorts etc). Get dressed by 9.30am and be so till 5.30pm. Be dressed as if you are going to your office. You are working still! right? then why not be dressed the same way! 

Why let those special sarees get old in almirahs? Take them out. Complete all your work by 9.30am as if you are going to office by then. Next get dressed in good clothes and then work, play, watch TV whatever.........

Get back with your experiences......