on being successful!

On being successful

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What is the usual definition of being ‘successful’?

It is ‘materialistic benefit or rewards’ that one gets and which is not at normal level – i.e., if one  has 2 or 3bhk he is not considered successful. One who has ‘bungalow’ or an independant house only is rich and successful – so on and so forth with all other assets.

In such cases when they say “What’s the use of XY talent as you are not successful?” they mean “You didn’t encash your talent by way of name, fame and riches”.

Here we can understand why and where from they come when they say so. Usually these people are envious of the other, have inferiority complex because of lack of such talents in themselves, are full of self-pity, anger, frustration, laziness, hatred and such attitudes (may be just one or few of them) and hence can only give vent to ‘hurtful’ words on others.

Here ‘Raju gari china bharya andanga vundi’ holds good – that means ‘king’s second wife is beautiful’. It just means ‘she is beautiful’. It doesn’t mean the elder one is ugly. This inference that we jump to is the cause of all our pains and sufferings in such cases. If someone is good at something, it just means ‘they are good at it’ – it doesn’t reflect who I am or doesn’t mock me for not having that ability. We need to understand this completely to apply it in every area to become free from such inferences and their related pain. Be aware of such inference (that we make and hence suffer) from today and cut it off once you realize that you are doing it.

The other reason can be that the person is totally materialistic. Even then you can only pity that person and move on. Nothing much to do here. But this exercise is not about understanding the other person who said that, it is about ‘you’. The question is ‘what is the definition of success for you?’

Instead of trying to understand why the person said so let’s break the question and understand it.

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Is Luck by chance?

When your attitude is right, you convert your problems into opportunity.....

and if we are humble even a donkey can teach us this lesson!!!

Luck always favours the successful!!!

Everytime, we hear a success story or see a successful person, we unconsciously utter “how lucky!”. We by default assume that person’s life to be easy and success given to him dressed in a plate. We attribute the success always to the luck of that person. We very rarely look into his life before him being successful. It’s always full of situations that YOU and I would term as PROBLEMS in life. It’s the same situations that the LUCKY successful person converted into STEPPING STONES towards success.

Don’t believe me? Then read on……..

One day a farmer's donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn't worth it to retrieve the donkey.

He invited all his neighbours to come over and help him. They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone's amazement he quieted down.

A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up.

As the farmer's neighbours continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and happily trotted off!

IT MEANS :

Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick to getting out of the well (of despair and self-pity) is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles is a stepping stone. We can get out of the deepest well just by going, never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up.

Remember, when the world pushes you to your knees, you're in the perfect position to pray.

There is no perfect situations in life, just opportunities in the guise of challenges waiting to happen. and to make them happen depends entirely on you and you alone.

Complaining mind sees cloud in every silver lining. A grateful heart and a person with gratitude sees silver lining in every cloud. In gratitude, we are placed in a state of mind which talks of opportunities of self-growth in a given situation. It talks of stock of things that you possess and how to use them to the best of your abilities to grow in life – both internally and externally. Every successful person thanks the situations in his life for what they are – because they made him what he is today. So, you wanted a success mantra – take the first one – be grateful for all that you have and plan to create the life of your choice out of these possessions of yours.

As you plan your success route, I go to dream on – ‘cause only those who dared to dream make it happen – sooner or later…..

Wishing you all a successful journey, I remain still

revathi

Who is the successful healer?

 

Who is the successful healer?

You have been a successful healer not in terms of getting your desires fulfilled. It is not even in making your life easy and comfortable. You are one when you have healed at least one relationship of yours completely in your life of its emotion – be it hatred, jealousy or attachment. If you have outgrown any of these emotions in any of the relationships, then you have been a successful healer for sure. If you have seen the other in the relationship outgrow these feelings for you then also you have healed right as a healer. You have put healing to best you. You have healed the “foundation of karma”. And that therefore has impact on every future life of yours to come.

You are a successful healer if you have dropped a quality of yours that was detrimental to your growth like laziness, procrastination, anger, hatred, fear and so on and so forth. They shouldn’t be overcome for a week or so. They should become your nature. Your natural behaviour should reflect the new qualities that you have imbibed. They should be expressed effortlessly in you.

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# healing, karma, destiny, purpose of healing, healer, divine qualities, essential qualities, change attitudes, 

also read suggested: https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/04/on-strength.html 

Questions addressed and points to ponder:

• What is the actual purpose of healing?
• If one doesn't get what one wants, then what is the use of healing?
• Is healing to get things that we desire?
• Healing brings us closer to our "Real nature". That is the actual purpose of healing.

• Receiving things of this world is just the collateral damage of healing!!
• Easing our life is not the effect of healing. It is just the by-product of being closer to our soul-consciousness.

Angulimaan, the Saint

Angulimaan, the Saint

Angulimaan – one of the well known stories from the Buddhist scripture which at a time gives hope to every individual of a possibility of his transformation and also unmasks the face of society and its ill effect on an individual. It is a story of a higher potential of an individual winning over his break-down situations. It is a story of hope, love, transformation, power and role of Guru and the possibility. 

Now, in a certain village during the time of great Guru Buddha also lived a sincere student named  ‘Ahimsaka’ (meaning the non-violent one) who was diligent, eager to learn, hard working, intelligent and sincere, pleasing and serving his Guru as he excelled in his studies. As always, there were also students who weren’t good enough, envious of him because of their short comings. If only these students had chosen to work on their failures being inspired by the example set by Ahimsaka, the story would’ve been different for all! But the path chosen by these students was one followed by all spineless, low lying characters – that of bringing about the downfall of the successful and good one!

There are two ways to feel elated or rejoice being successful – one is to work on your short comings or cash on your strengths or both, be sincere, hard working and move ahead of the mediocre crowd. This is the path taken by the courageous, sincere and right people. The other is the easy one followed by the large number of failures – that of bringing the successful one down, work for this downfall, spread rumours and tarnish his image and goodwill and as he (the right and successful one) falls, rejoice assuming themselves to be or having become successful. This is ‘assumed reality’.

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read also : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=possibility

Figure it out for Yourself. : - Poem by Edgard A. Guest

 

Figure it out for Yourself. :


Figure it out for yourself, my lad,
You’ve all that the greatest of men have had,
Two arms, two hands, two legs, two eyes,
And a brain to use if you would be wise.
With this equipment they all began,
So start for the top and say “I can."


Look them over, the wise and great,
They take their food from a common plate
And similar knives and forks they use,
With similar laces they tie their shoes,
The world considers them brave and smart.
But you’ve all they had when they made their start.


You can triumph and come to skill,
You can be great if only you will,
You’re well equipped for wrhat fight you choose,
You have legs and arms and a brain to use,
And the man who has risen, great deeds to do
Began his life with no more than you.


You are the handicap you must face,
You are the one who must choose your place,
You must say where you want to go.
How much you will study the truth to know,
God has equipped you for life, But He
Lets you decide what you want to be.


Courage must come from the soul within,
The man must furnish the will to win,
So figure it out for yourself, my lad,
You were born with all that the great have had,
With your equipment they all began.
Get hold of yourself, and say : “I can."


Edgard A. Guest

The above poem answers so many of our questions :

• Why can't I be successful?
• Why doesn't God give me enough to be happy and successful?
• How and why do some people become successful while I am a failure?
• What is most needed for being successful in any field?
• Many of such questions - I know "You will figure it out yourself my lads....!!!"

Me, my Guru Teachers – Everybody

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“O.k. But I still don’t see any thing amusing here” I said. “He is the super-Star of India worth millions and he doesn’t complicate things just because he can afford it. He keeps it simple. He’s sensible enough to ‘be simple’ and yet practical. I see people always changing phones every quarter or six months because the new one’s around the block. No one questions “Is it necessary for me? Is my need fulfilled by the present one?” we all want to keep up with the Johns. That’s all! We don’t buy what we want, we buy what “we ought to buy” which is predecided by the company’s Ad and peer pressure. Where am ‘I’ in the picture? And then I complain ‘I’ can’t live my life? Which life are you talking? Even the idea of phone you buy is programmed by others. So what are you complaining about? Know yourself. It’s not wrong to buy. But do you know why you buy? If the super-star in his hectic life can maintain that balance, why can’t we?”

“I didn’t see that much in that answer of his” I said a little ashamed.

“Then listen to this. He lives in a single bedroom apartment inspite of being such a huge superstar. He hasn’t moved out to posh localities after becoming a super-star. So, rare to see in people! “Less is more” so effortlessly showed by him. That shows how unassuming he is!

He said one more thing “once at around midnight Manish came to do gyming. He had 3 films then and was doing 3 shifts and it was only since a week it was so and he said “God! I am so tired. Give me a break”. When his picture released and didn’t do well all 32 films that he had signed were gone too! That stuck with me. So, I never say I have lots of work. I never want a break or vacation. I have made my job my vacation, so I don’t go on vacation”. A super-star who can retire and relax understands the joy and importance of work. And people who envy him and such successful people wish they had more leisure and less work! How can one be successful, famous and rolling in riches if all they want is ‘leisure’ and no work? Just look at or listen to any successful person – they are ‘love’ their jobs! They all say they ‘desire’ to work 22hrs/day – be it Late CM – Jayalalitha, Indira Gandhi, Ambani, Ratan Tata, Bill Gates, SRK, Amitabh, A.P.J.Abdul Kalam or Baba Amte. Whichever, field it may be, to be successful and at the top only secret Mantra is “work, work and more work”. So Sohail

Khan in that interview said “The more you work, more luckier you get”. It’s true of Salman. I and Arbaaz didn’t put in that much of effort and so we are when we are Arbaaz added”. If Salman comes from shooting at 2am, he hits the gym. He doesn’t excuse himself saying “God, I worked so hard today, I’ll take a break today. These small things give big results over the years. I too have started doing it since two years and now I see the results. There is no short-cut to success other than hard-work!” so simply put by the people who were born into stardom. They didn’t get what they got easy. They worked for it! They deserve wherever they are! They earned it. When we look at other’s success, instead of crediting it with their hardwork, brush it aside as their luck, genes etc and when it comes to our work, we suffer with self-pity. We don’t believe that we each have to work to fulfil our dreams – whatever it be! But when it comes to hardwork, we ‘shun it’. Why? Doing reiki is so simple and yet we find excuses not to do it every day. When these stars can come home after hectic schedule and still hit the gym, why can’t we do reiki before hitting the pillow? Commitment – that’s lacking and that shows in our life and life-style.

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on being successful!

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On being Successful

Did I encash my talent?

No.

So, is it right that that person said I am not successful.

Yes and no.

Yes in practical sense.

But no – because not everything that we have need be converted into tangible asset. Even in business and economics, there is something called as ‘goodwill’ which is not a tangible asset and yet a very important asset for any company.

Like-wise many abilities or talent can give a person intangible benefit or a return which is much more than just being successful. For example if one writes or even if one enjoys good poetry and can recite them at the drop of a hat, the joy it gives to that person and to the listener who has ear for good literature/poetry is immeasurable. This can be appreciated only by a person who has taste for such intellectual joys – the one who measures everything by food, clothing and money can never understand the joy of reading or relishing a good book or poetry. That doesn’t mean it is waste.

Same with music! It soothes the player and the listener. I may not perform to earn but even if I perform for myself say ½ an hour/week it uplifts my soul. Can a dumb head value it?

So it is with dance, art or any form of creative ability. It neednot be a means to earn your livelihood. It could be just to express yourself and that too not for public eye even. Now it is good only if it is put up on FB/instagram but even if I don’t get 50 likes (I don’t know how many likes is termed good enough!) the joy of cooking a dish is as I cook it and the one eating it if relishes/remembers even years later! Isn’t it? Do I have to sell my ‘dish’ to feel the utility of cooking well? Every time someone remembers it and relives the relish they experienced while eating it is the purpose of cooking. Think about it! This may not be a success story but is certainly is not useless or talent gone waste. Right?

So instead of converting everything to monetary returns look at its purpose and the benefit it has given to the user or some other pupose. Then you’ll know whether the talent is ‘waste’ or has served the purpose.

Rabindranath Tagore says in his Nobel winning book Gitanjali “they serve him best who just stand and wait”.  (and again a lazy person can interpret this to their advantage...but You my students wouldn’t understand it their way I am sure!)

Just give it a thought.......

And here I remember one of you telling/explaining (in comments section) once about how your grand mother’s just presence was good enough and there was no need for her to be useful to others....that applies here too............

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Question time again!

On being useful and successful!

Please clarify :

I received a wonderful gift this Diwali from someone ‘special’. During our conversation the person said “You do rangoli, cook well (because the person realized I cook some items that people are supposed to buy only over the counter) blah blah blah....what is the ‘use’ of all this talent since you are not anyhow ‘successful’ (huge stress was on the successful)....me not knowing anything is same as you knowing everything....i ‘pity’ you and your life”...

Now I at no point said anything as ‘me being great because of knowing xyz or having any ability....yet....what does that statement of ‘not being successful’ mean? Why ‘pity’?

What am I supposed to infer and how am I supposed to take it and apply it in my life?

I am sure few of you must have had brush with such ‘good and sound’ advice in your life....how did you deal with it?

Thank you in advance......

Dharma in work

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Dharma in work

If you are a house-wife, put your best foot forward there. Be your best self! Don’t expect others to notice that.  Neither for appreciation nor for love of others! Be so, for it fulfills you. Do your ‘Dharma’ with total honesty and that itself will give you the freedom, joy, purpose of life that you so much seek and look searching for!

You may be a student, nurse, tailor, businessman, homemaker or a writer. Give your best and keep pushing your boundaries by way of increasing your ability, talent, workmanship and passion. Why - you may be just washing your bathroom but still give it your all!

Throw yourself into this ‘dharma yagna’ and come out a pure, satisfied and fulfilled soul!

                                     

Work out your destiny through your work!

                            

Work out your ‘karma’ through your work!

                                    

Transcend your karma through your work!

You’ll discover ‘the purpose of your life’ as you work on your excellence in any field that you are in.

Never accept mediocre work or attitude from self. Stop not till you make it – any work the best. Upgrade your skills. Update yourself! And lo! Your life has a purpose, meaning, fulfillment an above all ‘Dharma’ in it and that is the door to ‘freedom to karma’. 

                                        

Know that the complaining person, one who is angry with work, one who looks only at the returns faces failure more often than not. He finds problems one after the other in his work situations. No successful person ever bothered for results. He was into giving his best to the job. Go through any success story.

                                   

One who is complaining about job, dissatisfied in job, doesn't love will give to job much below what he is capable of giving. That is stealing. Yes, when we are not giving our 100% that amounts to stealing ourselves of our capabilities as we are undermining our potential and that way it is harmful to us. It harms our character too over the period of time in all aspects of life and that is very dangerous.

                                         

But one who worships work will find success after success. He need not go after fame and riches. They come searching for him.

See your talent or ability as the ticket that takes you till North Pole. Would you stop travelling after just travelling for 200 kms?  Only fools would think that way! When you have ticket till a destination, why would you cut short your journey? Similarly, when you are capable of giving 100%, why stop yourself from giving it all just because you are looking at the returns from the Company / relationship / Country / self?

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# love for work, work ethics, dharma on finance, artha, work your freedom through work

also read previous post : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=love 

questions addressed : 

• What is dharma?
• How to apply dharma in work and in earning money?
• How to be rich, famous and successful?
• What are the attitudes required to be successful?
• Does character have an impact on success and its retention?

Points to think about :

• Every crooks and criminals earn money. People with no ethics too earn lots of money. But the person who has character and becomes successful earns also lots of people whom he can trust and share his joys with. He has lots of real friends who are ready to lay their lives for him. He has contentment, peace and security by way of good relationships.             

Today's miracle :

I saw moon in all its brilliance. Sky was completely clear and dark blue sky as back ground, the moon looked beauty ultimate! Wished to lie in the open like in good old days of my childhood.........