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On changing destiny – Me, My Guru

On changing destiny – Me, My Guru

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This was just a sheet of paper I found tucked in one of my books. When our Guru told this and how it ended – nothing was found by way of this incomplete ‘sheet of paper’. Yet, it seemed right – right now to me. I was just needing this very badly. I felt like a loner in an alien world. For the past few days I felt like crying non-stop and didn’t know where to go. And here were ‘her’ words staring at me and crying out loud solution to the problem that was squeezing from within.

Maybe it was after all true that ‘our Guru’ reached us beyond time and space........

And now it was for me to put ‘her’ words into action, because no amount of wishing can get me out of the mess I had brought myself into. I was for me to ‘do’ something to come out of it – if ‘Reiki’ gave what I wanted ‘then’; it surely can ‘give’ what I want now! I didn’t need others word for that! I knew it from my experience. I could fall back on that and take necessary steps. ‘Knowing’ what to do and how to do by itself was so liberating and gave such an impetus to my morale and confidence. My solution lay just ‘ahead of me’. All I need to do was ‘extend my hand and get it’. Now the ball was in my court – Again! And I know how to play it right ‘this time’................

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suggested reads : https://kantipadam.blogspot.in/search?q=on+creating+destiny

PS::: ((Even my pen is bleeding with boredom when I write about marriage/job/career issues now – so, refer older blogs – it’s been dealt with as for ever and no point revisiting the same issue so many times)) 

No amount of councelling/talking to me will do any good if you have decided to cry and be depressed after all these explanations.........one who wants can be shown a way...not the one who is adamant in proving the 'other person/s' responsible for one's problem.....

ask me tips to change 'yourself' and i'll be all ears and will repeat the same technique again and again.....but don't even come to me even if i am the 'last' person if you want others to behave as per your desire/want....what the other person does/doesn't do is none of my business and interest ......

my only 'area' of specialization is 'how to grow above situations' and that includes ONLY CHANGING SELF.........

On changing destiny – Me, My Guru

On changing destiny – Me, My Guru

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If you have a difficult relationship, then sit back and relax. Close your eyes and meditate on the type of relationship and the qualities that are predominant in that relationship. For example, if you are the ‘good type’ – meaning one who doesn’t assert yourself or one ready to please all, then you will have a ‘dominating personality’ as a ‘difficult person’ in your life. But the question is, is this the only person who is so in your life? Think about it! You’ll be surprised to notice that this type of person has been there always in your life – be it a parent/sibling/friend/teacher et like. And it doesn’t stop now

too.....you’ll meet the same type – only the person changes but the type being same again and again in your life – be it your boss/colleague/neighbour/ second spouse/children and who not till you learn to break this pattern and that is possible only by changing yourself as a person. There is no other shortcut to heal this. So, instead of running away from this present situation and person heal and learn to grow as a person. Develop the attitude that you lack. Then you’ll break not only this ‘painful person’s effect’ in your life but also all the persons you are to meet of similar types in your life in future.

But it would take ages maam! True...so you can choose an easier route..go on a ‘depression drive’ collect as much sympathy as you want from your ‘so called well-wishers’ and listen to as many as ‘I told you so’ from all such good people (who actually were most of the time who had given the same treatment to you some time back in your life!) and wallow in self-pity!!!

Remember ‘Rome was not built in a Day’. So, have patience and be in regular sadhan. Doing sadhan for 1/2an hour and crying for 23 hrs – well how do you think it would work? Do simple maths here! A tap fills the bucket in 20 mts but there are 20 holes in that bucket, now how long it takes to fill that bucket? Same way, if your sadhan and your expectation from your sadhan....increase your sadhan and decrease your negativity........your sadhan should be for 23hrs and negativity for 1/2an hour then the things will work.....

Work on yourself too as you work on the relationship. These both ways of healing gives faster results and better ones too. Not only that, since you have changed, you’ll find a sea change in all your other relationships too!”

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On changing destiny – Me, My Guru

On changing destiny – Me, My Guru

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Now coming to the question of how to change my ‘fate’ of today?

The same way you received your today – by Sadhan.

What you did to receive what you received today, do the same with ‘new intention’. Simple! If it is about material possessions like job, house, car etc then you’ll get a new one with your new intention. If it is relationship you are working on, then, you can’t change ‘relatives’ – fortunately or unfortunately.

I know people who do ‘the stupid thing of doing the same way as things’ and end up with 3-4 marriages and 4-5 relationships in between and still being alone after 5-6 years of hard work. So, don’t think on those lines. Things with people don’t work out as it does with things. So, don’t be so fundamentally stupid.

Heal the relationships regularly and see the difference. But be patient. Heal, heal and heal more. You are with certain people for a reason. Understand and accept that! Then heal! The person does change for better – notice the change and then thank Reiki at every juncture and keep up the good work and one day you’ll be glad you chose this path to walking out of a difficult relationship. Trust me walking out is the easiest way but it doesn’t end there. Because, it is never about the ‘other person’ who

is being difficult in our life, it was about our ability to cope with such people. So till you heal and grow nothing will change. Hence ‘how many ever times  I change my partner, if I haven’t changed and healed myself, the pain and suffering would repeat with me everytime. No amount of change of place and partner would change that'. Take my word for that. So relax, be patient and heal. Grow into a compassionate person and see the relationship turn for better over the years. Don’t expect miracles to happen overnight.

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Just clarify!!!

further to following 'query i received in comments section'

You've taught us so many techniques in Sadhan and you've shared so many of your thoughts here. Sometimes, it gets a little difficult to remember and implement, although we keep trying. 

If you have to just say one thing, or one line, which one could live by and may be sort most of the problems, what would it be? Is it even possible to do so? 

Please give out atleast few of the 'thoughts' that you found worth following or implementing...it doesn't matter even if just few.....


and by saying 'one thing or one line' does it mean 'the most important one thing' or does it mean 'the one thing that encompasses or capsules all the teachings into one word or sentence?'

On changing destiny – Me, My Guru

On changing destiny – Me, My Guru

“Where I am, how I am is because of what I wanted yesterday and what I did yesterday. Similarly, my tomorrow depends on what I want today and what I do for it today.

Being ‘here’ is ‘Destiny’ written of course by my acts, thoughts and deeds and ‘My free-will’ is what I do with what I have today.

Agreed I wanted what I have today, but it is also possible that I am no more comfortable with what I have today. The reasons can be many and any. That is immaterial. What we need to know is if I don’t want or am not happy being here today how do I change it? Well, for that you need to look into few facts and questions honestly – for one you should know what you asked and why. Yes, sit on your intention which materialised. Don’t whip yourself or sit or cry on that. Just clinically understand your own desires and intentions clearly. If not anything it’ll help you to know your real intentions behind 

going for a wish and then you’ll become smarter in knowing how to frame your intentions henceforth (and no don’t call me – no body can help you with your wishes. Only you know them the way you want, so go for it. It is all a learning process – for everyone. There is no short-cut in this ‘learning’, so put aside ‘but why can’t Reiki give ‘Right’ way the first time and related questions. It can’t and won’t. That’s how the Universe works. We are not the ones to decide how Universe should work! Take it or leave it! Suffer with it by calling Reiki/God/Your master names or be smart enough to understand the rules of this game bye and by and enjoy playing it. That’s all!

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chaturmas

chaturmas

Sorry about the delay...........
this year's chaturmas has started on July 4th (Already started) and will continue till 31st October ....

Those who are interested in doing the needful may do the same.......

no point asking the same questions like "how do we go about? / what to do? " etc again and again...giving link of older posts ...check on them for other details............


https://kantipadam.blogspot.in/search?q=chaturmas

https://kantipadam.blogspot.in/search?q=sadhan+during+chaturmas

and yes those who are busy with other activities or your suffering 'forget it'.....this is only for those who want to benefit from these auspicious days/months....or for those who are in misery and want to get out of it..... and not to those who want to be in misery and want only pity from others......

even to wallow in self pity these months are suitable with sun hardly coming out and giving us 'season related depression'....