Me, My Guru - Guru

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Me, My Guru - Guru

“If you have issues with your spouse leave her but don’t use ‘Rama’ as an example to do t hat. You don’t become his devotee by doing such an act! ‘I left my wife as my family dislikes her. I am a Rama bhaktha. Like him, even I left her for the family’. Now how fundamentally stupid statement is that! If you want to act so, act. But own up your deeds. Be a man at least there! But don’t tarnish image of your God or Guru their quoting their actions to justify yours. He loved his wife more than himself. He walked around

2600kms on foot through dense and dangerous forests in search of her when she was kidnapped by Ravana. Moreover, he didn’t even know that she was kidnapped and that she was taken to Lanka. He didn’t suspect her to elope with someone. Did he? He wailed.  He

didn’t say “Good! This is what comes to woman who is greedy and asks for golden deer’ or ‘she didn’t follow our instructions and so she met her fate. Good for her!’ He didn’t give such lame ‘spiritual talks’ to spite her or her actions. He was worried to death for her. He searched like a mad man for her and one whole year even without a clue. That talks about his love and commitment for her. He was so powerful king, handsome, great warrior and any princess would be willing to marry him. But he didn’t even think of that

option once. Without a proper army, just with few thousand monkeys and bears, he set to fight battle with the demon king who had vanquished devas and Gandharvas. Even Lord Indra was no match for him. To fight him to rescue his wife from him – well, unheard of, unthinkable and basically by all means a stupid idea. But he went ahead. That is his ‘nishta’ – devotion and commitment as a husband towards his wife.

And you are comparing that “Purushottam” – the jewel among men to yourself who can’t protect your wife against your family? He didn’t become a ‘good husband’ because he gave riches to his wife. That Ravana could give and gave in abundance to his wives. In marriage, everyone or most have to go through good and bad times. In his bad time, Rama gave ‘vanavasam’ or a stay in forest life to Sita. But she was happy there! Every sensible woman would be! It is never riches that a woman seeks. It is confidence that she would have her man back her in times of need and protect her against those who want to harm her – even if it be his/her family. If you are Rama bhaktha, live his principles, don’t quote his actions to disown, malign, disown your spouse.

Don’t do what your Guru does, do as he asks you to!

When Ravana died, all suggested to mutilate his body, but Rama stopped all from doing so. He saw to it that his body was duly and respectfully returned and last rites duly performed as is due to a Brahmin and to a king. When others said “but he is your enemy and caused you so much of grief by, taking away Sita’ he simply said ‘My enmity died along with his death. Now his wives and family deserve to perform last rites to him” Such a character! Such was ‘the Dharma’ that he followed! Follow that principle of his. But please don’t say ‘let our enemy die, we’ll also bury our enmity Guruji now’...”

We all laughed but then it was just matter of time we would’ve twisted that anecdote to our benefit. This and such acts didn’t justify our actions but they surely reflected ‘our character’. How naive was our presumption that we can fool others quoting our Guru’s actions!

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