Me, My Guru – On surrender – Tale of two neighbours

 

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““Guruji, I surrendered and yet things didn’t go my way. And you still ask me to believe in God? How can I trust Him if HE doesn’t fulfill my wishes – MY WAY!” asked Vaishnav.” – This is the very oft repeated question/complaint/doubt. The anger that stems from it or that is behind this question/complaint/doubt is also a very common one.

There are two ways of living our lives. One is that we assume to be “normal” (quoting others in our lives) and in justifying our demands/desires and in being angry/frustrated/disappointed/depressed/hopeless and so on.

The other is more “The Right way” and hence less taken one too. It involves that we address our state of mind instead of the issue in our lives. We look at ourselves and see how and why we are feeling a certain emotion. In this path, we take responsibility for our well-being and state of mind in our hands. We stop blaming others for the mess in our lives. This path empowers us in the long run.

But then, as I already said, this is the path less taken and hence assumed to be “not for everyone”!!

“He was fuming with anger. And to him, he was justified. He was wronged by our Guru, Reiki and God. They have let him down. He had every right to be angry with them – or so he thought!” – Look at the words here. It is clearly said, “to him, he was justified for his anger”. Is it not so with each one of us in every situation in our lives when we think we are suffering our anger/hatred or any such emotion because of others? We ASSUME, I repeat, assume that we are justified in feeling so. As long as we give power to others to take away our peace of mind, we will be victims of our situations. We live in an assumption and belief that if the situation in our lives gets corrected we will be happy. It never is so! We think if people in our lives change for good we will be happy. This too is never right.

Look at the desires and emotions. Sit in meditation. Know their cause. Know their impact on you. Know their hold on you. Become free of their hold on you. That is true freedom! That is empowerment. There is no other way to happiness and freedom!"

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# surrender, faith, trust, belief, doubt, suffering, waiting, attitude, calm mind, mindfulness, being still, let miracle work through you, being his vessel,

Question time:

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Me, My Guru – On surrender – Tale of two neighbours

If you are not happy with God’s way of running your life, don’t surrender. Go your way!

Work out your life and desires your way. No one can object to that. You have both choices. You take the one that is beneficial and up to your preference.

But if you hold others’ responsible for the results that you seek, the only think you are walking towards and creating for yourself is hell of pain and suffering!

To know, accept and outgrow that we all need to meditate – a lot and then put all the techniques that we know to apply what we know to practice.”

She left us for the day!

We didn’t leave her or the topic – for many days to come.

Later too, we just pushed this topic and related emotions into the background.

Other issues cropped up that demanded our attention – hence!

And those emotions lay there buried fuming to express themselves with a little trigger!

Would we be able to know then that these emotions had surfaced?

Only Time would tell?

For now, we thought we had left them behind us for good!

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# surrender, faith, trust, belief, doubt, suffering, waiting, attitude, calm mind, mindfulness, being still, let miracle work through you, being his vessel,

also read suggested further on this topic https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2020/05/expectations-and-conditions_20.html 

Pointers to understand the post in the next post.........Continued......

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Once you meditate and understand this, you’ll understand the nature of desire. The Ego survives because of our desires. So it keeps generating desires one after the other. The story never ends.

But if we take a pause and meditate, we’ll see how our emotions make us run from here to there – driving us crazy.

Then in that state of understanding when we surrender our desire to Reiki or God, then, we know that “whatever happens, happens for our good”.

We’ll not use ‘our stupid logic’ and pose questions like “But this happens in everyone’s life know?”

OR

“But everyone is happy…”

“We’ll not play a ‘victim-card’ to project ourselves as ‘poor baby’.

We’ll stop all these childish games.

And in that wait which is full of faith and trust – not hope of fulfillment, a certain miracle happens. The doors of abundance opens. This necessarily doesn’t mean our desire is fulfilled though. In each one’s life, the abundance and miracle take a different hue. It all depends on his soul agenda, journey, karma, worthiness and need of the hour.

Then, the sadhak doesn’t see the storm that is in his life – he sees the “rainbow” – the miracle as promised by Reiki or God!

Surrender is a big thing! It is not a word as you say or think. It takes janmas to understand it right and apply it.

Many use it to avoid playing their part in the happenings of their life. They are weak ones. They are escapists. Surrender is not that also!

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# surrender, faith, trust, belief, doubt, suffering, waiting, attitude, calm mind, mindfulness, being still, let miracle work through you, being his vessel,

also read suggested further on this topic https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2009/05/faith.html 

read the link to understand what faith is made of.........

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He often thought he was logical and right when he posed questions or argued his points. But those listening to him could clearly see flaws in his attitude, words and logic! The day we are able to do the same with our words, feelings, emotions and logic would be the day we have won ‘Olympic Gold’ in the ‘Spiritual World’. Would I see that day in this life of mine, I wondered!

“Yes, you can. Nobody can question that. It’s just that not all demands are given in to by our Father! Isn’t it the same with our biological fathers too?

( https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2009/03/real-growth-is-in-letting-go.html )

“To ask is our right and to fulfill it is His Choice”.

To love a girl is your right. But it is the girl’s choice to accept it or not.

To apply to a Company is your right, they accepting it or not is their right! Isn’t it?

You expecting your children to take care of you in old age is your right. They doing so or not is their choice” she continued.

“Ok, ok, I get it. then why should I surrender when He may not fulfill it?” asked Vaishnav visibly irritated.

“No, you didn’t GET IT. if you had you wouldn’t have asked this question. We DEMAND that our wish be fulfilled because we become restless, disturbed, adamant and demanding because of our desires. We DON’T LIKE being in that space of disturbed state. So, we ASSUME we’ll become calm and peaceful if and when our desires are fulfilled. But it doesn’t happen so. We may become calm for very little time but the next desire comes to disturb us. This way we keep going from one desire to the other.

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# surrender, faith, trust, belief, doubt, suffering, waiting, attitude, calm mind, mindfulness, being still, let miracle work through you, being his vessel,

also read suggested further on this topic https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2020/09/on-belief-and-trust.html

Point to consider:

I take pains to search for the link that adds meaning and gives answers to your questions as you read through the present post. When I can take pains to do so, why can't you take the trouble to read the link to get your answers, is the question that bothers me since years.......

Or 

better still, I think I can stop doing this unnecessary work of giving links of the previous posts for your read.......

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Our Guru smiled and shared this beautiful, small yet profound anecdote with us.

“In a certain lived two neighbours. The drainage of one house-holder was going through the compound of the other house-holder. One insisted stoppage of the drainage and the other refused to do so. An arbitration was arranged. Arbiters were appointed. It was accepted that both would abide by the judgement of the board. Both agreed.

Then one refused to close his drains or change its course. He was adamant. Now the board was confused. Were they not selected to make a decision? But still, one wasn’t ready to accept the decision.

In the same way, surrender doesn’t mean “I’ll give you power to resolve this issue but it should be resolved my way.

If you’ve surrendered your desire it doesn’t mean God or Reiki will fulfill it! (https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2015/03/let-his-will-be-mine.html)

It means you’ve a desire and you’ve given God or Reiki to decide to give it or NOT to you. Either way it works, accept it as “Mahaprasadam”.

That is surrender!

Being happy only when it works as per your taste, preference and want is not surrender. That is demanding”.

“But you say God is our father. Then why can’t I demand from HIM? asked Vaishnav being very irritated.

He often thought he was logical and right when he posed questions or argued his points. But those listening to him could clearly see flaws in his attitude, words and logic! The day we are able to do the same with our words, feelings, emotions and logic would be the day we have won ‘Olympic Gold’ in the ‘Spiritual World’. Would I see that day in this life of mine, I wondered!

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# surrender, faith, trust, belief, doubt, suffering, waiting, attitude, calm mind, mindfulness, being still, let miracle work through you, being his vessel,

also read suggested further on this topic https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2020/07/me-my-guru-on-gaining-clarity-of-thought_23.html 

Every image in every post speaks volumes........SEE, NOTICE, ABSORB, MEDITATE ON IT, WORK ON IT TILL YOU LIVE IT ALL!

Me, My Guru – On surrender – Tale of two neighbours

 

Me, My Guru – On surrender – Tale of two neighbours

“Guruji, I surrendered and yet things didn’t go my way. And you still ask me to believe in God? How can I trust Him if HE doesn’t fulfill my wishes – MY WAY!” asked Vaishnav.

He was fuming with anger. And to him, he was justified. He was wronged by our Guru, Reiki and God. They have let him down. He had every right to be angry with them – or so he thought!

Were we all not so in similar instances that involved us?

We transferred our helplessness, frustrations, and desperation on people who had nothing to do with it – mostly and many times!

We understand where he came from. But, now being away and disassociated from (similar) situations, we could see how wrong he was.

It is so easy to know right from wrong when we are detached. Now, I understand why our Guru always asked us to practice detachment in our worldly affairs. We would be fair. We would be calm. We would act sensibly!

Our Guru smiled and shared this beautiful, small yet profound anecdote with us.

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# surrender, faith, trust, belief, doubt, suffering, waiting, attitude, calm mind, mindfulness, being still, let miracle work through you, being his vessel,

also read suggested further on this topic https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2015/03/rama-purushottam.html 

read the beautiful story of the young boy to understand what "FAITH" actually means.......

Me my Guru – On Dilip kumar, depression and need to heal

 

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Me my Guru – On Dilip kumar, depression and need to heal

Take charge of your life. Own up your emotions. Know you can change your emotions at your will. Then work on doing the same with the  necessary techniques taught to you all.

Yes, it’ll take time. Maybe, years! So what? Is our freedom from pain not worth little effort and long wait from ourselves? Those who hate waiting, stop your routine, come sit with me every day for a year and outgrow your suffering. Then go out into the world to do your business. You’ve both options. Each choice has its price. Know that and accept that.” She concluded.

We were made to meditate there after for the rest of the day. A day well spent. We don’t know how much we got healed. But we were more calmer at the end of the day. And I knew this hangover would last a week or more. Good for now. We left her place with a smile!

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# me my Guru series, Dilip kumar, impact of psychic impressions, senses and how they rule us, karma, destiny, 

also read suggested on similar topic https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2009/03/forgiveness-and-empowerment.html 

Every understanding heals us in moving towards our "Divine self". Healing if it happens eases our struggle with forgiveness too....

Point to address:

Since this is the last post of this year, I'll end it here.

I hope this post is clear enough and doesn't require any "Pointers to understand" .....

 

Spring cleaning - TV rack

 

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Spring cleaning - TV rack

So you see it is just not about cleaning the house.

It is just a small exercise that reflects where we have grown, where we still need to work and where and why we lack a few things and abilities in our life.

Is it clear now?

What is clear now?

There is a marked connection between who you are, your sadhan, your healing and its effect on your lives.

Sadhan and healing though are related to spirituality they very powerfully impact every aspect of our life – the smallest of our acts too are governed by who we are!

As I always say “Bhogi hone ke liye bhi yogi hona zaroori hai”

“Even to enjoy this World, you need to be detached from it”

If the connection is clear, what are you waiting for?

Start cleaning the self – the mind where we reside mostly!

You know the various drills – right?

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# spring cleaning, cleaning, healing, outer world reflection of inner world, change self and see the World change, heal self, healing the World, 

read suggested https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2022/07/reflections-on-cleaning-2_0614053454.html 

What is the whole exercise do to you?

How did you go about with this sadhan?

What did you gain?

What did you lose?

What is the moral of the story?

Experiences, understandings, observations if any.....

 

On understanding Karma in real-life situations Series

 

On understanding Karma in real-life situations Series

What is the purpose of the case study of 'real-life situations’?

As is in the title and question, it is the ‘case-study’.

We’ve been dealing with our various emotions, feelings, actions, thoughts in short our karma in various posts. Yet, there is some gap in understanding their impact on our lives. That is one need. The second is, that we are highly disturbed when we are wronged.

Here, there are various issues that need or seek clarification.

I’ve written (again and again)

a.as to why disturbance comes into our life.

b.How to use disturbance as a stepping stone for our growth.

c.How to handle our disturbing emotions (this is taught in various Reiki classes i.e., various techniques are taught to face and outgrow them)

d.How to heal the situation (again various techniques taught in class to be used here)

e.How we can’t hurry healing.

f.Why we need to develop patience in healing and bringing situations from disturbed state to workable state.

g.How we have two choices 1. To suffer while waiting and also how it affects the results and future events 2. To bear the time with equipoise and heal both the past karma and write a calmer future for ourselves.

Have given links to each (as much as I could) for your ease of understanding. Read them if you actually and genuinely want to understand and find answers.

Now coming to the first point – how karma impacts our lives and how it shapes our future – this case study is ‘practical lessons’ that we have taken from others’ lives. 

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# real life situations, karma, fate and destiny, you receive what you give, 

Me, My Guru – Hiss, but don’t bite

 

Me, My Guru – Hiss, but don’t bite

Today, we arrived a bit earlier than usual. We used that time to share our woes. Some just listened. Some gave advice. Some shared their experiences similar to ours.

“How can we raise our kids without shouting at them or beating them? Guru asks us to not get angry. But, when we don’t get angry, children take us for a ride. They are not afraid of us. They don’t listen to us. They don’t respect us. How can being soft work with our kids?” lamented Vidya. We all agreed with her. She did have a point. We all shared our sob stories.

Our Guru entered, sat in her seat and went into meditation. A few minutes later, she opened her eyes and said “In a certain village Buddha gave his discourse for a fortnight. He emphasized the importance of developing qualities of non-violence, forgiveness, patience, forbearance and other such qualities. He also explained how hurting and harming others – knowingly or unknowingly affected our karma – negatively. One cobra, a snake was also listening to this discourse daily. On the final day as Buddha was leaving the village, this cobra came to meet Buddha. It bowed to Buddha and said, “Master, I’ve been listening to your discourse every single day. I am impressed. I wish to walk the path towards Enlightenment. Please accept me as your shishya”.

Buddha looking at the very huge, fat cobra willing to walk this path smiled and said “So be it!”

Now our cobra – let’s call him Nagaraj had been living on the paths leading to and from the village. He would be waiting for its victims to come on its path. It would raise its hood as high as a man’s shoulders and bite its victims.  

Many people died due to its poison. It was dreaded in that village and in the neighbouring villages too.

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# me my Guru series, Buddha and the snake, hiss but not bite, be firm but gentle, anger, calm, disturbed mind, balanced person, 

also read suggested on this topic https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=angulimaan

Me, My Guru – On where there is a will, there is a way!

 

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Me, My Guru – On where there is a will, there is a way!

“Our Guru just smiled and waited for tea to arrive.” – Read this sentence again and again. And see the reaction and the emotions of the students in the next para. What did you understand from this?

We need not react or answer every question IMMEDIATELY! Just by waiting, you can fizzle the emotion and tension in the air many times. But, the classic question is, “Do you want to fizzle the emotion or are you fighting your ego battle?”

The MANTRA to maintain or sustain a good relationship, to reduce the negative vibe, and to ease the stress is “WAIT”. And, for that, we need to be balanced ourselves. We need to work on our ego – at other times so that we are balanced in times of need.

“SRK, AB –  when such examples are given – someone will come up with some other similar name. Now, what is the purpose of this example? Just to drive home a point. That is already done. Then, why take the pain to introduce one more character – whether public or your dear one?

Only a person who is listening or reading with emptiness will not come up with any other example.

Those who are reading out of ego will come up with similar examples. Stop there. Look within. Check the reason for your mind to go in that direction. Smile at your mind game. Come back and find your centre.

Let this post/example help you to find yourself and your ‘silent zone’. Do not get more into the ‘sound of knowing’ after reading the blog.

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also visit https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2016/05/are-we-carrting-unnecessary-luggage.html 

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