The Mystic asks!

 

The Mystic asks!

The Mystic asks "Do you keep knocking on a heart till it opens?"

and

The Mystic wants to know "Are you working on your relationships enough and long enough for them to be better?"

also read shayaari from previous post on unrequited love : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=kaho+aana+kaise

# on unrequited love, relationships, give and take, on patience, on being there in love,

points covered:

• Good relationships don't happen overnight! They happen when the people involved exhibit virtues of patience in every mood of the relationship.
• When we are in a relationship - be it with anyone, are we into it already expecting it to be a finished food and ready to be served? Or, are we entering it with an open eye knowing that we are in it to make it work for all the work put in is for 'our' sake ONLY?
• When the affection is genuine then just being in the relationship means all....
• and when affection is not genuine then no amount of returns is going to make it seem good....
• think about it for a while.....

On the purpose of past!

 

On the purpose of past!

Until one reaches a state of Buddhahood or Enlightenment, one is kind of making flaws, errors, mistakes, or sins along the way. That is understandable.  At every stage in life especially for a sadhak, it is mandatory for him to look back and see and review his journey so far made! When he does this exercise which is compulsory for his journey and growth, he also sees his mistakes and wrongs! That is when his great flip can happen!!? 

Why and how? 

He looks at his wrongs and sits to wallow in guilt or goes on a pity ride. Both are wrong as they impede his growth. 

We can't undo our past. So let's move on! 

But not with arrogance or carelessness. Not even with an 'oh, it happens to all' kind of attitude. NO! Don't overlook the wrongs committed in the past. But don't use them to seek pity for yourself. Don't sit to judge yourself and go on that guilt ride seeking someone to come and cuddle you. Don't justify your actions. Don't use some scapegoat to put the blame on. 

Simply, accept you did it. Accept that you did so but without being proud of that mistake. Then look at the circumstances and your state of mind that made that error in judgment or action. Heal it if need be. Learn from that mistake. See where your weakness is. Know yourself better now. Become aware of your own weakness and then decide to outgrow that - not because of fear of punishment or karma. Not because you need to please someone up there. Don't make these choices out of these flimsy reasons. 

Make up your mind to outgrow your weakness because you have decided to be strong. And strength comes by 'accepting the wrong' we have done. Strength comes when we own up to our mistakes without giving reasons to make them come out as if we didn't have a choice otherwise. Strength comes to a person who accepts his weakness and then thinks and uses his energy to overcome it.

To sum up, we can't change the past. But we can certainly own it up and then learn from it. We can overcome the weakness or wrongs done by knowing them and learning from them. We can't change the past but by revisiting the past and learning from it, we can change the way we move in our future. And therein lies the purpose of the past. Therein lies the power of the future in us. 

The mystic says - On heart!

The mystic says - On heart!

The Mystic says "Sometimes, it takes a little longer for the heart to listen than usual. 

The question is 'Are you pulling on its strings longer than expected and enough?' 

Me, my Guru – on choosing love

 

Contd....

Me, my Guru – on choosing love

We went silent. It was enough to show us the area we needed to work on. It gave us a solution to our problems. This relieved us of our suffering – if we wanted to be relieved of it! As ever we were shown the disease and its cause. We were also given a bitter pill to treat it. One ate the pill and the other threw it away in the dustbin.

One suffered while the other was relieved of his suffering. The difference lay in their choice. She gave both the same and yet no two benefitted the same way.

She was right! What you are given is not as important as what you chose to receive!!!

***

Concluded.....

# on love, imperfections, on relationships, perception, 

also read on similar topic : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2015/01/unconditional-love.html 

If you can read the previous post of the above link too....

Questions and points addressed:

• Situation being same, one is happy and the other is not. The difference is in the way they see and react to the situation.
• Instead of controlling the situation and people in life the day we learn to look at them the right way, we will end up being happy in any situation and with anyone in life.
• If I am not having a good relationship in life now, the chances are I will not have it in the future too! But, when I change then instead of waiting for some 'special' person to come into my life, I will end up being with people who treat me as a 'special' person in every walk of life. This is something we all need to look into.
• Demanding or expecting love and respect will get us nothing. Instead, become eligible and you are showered with them. 

Time for some homework:

What did you take from this post?

How was it helpful?

Where did you apply it or where would you apply it?

Was this useful?

Me, my Guru – on choosing love

 

Me, my Guru – on choosing love

“Guruji, it is impossible to love my spouse. He has so many flaws” blurted out Swathi. She came up with many instances which supported her statement. And our Guru listened. When she was done, our Guru asked her “Most peoples’ favourite flower is the rose. Is it yours too?”

“Yes, Guruji” replied Swathi confused.

“A rose is a single flower and it is full of thorns and many ones too! It hurts you every time you pick it, yet you love it and admire it.  Similarly, a person may have many flaws. You can still choose to love him if you look only at the ‘flower aspect’ of his personality – meaning his good traits. Instead of finding, remembering, and recollecting his negative traits, look, appreciate and validate his positive points/traits. Then decide what to do” replied our Guru.

Our Guru continued “In every person and situation there are good and bad traits. Where and what you look at becomes the deciding factor of your emotion and feeling. Choose wisely and you are happy in any relationship. Otherwise, people find fault with Rama, Krishna and Buddha. Do you think they would leave ordinary mortals like you and me? Any fool can find fault. Only fools find fault! It is the sensible who find a reason to love or some good in every person. “Buddha will see Buddha even in a thief” remember that”. 

Contd....

# on love, imperfections, on relationships, perception, 

also read on similar topic : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Me%2C+My+Guru+%E2%80%93+on+keeping+count+in+love 

The above link must have been read by you a few times before and yet I implore you to do it again - once more! Please see the date and read in sequence....I am sure all those who have been healing themselves regularly with various techniques would find this post more beneficial than the previous time. Your so many questions would be answered and do share your understanding with others. When you write your understanding it is possible someone may end up having or getting a different perspective from theirs and that may open up a totally different way of thinking for them....

Questions answered and points addressed :

• Why we are not able to love the people in our lives?
• What to do to live relationships happily?
• How to be happy in any relationship?
• What do people happy in their relationship do that makes them happy in their relationships?
• If only "people who are 100% good are to be loved or can be loved" then does it not apply to us too?
• A little shift in perception can make a huge shift in our emotions.
• The question is not whether the other is eligible to be loved or not. It is whether you chose to love or not!

On feedback and comment

On feedback and comment 

Further to the comment by Bhagyarekha in the https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2022/11/reflections-on-seeing-his-ways_0756084547.html?showComment=1669365421659 I am glad the post has found its audience....

I appreciate Bhagyarekha for sharing her experience. I am glad to see the clarity of thought in her experience. It's heartening to see such growth. In sharing just one experience she's explained clearly about surrender, gratitude, everything happens for a reason, miracles, how things work on their own if just go about doing our part and leave the rest to Reiki/God.....so much to understand...

I don't do this always for everyone - but this appreciation applies to each one of you who has been sharing your experiences over the years with other channels....May you be blessed.....may your journey be filled with more of such miracles.......may you be walking the path of sadhan and may you see the abundance that this sadhan brings in our lives.....

I thank each one of you who have share their experiences with others once again and request you to keep doing the same in future too - trust me it not only benefits others - it also helps you, heals you and benefits you when you share your story with others....

Reflections – on seeing His ways!

Contd.....

Reflections – on seeing His ways!

Our response expresses where we are and who we are! And that, my dear, is the seed of karma that we reap on a later date! Situation being same, response and reaction is varied and different. Facing that situation doesn’t reflect much about that person, but his response surely does!

Stop to look at response at least once a day. Just pick one response that disturbed you and look within. If you are not able to, then simply heal yourself of that attitude. Over time, the way you see and handle the situation would change – may be gradually – and then you’ll be proud of your growth and transformation. You’ll reap the benefits of this change yourself. No one – not even God can take away that fruit from you. Enjoy it, relish it and keep moving on this path. You’ll find bigger riches on this path laid out for you – again and again. Own it! Celebrate it! Enjoy it!

And share it with others and let your journey inspire others to keep going on this path!

Unfortunately, we are only as safe as the society. The more number of people down this path ONLY can ensure a ‘RIGHT SOCIETY’ for us! We complain about how people are selfish, mean, manipulative more now. If you want it to change, then encourage others who are trying to make progress in this path. Their steps are small and heavy. Support them! They are timid, weak and insecure! Cheer them and stand by them. They are unsure, encourage them with your experiences. Give them reasons and explanations to walk this path!

This path is lonely, long and painful. Let’s make it easy for each other by being sharing our journey with each other.

Concluded......

*** 

# on God, on ways of God, miracles, help coming from various sources, being aware, validation, gratitude, 

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Blessing+that+turned+into+curse+%E2%80%93+Me%2C+My+Guru

This is one of my favourite stories from the Indian Epic Ramayan. Read the link to understand how blessing and curse work...how our karma comes to bite us, sometimes as a blessing...

When we look at people who are enjoying what we desire to enjoy or have in life and when we also know that they have wronged in life and we haven't, we all feel bad. We question the justice of God. We doubt on the God's ways of handling things. We doubt if we need to be good. We ask "What is the purpose of being good if we don't get what we desire inspite of not getting what we seek when those who are bad get what they don't deserve?"

Read the above story - all your questions in this topic and line would be answered. Things are not as they seem. Not all punishments come as suffering. Sometimes they are also given in the form of 'blessings'. That is a very bad place to be. 

Beware of goodies that are bestowed on us. We can't escape our karma. At times, it comes to us in the form that entices us as 'abundance'. There lies the catch!

For August 15th 2022

 

For August 15th 2022

Further to https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2022/08/for-august-15th-2022.html?showComment=1662468017410#c3936550434454363189 I could wound up this sadhan this week only......

This time it is delayed. When you chant or do any of the sadhan that I ask you to do, there are certain procedures to be done to complete them. That way, the sadhan you do ACTUALLY gives you benefit of the same. 

And that is the reason I ask you to give me the count of malas etc everytime. Because, I need to do the needful depending on your malas etc, and with your specific names etc - otherwise that sadhan may not 'phaliboot' (go to give the gains it can )........

I am sorry I couldn't do this immediately this time. Those who are aware may have noticed the same since 20th Sunday and on 21st Masa Shivarathri day.....

Reflections – on seeing His ways!

Contd.....

Reflections – on seeing His ways!

We can gauge the same incident two ways:

a. By understanding His Miraculous ways of operation – This would increase our faith, trust and confidence and commitment in sadhan. He is loved, appreciated, trusted and worshipped then! My worries would be gone and so would my suffering. Smile would play on my lips and my feet would be light on the ground. My while being would relax. More number of times this happens, greater would be my ‘joy factor’.

b. I would end up asking cynical and taunting questions like “but why is He using me to help others? Why doesn’t He send anyone to help me? I am the one always used by my family and office. But I am all alone – without any support of both. I end up doing everyone’s job. Where is Reiki and God there? Why doesn’t He send someone for me? I hate God for being partial towards others and using me to help them!” etc etc etc….

Option b. reflects lower level of consciousness in us. It expresses itself as anger, complaints, self-pity, taunts, frustrations, hatred, fault-finds, demands and expressions of entitlement. Scores of other feelings and emotions may surface too!

Contd.....

# on God, on ways of God, miracles, help coming from various sources, being aware, validation, gratitude, 

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Me%2C+My+Guru+%E2%80%93+Stories+and+All%21+The+God%21+%2F+God+in+the+temple%21+%2F+The+temple+and+the+God%21 

Points to take from this post:

To a bhaktha/devotee/believer everything is a miracle. He sees his aradhya (dear) everywhere and in every act around him. And in that state of operating his life, lies his strength, faith and peace.

Everyone can work through that state if only one wants to!

Milestones of posts - 2022 - next stop!

 

Milestones of posts - 2022 - next stop!

Further to https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2022/11/milestones-of-posts-2022-next-stop.html We have completed 225 posts as of today.....

that was our 'milestone' that was set when we hit previous milestone.....

next again is 275 posts - I am going to be working but let's see what's in store for us this year.......

any comments, suggestions, feedback......???

Reflections – on seeing His ways!

 

Contd.....

Reflections – on seeing His ways!

d.Using GPs is not ‘bad’. It certainly is not unethical, immoral or illegal. It is hassle-free (for many and I agree). But, more and more we depend on technology, less and less we are connected to others. This disconnection creates ‘separateness’ in each of us. That is the basis of ‘emptiness and loneliness’ in most of us. We are as strong as our connection with social fabric is. People always complain that they don’t have family and friends with whom they are close. And that becomes basis for them to get married! Wrong reason to be married! No doubt, most of the marriages go down the drain eventually if not immediately. Start connecting, sharing at simple levels – with strangers on road, parks, journeys. Your morale will increase automatically. No person who is alone will be fearless and confident.

Coming to my day, I made it to the temple only to realize that it was closed. I smiled and turned around. The call was not for the temple. It was to give directions to that old couple. I was happy that my ‘walking quota’ for the day was done majorly. So, no regrets there. My trust in Reiki increased multi-folded. If to show directions to that couple, He can bring me there (of course, He cheated me there?!) then imagine how wonderful His Love Is that takes care of our little needs also so well! What to say of large ones? We may not be able to observe or notice these ‘little miracles’. That reflects our ingratitude. It shows that we are operating from lower level of consciousness. 

Contd.....

# on God, on ways of God, miracles, help coming from various sources, being aware, validation, gratitude, 

also read suggested : Indian Mythology - Advaitha - What saints from other scriptures say....

Points to ponder:

• Not everything in life is about us.
• There are others also in this world and He does take care of their needs too!

Reflections – on seeing His ways!

 

Reflections – on seeing His ways!

I decided to go to a temple in our locality for no good reason. Even if I did ever, that certainly was NEVER the time I would choose to do this ritual. And yet, here I was ready and all, to this temple. 

I saw an old couple looking at the barren road and houses there. I knew immediately that they were searching for some location and I very surely knew it and that they would seek to know that from me. Smiling, I walked the lane, as I approached them, they asked me for directions – as if they knew I was waiting there to direct them. I gave them directions and continued walking toward the temple.

I wanted to share this incident with the following understanding with you:

a.Stop using google apps and ‘ask for directions’ the good old way – at least within the city. (I still do!)

b.The way people respond and reach out to you will touch you!!! The more times this happens, the more your confidence will increase and your fear will decrease. Do it just one day and study yourself on that day. Look at your energy levels.

c.We are social beings. We draw energies when we get connected with our fellow beings.

Contd.....

# on God, on ways of God, miracles, help coming from various sources, being aware, validation, gratitude, 

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Me%2C+My+Guru+%E2%80%93+Stories+and+All%21+The+God%21+%2F+God+in+the+temple%21+%2F+The+temple+and+the+God%21

What does the posts in the link given above explain? 

What did you understand from it?

Questions answered: 

• What is intuition?
• Do miracles happen? Have you experienced miracles?
• Why is there an increase in the mental diseases? Why are people getting depressed more often now?
• Why are we feeling low often now-a-days in spite of increase in facilities, comforts and technology?

Points to take from this post:

• To a person who is aware, life is a string of miracles.
• When a person is grateful, aware and full of faith, he sees Reiki/He is working for him 24/7. He then celebrates that knowing. He is joyous and fearless.
• The little choices that we make ALSO MAKE  a difference in our state of mind, mental well-being and happiness. They also make a dent on our confidence and increase our fear within. In this post it is given as an eg. of using GPS....

On relationships – The one that matters the most!

 

On relationships – The one that matters the most!

The one relationship that matters the most is the one we have with ourselves. Because that is the foundation on which all other relationships are built. Take time to be with yourself. Take time to look at the way you talk to yourself.

If the self-talk has any or all of the following then, then we need to take immediate and corrective steps to address them ASAP.

a.being ashamed of self

b.saying ‘you are not worthy of it etc’

c. no good can happen in my life

d.being negative about self or thinking negative about one’s self

e.I am not worthy of love and respect by anyone

Take time to listen to yourself. Are you demeaning yourself in your thoughts? Are you good with self in your thoughts? Are you judging yourself always?

If all one can feel for oneself is not all that good, no doubt we can’t believe that we will receive good from others….

Be aware of your flaws but be alert enough to work on them. As you are working towards that goal also be patient with self and accepting of self. Don’t judge. Don’t give reasons for being who you are. Don’t find a scapegoat on whom you can put the blame for being what you are or for making choices that you have made in your life. Just move on from that. Accept you have made choices that didn’t work out for you. Now, what to do and how to go about it must be the only question that drives you towards your happiness and wellbeing…..work on that..

And I repeat, be good to self, be kind with self,

Be good to yourself. Be kind of your flaws. Be kind to yourself of your shortcomings. Accept it doesn’t mean be proud of them or wear them like badges. It means accept them but also become aware of the fact that they are the cause of suffering in your life and hence need to go away. Work towards that but also in the meantime stop demeaning self.

Be good with self………learn to love self, learn to respect self….

***   

Mind as a friend!

 

Mind as a friend!

What is the effect of more thoughts in our minds?

What does stress do to us?

How to address stress? What is one weapon against stress that we all have?

What is the technique that gives us the ability to select our thoughts? What is the technique that reduces the number of thoughts that we have?

But, I am not able to empty my mind of thoughts in meditation...and I have a number of thoughts, so I can't meditate....

So, do Gurus or people in spiritual thoughts also have thoughts?

How to filter thoughts?

# enlightenment, ego, mind games, mind as a friend or foe, how to benefit with the mind, uses of mind, using mind the right way, mindfulness, meditation

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2015/10/everything-changes.html 

Read the complete post though I didn't give the link of the complete post....just hit newer post at the bottom of the post and continue reading....

Homework :

What did you understand from all this?

What is the use of this understanding?

How are you going to benefit from all this?

Have you already done this and seen its results? Can you give at least a couple of examples?