What to do with the problem?

 

Contd.....

What to do with the problem?

4. Now write your problem - JUST THE PROBLEM - without adding any prefix or adjectives to it. Just what the problem is. Now the problem - many times is found to be a very small one that can be handled if correctly broken down to "small doable actions for a set period of time". 

Most just say "I WANT this thing to go this way etc" and think the issue will wonderfully be fitted into their "WANT of imagination". NO! It doesn't work that way.

Understand the problem first. Look into it directly. See what you consider a problem. Then look at ways to fix it. Then work on the action plan. Have patience as your action plan is being executed. It takes time for the job to be done. Wait! See the results and know if you like it. Did it turn out the way you wanted it or not? Make the necessary changes in your action plan to get the desired results. And repeat the process till you get what you desired.

“But maam, I don’t want to do all this process. Why can’t you just make some magic and let things go my way?”

Me – If I had to and can make things go your way, I would have done it my way and wiped you out with my magic – na rahegee bansuri, na bajhegee baans (no flute, no music). Would I not make my life much more easier that way?

Contd.......

# life, beauty of life, challenges of life, opportunities of life, life lessons, problems and solutions, facts of life, there is no easy life, grace, growth, hurdles in life, 

also read suggested from previous posts https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Me%2C+My+Guru+-+On+life+and+death+%E2%80%93+III%21

Be authentic! Be yourself!

 

Be authentic! Be yourself!

You’ll always be brave in someone’s mind and a coward in another’s, strong to one and fragile to another, good to one and terrible to another.

You will be seen as annoying to one and comforting to another. Some will feel anxious around you and some will find peace in your company. Some will see you as “too much” while others will see you as a gift!

The World will look at you from their subjective point of view. The World is never going to agree on a definition of who you are!

So you might as well live the way that feels true to your heart.

Be yourself. Be the authentic you!

Because at the end of the day, all healing boils down to just this – are you real and genuine? Or, or you fake and performing?

So what are you?

And what would you want to be??

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# fake and real, genuine, being truthful, on healing, true to yourself, on trust, on spirituality, being closer to God, how others view you, freedom,

Questions addressed:

What does it mean to be spiritual?

When does journey towards spirituality start?

How to overcome our pains and sufferings?

Free yourself from need for validation of others!

Read suggested from previous posts : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2015/02/perception.html 

Question time:

So, what does it mean to be authentic?

What stops you from being real?

Which are the circumstances you fake it?

How do you feel when you are real?

And how do you feel when you are performing for others?

What did you understand from this post and this exercise?????????

How some people find time for everything and others don't have time even for the basic works to be done?

 

How some people find time for everything and others don't have time even for the basic works to be done?

Further to query/comment of Swathi https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2025/08/how-when-and-why-grace-is-received-and.html?showComment=1756921323923#c2242126754222443877 

Read the couple of links given –  https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2014/10/clarification-to-other-wannabe-bloggers.html 

and 

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2016/11/thank-you.html 

and

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2017/09/on-feedback.html 

and

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2015/08/few-questions-asked-and-addressed.html

they explain a few points like

a.    How I find it possible to write, be in sadhan and doing many other things

b.     What drives me to write

c.      One attitude /nature that gives strength to all that you want to do or have to do

Read them clearly, slowly and without having that running commentary in your little head of yours. Then, you will see the answers.

The same answers can be applied for all the situations, work and things to be done in your life.

You will also find reasons and solutions to remove the blocks that stop you from being ‘dependent, regular, dedicated, sincere, romantic (towards work and life in general), and honest in your work ethics).

Hope this clears your doubt/questions…..

I have given link to only short and crisp posts........you will find lots of them where the answer to your question is given....

RECIPE TO BE LEADERS!

 

RECIPE TO BE LEADERS!

There is only ONE recipe to be a “Leader” – that of being ready to lay down one’s life for a cause!

No one, absolutely no one (without an exception) can become a leader without being ready to and one who can lay down his life for a cause. No leadership is assigned without this ultimate sacrifice.

All want to be a leader (or a Reiki Master or a Grand Master in our case) and yet no one wants to sacrifice.

Forget about sacrificing one’s life, no one is ready to sacrifice his sleep, his greed, his manipulative nature, desire to be glorified by students and what not.

No one wants to make the necessary sacrifice. And so, no one makes a leader.

We all want to be leaders without making the necessary sacrifice. And the result is zero – nobody bows in front of us, no one listens to us and no one respects us.

A leader is one who is ready to sacrifice his ego and be humble (in real sense not just pretend). But, all want to control others. So, they fail the test when they act as Reiki Masters. They fail as humans. They fail to walk this path.

Correct the essentials and see the miracles happen. Work on self and become worthy of the respect that you so want and are desperate to get. It will happen automatically if you earn it. Don’t be manipulating seeking it.

Wake up and live right!

*****

# sacrifice, family, relationships, leadership, mentor, self learning, ego, challenges of life, spiritual path, on being spiritual, freedom,

also read previous post https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2015/03/rama-purushottam.html 

Problems are like washing machines.

 

Problems are like washing machines

They twist us, spin us and knock us around but in the end we come out cleaner, brighter and better in the end!

As long as life is life will throw googly at us. (Googly is a kind of ball thrown in cricket. It doesn’t have a set rhythm). No one can predict or control the way things will shape up in life. That is said as “life throwing googly at us”.

If seen right, it also can be said that “Life is playing with us”. We are batting and it is bowling. Fun, isn’t it?

But, we end up crying, complaining, going into depression and everything else except enjoying this game. Why? Not because, it is sad or bad. Yes, what life does or how it does is not bad or sad. What life does or how life evolves is also not wrong.

The issue is we are not “good at batting” the balls that it throws at us. We are poor players. We want to sit idle in the field. But, how? just think!!

We don’t know how to handle the balls thrown at us. The day we learn to play right even if be just a few of the balls thrown at us, just imagine the joy, satisfaction and pride we feel – not to forget the fun element then.

That learning to play the balls right is all healing is about. That way of living is all there is to learn. Then, come what may, we will enjoy this game of life! We wouldn’t be depressed, hopeless or feel cornered by life/guru/Reiki or God.

So, you see, problems are like washing machines. They twist us, spin us and knock us around but in the end we come out cleaner, brighter and better in the end!

So let’s work towards becoming a better person rather than a bitter person at the end of this washing!

Come let’s heal ourselves enough to be able to play this game better.

Come let’s enjoy this life for what it offers.

Come let’s reclaim our worth!

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# problems and solutions, every problem has a solution, breakdown situations and breakthrough situations, miracles, luck, life,

also read previous post to know how a simple perceptive change changes the matter of the problem https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/11/on-problems-and-solutions_02130584121.html 

 

Revisiting the old posts – On God's role in establishing Dharma - Sweeper's story!

 

Revisiting the old posts – On God's role in establishing Dharma - Sweeper's story!

 

Read or this fortnight is “https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2018/01/me-my-guru-on-attachments-faith-and.html” and get back with your understanding.

 

What are the questions that you had that were answered?

What did you understand?

How and where to apply in your life?

A Few of the questions that were addressed were:

Why did I get what I got?

Why don’t I get what I want?

Some people get more than what they deserve. Why?

Few suffer though they haven’t done anything wrong. Why?

How can I believe God is running the show when I see so much  wrong going on in this World?

NEVER LIE!

 

NEVER LIE!

“Never lie. Above all, never lie to yourself. The one who lies to himself and listens to his own lies comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him or around him”. Fyodor Dostoevsky

 We have our reasons for not being able to tell the truth.

Do not understand what is being said here incorrectly. You need not tell “every Truth” that you know.

But, here we are asked not to lie. Stop lying.

Before lying to others, we practice it in our head a few times. We lie to ourselves before lying to others.

After lying to others a few times, we start believing our own lies.

When this happens again and again, we start living in the web of our lies. Then, over time, we become so clouded by our lies that the line between Truth and lie becomes blurred (in our perception).

There comes a time later in life when we believe our lies to be true and we no longer can see the Truth anymore. We become blind to Truth.

That is the most dangerous and horrible thing we can do to ourself. We take ourselves away from the Truth and redemption becomes that much far and impossible for us.

In such times, meditation becomes very painful and impossible to do.

Never lie!

Even the little tampering of facts comes under this category.

We twist facts and figures to fit our story.

We want to project our image our way and our little lies start there. Stop right there.

Meditate regularly to be near Truth. Keep away from lies that we tell ourselves for our good.

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# lies, Truth, deceit, karma, destiny, freedom, sensibility, faith, ego, you receive what you give, 

also read https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2023/01/truth-wins.html

Milestones of the year 2024 – 364 and counting!

 

Milestones of the year 2024 – 364 and counting!

Yes, finally we could cross 364 posts in one single year!!!

And to me, it seemed like a distant impossible dream – all these years!

This year, it is going to be the “HIGHEST NUMBER OF POSTS TILL DATE OF THIS BLOG” however much we post henceforth!

That’s good! That’s very good!

I had this number 364 since a long time. One post per day. Seems very easy and doable but I couldn’t. Now, let’s not go to the reasons. Though they are genuine, I don’t want to fall back on them. For me, I didn’t do means I didn’t do. I wouldn’t justify by giving reasons. And putting the blame on “unforeseen pressing and unavoidable circumstances”.

But now, that target is reached.

Don’t assume everything was “perfect” by way of circumstances. No! What has been happening all these years, happened this year too. I Had the same reasons this year too. And yet, I could do it. And therein lies my joy and happiness. Not that I did it. But the fact that I could do it in spite of all the circumstances.

So, what is there for us to learn from this experience?

One, no matter what, we can “DO” our bit if we think of “how to think of” and not waste time on “why did this happen” etc stories.

Two, there is scope for improvement however good we do in whatever area it may be.

Three, never stop when you reach the goal. See if the goal can be pushed further and go that extra mile. You’ll feel proud of that achievement of yours. Your confidence and self-esteem are dependent on your such actions and choices in your life.

Can you throw some here?

How are you going to apply this in  your life?

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Me, My guru – working of Karma noted in a real-life situation!

 

Contd....

Me, My guru – working of Karma noted in a real-life situation!

So you see, one who repented changed for the better. The others, they spoiled their karma all through and they had to reap the consequences of their evil deeds even in their next janmas to come” So saying our Guru left to receive her all.

We got our answers. These were live examples. How can we not accept them? And I understood one thing today – we didn’t seek justice. We sought revenge. And that’s why all these years we kept arguing with her. If it was justice, yes it was meted by karma. But revenge was personal, so we never were satisfied with her explanation. The problem was not in her explanation. It was in our perception, want, attitude. Can we change it or not is a different question? Do we want to outgrow it or not was the question we needed to dig deep into and find answers to! But that was not to happen today!!!

Concluded......

Can be continued with further case studies if and only if you participate with your observations/understandings/ 

If and only if I find any of you sharing your observations, understandings and what you have noticed in your life - in similar cases, will I come up with newer case studies......

                                                              ******   

# me, my guru series, karma, you receive what you give, fate and destiny, destiny, as you sow so you reap, everything happens for a reason, 

read suggested https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2016/06/on-receiving_26.html

What did you understand from this case study?

What do these case studies tell you about karma?

What is our role in etching our karma?

What happens to us is because of what we have done in the past. How do we safeguard our future karma with present actions?

The milestone reached – 329 posts – The ultimate one!

 

The milestone reached in 2024 – 329 posts – The ultimate one!

Finally, we have crossed 329 posts a couple of days earlier!!! https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=302+posts

This was the number – the highest number of posts in a year so far in our blog since its inception. This number was for the year 2020.

We have crossed the highest number of posts – 329 that means we have already created a new history in our blog of making a ‘new highest number of posts so far’.

We just have to wait and see where our work takes us to….

I still would be working as much as I can and let’s see how much more posts I can add to this magical number of 329 this year…..

Any guesses?

I will take one step at a time, one post a day and see where it takes me……

Kudos to you too for being with the post……

Having created a new record should we become a little casual about our work?

We can and usually people do too. But, is that the lesson we wish to learn and imbibe this year?

Usually, the goals that people set are ones in which we have decided to perform better than others, achieve more than others, and be more than others. Even if your goal is something along those lines, DON'T STOP even when you reach the said target. Yes, when you have crossed your opponent's mark, don't stop. Keep going. Set a record that would be difficult for even you to break in future! That should be the way we should work towards our goals. That would be so inspiring and worth working towards too.

Keep working in small doses but regularly and the magic happens at the appointed time.

Don’t be looking at the goal. Just keep up the good work and the goal is reached effortlessly.

These are just a few lessons we can take from this year’s journey!

Want to throw some more?

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So what are your goals for this month?

What are your goals for this year?

What are your goals from this life of yours?

What did you learn from this "Milestones of 2024" journey so far? How can you apply it to your life plan and life goals?