On being truthful!

 

On being truthful!

“Practice truthfulness. Twelve years of absolute truthfulness in thought, word and deed gives a man what he wills” – Swami Vivekananda.

Read what the Swamiji says again and again to get it right.

He says – Practice truthfulness for twelve years. No bending the rules there. Practice should be in toto – IN THOUGHT, WORD AND DEED. Only then, the sadhan is complete. We can’t bend the rule to our convenience and then demand that we gain the power to materialize our thoughts or desires into reality.

Don’t expect the other – be it your parent, Guru or God to practice it for you and pass over to you the fruit of that sadhan. What would you call a person who expects so? What are the qualities that you associate with such a person?

Now, coming to our “Practice truthfulness” – sit on it.

Meditate on it.

Think about it.

And then, come back with your thoughts.

All your thoughts when put together may actually give you a better perspective.

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# being truthful, honesty, character, destiny, power over fate, becoming powerful, overcoming Nature, yogic practices and their benefits, 

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so many of your questions were answered and to me in such a simple way......

do revisit this link and get back with your observations, understandings and questions addressed.......

 

 

Truth wins!

 

Truth wins!

On daily basis, we lie and call it an inevitable thing!

Many times we hide facts to give a wrong picture to others. We hide so that our image is kept intact. Here, I am not talking about ‘not telling something that doesn’t involve or affect others’.

Few even manipulate others to get their things done.

We tamper with the facts to save ourselves in some way.

We consider doing all this as ‘clever’ and are proud of ourselves when we succeed in fooling others.

We feel proud of our achievements.

When things go our way, there is no one to stop us and our confidence. When things are fine, our morale is at its peak. Remember, when the same ‘karma’ comes back to us, then we want quick-fix solutions. Then, we say ‘but, I don’t want to suffer so’. By then, it is too late.

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# lie and truth, truth wins, manipulations, deceit, long term benefits and repercussions, 

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What does your experience say about this?

Sadhan on sunsets

 

Sadhan on sunsets

For the last one week, we took upon ourselves to watch Sunset together daily for one whole week.

I did – religiously (as ever!?) every single day!

Some did this exercise.

Few didn’t - with excuses.

Others found the whole exercise not beneficial (!?) and so didn’t do!

What happened?

The whole of this – mostly in Hyderabad (of India) it was either cloudy or raining. So, it was not possible to do this exercise literally!

Some didn’t even go out at the appointed time thinking ‘oh, it’s cloudy so its waste of going’.

Some cursed their fate for not being able to do it because of rain. Some of them even thought it was ‘bad sign’?!

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Pointers to this post :

"Some didn’t even go out at the appointed time thinking ‘oh, it’s cloudy so its waste of going’." - We usually do this with most of the things in our life. "Oh, I will any how not get a prize, what is the use of participating?"

"Oh, we anyhow can't afford foreign trips, why talk about it or see such videos?"

"Oh, we can't afford such houses, why look at them?"

"Oh, i won't become famous as a singer or earn money out of it, why learn to sing?"

and many more ....we miss out on learning something or just watching something etc because we are always 'target oriented people'. And if our action doesn't get converted into a 'target' like we desire, we as well don't do it. That is so sad! Play for the sake of playing - not just for prize. After all, we are not professional players, so what difference does it make if we lose in office matches or in our colony? Enjoy the game! One who enjoys wins even when he loses!

Learn to sing, dance, paint or anything - not because it is 'money minting' for you - but because it can calm you. It can give you joy that no money earned can give you....trust me, don't miss out on that joy. It is so easy to reach and get. Try! Sing as if no one is listening and dance as if no one is watching!

Similarly, do pooja, exercise, cooking, cleaning joyfully not expecting any results - but since you are to do it - you as well do it with joy. 

On bringing pain from future.........

 

On bringing pain from future.........

Further to https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Just+do+that%21 .....

Read the article 'Just do that!' again to see and understand this continuation........

Some of you have given wonderful feedbacks. They did reveal something about us. 

a.We love postponing our 'even' little jobs/daily routine works as much as possible.

b.We think it is too small to be bothered about. We don't give it a thought. We don't sit in meditation and try to find out the cause of it.

c. Result is - we end up thinking 'our irritation and anger' is because of some other member of the family who is not doing 'the work' which we are so regularly postponing doing.

d.We end up being angry with him. We end up fighting with them. We end up messing up our relationships and atmosphere of our house.

e. All this in the name of 'wanting the house to be clean'. 

f. But if we only see the article - you'll see clearly that it took few minutes to complete the job that was 'supposed to be huge and boring' to me. That means we 'imagine' differently from the fact. What we assume is not true. We 'think bigger than real' ALWAYS! 

g. In article I had written, when I put my mind to rest and simply started doing the job, it took hardly 15mts and lo! I was happy too. 

We many times postpone doing jobs ASSUMING or THINKING  them to be hard/boring/ not to my like/etc etc.......but if and when we sit to work on them, it ends up being very simple and effortless......

think about it........

apply it to daily routine jobs....

and also can't we not apply to every situation in our life. We imagine our future to be something bad, ugly, frightful and what not. But it ends up being just fine - every time and yet....we do the same thing again and again......why?

Don't bring imaginary future pain into present. In the past you had wonderful healing experiences. Go through them. Collect your trust from them. Strengthen your trust from them. Now use that strength to face your present situation. Heal it, address it and have patience - do what is required and wait........let things fall in place as time unfolds......

all things will fall in place the right way at right time........

trust your trust.......

Do you have any previous post to support this thought?

do you have any experiences and understanding to go with this?

on feedbacks etc....

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So, you say we shouldn’t have these desires? We should leave everything and go in search of God?

No inspite of the fact that that is the Ultimate and only place worth going. Even if you go to Himalayas now leaving everything behind, you still carry that little heart of yours that has desires – so you can’t find – no one can find God with such an agitated mind. Then?

Have desires – because that is the basis of creation and world order. Yes, ‘want’ to be married, raising kids, having assets etc are a pre-requisite for world order – yes – ‘Gruhastashram’ – the stage of a house-holder is the key to maintaining world order i.e., all other section of society – Brahmacharya, vanaprastha and sanyasin (bacherlerhood, old age and monks and ascetics) they all depend on the house-holder for taking care of them. As per world statistics the population of all European countries is growing at less than 1.8 % and it has been found that no civilization can reverse if that number falls below 3.  So, in another 40-50 years all European Civilizations are to be more or less extinct. It means for every two European if there is one child as the ratio is 1.8 and less, then in 20years population has already fallen down to 50% and it means more children and old people and less youngsters to be productive work-force and less still will be their offspring. So, that way their numbers keep dwindling and will be extinct sooner than later.

So, you see this is an important role a person needs to play to keep the world in order – for the traditions, civilization and race to continue. Wanting to own a house or to earn in million is also NOT WRONG  -  it is infact right because that means more productive society and that is progress everywhere. Wrong it is when all this I want to be put on platter by my parents or in-laws and served to me! That is ADHARMA. I wanting and desiring to be world’s richest man is ‘DHARMA’ and ‘SWADHARMA’ if I am willing to work for the fulfillment of my dreams too! go for it! You have it in you and yes you can do it too!

But, just because your desire of ‘getting married, having kids, having a purpose in life, job etc’ doesn’t happen now doesn’t mean you go into depression and feel helpless and desperate and its’ allied feelings. No! A big no!

Something is not happening now doesn’t mean it’ll not happen in future!

The other day I received a call from ‘Singapore’ wishing me. I laughed and said “but the day hasn’t arrived yet” and the caller said “as ever you are behind me in this too!” it was a timely joke but it stuck with me till I received a call from US next day. To that caller I said “You are late in wishing by one day!” and the caller said “but here it is still that day! But then you always have been ahead of me always!” That did it to me. At any give point of time, I am behind someone (always!) in this world (infact thousands of them) and ahead of equal number of them. Yet, I am where I am. I am not backwards or forwards as I presumed to be when I related myself with either of them. Understand that everyone is right as per “their time zone”. Neither late nor early!!!

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There are so many great souls well in 40’s with kids in Engg. Colleges complaining to whole world that their parents and in-laws don’t give them enough to run the family and enjoy their life! They curse their people for falling short of giving these people. Mind you, in such cases I know its’ the parent and in-laws who are running these peoples’ families since day one. Even Engg. College fees and administration costs running in lakhs (as their darling kids had to be gotten paid seats) was foot by their old people. Yet, these people curse them all through the day! Not only that they are crying over their fate too! They are nothing but human parasites or leeches. I don’t say that – our Dharma Shashtra says that in couple of contexts. That people who are tamasic in nature and greedy, lazy and yet demand others to work for the fulfillment of their desires and needs are bane on the society and family. They are asuric in nature. The sooner they fight these qualities of theirs, better for them! But the point is they don’t even accept that they are wrong. Infact, they presume that they are being wronged. But, enough of these people! We need to talk about YOU! Not them!

Very good metaphor used by you – ‘coal will not get its due respect and place in gold market’. (Though I would’ve preferred to be said as gold that doesn’t get assessed right in coal market – jokes apart!). the point is you are 100% bang on in your understanding when it comes to others situations (here it is me!). Your next growth stage and very difficult one would be to apply the same to self! yes, please apply the same principle to your “happiness and self-worth” too!

Hazooron khwaishein aise ke har khwaish pe dum nikale,

Bahut nikale armaan is dil ke,

Phir bhi lagtha hai ke bahut kam nikale.....

I’ve thousands of desires each worth dying for...

Many desires of this heart has been fulfilled and yet

It seems less.....

Ghalib has already put it across so beautifully....we don’t have one or two desires – we have multitudes of them surfacing every day of our life (Just for a day observe your thoughts and note down the number of wishes we get and as to how many get fulfilled! Don’t judge, don’t condemn, just count – if not for a day – just one hour of the day...) And almost 80% of them get fulfilled. Just a couple of them remain hanging in the air – that too for a short span of time (as per Reiki/Universe/God) but longest waiting period by us!

‘I want to be married, but...’

‘I want a kid but....’

‘I don’t know what I want....’

‘I am having debts....’ etc and so am unhappy, sad, depressed, suicidal, lonely or desperate and can’t do sadhan....now that is ‘wrong place to be’.

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on feedbacks etc.....

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Now coming to question asked by me “What am I worth etc?”

Firstly, let me thank you all for all the answers that you gave me. One thing that was common in your answer was “Value can’t be assessed based on money that I earn”. So, I understand it as “I am a worthy person inspite of ‘materialistic or productive outputs’ in tangible assets not being produced or created by me”. I hope I have got it right! Did I?

And you also said “Even when I don’t contribute through blogging 

(too), even then I am worthy of my existence. I am not a burden on this Mother Earth. My just being is enough”. Good!

As also observed by you, I have intrinsic value which need not be appreciated by all and sundry. Only people who value what I can give will value my worth. Others can’t understand all this as their yardstick of measurement is very limited. Did I get it right?

“Sometimes, we are placed in a position where our worth becomes questionable under ‘some peoples’ norms of assessment’. But that doesn’t make us ‘want’ to prove to these people who can’t or won’t understand. I need not stop celebrating being me! I can still be happy about where I am!” – I’ve compiled your answer thus. Hope I am right!!!

If I am right, then why are YOU sad, depressed, listless, unhappy, angry or feeling low and worthless?

Your explanation clearly gives out your understanding. So, don’t start with “yes maam, but...”.

What applies to me does it not apply to YOU too?

Are rules for SELF WORTH different for both of us?

This is exactly what I’ve been trying to explain – since God knows when and you end up saying “true Guruji, but.....you don’t understand”. Not important that I do. Important is that YOU DO! And YOU Do that’s good news. Your answer proved it! And God am I glad to hear that from you all? It’s just that you are not applying that understanding to your own situation and experience.

Before explaining further, I would like to congratulate you on your

‘principles’ too! – As one of you observed, everything and everyone is valued against money ONLY!  But only by people who themselves are ‘greedy’. When you didn’t value thus, it doesn’t apply to all...right? and yes regarding people who value everyone against money, even GOD can’t save a person whose ‘principles’ (no pun intended) tell him to complain that ‘his in-laws didn’t gift a BMW’. Yes, you are right in giving that example to state ‘peoples’ values’. These people don’t have any. Their ONLY value is to tag on to someone or others for the fulfillment of their desires. That shows that the person is at the 'lowest step of spiritual ladder". You all are so young and just

kids and yet are so well balanced to speak out against being ‘dependent on parents’ for the fulfillment of ones’ desires! Kudos to you all! Not only are you being independent but are also being responsible towards your family. And you kids are also doing your bit of charity in your life inspite of so many responsibilities. I really am proud of all of you who are doing this. But, keep doing it. Never stop. How much is not important, but think of ways of giving and sharing with others less privileged than you...God bless you ....

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